diadromous mermaid

You're allowed an opinion. But I am not punishing her, I am doing what is necessary to protect myself. It was about her, but now its about me. I have to protect myself. It sounds selfish, but this is my life. I made so many changes and made so many sacrifices for this girl, and she threw it all away. Now that its clear its over, I just have to move one and protect myself.

It was all about her, you say. You claim she loved you like no other. She threw it all away...but only after you had cancelled the joint bank account...and prepared a quickie divorce document and ALL within 7 days of her going to stay with her friend?

I usually don't take a position on matters like these, but in this case, I have to say, I think your wife did the right thing!

In my opinion, you are punishing her for having the gall to leave you within the first 6 months of marriage. Abandonment, in the legal sense, can't occur in a week or two. Annulment, hmm, good luck! You;ve admitted that you both married for love. I sense this a knee-jerk reaction to a woman who has her mind made up.

You can't protect the sponsor or joint sponsor, unless you can satisfactorily prove that the alien's intentions upon entering the marriage were not genuine. It sounds to me as if you are attempting to characterise your wife's intentions by way of the company she is keeping. Not good enough!

We can revoke our I-864's. The process is under away. Abandonment is cause for action. The Sheriff will now be serving her the divorce petition in hand.

You can't protect the sponsor or joint sponsor, unless you can satisfactorily prove that the alien's intentions upon entering the marriage were not genuine. It sounds to me as if you are attempting to characterise your wife's intentions by way of the company she is keeping. Not good enough!

I wanted more than one week. But only after 4 days, my wife told me still no chance, it's over, never coming back, EVER. She even said yesterday, "YOU CANNOT GET ME BACK". I was willing to take a few weeks apart, she didn't need it. So it's not about reconciling anymore, it's protecting myself from identity fraud and having to financialy support someone who has deserted me. Same goes for my brother-in-law who sponsored her. It's about us now, not about her, her decision has been made and it is clear.

I refuse to aide & abet known felons and criminals. I cannot knowingly aide illegal immigrants. How could I live with myself if one of them got drunk, went drinking and driving in their car and smashed into someones mother and killed her? So in knowing they were ILLEGAL, being told they were ILLEGAL, I decide not to take proper action, and someone else has to suffer the consequences?

I'm sorry, but I believe in consequence & repurcussion. Truth & justice. These people knowingly made the decision to overstay their visas and become illegal immigrants. They commit fraud to survive. And they knowingly volunteered help to my wife which in turn raised too many flags. They brought this attention unto themselves. If they were smart illegal immigrants, they would've stayed out of it and not gotten involved in someone elses business. Time to pay the piper.

So it's over, and the process of protecting myself and our sponsor has begun.

Khushi8,

Word to the wise. If you can't answer the questions that are asked, how do you expect anyone to comment? I feel like there is something you are not sharing here. You divorced in November 2007, and left the country in January 2009 on a mission. You're ex-wife visited you while you were out of the country between Jan 2009 and March 2009, although at no time did you know that she had questioned the legitimacy of your intentions in marriage, and then when you returned to the US, you were asked to hand over your GC. What reason did your ex-wife have to join you while you were away? Did she advise you then that she had contacted USCIS with concerns over your intentions upon entering the marriage?

Can you give us some dates, to try to figure out something...

1. For how long you were married after your conditional GC was given?

2. When was the divorce final?

3. You were coming from a trip...for how long you were out of the US?

4. Who file for divorce, you, your wife or you both agreed?

If you are already divorced, had you file for your removal of conditions?

Does your GC was still valid, until when?

Do you have enough evidence of your bona fide marriage?

we got married in march 2007

GC came in mail june

Divorce final november2007

i went on christian mission with missionaries and we stayed for two months.

my X filed for divorced and i signed it .

my question is can i still aply for I 751? while i m doing this Deffered inspection appearence or do i have to wait for thisinspection to be done?

2 question : when i go to appear for deffered inspection ,can they lawfully deport me at the spot ? or give me a note to leave country or what ? i dont know .

