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Oh my god! That's what that charge on my credit card was for!

If they can get the cash more power to em

Thank you for that information. He is taking this really hard and has already threatened to sue me. So, even though I'm trying to be mature and understanding, I guess I'm going to have to hope that he doesn't get approved to stay here then. I hate how divorce has to get so ugly.

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Oh, ok, that makes sense. Thanks for the info! We will be filing an uncontested divorce, we have lived in an apartment so we didn't buy a house or even cars together and we have no children together, so it takes less than 30 days. If we had to do all this other stuff with division of property and child custody issues the soonest would be 61 days. Just to answer your question.

Also, I don't want to do anything illegal and for me, it's not right for me to sign papers stating we are happily married when we're not. I believe that would be illegal to stay married just for his 10 yr. green card, I mean at this point there would be no other reason for us to stay married, we haven't been living together for 6 months.

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We have been separated since April and I want to move on with my life without him in it in any way. I don't really care if it's approved or not, I was saying I didn't necessarily want him to be deported if he doesn't want to be but if it has to happen then so be it. I did love him at one point and I want him to be happy. I'm not even sure if he wants to stay here, I was just trying to gather information to provide to him so he can be prepared for what's going to happen.

And like I said, we have been separated since April I'm not in a huge hurry, this has been in the works.

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Thanks for the info. Does anyone know the likelihood of it being approved? I'm filing for divorce on Monday and he can file his paperwork to remove conditions Nov. 4th. We have over 20,000 emails that support the fact that we did enter into this marriage in good faith, photos during holidays, my family and friends can give written letters, whatever. Also, if we are divorced and he is approved, am I still responsible for him if he gets on welfare? I know that when I signed the form to sponsor him it is legally binding for ten years even if there is divorce but does that apply if the divorce happens in the first two years?

Thanks!

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I am the USC and am about to file for divorce. Does my spouse still stand a snowball's chance in hell at filing to remove conditions and having it approved? His two-year green card will expire in Feb. Will he be automactically deported? I don't necessarily want that to happen to him and have him start his life and career over again but I no longer want to stay married to him either.

Thanks in advance!

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It wasn't stated above that an 18 year old can't legally own a gun, it was stated that they shouldn't.

Just to clear that up.

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I'm sorry but yes, all Turks do eat that much bread and do stay skinny! All the Turks I know are exactly like that. And yes, I know more than just my husband and his family.

Yeah, the AC makes them sick. Must be something in their genes. Some strange Turk gene that no one else in the world has. The same gene that doesn't make them vomit when they are trying to eat in a restaurant that's filled with smoke.

I'm not bitter, seriously I'm not. Turks are just funny.

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Don't know if anyone else posted something similar but, I know when parents have to give hair samples for drug testing in child custody battles, sometimes they'll shave their heads to avoid being caught with drugs in their systems. Usually it's the guy who does that though! lol.

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3-5 business days. However, I have never heard of anyone waiting longer than 3 days.

Difference between Western women and non-Western women.

American women specifically and Western women in general have problems that turn men off:

* Western women want men to serve THEM most of the time but are unwilling to put in the effort or TIME to make it an intelligent partnership.

* Western women are coarse, vulgar, rude, or distinctly lack femininity.

* Western women are argumentative, critical, and demanding (i.e. bitchy).

* Western women are money-hungry and superficial.

* Western women are generally mentally unstable.

* Western women use sex as a weapon and reward to get things.

* Western women are just bitter and show contempt for men.

Most of non-Western women in Latin America, Asia, and Eastern Europe are the exact opposite of Western women.

* Non-Western women do not have anti-male bias and they are not pre-occupied with fairness and trying to prove themselves and to make a point.

* Non-Western women are not self-centered and do not have high-maintenance, superficial, and stuck up attitude.

* Non-Western women are a lot more mentally stable and they do not use sex as a weapon and reward to get things.

Think about this: what good is it having a western woman if she only views the relationship as a power play? Western women are not raised with the values that make the relationship work. Relationships with western women are all about what she can get from a guy and what she feels she is entitled to.

Ignore western women trying to discourage you from meeting non-western women. Western women feel very threatened by foreign women because they know they can not compete with them, so it makes western women feel worthless and obsolete. Western women know a man will always choose a non-western woman over a western woman if given a chance. It is like Chrysler's former boss Lee Iacocca making you feel guilty for you to buy American cars while selling you the worst junk cars.

Some men think their beat up Ford Escort is the best thing in the world. Why??

Because they never have the pleasure of having a Mercedes, Bentley, Ferrari!

http://www.singleabroad.com/

Wow, that is the stupidest thing I have ever read. Thanks, we're all a little more stupid having read that.

