~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[ginger1981 0]

how's tricks everyone? Popping by to say hello and vent some of my stress. Wedding is in less than 3 weeks, still have several things to do.

My original small simple wedding has doubled in size in the last week due to grumpy relatives (all on Nicks side) wanting invites. So now I have 74 people coming and they are all related to Nick. Also originally I just had a maid of honour....now I have 3 bridesmaids too. Nick's family do not understand the concept of RSVP so I'm having to guess at numbers for reception. Thankfully it's just for a buffet.

To add to my stress I am starting to fill out and look in more detail at AOS. We are definatly going to need a joint sponsor and well, you all know me from the joy that is K1 so you can probably imagine the stress I'm under.

wedding planning+ AOS + bordom = a very grumpy and stressed Debz

Oh I do understand the relatives/neighbors/school teachers getting pissed about not getting invited. I was back in Nebraska this past weekend and I got the same thing from various relatives (many of which were my mom's cousins...so not even technically close relation). Also my mom's next door neighbor was somewhat offended, as well as my 4th grade teacher and my elementary school principal. I don't know if it is just a Nebraska thing (I doubt it is) but I never understood it...you get an invite, now you have to show up and buy presents etc. The only thing I can gather is that it is a social thing. However, I'm glad I'm getting married in Chicago so they weren't too pushy on the subject.

Anyways, congrats on your wedding! I've always thought that wee beautiful church would be a great place to get married. Will you take a horse & carriage out to the church?

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Twister looks like fun I think I saw it in some movie ...people climbing over each other

[English Muffin 59]

I just realised that Mox's fiancee has her interview today!

Has anyone heard from him recently? He disappeared a while back due to being busy with work and his kids and he never returned. I thought he'd be around with it being her interview and everything. I wonder if all is ok with them?

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Oh poor Debz That must be really stressful for you. We wouldn´t like anyone to dictate us what our wedding was supposed to be like and who else we should invite. I think wedding is a matter of the two people and they should arrange it the way they want so they feel comfortable But I understand living around lotsa relatives must put a lot of pressure on you (F)

I am sure AOS will be really easy for you to deal with after all you have already been through

[English Muffin 59]

I've just found this which answers my question.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1837982

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I just realised that Mox's fiancee has her interview today!

Has anyone heard from him recently? He disappeared a while back due to being busy with work and his kids and he never returned. I thought he'd be around with it being her interview and everything. I wonder if all is ok with them?

Well I left him a message to let us know how the interview goes so hopefully he will man up a little

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Wow...interview moved out to August

Ginger

[rae_and_scott 1]

That is too bad but... as contrived as it sounds, everything happens for a reason. Eventually they'll be together and happy.

[Jeraly 4]

Hrmmm - he didn't tell me about that!! I hope it all goes well for him though - miss him around here

[Jeraly 4]

OMG - I just looked at my ticker

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

well this time we REALLY picked a day lol

im designing the invitations as we speak yea, im gonna make them myself, because im crafty (and cheap) like that

we are going to look at these two restaurants tonight, and see what we can come up with for the 'festivities'

http://www.convivium-osteria.com/overview.html

http://www.oleabrooklyn.com/gallery.html

let me know what y'all think!!

[Jeraly 4]

Ok. Now I really am $hitting myself and I think I have just cause to this time.

Dunno how many of you are aware of the nightmare that has been Jeremy's work recently - him pulling 60-70 hour weeks, masses of inspections, one of his bosses going completely off the rails. They were looking for any excuse to fire her because she was grossly incompetent.

As a result, Jeremy has been spending more and more time at work, less and less time with me. Apartment hunting has been put on the back burner and this week I have reached breaking point. I just couldn't take anymore.

He finally realised that he had been neglecting me and has started making it up to me. His other boss who had also been putting in loads of hours was understanding and said that he was going to have a couple of days set aside for Jeremy to focus on apartment hunting.

Jeremy just got a call to say that both of his bosses had been fired.

Now I am freaking out - we were expecting one of them to be fired because she really was dreadful, but the other one was working really hard and neither of us can figure out what he could have done to justify being fired. That currently puts Jeremy in the highest ranking position in the store (and as he is only supervisor it's not like he has masses of management experience yet) and we just don't know if he is still going to have a job come June when I move out there. Not only that but he is meant to be coming here in about 5 weeks as well... and I just don't know what is going to happen anymore.

I am so scared. If he loses his job I don't know what we will do - we have tickets bought, I have things packed - almost everything is in place for me to move. But without his job we can't afford a place to live let alone AOS or anything like that. If i could work it wouldn't be so bad... Even if he keeps his job, it might mean he can't come over in June which ruins our whole UK reception... I am terrified right now and I don't know what to do...

Susie - I think the first one looks cosier but the second one looks more upmarket so I guess it just depends on the feel you want to go for

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

Ok. Now I really am $hitting myself and I think I have just cause to this time.

Dunno how many of you are aware of the nightmare that has been Jeremy's work recently - him pulling 60-70 hour weeks, masses of inspections, one of his bosses going completely off the rails. They were looking for any excuse to fire her because she was grossly incompetent.

As a result, Jeremy has been spending more and more time at work, less and less time with me. Apartment hunting has been put on the back burner and this week I have reached breaking point. I just couldn't take anymore.