I, too, am confused over the timing. You married in March 2007, you received a conditional green card in June 2007. The marriage failed and the divorce became final in November 2007, less than 6 months after receiving PR. This all occured before December 2007. So when did you exit the country to go on the mission? And you say she came to see you while you were there for 2 months, even though you were already divorced? Why?

What date was it that you attempted to enter the country and the GC was taken?

she was not there for two months but several times we stayed together. and my GC is taken in March 2009

I did take responsibility, still do. And I will never be able forgive myself for not being the husband I should have. Yes, I shouldve worked less and given her more time. But what does she expect when I am sole earner because she cant work? Her expectations are unnattainable in todays world and economy. But I can no longer hold on to this, I have to let it all go. She left, not me. She should've thought about the dire consequences of defaulting before she made such an extreme decision to completely move out. Time apart was an option, she decided not to accept that. What can I do now? It's over. She will have to return home.

It's a sad situation, but I tried, I tried for a week to do all the right things, makes changes, fix things, but its just gotten so far beyond that point. There is no return, and I am so sad it had to be this way. But the fact still remains, she should've thought longer about this, before just simply packing and moving out. She went to the extreme of all extreme, and I'm sorry to say, she just wasn't making the right decision and now she has to face the fiddler. I wanted NOTHING more in the world than to resolve our issues and make things work. There was absolutely no give to her, no leeway. My hands are tied......

Merillizer, ONE week determines the future of a marriage? If she needed time and space what does it matter where she chose to take it? No offense intended, but it sounds more to me like you must be in control. I think there's more to this than meets the eye.

Can you give us some dates, to try to figure out something...

1. For how long you were married after your conditional GC was given?

2. When was the divorce final?

3. You were coming from a trip...for how long you were out of the US?

4. Who file for divorce, you, your wife or you both agreed?

If you are already divorced, had you file for your removal of conditions?

Does your GC was still valid, until when?

Do you have enough evidence of your bona fide marriage?

we got married in march 2007

GC came in mail june

Divorce final november2007

i went on christian mission with missionaries and we stayed for two months.

my X filed for divorced and i signed it .

my question is can i still aply for I 751? while i m doing this Deffered inspection appearence or do i have to wait for thisinspection to be done?

2 question : when i go to appear for deffered inspection ,can they lawfully deport me at the spot ? or give me a note to leave country or what ? i dont know .

I, too, am confused over the timing. You married in March 2007, you received a conditional green card in June 2007. The marriage failed and the divorce became final in November 2007, less than 6 months after receiving PR. This all occured before December 2007. So when did you exit the country to go on the mission? And you say she came to see you while you were there for 2 months, even though you were already divorced? Why?

What date was it that you attempted to enter the country and the GC was taken?

Moral of the story, you shouldnt seek out the comfort of illegal aliens before first consulting and communicating with your own spouse about marital problems or issues lol. What did my wife think? She was just gonna desert me, and everything was gonna be a bed of roses? LMFAO. That's delusional. Delusions of Grandeur. I mean really, I'd love to know her thought process, what did she think was gonna happen? When you're an immigrant and marry an American here in the US, and you decide to not honor your marriage and you walk out, what happens? I would gather that it's rarely a happy ending. Let's get real. I just can't imagine what was going through her mind as she was packing her stuff, and then actually driving off and leaving. It's really something else. I don't know what to say. She must have had some plan in her head. I don't know, but I would like to know.

I'm confused. I thought in your first post you were taking some of the responsibility for her departure? So why the aboutface?

But we have had problems and personality conflicts, and we would bicker and fight about trivial things. I guess it got too tough for Silvia, my wife, because she packed up all her stuff and left me last Thursday. The fact that I was "cold" to her, didnt take her out enough and me taking her granted are probably the main reasons for this seperation. My wife was under a lot stress, being away from her own family and friends in Moldova, not being able to work legally here right now cuz we are waiting for her EAD, and being stuck in the house a lot during a New Hampshire winter can really drag somebody down etc.

This is a sad situation indeed. One would think you married a Nigerian guy. In addition to getting a blood test after all that evidence of screwing around, you need legal advice. But the sponsorship contracts that were signed are enforceable no matter what.

just what I need, the gift that keeps giving. I've got my appointment for that tomorrow. I feel filthy, petty, and diminished.

