In a tizzy

They will not process the check for you. You will have a hold put on it when you try to deposit the check. You would remove 2000$ to pay the other person to get your items. You will send this money and then find out later the bank DENIED you check being deposited to your bank account because the check is fake. Then your 2000$ is gone and you have no money. Its called fraud.
He can do a lot of things if he is a fake and a scamer like steal your personal identity and open credit cards and cause a lot of credit issues and personal issues for you.

Emily,
In your original post you asked "What do I do"? What do you do?? You wait!
I want to add my two cents on how difficult marriage to a foreign born fiance can be, no matter where he is from. Marriage is hard. Long distance relationships are hard.
We are happily married and things good, but it was HARD. Before we were married, all of our time spent together was vacation. We traveled a lot and it was fun and sexy and thrilling. We were always on our best behavior because we knew our time was limited. I remember gushing to anyone that would listen to me about how wonderful life would be once he was here...if he was just here, life would be perfect! I was going to be the best wife ever, blah, blah, blah.....Once he was here permanently it quickly became obvious how little we really knew each other and little we were prepared for "real life." I don't know about anyone else, but our new life together wasn't rainbows and unicorns all of the time.
When he arrived here, I had to learn how to share everythig. I learned he had a lot of irritating habits that I was going to have to get used to AND I learned about all of MY irritating habits too. It wasn't MY house anymore, it was OURS (and to be completely honest, learning we/ours was really hard for me), I had someone to call if I was going to be late, I spent a lot of time explaining and answering questions about anything and everything, I had someone that wanted to go to the grocery with me and "help"..... I think we both walked on egg-shells for a long time and that just delayed the process. There were times when I wished he would go so I could miss him again and get "that feeling" back.....it was such a big adjustment for both of us and it wasn't fun, and the sexy part...forget about it! And, even though Lars spoke flawless English - I learned he doesn't really speak "southern" and that's been interesting. We've been together since 2006 and married since 2009 and it was just in these last 8 months or so we started to feel "normal" again.
Lars is 8 years older than I am, we are both over 50 (me, barely!), we have both lived away from our families and friends before and have been on our own for many years before we married. We have both been married before and our children are grown. Your fiance is 25, you are 40 - he is 15 years younger than you, has never lived away from his home, family or friends and has never been married before. He is not deaf and I assume he has never traveled to the United States before. This would be a very difficult transition for anyone. If I were you, I'd wait at least another year and try to have another visit or two with him and you two get to know each other a little better.

I forgot...
Mithra, you have a BEAUTIFUL baby! Just precious!
God bless.
e

Perhaps they told him about tentative approval so as not to enrage him and until they speak with you - tentative can go to denied due to lack of bonafides or your withdrawal of petition (no petition, no visa to issue).
Good luck and keep us posted!

OHH! OHHH!!!!! Speaking of naked men.
Gee, I have a BA in physical therapy and 80% of my client base were males. I had been a physical therapist for 7 years before moving on to a "gentler" career. I was a physical therapist for "Coal Miners" down in the remotest parts of Alabama for a few years AND on top of that, I worked with YOUNG men between the ages of 18-25 that suffered from traumatic brain injury (TBI).
Naturally, the boys with TBI have no sense of modesty, and they are unaware of their inhibitions, often times disoriented, discombobulated, out of sorts and all depending on the "Glasgow Scale" of severity. Well, during their course of care, a lot of times they would just ambulate the halls during therapy and start to "disrobe" and become incoherent ON the spot. They expose themselves because they are NOT right in their heads. IT's almost like reprogramming a 3 year old brain in a 20 year old body.
During those therapy moments, I have seen plenty of PENII (it's a plural term for MANY ####### / not penises) in my whole life, more than I need to. None of these moments faze me. I mean, you've seen one #######, you've seen them all.
RIght now, in my teaching career, AGAIN is predominately males... my student ratio is 4 males to one female. I am an agriculture/horticulture teacher SPECIFICALLY for sensory impaired kids. So, a lot of "tactile" instructions take place.
I'll have to address this matter with my man during round 2. I don't think he's ever met someone like me - a female doing this kind of thing. SERIOUS talk is needed!
Well, thinking about it right now.... I am not the sweet helpless diminutive girl who sits and waits for her knight in a shining armor to rescue her. I grew up in a very dominant male household (4 BIG uncles, 8 BIG male cousins, 6 BIG male 2nd cousins, 1 BIG brother, 2 BIG fathers step/bio), and situated right outside of the Marine base.
I am starting to realize maybe my fiance does not KNOW enough about me and he thinks he can "impose" such edict on me.
We're gonna have another BIG talk and I'm ARMED and ready for a match.
More to follow....

