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LOL that's the first thing I thought when I read his comment. Then he replies again with this gem, "A job is not a right. It is a gift from someone more ingenious than yourself." LOLWTFBBQ. That's got to be dumbest thing I ever heard.
Anyway, he's only been looking for 3 months. I wouldn't be thinking it's the end of the world just yet. It takes longer to find a job now (try a year)... and he's lucky enough to even get a job right now. I would suggest looking for lower paying jobs that require manual labor, since those are the ones that are currently hiring. While he's working and back to a routine and steady money in his pocket to help out with bills, he can still apply for jobs that pay more while still working at his job.

LOL BURN.

Marrying pets really?... I figured that would come up when mentioning gay marriage. Same way 50 years ago, people thought interracial marriages were sick and repulsive and it wasn't till the mid 90's that interracial marriages was above the 50 percent approval rating in our nation. Glad to see old views eventually die out and the next generation are more accepting.

Exactly. I was referring to Michelle Bachmann, but I guess Republicans here like to twist my words to fit their agenda, just like she did in the clip. She knew perfectly well what the student meant, but rather than give a proper answer, she preferred to mock the student by skirting the question. I bet they spend hours and millions of dollars of consulting fees to come up with that answer.
It won't be long though before gay marriage is the law of the land though. Also, I don't quite understand how some people on VJ can be so against gay marriage and they are hear complaining about how the government won't let them marry their foreign fiancees/spouses. The level of ignorance is just baffling.

Barack Obama reassured a crowd, "I believe in people's lawful right to bear arms. I will not take your shotgun away. I will not take your rifle away. I won't take your handgun away."
How is he anti-gun? It is now allowed to carry guns in National Parks and trains... something that has not happened in 94 years. If he was Republican, NRA would make him "Man of the Year" but instead the NRA and the gun industry play into people's fears that he's going to take our guns away.

Marrying pets really?... I figured that would come up when mentioning gay marriage. Same way 50 years ago, people thought interracial marriages were sick and repulsive and it wasn't till the mid 90's that interracial marriages was above the 50 percent approval rating in our nation. Glad to see old views eventually die out and the next generation are more accepting.

Barack Obama reassured a crowd, "I believe in people's lawful right to bear arms. I will not take your shotgun away. I will not take your rifle away. I won't take your handgun away."
How is he anti-gun? It is now allowed to carry guns in National Parks and trains... something that has not happened in 94 years. If he was Republican, NRA would make him "Man of the Year" but instead the NRA and the gun industry play into people's fears that he's going to take our guns away.

Exactly. I was referring to Michelle Bachmann, but I guess Republicans here like to twist my words to fit their agenda, just like she did in the clip. She knew perfectly well what the student meant, but rather than give a proper answer, she preferred to mock the student by skirting the question. I bet they spend hours and millions of dollars of consulting fees to come up with that answer.
It won't be long though before gay marriage is the law of the land though. Also, I don't quite understand how some people on VJ can be so against gay marriage and they are hear complaining about how the government won't let them marry their foreign fiancees/spouses. The level of ignorance is just baffling.

I stopped reading soon as I read FAIR TAX.

I stopped reading soon as I read FAIR TAX.

I didn't say that, but it seems you have a little fantasy going in your head already.

Oh Geez, here we go again... I actually don't give a ###### if Starbucks accepts food stamp cards or not... it's called CAPITALISM and should have the freedom to accept them.
Also, I'm quite the regular at Starbucks and I have never seen anyone ever use a food stamps card to buy coffee. This is just another idiotic thing to get mad about nothing. It's the same ###### when you hear people saying "black people using food stamps driving in cadillac escalades..." yeah that's really prevalent!
Just yesterday I saw a white woman using a EBT card to pay for her groceries, I could tell she was ashamed to use it because she pulled it out and swiped it and put it back in her wallet right away. She didn't buy much groceries either and when she went outside she drove in a late model Camry. She probably lost her job and that EBT card is the only thing to put food on her table. She probably worked her #### off all her life and never had any government assistance till that time, yet she's ashamed to use the card because we have idiots out there equating her using an EBT card as being a leech on society. GIVE ME A ###### BREAK.