Yeah, junkies never ever leave a full syringe and most likely don't go to McDonald's. Most junkies don't eat.

Internetkafe,

It does not take 7 days for the passport with visa to arrive at your house. They fedex it and they tell you it will be 4 days maximum. My husband got his in January during a really bad storm and it took 3 days. Another person I know from Turkey got his visa at his house the very next day and he didn't put the name of an alternate person who could accept the package and it got sent back bc he hadn't gotten back from Ankara yet. So, it's actually really fast.

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P.S. Sorry I don't remember if they use Fedex or UPS but either way, they ship it to you as soon as possible.

I totally prefer foreign men. They tend to put their relationship before anything else which in my experience most American men don't. I mean the men in my family do but that's family, gross. Anyway, I've always been a sucker for an accent too. So, I married a Turk who learned English in London, double the accent, double the pleasure, lol. But, I didn't go overseas searching for a husband, it just happened that way and it's not a surprise given my love of an accent as aforementioned.

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The child molester thing is the funniest thing I have read in a long time. I mean it's not funny but in this context it is.

I never let my kid go to any place like that bc it is filthy and it always smells like piss. It's disgusting.

Where has JayJay been? Not that I've been around much either, lol

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My husband doesn't have a problem if I'm out as long as he knows I'm safe and I'm not going to drive drunk or whoever is driving isn't drunk. He rarely goes out without me but he does sometimes. We're not old but we're not young either. I think it depends on how social you are, how much you trust eachother, and if you have good self-esteem or not. It won't work if one of you is sitting at home thinking of all the horrible things you "could" be doing. Which is a waste of time bc if someone wants to cheat, they'll do it. They can do it anytime, not just till the wee hours of the night, drunk. Me and my husband go out most of the time together but sometimes separate. You have to find the right balance for you and your relationship.

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LisaD,

lol, good times. I want it to happen too but I just don't see and I'm flurking psychic!

Go USA, lol, yeah right. Bottom line is Germany is going to win. I would like to see England take it but I just don't see that happening.

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Hey Everyone! I know it's been several months, I started a new job and other things have been going on in my life that have kept me super super busy. Well, my husband got his SSN card about a month ago and is still having trouble finding work. He has applied to many places but nothing has come of it. He went to one interview and didn't get the job. It's really hard to find work in Austin for Americans who have lived in Austin and knows how it works, so I'm not surprised. But keep your fingers crossed for us. Hope everything is good with everyone else.

Peace,

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On Monday my husband will have been here for two months and he still hasn't gotten his social security card. We were calling the 1-800 number and sometimes they would tell us and sometimes they wouldn't if he was in the system yet or not. We were thinking this whole time that you couldn't go to the local office, that it was pointless, if you weren't in the system. The last we heard from the SSA 1-800 number was that he was not. Is it correct that he can go whether or not he is in the system and get his number and card from the local office? He already got his green card a month ago.

I swear to God, this whole process is so fcuked up!

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My husband puts mayo on everything. It's kind of gross and what's weird is he is insanely thin. I don't get it. I prefer ketchup.

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"It is the people and ways of living that are difficult to adjust to..at least for me. Yes, my religion is a big factor too. I do not hear 'ezan' here...there are no mosques here like the ones in Turkey. You do not celebrate my holidays. You do not eat my food. You do not talk like I do. You do not behave/react to certain situations like I do. Differences are innumerable."

I'm sorry, I must have misunderstood but to me that sounded like you were upset bc things are so different here and not like it is in Turkey. Almost, like you expected all those things you miss to be here somehow.

I have never started a new life in a new country so I cannot fully understand what any of the foreign spouses from any country are going through and I do hope it gets easier for everyone. I guess I don't understand what's so difficult about it bc my husband is adjusting just fine. He does not understand why it's so hard for some people as well. But he also has uprooted his life and moved to a new country before. This is the second time for him but he said it wasn't that difficult for him the first time either. I guess it just depends on the person.

Anyhow, good luck to all and I do hope it gets easier.

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P.S. It great to have a place like VJ to vent, so vent away!

I can understand missing your country and it's traditions and normal everyday cultural things but did any of the Turks who moved here actually expect something different from what they got? I'm not trying to sound mean or anything but I know if I move to France, it's going to be different from Texas and there aren't going to be the same foods or hardly any American culture there for me. It is scary uprooting your life and moving to another country and I hope that no one misled any of the Turks who moved here to believe that the US is like Turkey in any way bc it's not at all.

With that said, I hope that the adjustment is a smooth peaceful one for everyone involved and I hope that the ones here who are not finding it so easy soon will.

Good Luck to everyone.

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