CBP Questions/Customer Service contact information
TDD: 1-866-880-6582
This would probably be the best place to start should it become necessary for you to contract CBP.

It sounds like you know what you want to do (go through with immigration) so I suggest you stop arguing and going "rounds" with your fiance and just start to prepare for your life together. I can almost guarantee your fiance will never get that he's wrong and you'll never get that he's not going to change. You'll learn that soon enough when he gets here and you realize that googling ayas, hadith and various Islamic terms isn't going to help your cause or make him change. This isn't really about Islam. Its about control and manipulation.

OHH! OHHH!!!!! Speaking of naked men.
Gee, I have a BA in physical therapy and 80% of my client base were males. I had been a physical therapist for 7 years before moving on to a "gentler" career. I was a physical therapist for "Coal Miners" down in the remotest parts of Alabama for a few years AND on top of that, I worked with YOUNG men between the ages of 18-25 that suffered from traumatic brain injury (TBI).
Naturally, the boys with TBI have no sense of modesty, and they are unaware of their inhibitions, often times disoriented, discombobulated, out of sorts and all depending on the "Glasgow Scale" of severity. Well, during their course of care, a lot of times they would just ambulate the halls during therapy and start to "disrobe" and become incoherent ON the spot. They expose themselves because they are NOT right in their heads. IT's almost like reprogramming a 3 year old brain in a 20 year old body.
During those therapy moments, I have seen plenty of PENII (it's a plural term for MANY ####### / not penises) in my whole life, more than I need to. None of these moments faze me. I mean, you've seen one #######, you've seen them all.
RIght now, in my teaching career, AGAIN is predominately males... my student ratio is 4 males to one female. I am an agriculture/horticulture teacher SPECIFICALLY for sensory impaired kids. So, a lot of "tactile" instructions take place.
I'll have to address this matter with my man during round 2. I don't think he's ever met someone like me - a female doing this kind of thing. SERIOUS talk is needed!
Well, thinking about it right now.... I am not the sweet helpless diminutive girl who sits and waits for her knight in a shining armor to rescue her. I grew up in a very dominant male household (4 BIG uncles, 8 BIG male cousins, 6 BIG male 2nd cousins, 1 BIG brother, 2 BIG fathers step/bio), and situated right outside of the Marine base.
I am starting to realize maybe my fiance does not KNOW enough about me and he thinks he can "impose" such edict on me.
We're gonna have another BIG talk and I'm ARMED and ready for a match.
More to follow....

Update:
I butted heads with him tonight ALL THE WAY from beginning to the end for 2 hours. SERIOUSLY, nails, tooth, my wolverine claws, and my brains. "Sticking to my guns and all"... He relented at the end and said, "Emily, can't you just say 'I won't smile at men?'" REALLY!? I said what kind of smile are we talking about. This has gotten to the point where it's becoming RIDICULOUS. He finally said, "Let's change topic."
Truly, my confidence, resolve, and inner strength has become only stronger after reading all of your supportive VJ input. Nor did I falter and became a wimpering little kid.
I told him tonight, "ADAPT, or move on" , "ACCEPT me, or say good bye" , "Love me or Leave me be" His face changed when I challenged him being a Salafist Jihadist, an extremist, and all. He was pretty shocked I found the meaning of this word. (THANKS Moonlight ). To have knowledge is to be forearmed! He lambasted me for "not knowing" enough about the salafist's roles. SO, I lambasted BACK at him for not knowing the full reason for "smiling."
I told him I have adjusted enough and made a point that even the BEST people acting PIOUS can have evil and impure intentions, while so called country bumpkins (like me) knowing nothing about rules/laws/expectations can have the BEST interest at heart.... Allah/God will look at BOTH sides and not just based on "appearances."
He was .... dumbfounded more like it.
We have one more night, ROUND 2 and I am prepared for a LONG bumpy ride. I'm armed with information, your guidances, and etc.
Again I thank you all SO much for your support. More to come... ROUND 2 tomorrow at 3pm....