Oh Geez, here we go again... I actually don't give a ###### if Starbucks accepts food stamp cards or not... it's called CAPITALISM and should have the freedom to accept them.
Also, I'm quite the regular at Starbucks and I have never seen anyone ever use a food stamps card to buy coffee. This is just another idiotic thing to get mad about nothing. It's the same ###### when you hear people saying "black people using food stamps driving in cadillac escalades..." yeah that's really prevalent!
Just yesterday I saw a white woman using a EBT card to pay for her groceries, I could tell she was ashamed to use it because she pulled it out and swiped it and put it back in her wallet right away. She didn't buy much groceries either and when she went outside she drove in a late model Camry. She probably lost her job and that EBT card is the only thing to put food on her table. She probably worked her #### off all her life and never had any government assistance till that time, yet she's ashamed to use the card because we have idiots out there equating her using an EBT card as being a leech on society. GIVE ME A ###### BREAK.

Hey guys! Great news!!!!
My fiancee passed her interview today!
I accompanied her to her interview and I have to say the feeling of hearing "you're approved!" was one of the greatest feelings. It's like all the burden from all these months preparing for it were just lifted from our shoulders.
I'll write a very detailed review later of our experience because our experience was sort of unique and I hope our experience can help others that are experiencing the same thing. Anyway, we are at the hotel now and my fiancee is knocked out in the bed sleeping her eyes out. We are going to celebrate later.

He's actually serious.... that's the scary part lol

Really? Come on, man. Also, bimbo? seriously? Geez.
First off, I've have told women that I've worked with in the past thay they look beautiful today and have made compliments and you don't see me with a sexual harrassment suit hovering over me. Millions of guys in the workforce probably made compliments to their female coworkers and don't have sexual harrassment suits as well, while Herman over here has like what now 6 women come forward? 2 being paid huge amounts of money, etc. There's a big difference between a compliment and being a pervert. If this is so common like you say it is, why does the rest of the Republican candidates don't have sexual harrassment cases against them? You know why because they are not perverts and know how to handle themselves.
Also, to make them "uncomfortable." Yeah it's called sexual harassment! LMAO!

My money is on Cain being a perv. It's already been proven that these sexual harassments happened well before even Obama came into office. Everyone in the NRA knew about this and obviously Cain thought no one would notice it. I guess it's okay if a Republican does something immoral, to turn the other cheek.
Also you can blame Cain also for falling in the polls, the way he handled the whole thing was his own undoing. If he can't even handle this sort of fiasco, what makes you think he can take on the general election. He's Republican's Howard Dean.

Your situation is probably best handled by you and your fiance, we can only offer suggestions. You need to assure him that you will be happy just being with him and content on living a simple life once you get there. I guess he's worried about your futures and feels that his situation in the USA is not suitable for your and your children at the moment. He may also feel guilty of letting you go of your career and having to start over in a new country. He can also be afraid of the level of commitment he will have once you're there. We don't know and the best thing you need to do is talk to him on why he's feeling this way and confront it.
As for me, I would not leave my kids behind. You say you can afford their tickets and I'm assuming your fiance makes above the 125% poverty level to support everyone, then why leave the kids behind? That's another process you will have to face sooner or later if you decide to leave them behind because you will have to process everything all over again.
You have 3 months to decide what to do when you arrive in the US on your K1, if you feel that your situation is better served by staying in The Philippines, you can simply move back before your K1 expires.

I just want to hear from people's experience concerning this topic...
I'm actually Fil-Am, so my experience is a little different coming from my perspective compared to an American marrying their fiancee and realizing later that you did not just marry her, but she also came with a family that needs support. My experience started with my parents sending money back home. My siblings and I grew up rather quickly and realized at an early age that if we wanted something in life that we had to work hard for it. I just find it perplexing that my parents instilled this in us, but at the same time would willingly send money to their siblings in The Philippines. I would understand if they were sending them to college to better themselves, but 30 years later they are still sending money to not only support their siblings, but now their siblings' kids and even grand kids.
I even find it hard to understand why my parents would send money to their siblings who made bad decisions in their lives, but would not send money to their few siblings who actually made something out of themselves. It's like there's a reward for failure. I wouldn't mind all this, if it wasn't affecting our home life growing up. My siblings had to sacrifice a lot. It may sound petty, but we learn Santa didn't exist at an early age, when you make a list for Christmas and never get anything on it. Mom had to send money to all her siblings for Christmas, so they can have "something to eat." While their kids didn't care anymore for Christmas, because what's the point of hoping, when you're not going to get anything besides towels and socks. My parents sacrifice a lot for their family in The Philippines, but it does affect your kids if there's no balance. You don't pressure your kids to get scholarships because you didn't bother to save for their college education or send them on a guilt trip and ask them to sacrifice on Christmas because we have a better life than our cousins in The Philippines. My siblings and I don't expect or ask anything from our parents, everything we got, we earned it on our own and we're actually proud of that fact.
I just refused to continue this tradition and I do not want my future kids to experience this growing up. My fiancee has family and siblings she plans to support until they graduate from college. Which I do not mind at all because she actually put a time limit on her support. We've talked about it and I already told her that once we have kids this will have to stop. If it doesn't stop, I do not want kids. I don't mean stop helping them, but the constant help. I don't mind helping if there's an emergency or when it comes to education purposes or to help them move up, but I will not put up with supporting anyone who can't get their act together. I'm not paying for other people's mistakes and bad choices. My fiancee knows that I will do anything to make her happy, but I draw the line on certain things, this is one of them.
Wow sorry if this was long.