Don't feel that way. If he trully deceived you from the outset, that's what would be the last piece of the plan falling into place for him. Hold your head high and keep looking forward. That is, after you send a letter to USCIS telling them of his abrupt departure. At the very least, he'll have a lot of explaining to do when he attempts to remove conditions, if the marriage ended within a month of receiving his GC.

Frankly, unless you have clear proof of fraud, and in writing, I'd just be darm sure he intends to Naturalize as soon as possible. That's the fastest way to get your sister off the hook.

A "K" visa holder is prohibited from adjusting status to permanent residency via a marriage to anyone else other than the person who originally petitioned for them.

In this situation she will eventually need to return home and get issued a visa based on a petition from you.

The "eventually" is within thirty days of her divorce being final, unless she already has a green card. If she has a green card, even a conditional one, that's a different story. She then has the ability to self petition to remove conditions, once the divorce is final. If you subsequently marry, you are simply marrying a Legal Permanent Resident and have no immigration issues to deal with until/unless she decides to apply for citizenship.

In 30 days she would fall out of status if she divorces the initial petitioner before she has successfully adjusted status. However, even if he were to marry her, she'd need to return to her homeland and apply for a visa. In that case, she could remain 209 days from the date her divorce is final before she would incur a bar to re-admission. Of course 179 of those days she'd be out of status, and technically removable.

Her presence in Fl is not an issue, especially if....

a.) He is out of the country

b.) They are separated

A statement from you (notarised) that your seperation was caused by your occupation and that you have since elected to divorce will be helpful. You can have a statement notarised in any US embassy or consulate in any country and airmailed back to US.

The only issue I can see that might be questioned is your wife's family presence in Fl. Your short marriage might be looked at as fraudulent in relation to this. You tell us it was sincere, so include a description of your circumstances of meeting (if they are favourable) & etc in your notarised statement.

What did CBP say to you at the POE when your green card was taken and you were paroled into the USA? Were you given an I-94? How long were you out of the country?

Deferred Inspection is the process of allowing a person into the U.S. on a provisional basis, requiring him/her to return to the Port of Entry (POE) at a later date with specific additional documentation demonstrating admissibility. This process is invoked if it is unclear to the Inspector at the POE whether the individual is eligible to enter the U.S. but it is believed the necessary information could be obtained after he or she reaches the US.

It would be wise to consult an immigration attorney before going to CBP, just to be sure you know what you might be facing. As an LPR, it's unlikely that CBP would proceed with ER (expedited removal) since you are afforded a hearing with the IJ. However, since your green card was confiscated, right now you have no proof of status, so I am not sure what to expect. What ever you do, take any evidence of the bonafides of your marriage with you to an attorney and to CBP, if your attorney suggests you go alone.

What could you ex-wife have written and shown that would be so clear and convincing that this was a marriage of convenience?

A non-citizen may be questioned regarding their immigration status by an immigration officer either at the border, airport or any place within the U.S. A person arriving at the airport or at a border crossing may be detained immediately or referred to deferred inspection if a computer check reveals a criminal conviction, pending criminal case or criminal warrant. Deferred inspection refers to an interview at the local Customs Border Patrol office (CBP) to discuss the immigration problem in more detail. The CBP is a division of the United States Homeland Security. A person with a criminal conviction will likely be asked to show up at the CBP with a copy of the criminal disposition record.

If you think your immigration status is questionable because of a criminal conviction or other problem, you should seek the advice of an immigration attorney on what to do if you are detained and interrogated by an immigration officer. After consulting with an attorney, make sure that you keep the attorney’s business card and contact information in your possession at all times. If you are detained or arrested, tell the immigration officer that you want to speak to your attorney right away before answering any questions.