It is narrated on the authority of Umar ibn al-Khattab who said: I heard the Messenger of God say:
“All actions are judged by motives, and each person will be rewarded according to their intention. Thus, he whose migration was to God and His Messenger, his migration is to God and His Messenger; but he whose migration was for some worldly thing he might gain, or for a wife he might marry, his migration is to that for which he migrated.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim)

Update:
I butted heads with him tonight ALL THE WAY from beginning to the end for 2 hours. SERIOUSLY, nails, tooth, my wolverine claws, and my brains. "Sticking to my guns and all"... He relented at the end and said, "Emily, can't you just say 'I won't smile at men?'" REALLY!? I said what kind of smile are we talking about. This has gotten to the point where it's becoming RIDICULOUS. He finally said, "Let's change topic."
Truly, my confidence, resolve, and inner strength has become only stronger after reading all of your supportive VJ input. Nor did I falter and became a wimpering little kid.
I told him tonight, "ADAPT, or move on" , "ACCEPT me, or say good bye" , "Love me or Leave me be" His face changed when I challenged him being a Salafist Jihadist, an extremist, and all. He was pretty shocked I found the meaning of this word. (THANKS Moonlight ). To have knowledge is to be forearmed! He lambasted me for "not knowing" enough about the salafist's roles. SO, I lambasted BACK at him for not knowing the full reason for "smiling."
I told him I have adjusted enough and made a point that even the BEST people acting PIOUS can have evil and impure intentions, while so called country bumpkins (like me) knowing nothing about rules/laws/expectations can have the BEST interest at heart.... Allah/God will look at BOTH sides and not just based on "appearances."
He was .... dumbfounded more like it.
We have one more night, ROUND 2 and I am prepared for a LONG bumpy ride. I'm armed with information, your guidances, and etc.
Again I thank you all SO much for your support. More to come... ROUND 2 tomorrow at 3pm....

Definitely NOT normal for me... I've done some thinking and have come to conclusion that it's all about "control" which means depriving my only sensory process of communicating with others.
In-humane.
E

Contact the Embassy in Algiers, USCIS, and CBP.

Two words...SEE YA!!! no way I'd put my girl through that nor would she to me thank god he showed you in time to be able to put an end to it before he got here.

Thank you. I just dont want to see her make the same mistake that I did. It may hurt like hell going this far and then stopping everything, but its easier to stop it now. Once he gets here....you are stuck financially for two years. And she doesnt need to just walk away.......she needs to RUN and Dont look back.

Thank you. Lesson learned, I am so much better off without him. I happy where I am at now.

I am so, so sorry to hear that you went through all that.

