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Hi Everyone!

We are doing really good. Still waiting for his Social Security Card, got the green card weeks ago but still can't work with only that. What a load of #######! Anyway, my husband is really happy here, he loves Austin. We go out for coffee as often as possible, which is more than I would have done previously, lol. But we are so happy to be together again.

How is everyone else?

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Greenmind,

It take only 2 days or so to get your visa in the mail after it is approved. I haven't been visiting VJ as much as lately so I don't know what stage y'all are at now. If you haven't gone through the interview yet, don't count on the Ankara embassy approving the visa the first go round. Especially if you get the bitter fat lady. She's been requesting joint sponsors from everyone and so far I don't know anyone who was below the guidelines that would dictate needing one. Just an FYI to keep in mind. You don't want to buy a plane ticket that is non-refundable. My husband contacted a travel agent there in Turkey, they can usually get better rates there, and had her hold a block of dates so that he wouldn't get screwed on airfare.

Anyhow, Good Luck.

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I don't see what the problem is. No one is forcing them to immigrate there. It's there choice so they have to jump through the hoops that the govt. set out for them. Just like my husband did to get here. (of course, not as extreme). But I don't see how this is a human rights issue or anything close to it.

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Mina,

My husband's name is Sinan. I'm sure your husband is a wonderful guy. I thought about how my message may have come across rude and I wanted to tell you in no way did I mean it to sound rude or offensive.

My husband got his green card in the mail on Sat. Woooo Hoooo! Now, I get to put him to work, lol.

Everything has been going really well for us here. I went through all my checks and since he's been here, which is three weeks, we have spent a small fortune on groceries. That is going to be the hardest thing for us. You know, I'm American, I can eat total ####### if I need to save money. He can't! Oh and what's up with bread. My husband eats almost an entire loaf of bread every day! And he is the skinniest person!

It's crazy but it's crazy fun too! I'm super happy my husband is home.

How have you been?

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Oh my god, I almost peed my pants and then saw, "Hung like a Hamster" and let's just say, I have to pay to get my chair here at work professionally cleaned.

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I saw the Dr. 90210 thing too but I started in the middle of it, so I didn't know what he got done exactly. That's too funny. I was thinking his balls were fused to his weiner and he got them separated or something weird like that. He was really huge, maybe he should have lost weight to look more proportioned, lol.

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Exactly Karo, let's go beat their skinny arses!

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Czechs are b!tches bc it's a whole group of women hotter than me....b!tches.

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Well, then why do they stick a swab not any bigger than a weiner up your butt to get poop samples? Like, when your appendix ruptures. There has to be some there or at least bacteria. Oh and when you said, "it boils down to..." that made me think of a boiling petri dish of breeding bacteria,

I just don't get it and probably never will. Why? Just, why?

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My butt has a sign that reads: "Exit only" "Do not Enter" "One way" "STOP". There's poop up there, who would want poop on or in their weiner, I don't get it. Besides there is a perfectly clean place to put it.

Sorry, I know that was a bit graphic but I'm just keepin' it real. lol

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Hey Betty, My husband is like that as well, he believes women are the boss. Very good for me!

Mina, I bet your husband is one of those Turks who lived with his mother until he went to the US and his mom did everything for him. (I would say 99% of the male population in Turkey is like that, lol) And they just sort of expect you to take the place of their mom. Has he ever lived outside of Turkey before, not vacationed, but lived? I think this usually makes a big difference. My husband lived in London for 5 years so even though his mom did everything for him and still does when he's there, he realizes this is not the way the other parts of the world function. I'm sure it will just take some time for your husband to adjust. But definitely you two need to discuss it and make sure both of you are happy. But I totally know what you mean about the massages. My hand was actually cramping the other night, and he was like, that's it? I was like, uh yeah, my hand is hurting. We both just started laughing. Oh, and don't let him tell you he doesn't cook. I bet he does and I bet it's awesome. All Turkish moms make their kids, male and female, help in the kitchen every night. So, make him cook you some traditional turkish meals sometime. I love it when my husband does, it's soooooo good!

Talk to you soon,

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We are all laughing here at work. Those are so funny!

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I know about 5 US citizens who have gone with no problems at all. I thought it was just that you weren't supposed to bring back anything from there. Of course, I could be wrong.

