hamigirl710

I'd like to file a formal request with moderation that all mod input and admonishment at least be in haiku form on this thread then.

This is going to be interesting... any one got a pepsi?

I'm still not sure why people are still congratulating this couple. They played the system. She knew of her doubts before he got here, and the fact that she found out he was sexting was only AFTER she confronted him about her own feelings. Why did she wait until he got here to say what she really felt? On both sides they lied to each other, and who knows what else they lied about to the USCIS and the CO in order to get him here. At what point is it OK to lie, at all??? We have all worked very hard to get our SO here without lying. Cases like this are the reason it is so difficult for everyone else. This is just TOTALLY maddening to me!!!!!

What are people congratulating the OP for? For having someone uproot their entire life for them, meanwhile having doubts that they even WANTED to be with the person?
People who don't take this process seriously boggle my mind. This isn't a process so you can have someone come to the US and try them out for a little while. If you aren't 100% sure you want to marry this person, don't file the petition. And definitely don't wait until the beneficiary has moved EVERYTHING to say "hm, maybe this isn't a good idea."
I by no means condone the guy for the "sexting" nonsense, but let's be real, nobody here deserves a congratulations.
So you expected/wanted HIM to be honorable and 'think this through' ... but you admit you had doubts for MONTHS and let him move anyway. Where's your responsibility in this? Or do you get a free pass because he turned out to be a 'dog'? Honorable. Please.

This is not what the fiance visa is about, you are required to get married within 90 days if the beneficiary's entrance into the US. Not 90 days to get to know each other, that is why letters of intent by both parties are sent with the application. I don't agree with others who are"happy" for this couple that they found out they weren't made for each other before it was too late. This process is very long and tedious. We are made to jump through hoops to get our SO to this country, as well should be the case. BUT one of the reasons it is so difficult for the rest of us is because of cases like this. My husband and I love each other and we will do whatever it takes to get him here. And if others would stop playing the system perhaps it wouldn't be so difficult for those of us who are truly committed to each other.

I believe you could have still applied to adjust your status with your husband being a LPR because many LPR's do it and when they become citizen's their case changes status.
And you did commit a crime because you were here in the US illegally and out of status and that is considered a crime and is more severe than a speeding ticket in the eyes of the government.
I wish you the best and hopefully you have a good lawyer on your side!

In my opinion, there are all kinds of people in this world and we all have our soulmates out there. Some of us have had to trip over bumpy roads in other relationships to find this perfect one for us. What makes my husband unique and special to me may not be the same thing that makes yours special to you. With my habibi we have a mutual agreement that no matter what we will not lack respect with eachother. WHen we met we first became friends and in time we built a mutual affection that in time became love and after 4.5 years we now have a genuine love that nobody can ever understand except me and him. He is just my habibi, my best friend, my soul mate. When I am in Morocco with him everybody talks about how much alike we are and I feel it in the connection between him and I we are unique as a couple and the bond is so strong that my heart feels like it has been torn in half and it wont be full again until he comes home...sorry if I got carried away.
The point I am trying to get to is everybody's relationship is unique and we can not compare apples and oranges because no relationship is ever the same, find what bond you have together and cherish it because only you knows what is best for you

In my opinion, there are all kinds of people in this world and we all have our soulmates out there. Some of us have had to trip over bumpy roads in other relationships to find this perfect one for us. What makes my husband unique and special to me may not be the same thing that makes yours special to you. With my habibi we have a mutual agreement that no matter what we will not lack respect with eachother. WHen we met we first became friends and in time we built a mutual affection that in time became love and after 4.5 years we now have a genuine love that nobody can ever understand except me and him. He is just my habibi, my best friend, my soul mate. When I am in Morocco with him everybody talks about how much alike we are and I feel it in the connection between him and I we are unique as a couple and the bond is so strong that my heart feels like it has been torn in half and it wont be full again until he comes home...sorry if I got carried away.
The point I am trying to get to is everybody's relationship is unique and we can not compare apples and oranges because no relationship is ever the same, find what bond you have together and cherish it because only you knows what is best for you

When I've ever asked my husband about Something Algerian couples do or Algerian women do, he reminds me he's never been married to an Algerian. He makes no assumptions based on his sisters or mom because a marital relationship is like no other relationship. I've been around MENA women to know they are generally no worse or better... Women are women everywhere. All with good and bad qualities.

well you bring a lot of awesome to it also.
i, like to think anyways, that i'm so fly, my husband doesn't have to put down anyone in order to give me compliments or tell me looks don't matter. i kinda like that he cares about some looks and that they happen to be mine

The CARE....I can see and feel how much he loves me in the care he shows me about everything I say and do. Everything is important to him, he doesn't brush off anything I say, and is right there "before" I ask him to help me with anything. He always wants to make sure I'm cared for and safe. But he isn't overbearing because he knows I'm a strong woman and can take care of myself (one of the things that attracted him about me) Also the respect and politeness that he shows every single person that he comes into contact with. My Moroccan husband is a gem.

No, they really don't. Children need good, loving supportive people in their life to grow into well rounded individuals. Living in a conflicted household can emotionally cripple a child and result in anger issues, self-esteem issues and all sorts of other problems.
Are you saying that by simply spawning a child that person MUST be in said child's life? Or are you saying that at least a male and female parent must be in the child's life because a biological connection does not a parent make. Also, by your logic if a parent passes away the surviving parent must IMMEDIATELY find a replacement parent because only one parent is bad for the child.
It's a complete fallacy that children raised by single parents are less well-off by only having one parent. It depends ENTIRELY on the type of parent/s and the situation the child grows up in (including school and peer group).

Mounia,
Sister I just read this and I wanted to let you know that if you go to a Domestic Violence shelter they will help you. They will help you with food, clothing, shelter, and immigration too. Most shelters have immigration lawyers that will help you pro-bono and also help you file for divorce and get on you feet. I work for CPS in my state and I can tell you that as long as you are protecting your child they will not remove and homelessness is not abuse. If you stay in that situation your child is not protected and you can be at risk of losing the baby. Please contact a shelter in your area and get out he might be doing good now but make him prove himself over time and a few weeks clean is not enough time. My prayers are with you!! Inshallah you find safety and a better life for you and your baby!

It looks like it went to a PO Box so it will sit there at the post office until the person who picks the mail up for the USCIS goes to the post office and signs for it. I am sure they will have many to sign for besides yours.

I am just curious about how long you knew eachother before the first visit? And how long was the first visit for? Is there anything keeping her for going to visit you again before you refile? In my opinion if it was me and my husband getting denied like that I would plan a new visit and give it a bit of time before I refiled. Spend some time together take some more pictures and have more documentation of a 2nd trip there. It shows commitment and stability in my opinion. I know you are anxious to be together just like I am with my husband but sometime a longer getting to know you and engagement period can work in your favor! Just my thoughts inshallah everything turns out for the best!!