No, Msheesha, this is real. I have my skype conversation saved. I will be glad to send you an snapshot attachment (after I hide his skype name). As you like, you can decide whether I am being genuine or if I am actually the crazy one.
As I had mentioned before, Embassy will be contacted (either way) and my concerns will be expressed. I am very intuitive with time and with the unknown plan. That's the INFP in me.
You're so right, it sounds BONKERS to me when people lament about the government having a lot of say in relationships. It doesn't faze me one bit. I am pretty sure it's because they are are kept abreast of HUNDREDS of fraud marriages.
Perhaps the naive me was hoping that he is not "one of those" MENA men. But lo behold, it is possible I am mistaken. Educating myself on these issues and am forearmed with information and avenues to make other recourse (THANKS VJ'ers for your support/advice), helps me cope with this better and know what steps to take.
As for right now, I know I have the POWER NOT to marry him. PERIOD. End of story.
Thanks, E

Remember there are two in this relationship. He may list his requests and you have your right to reply to them. You may work it out and come to some compromise. He may display dominance but be kind and ask him what he means or to explain why he wants those thing and he may soften up.
You may not know that in their culutre smiling is considered an adornment and is not to be shared with anyone other than friends and families. Sort of like covering the hair. Once here he will see this and come to accept it more, especially around your friends and family
Explain that because you are hearing impaired you depend on your eyes for communication and his request is impossible to meet so it is out of the question.
Tell him the man you transport is a relative and has depended upon you for years.
Tell him you are a more outgoing female who is active and does things like camping and sitting with your co-workers for lunch. He may be having some feelings of insecurity so be gentle with him. Also consider would you like it if he is sitting with female co-workers at lunch that you don't know.
If he is beyond reason and there is no compromising point then I would reconsider. I like the suggestion about speaking with the Imam. I think one in your area may have more perspective on multi-cultural relationships then one in his home country.
It will be rough the first year because they do experience culture shock and are far from everything they've known all their life. You will be getting to know each other and will have to work through things that may seem normal or reasonable to you or him. Try to remember when something seems shocking or unreasonable to not have an emotional reaction but an intellectual one that is curious and seeking meaning behind what is being said. Once you learn more about each other you will have a better understanding of each other and where you both are coming from.

I suggest a different thing (y'all can laugh at me) -
Everyone's interpretation of 'Islamic law' and 'Islamic practices' is different, and is based on what they learned from an Imam / Muallah at a mosque or via some electronic connection.
Ask HIM the name and location of the Imam / Muallah that he follows.
Then YOU contact this person, and list your concerns with him, show him 'this list' that you were 'given', and inquire if he thinks that these seems normal for an cross-cultural relationship.
Good Luck ! Let us know the response, as well.

I am shocked, myself, at what your fiance is ordering you to do... He had me at the first point: Can't SMILE outside the home?! I hope you are kidding, but at the same time I don't think you are...
Like what others have said, (if you haven't already decided to walk away, I suggest that you) please walk away from this man. In his homeland, the things that he is ordering you to do MAY be the norm, but it doesn't seem at all the norm for YOU!
Thankfully he hasn't arrived in the US yet. I hope the process gets stopped before he ever does.

I am not an expert so, I can only go on intuition. First, I would call the NVC and speak to a representative. Explain to them this situation and ask them what to do. I believe they will go a long way on filling you in. While you do that, email the Consulate and ask them to withdraw the interview.
These are huge red flags as everyone is telling you. You do not need to go through this and since you aren't married yet, there is no legal ramifications, only emotional ones for you. I am so sorry you are going through this but, thank God you found this out now. He overplayed his hand in all of this and that is a lucky aspect for you. Heaven forbid he waited until he got here and sprung this on you. Please keep up posted and just know that we are here for you.
So very sorry.

First Im sorry about your situation. These are HUGE red flags. He's trying to control you over the phone or internet & ya'll arent married yet? Run FAST! Do not allow a man to control when you can smile, what you can look at or which direction you turn! You should be loved & adored, not controlled & abused emotionally, physically or mentally. If you truly want to stop the process, by all means DO IT! Praying for you & this situation!

You deserve better.

First of all 7 weeks in 2 years ? No way can work and you Skype every day so what? What you see on the net and what you live with is 2 different things and I am sorry to say but these cultures will never adapt to our western way of thinking and life. Get out while you can and donlt go ahead with this at all as you are going to be miserable for the rest of yur life and even if you do go through with it divorce is inevitable and he will get GC and be on his way. Good luck to you is all I can say but you don't need this at all.