He finally realised that he had been neglecting me and has started making it up to me. His other boss who had also been putting in loads of hours was understanding and said that he was going to have a couple of days set aside for Jeremy to focus on apartment hunting.

Jeremy just got a call to say that both of his bosses had been fired.

Now I am freaking out - we were expecting one of them to be fired because she really was dreadful, but the other one was working really hard and neither of us can figure out what he could have done to justify being fired. That currently puts Jeremy in the highest ranking position in the store (and as he is only supervisor it's not like he has masses of management experience yet) and we just don't know if he is still going to have a job come June when I move out there. Not only that but he is meant to be coming here in about 5 weeks as well... and I just don't know what is going to happen anymore.

I am so scared. If he loses his job I don't know what we will do - we have tickets bought, I have things packed - almost everything is in place for me to move. But without his job we can't afford a place to live let alone AOS or anything like that. If i could work it wouldn't be so bad... Even if he keeps his job, it might mean he can't come over in June which ruins our whole UK reception... I am terrified right now and I don't know what to do...

Susie - I think the first one looks cosier but the second one looks more upmarket so I guess it just depends on the feel you want to go for

awww sweetie, dont worry your pretty little head...im sure everything will be fine, you are just worried because of the move and all...uncertainty is soooooo nerve racking i know...im dealing with it right now too

im sure he wont get fired, and everything will be just fine...try not to worry too much

and yea, i think i prefer the first one, but i will check them both out...just in case the first one is booked or something, ya never know

[StillThePrettiest 4]

Hey StP, I see you there, how's the insomnia?

hello

loads better thanks; the last three nights I have woken 5.55am, 5.58am, and this morning broke the record with 6.07am!!

we're off to Canberra today, to meet my dad's side of the family (met mum's side on Mothers' Day, which was the day Dave arrived, poor man ), and we've been prancing about seeing people and seeing Sydney and doing packing and all manner of stuff... barely a free moment, but so far it's all going well

will probably be out of contact for a day or two... will always come back to check in though

xx

[teachmehistory 0]

Ok. Now I really am $hitting myself and I think I have just cause to this time.

Dunno how many of you are aware of the nightmare that has been Jeremy's work recently - him pulling 60-70 hour weeks, masses of inspections, one of his bosses going completely off the rails. They were looking for any excuse to fire her because she was grossly incompetent.

As a result, Jeremy has been spending more and more time at work, less and less time with me. Apartment hunting has been put on the back burner and this week I have reached breaking point. I just couldn't take anymore.

He finally realised that he had been neglecting me and has started making it up to me. His other boss who had also been putting in loads of hours was understanding and said that he was going to have a couple of days set aside for Jeremy to focus on apartment hunting.

Jeremy just got a call to say that both of his bosses had been fired.

Now I am freaking out - we were expecting one of them to be fired because she really was dreadful, but the other one was working really hard and neither of us can figure out what he could have done to justify being fired. That currently puts Jeremy in the highest ranking position in the store (and as he is only supervisor it's not like he has masses of management experience yet) and we just don't know if he is still going to have a job come June when I move out there. Not only that but he is meant to be coming here in about 5 weeks as well... and I just don't know what is going to happen anymore.

I am so scared. If he loses his job I don't know what we will do - we have tickets bought, I have things packed - almost everything is in place for me to move. But without his job we can't afford a place to live let alone AOS or anything like that. If i could work it wouldn't be so bad... Even if he keeps his job, it might mean he can't come over in June which ruins our whole UK reception... I am terrified right now and I don't know what to do...

Susie - I think the first one looks cosier but the second one looks more upmarket so I guess it just depends on the feel you want to go for

Hey Aly,

I have been trying to catch up on the thread and saw your last worried post too. I have never asked....why did you guys decide to settle here instead of over there?? is it something you could consider? getting the spouse visa in the UK, while does cost some coin, is a matter of weeks from what I understand. I only ask as you seem to have such a high level of anxiety over moving. don't get me wrong, we all do, its just I wonder if you wouldn't be happier/more settled if Jeremy moved to you?? Maybe its none of my business, but we have followed each other through this whole process and I have often thought to myself that you seemed not quite ready - that being able to put things off for several months was comforting to you and the closer you get to any landmark date, the more anxiety you have. I say again, this is TOTALLY normal and understandable - but also worth addressing, not just sweeping under the rug. Sometimes on this forum we only talk about how great things are and how happy we are to move along in the process without acknowledging that relationships are hard already and then throwing cross continental moves, finances, visas, on top, its a lot to deal with. I only say this out of concern - please don't missunderstand, I know you love Jeremy and that you are meant to be with him, but moving country and culture is bigger than just about anything. I am just wondering if there is another way to work this for you guys that might put you more at ease. you could always move to the states later - together. Personally, if Matthew had needed it, I would have moved to London without a hesitation, and still would if ever he changes his mind. you guys are so young and just starting out really - so couldn't you start out anywhere?? Maybe its experience talking, having my first marriage not work out - I was young and did not have the courage or support to get real about what I needed. anyway, maybe this is too much of a response, and maybe I should keep to myself and just tell you that it will be alright. but I applaud your willingness to admit things are hard sometimes, and say out loud that communicating with your partner can be tough, and this process takes a toll, and because of all of that - I thought you deserved a heartfelt response even if I am way off base.

if you ever need to talk, or toss around fears and possibilites and second thoughts.....just know you won't be judged by me!

Sara