Heh, I agree everything you said here, too. I talked to my fiancee early about this and she knows where I stand on this. Also, her mentality has slowly moved into my corner of thinking as well, mainly because she's pretty much fed up with it as well. She used to tell me goals for his siblings, that she want them to accomplish this and that, so when she did try to make the effort to help them, their effort wasn't given in return. I told her you can't put your goals and mindset into other people. So now she's still willing to help, but if she signs of slacking off, she quickly stops helping. I think she's just tired of being disappointed and learn quickly that if they know that she's always there to help them out, then there's no motivation to do better.
Also, she's tired that the only times they actually call her is to ask money. I think that's one of the things that really hurt her and made her realize everything. She would actually cry about it and made her feel lonely because no one in her family understood what she was going through.
I also like your list. Completely agree with that. I also don't want to help someone start a business. That's actually my fiancee's first rule lol... because I remember my fiancee telling me that she once saved her money and sent it to her parents to start a business. She sent money weekly and her parents would update her about where the money went. Fast forward a year later when she went home, there was no business. She didn't send money or talk to them for 6 months.

I just want to hear from people's experience concerning this topic...
I'm actually Fil-Am, so my experience is a little different coming from my perspective compared to an American marrying their fiancee and realizing later that you did not just marry her, but she also came with a family that needs support. My experience started with my parents sending money back home. My siblings and I grew up rather quickly and realized at an early age that if we wanted something in life that we had to work hard for it. I just find it perplexing that my parents instilled this in us, but at the same time would willingly send money to their siblings in The Philippines. I would understand if they were sending them to college to better themselves, but 30 years later they are still sending money to not only support their siblings, but now their siblings' kids and even grand kids.
I even find it hard to understand why my parents would send money to their siblings who made bad decisions in their lives, but would not send money to their few siblings who actually made something out of themselves. It's like there's a reward for failure. I wouldn't mind all this, if it wasn't affecting our home life growing up. My siblings had to sacrifice a lot. It may sound petty, but we learn Santa didn't exist at an early age, when you make a list for Christmas and never get anything on it. Mom had to send money to all her siblings for Christmas, so they can have "something to eat." While their kids didn't care anymore for Christmas, because what's the point of hoping, when you're not going to get anything besides towels and socks. My parents sacrifice a lot for their family in The Philippines, but it does affect your kids if there's no balance. You don't pressure your kids to get scholarships because you didn't bother to save for their college education or send them on a guilt trip and ask them to sacrifice on Christmas because we have a better life than our cousins in The Philippines. My siblings and I don't expect or ask anything from our parents, everything we got, we earned it on our own and we're actually proud of that fact.
I just refused to continue this tradition and I do not want my future kids to experience this growing up. My fiancee has family and siblings she plans to support until they graduate from college. Which I do not mind at all because she actually put a time limit on her support. We've talked about it and I already told her that once we have kids this will have to stop. If it doesn't stop, I do not want kids. I don't mean stop helping them, but the constant help. I don't mind helping if there's an emergency or when it comes to education purposes or to help them move up, but I will not put up with supporting anyone who can't get their act together. I'm not paying for other people's mistakes and bad choices. My fiancee knows that I will do anything to make her happy, but I draw the line on certain things, this is one of them.
Wow sorry if this was long.

