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Thanks all I will make appointment.

Hi I sponsored my husband and we have yet to receive green card,  unfortunately he became sick suddenly and passed.

If anyone has wording or suggestions on how to notify that he is deceased so that the immigration process ends, plaae share.

Thanks 

My friend had appointment yesterday for interview. After waiting for some time was giving a letter stating he was ineligible for visa and no interview no questions asked. Noticed also others were given the same form. This was in Ghana has anyone else experience this anywhere. Its like you just paying them money.anyone somebody explain this. Now i guess i will prepare to travel there.

Thanks that timeline is useless or should i say old. But thanks for your input. I think I'm ruling out that plan

I was thinking a short trip out of Galveston but maybe not

Forgot to say the visit is to the US from Ghana

I'm inviting my boyfriend on a visitor visa and we would like to do a short cruise. Would it be a problem for him to get on and off boat at the ports? Would a cruise be possible? Has anyone done this before?

Thanks for all the info and advice. I plan to focus on my divorce and he can worry with the rest. I just need peace and freedom from this situation.

What's 40 quarters of work? How is that translated into years?

how do I contact USIC? by email, phone or snail mailN

My SO has applied to remove conditions to obtain 10 year card. I have been trying to make this work but what I have found this morningM I can't continue.

Does anyone know what I need to do to cancel sponsoring him? I don't have his immigration # since he has hidden everything, will I be able to cancel my sponsorship. I plan to see a lawyer ASAP but hope to get that cancelled without having to use immigration lawyer.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

Thanks all for the responses/ Sounds like there is a thumbs up for UPS.

I need to ship a package to London, can someone share their experience with a carrier if you have shipped to London. Who is better Fed-Ex' DHL or UPS?

Thanks

I haven't had anyone say anything to me. But I do know that we went to a party once and this woman was solely trying to dance and get my hubby's attention. But what did he do.................scoot closer to me and started whispering in my ear..........

I decided to start this thread as a result of reading some of the other posts, concerning the good and the bad experiences.

Let me first say, I'm still married to my husband. But let me also say it has not been easy. I have learned some things from really nice seasoned married women that has helped in the relationship. Suggestions like exhibiting more patience and trying to put myself in his shoes, coming to a country with no family, no friends and learning new things to make it here in the US. Learning patience for me is still a work in progress......

With that said, I went out my way to make available everything to my husband, which included cell phone, luxuries at home, supplying a whole new wardrobe. And I believe that was a mistake, it was taken for granted!! All he had to do was just mentioned it and it was done. But then it was like he was always looking for something. I put myself on the bottom of list, if I was even on the list. I needed to take care of me more as I tried to help in his adjustment. So now I make sure I pay attention to me and not just him.

Many people have their thoughts concerning Nigerian men and I made it a point to not let family know if we were having problems. But I went through the throwing of fits (him of course), money issues (when he started to work), the checking out of single sites, the porn sites, etc. which has damaged our marriage. Right now I'm trying to heal myself to be able to continue in this marriage. So I see where the feelings of being scammed for a paper comes from, but then I have to look at the whole picture and determine, if it is about a paper or is it just how this man (my husband) is.

Okay so you know trhat I'm trying/working to save my marriage. Well I believe his 2 yr green card will expire in May '08, and I'm having a hard time helping him. I suggested to him to do some things and he didn't, results nothing to show togetherness for this process.

He's a grown man. You gave him suggestions and he made a choice. Take a step away from taking care of him. It's our instinct to take care of people we love. But who's taking care of you? Refocus your energy on reclaiming your power and loving on yourself. Once you've strengthened yourself and your focus, God will show you what to do next. Faith.

Thanks for the reminder, sometimes we just have to sit on down somewhere and let GOD do do his thing.

Whoa .... keep your chin up, and keep focusing on #1 .... Y-O-U!

Right now this all I know is to take care of me and my children from a previous marriage.

"Okay so you know trhat I'm trying/working to save my marriage. Well I believe his 2 yr green card will expire in May '08, and I'm having a hard time helping him. I suggested to him to do some things and he didn't, results nothing to show togetherness for this process."

I am sorry to hear about this as well. If your husband is not taking the necessary steps to improve your marriage as well as help with the removal of conditions I can see why you feel the way you do. What is he saying about not putting forth the effort in all aspects of the marriage? I don't have any advice to give except to agree with Boaz and say to take of you first. Best wishes to you.

He is under the impression that I need to do the paperwork for him. Which I have no desire to do, right now. He sees nothing wrong with his lack of doing anything. So I have to show him what I mean versus continously telling him.

I don't know what to say. Does he not realize the importance of getting that paperwork in? Perhaps they can hit him with the RFE and see if that knocks any sense into him.

How are you doing with all of this?

I'm doing managing, thanks for asking. It's just I can't be a mother to another child. He has this thought that I will be upset if the paperwork is not done and he has to leave or something. That's not what I want, but I'm not trying to babysit forever either.

