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Meruryroad,

I think you are crazy and a complete ####### for acting like you own her. #######? I mean come on, you're acting like such a ####.

lol, jk. I read the whole thing, it's all good. My husband goes out with his friends that are chicks one on one but I've met them and they have no interest in him. I think you are right to be worried about the predator bc some guys don't take no for an answer and don't care at all that you're married. I was recently hit on by one of my "Friends" the same way, which totally pissed me off but what can you do? The world is full of a$$holes.

Good to hear you talked to her and that both of you are mature enough to sort it out. Aren't you glad you have her for a wife? I'm happy for both of you, sounds like you have a healthy relationship and that's a good thing.

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P.S. My husband lands in Austin tomorrow night, yay me!

I love Istanbul, have been there twice. I also stayed for a week in Ayvalik, which is a really small town but it's so safe and peaceful. We went fishing, saw some of the Greek Islands just from standing on the beach, crazy! I love the culture and the food as well.

We might be going to Bodrum at the end of May. I have to check it out before I agree to move there. We will most likely move to Turkey in either 5 years or when we retire. We are both in fields that allows us to retire whenever we want, so who knows when that will be. Hopefully, sooner than later.

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If he puts money in her account, couldn't it look like he paid her to marry him? I know at the interview, they asked my husband if he gave me any money and that's what they were getting at. They wanted to see if he paid me to marry him. Retarded, but it does happen.

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JayJay,

Like I said before, please don't drive in Texas....ever. Just kidding! Wow, you got on the highway your first time on actually roads. You're a bit of a dare devil aren't you? I was so nervous the first time I got on the highway, but I was only 15! lol. Good job though, I'm sure you'll be driving fine within a few days.

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I wouldn't have jumped to conclusions so quickly had you included this medical situation in your original post. The way your original post was stated, it was like you were trying to make her sound like she was using you.

Anyhow, good luck, hope it works out.

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dawnnhatem

You have a good point, I have already considered that. My wife also lived in Louisiana a short time before going back to Mexico. She liked it here then. At that time she only had 1 cousin in Memphis that she never saw. When we discussed living and raising our children here she was excited because of my family and people in the area. In the last couple of days we have discussed moving into the city here or possibly Memphis if we can find good employment. Monday she started work at her 1st job here in LA. Everyday seems to be getting better, this morning she could not say enough good things about her job and the people she works with. She is finally meeting new people other than the people I have introduced her to. I believe that has helped her a lot. I know its a challenge moving from a big city to almost nothing, I did the same thing. The benefit I have had is everybody speaks english when she is not as fluent as most. I have introduced her to several hispanic people in the area and she sometimes speaks to them. When we lived in Memphis she was not always happy either, she never had friends or family come see her. Her motto was if they cannot come see me then I will not go to them. I do not aggree with that because her friends have children and its not always easy to go places with little ones. When we lived in memphis her daughter was in Mexico and our son was not born yet, so it was much easier for us to go about. In our discussions the biggest stresses for her have been learning to take care of the children by herself. Her family in mexico took care of her daughter all her life and when my son was born the same. This is the 1st time only her. Another thing she does not like to stay home all day, can't blame her there, it can get boring. I can see a definate change in her since she started working, she works 7a-4p M-F less than 2 miles from my office. in Memphis she would have to work 3rd shift as is normal for someone starting out. That would take a lot of time away from the family.

This morning she said she wished her brothers could move here from Memphis. There has always been an open invitation at our home if they want to do that. I reassured her of that this morning.

We have also decided to see a doctor and marriage counseler to see if we can hash out our problems. I know I'm not perfect but who is. The doctor will be checking her thyroids and depression problems. She has always had a problem with depression and anxiaty in Memphis, mexico and here in Louisiana. I've seen 1st hand, she is happy one minute then can go into a rage the next or just sit there and stare. I've noticed that she seems to have memory lapses, things she or I had done like 2 days ago she does not remember. I find that quite strange, thats why I want her to see a doctor. I can not diagnose because I am not a doctor. I can only see whats happening.

As far as if she still wants to leave then I will still have to stay here. It is impossible for me to move now. I have a government contract to fulfill, home to pay for. If I do not fulfill my contract I can be sued and then not beable to receive any more contracts. Its not always as easy as it seems to jump up and move. Please remember these decisions to live here, buy a home, take this contract were both mine and my wife's decision. As we are adults we have a reponsibility to stand by our word. Who knows even if we did go to memphis now would she then say I want to move too California where more of her family lives. We cannot keep uprooting everytime she is unhappy. That would lead to a very unstable life for our children. I know this because my mother moved our family at least 6 times when I was a child. We moved from Memphis to Houston to Louisiana then we reversed that process again except we did not go back to Memphis. I want stability for my family.

Thanks everyone for your posts. I am still keeping my guard up justm in case things change, but I'm hoping for the best.

We provided close to 10,000$ worth of phone calls, showing the detailed minutes that we talk everyday and we provided about ten or so emails. (We also had marriage certificate, pictures, airline ticket stubs, and so on) And they wanted more emails sent between us. We had to send this with our joint sponsor info, which was total B.S. And we have been married for almost 2 years. So, you never know what they are going to request, so bring everything and be fully prepared. We had over 20,000 emails and my husband printed out pages of just his inbox to show how many we had and then he printed out about 10 full emails and she said it wasn't enough, she wanted to see all of them, so when we sent our joint sponsor stuff we also sent about 300 pages of emails, just to annoy them, lol.

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Uh, yeah. I think it's an act. She doesn't want to be deported or her family members, that's why she's putting on a happy face now. And you expressing your undying love for her probably makes her feel sorry for you, which helps her keep up the act of pretending to be in love with you. I obviously have never met her but from your few posts it's painfully obvious what's going on here. You didn't get to her emotions and get her to be honest, you only scared her.

Sorry, you married someone like that but you should move on before this gets any worse.

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My husband and I got the same thing with the phones. He called 2 minutes after noon, when they say they don't answer the phone, and he got somebody. He was shocked! lol. So, I suggest calling right when they say they stop answering, at noon (local time).

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P.S. Mama's boys indeed. It's quite amazing. lol

Thanks everyone, you guys have made this so much easier to deal with than it would have been without you. I really appreciate everyone's suggestions, concerns, and encouragement, it's been invaluable.

Now, let's see some more visas handed out!

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Hey, everyone! First let me say, sorry I haven't been able to post as much (probably good news for some of you, lol) we have been super slammed at work and I don't get to goof off as much any more. Ok, the important part:

My husband called the Embassy this morning to see if his visa was approved yet bc we still hadn't heard anything. Well, they said, yes it was approved days ago but bc of the bad weather they couldn't send it out right away. So, he thought he would get it sometime later this week. Well, 30 minutes later, UPS was at the door with his visa! So, I pick him up from the airport on Friday. I'm so excited!

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Hey, everybody! My husband got his visa today! He called the embassy and asked if it was completed and they said, yes it was completed days ago but bc of the bad weather they could not send it out right away. So, he thought he would get it sometime this week. Well, 30 minutes later UPS was at his door with his visa! Thanks for everyone's encouragment and thoughtfulness throughout this difficult process and thanks for listening to be b!tch and complain, lol.

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