I just want to hear from people's experience concerning this topic...
I'm actually Fil-Am, so my experience is a little different coming from my perspective compared to an American marrying their fiancee and realizing later that you did not just marry her, but she also came with a family that needs support. My experience started with my parents sending money back home. My siblings and I grew up rather quickly and realized at an early age that if we wanted something in life that we had to work hard for it. I just find it perplexing that my parents instilled this in us, but at the same time would willingly send money to their siblings in The Philippines. I would understand if they were sending them to college to better themselves, but 30 years later they are still sending money to not only support their siblings, but now their siblings' kids and even grand kids.
I even find it hard to understand why my parents would send money to their siblings who made bad decisions in their lives, but would not send money to their few siblings who actually made something out of themselves. It's like there's a reward for failure. I wouldn't mind all this, if it wasn't affecting our home life growing up. My siblings had to sacrifice a lot. It may sound petty, but we learn Santa didn't exist at an early age, when you make a list for Christmas and never get anything on it. Mom had to send money to all her siblings for Christmas, so they can have "something to eat." While their kids didn't care anymore for Christmas, because what's the point of hoping, when you're not going to get anything besides towels and socks. My parents sacrifice a lot for their family in The Philippines, but it does affect your kids if there's no balance. You don't pressure your kids to get scholarships because you didn't bother to save for their college education or send them on a guilt trip and ask them to sacrifice on Christmas because we have a better life than our cousins in The Philippines. My siblings and I don't expect or ask anything from our parents, everything we got, we earned it on our own and we're actually proud of that fact.
I just refused to continue this tradition and I do not want my future kids to experience this growing up. My fiancee has family and siblings she plans to support until they graduate from college. Which I do not mind at all because she actually put a time limit on her support. We've talked about it and I already told her that once we have kids this will have to stop. If it doesn't stop, I do not want kids. I don't mean stop helping them, but the constant help. I don't mind helping if there's an emergency or when it comes to education purposes or to help them move up, but I will not put up with supporting anyone who can't get their act together. I'm not paying for other people's mistakes and bad choices. My fiancee knows that I will do anything to make her happy, but I draw the line on certain things, this is one of them.
Wow sorry if this was long.

Things to tend always move slow if different entities are working together. For the visa process, USCIS is a branch of Homeland Security coordination with the State Department, FBI, ICE, Customs, etc. all working together to vet the petitioner and beneficiary if they both qualify for a visa. So I seriously doubt it will move faster because you paid more. Only way possible if one branch of government was in charge of processing the visa entirely.
Also, I seriously doubt many people would take advantage of a $1000 I-129F petition approval that you stated to offset the cost of hiring permanent workers and building new office spaces to house them in to actually expedite the process.
I wish they processed petitions at the local state levels though. I would love to just drive 30 minutes away and talk to the person who is actually handling my case and if problems do arise, I'm just a phone call away and can bring any document they need in 30 minutes. It would eliminate so many RFEs and maybe speed up the process faster because there will be lesser RFEs to process.

Things to tend always move slow if different entities are working together. For the visa process, USCIS is a branch of Homeland Security coordination with the State Department, FBI, ICE, Customs, etc. all working together to vet the petitioner and beneficiary if they both qualify for a visa. So I seriously doubt it will move faster because you paid more. Only way possible if one branch of government was in charge of processing the visa entirely.
Also, I seriously doubt many people would take advantage of a $1000 I-129F petition approval that you stated to offset the cost of hiring permanent workers and building new office spaces to house them in to actually expedite the process.
I wish they processed petitions at the local state levels though. I would love to just drive 30 minutes away and talk to the person who is actually handling my case and if problems do arise, I'm just a phone call away and can bring any document they need in 30 minutes. It would eliminate so many RFEs and maybe speed up the process faster because there will be lesser RFEs to process.

Things to tend always move slow if different entities are working together. For the visa process, USCIS is a branch of Homeland Security coordination with the State Department, FBI, ICE, Customs, etc. all working together to vet the petitioner and beneficiary if they both qualify for a visa. So I seriously doubt it will move faster because you paid more. Only way possible if one branch of government was in charge of processing the visa entirely.
Also, I seriously doubt many people would take advantage of a $1000 I-129F petition approval that you stated to offset the cost of hiring permanent workers and building new office spaces to house them in to actually expedite the process.
I wish they processed petitions at the local state levels though. I would love to just drive 30 minutes away and talk to the person who is actually handling my case and if problems do arise, I'm just a phone call away and can bring any document they need in 30 minutes. It would eliminate so many RFEs and maybe speed up the process faster because there will be lesser RFEs to process.