I don't know what to say. Does he not realize the importance of getting that paperwork in? Perhaps they can hit him with the RFE and see if that knocks any sense into him.

How are you doing with all of this?

I'm managing, thanks for asking. It's just I can't be a mother to another child. He has this thought that I will be upset if the paperwork is not done and he has to leave or something. That's not what I want, but I'm not trying to babysit forever either.

I decided to start this thread as a result of reading some of the other posts, concerning the good and the bad experiences.

Let me first say, I'm still married to my husband. But let me also say it has not been easy. I have learned some things from really nice seasoned married women that has helped in the relationship. Suggestions like exhibiting more patience and trying to put myself in his shoes, coming to a country with no family, no friends and learning new things to make it here in the US. Learning patience for me is still a work in progress......

With that said, I went out my way to make available everything to my husband, which included cell phone, luxuries at home, supplying a whole new wardrobe. And I believe that was a mistake, it was taken for granted!! All he had to do was just mentioned it and it was done. But then it was like he was always looking for something. I put myself on the bottom of list, if I was even on the list. I needed to take care of me more as I tried to help in his adjustment. So now I make sure I pay attention to me and not just him.

Many people have their thoughts concerning Nigerian men and I made it a point to not let family know if we were having problems. But I went through the throwing of fits (him of course), money issues (when he started to work), the checking out of single sites, the porn sites, etc. which has damaged our marriage. Right now I'm trying to heal myself to be able to continue in this marriage. So I see where the feelings of being scammed for a paper comes from, but then I have to look at the whole picture and determine, if it is about a paper or is it just how this man (my husband) is.

Okay so you know trhat I'm trying/working to save my marriage. Well I believe his 2 yr green card will expire in May '08, and I'm having a hard time helping him. I suggested to him to do some things and he didn't, results nothing to show togetherness for this process.

This is my favorite so far............

OKRA SOUP (served with fufu)

20 oz pack of defrosted chopped Okra

1/2 lb. thickly cut (1 inch thick) beef

1/2 lb. chicken breast (cut into slices or cubes)

1 teaspoon garlic powder

1/2 of onion, chopped

1/2 tablespoon seasoned salt

salt to taste

about 6-1/2 cups water

1/8 cup canola oil (I use it instead of palm oil)

4 Maggi or other brand bullion cubes

6 to 8 dashes of Maggi seasoning sauce

red pepper to taste

1. Season beef and chicken with onion, garlic, & salt in 4-6 quart pot

2. Add water. Bring to a boil and then cook on medium heat for 40 minutes.

3. Add oil, maggi cubes, pepper. Boil on med-high about 15 minutes.

4. Stir in okra and boil on med-high about 10 minutes.

I use Palm Oil and some fresh Roma Tomatoes...

I fry the meat in the Palm oil with the onions and a couple of hot peppers (diced) when meat is cooked I add the Okra (I defrost it a bit and then out it in the cuisen chopper to cut it up more) I add the Okra and the fresh Tomatoes (cut up) a cup of water and a maggi cube let that slow boil for about ten min and I serve with Pounded Yam, I like the okra a lot, that was the first thing I figured out how to make...from watching him...he came home one day and surprize look what I did!

This was my first dish I made as well. I sometimes chop up some spinach in there as well, just because I loves me some veggies and he says he just want more carbs/starches......lol

This is my favorite so far............

OKRA SOUP (served with fufu)

20 oz pack of defrosted chopped Okra

1/2 lb. thickly cut (1 inch thick) beef

1/2 lb. chicken breast (cut into slices or cubes)

1 teaspoon garlic powder

1/2 of onion, chopped

1/2 tablespoon seasoned salt

salt to taste

about 6-1/2 cups water

1/8 cup canola oil (I use it instead of palm oil)

4 Maggi or other brand bullion cubes

6 to 8 dashes of Maggi seasoning sauce

red pepper to taste

1. Season beef and chicken with onion, garlic, & salt in 4-6 quart pot

2. Add water. Bring to a boil and then cook on medium heat for 40 minutes.

3. Add oil, maggi cubes, pepper. Boil on med-high about 15 minutes.

4. Stir in okra and boil on med-high about 10 minutes.

Hi

afrofoodtv.com

Thanks for sharing this. I'm such a visual, this will assist me in improving my African dishes.

Tracey

I know two women who were having troubles with their husbands and are now separated. Neither one was married more than 5 years. It seems to me that they just gave up...

Do people still fight to stay married?

I often ask others who want to walk away from their significant other...."have you done all you can do to save this relationship, before you walk away?" Most respond by saying they are tired or they give up.

I guess it has to be determine how much they really value their marriage, if they are they are willing to stay for better or worse.

What exactly is a diversity visa? Is that part of the lottery visa process?

Congratulations!!!!

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