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This is what I found for US citizens:

You have to get a Treasury license visa and this also applies:

There are still some categories which qualify for a treasury license: full time students, musicians, dancers, anyone going down for professional reasons, journalists, and so on. Treasury tends to encourage group travel and frowns on individual researchers, which makes you wonder who is the collectivist here....

The people I knew were film students so that's probably how they did it. And they went as a group.

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My husband and his family do not associate themselves with any religion so our situation may be different bc of that but my turkish husband cooks almost every meal and he cleans the bathrooms and does the laundry. I clean the kitchen and the living rooms. We have it split up pretty even. My husband doesn't expect anything of me as a wife really. I mean the normal, stay faithful, maintain mutual respect, and work together to have a great life. But beyond that, he doesn't want me to change how I am or how I go about my daily activities. I don't think he expects anything from me except to just be me.

Some of the things that have been hard for us is our completely different views on medicine and illness. For ex: he thinks you should treat minor wounds a certain way which I think is completely ridiculous and putting yourself more at risk for infection and he also thinks if you take a shower and go to sleep with wet hair, you'll get a cold. He also thinks that central air and heat will make you sick and blames his sore muscles on it. It's crazy to me and it can get annoying sometimes but I try to meet him halfway on things like this.

Anyone else deal with this sort of stuff?

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I once beat up my old roommate for not buying quilted. I need cush for my tush and when it's not quilted it's like a rug burn and that ain't right.

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Oh, yeah. I know plenty of decent Brits. I just was so shocked, it's one of the first things I think of when I think about my time there, lol. Probably, bc I'm a pervert, but that's neither here nor there. Also, I'm sure it happens here but I've never had it happen to me here so that's why I was so shocked. Shady? Nah, these were "posh" places were one mixed drink costs about 25$

Don't get me wrong, I love London, it's one of my favorite places. I just like to bring that up every chance I get

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I don't have any flight suggestions I just think it's funny that my maiden name is Hickam (similar) and my first name is Sarah. lol

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IT's a picture of a coo-coo clock, lol.

Yeah, I was asked that quite often in London. They think it's a really great pick up line.

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Anyone who's ever gone into a London bar and been asked if you shave your coo-coo would know the British aren't boring, at least at night when they're drunk, they're not, lol. French people aren't rude they just love to play the devils advocate and be at extremes at the same time. Americans are ambitious and usually that doesn't allow for ignorance. New Yorkers, I'm sorry to say, come across as being really rude. I don't think most of it is intentional, it's just their culture. At my job, I have to talk to people from NY everyday and some of them are soooo nice and funny with their bawdy personalities but the rest of them make me never want to live there bc they're sooooo rude. So, the only thing polls are good for is dancing on or sucking on,

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I wish there were more people like Dixie Peach. If there were, I probably wouldn't want to vomit everytime I hear someone start a sentence with,"Well, I'm a Christian......" Oh wait, if they were like Dixie Peach, they wouldn't do that

Dixie Peach you rock!

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Wow, I hope she (the American) gets the same Texas Judge that sentenced that one lady to eating nothing but bread and water for mistreating a horse. Usually, in Texas, when someone does something ridiculous like this, the judge will fine them to the maximum and give them a 30 minute lecture on wasting everyone's time and taxpayer's money, and I mean they are screaming it at them. I hope the American lady gets what she has coming to her. This is just plain crazy.

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My husband learned English in London so his English is all British English. Well, a few days before I went to visit him in London, I called him and told him that I bought a new pair of green pants. And of course, he starts going, "ohhhhh really......" I was like, yeah, they're green pants, what is the big deal. And then of course, he thought he had made an english mistake, and was like, "nevermind" After about 5 seconds I was like, "Oh, you thought I meant panties!" I said, "Let me re-phrase that, I bought new green "trousers"" We still laugh about that. Oh and bc my husband is Turkish and he knows British English (and not perfectly) I get twice as many humorous mistakes as the rest of you, lol!

Another one: I told him while I was at work that my friend next to me (a girl) was hitting me, just kidding around, and he was like, oh my god is she gay? I was like, what are you talking about? He goes, you said she's hitting you. Again another 5 seconds and oh, you're thinking "hitting ON me", no darling, stop getting excited, she's not hitting on me, lol

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How did they know the strippers were wearing the masks? They must of gone inside and that's not kosher (lol) with Hindu is it?

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Super cute kitty! I love black cats too! So majestic.

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