Is all in order in your passport? Have you recently arrived in the USA from a trip?

dear friends i have question that when u r called for deffered inspection by custom and border protection in marriage cases can they deport you ? my case is that my spouse filed for divorced and got divorce from me and then complaint to immigration that my marriage was not in faith (which is totally wrong). now i m very much concerned abt my stay in states .CUstom and border protection ordered me to appear in person at the airport for deffered inspection . some people r saying that they r gonna deport me and some r sayin diffrent things ,i dont know , i m confused . any help or suggestion will be appreciated.thanx

yes everything is in order in my passport . they did stemp that i was being paroled after they took my Conditional GC.and yes i just came into usa from abroad trip

I put 16-20 also because it could represent a generation of distinction between the parties. Frankly, I've always fancied men that are younger, younger by at least 6-9 years. And they've been quite happy with me, in fact, we've been well suited in many aspects. I'd have missed out on a wonderful person had I had some sort of stigma against someone 6-9 years younger.

If New York state requires that you have grounds for an expedited divorce and your spouse contests those grounds, then your option would be to await the requisite period of time to file a no fault divorce. It doesn't appear that your spouse won't divorce, but that she won't divorce under the grounds you are citing.

In New York State:

Grounds for Filing: The Complaint for Divorce must declare the appropriate New York grounds upon which the divorce is being sought. The appropriate lawful ground will be that which the parties agree upon and can substantiate, or that which the filing spouse desires to prove to the court. The divorce grounds are as follows:

Action for divorce. An action for divorce may be maintained by a husband or wife to procure a judgment divorcing the parties and dissolving the marriage on any of the following grounds:

(1) The cruel and inhuman treatment of the plaintiff by the defendant such that the conduct of the defendant so endangers the physical or mental well being of the plaintiff as renders it unsafe or improper for the plaintiff to cohabit with the defendant.

(2) The abandonment of the plaintiff by the defendant for a period of one or more years.

(3) The confinement of the defendant in prison for a period of three or more consecutive years after the marriage of plaintiff and defendant.

(4) The commission of an act of adultery, provided that adultery for the purposes of articles ten, eleven, and eleven-A of this chapter, is hereby defined as the commission of an act of sexual intercourse, oral sexual conduct or ####### sexual conduct, voluntarily performed by the defendant, with a person other than the plaintiff after the marriage of plaintiff and defendant. Oral sexual conduct and ####### sexual conduct include, but are not limited to, sexual conduct as defined in subdivision two of section 130.00 and subdivision three of section 130.20 of the penal law.

(5) The husband and wife have lived apart pursuant to a decree or judgment of separation for a period of one or more years after the granting of such decree or judgment, and satisfactory proof has been submitted by the plaintiff that he or she has substantially performed all the terms and conditions of such decree or judgment.

(6) The husband and wife have lived separate and apart pursuant to a written agreement of separation, subscribed by the parties thereto and acknowledged or proved in the form required to entitle a deed to be recorded, for a period of one or more years after the execution of such agreement and satisfactory proof has been submitted by the plaintiff that he or she has substantially performed all the terms and conditions of such agreement. Such agreement shall be filed in the office of the clerk of the county wherein either party resides. In lieu of filing such agreement, either party to such agreement may file a memorandum of such agreement, which memorandum shall be similarly subscribed and acknowledged or proved as was the agreement of separation and shall contain the following information: (a) the names and addresses of each of the parties, (B) the date of marriage of the parties, © the date of the agreement of separation and (d) the date of this subscription and acknowledgment or proof of such agreement of separation. (Consolidated Laws of New York - Domestic Relations Laws - Volume 8 - Sections: 170 and Article 10, Section 170, and Article 13, Section 230)

It appears your haste is to get this marriage terminated under grounds that are not numbers 5 or 6, which would require a period of separation of one or more year. Are you sure your haste is not somewhat precipitated by a wish to terminate the marriage BEFORE she gets the conditions removed from her residency?

I have recently filed for divorce with my lawyer. My spouse has refused to sign the divorce papers because she has not had conditions removed and received her 10yr card. Her thinking is that if she doesn't sign, she can hold out until her card come in the mail. How likely are we to have another interview? We had our initial interview two summers ago. Last year she received a letter for an extension.

I very, VERY much want a divorce and I was thinking, if I send USCIS a copy of the divorce filing, her point to hold out will become moot. To clarify, I want to send USCIS my filing for divorce so that they will refuse to grant her permanent status. Will this work? Will they refuse her application?

I appreciate your help and for the record I am not a bad person.

Minya's wife,

If you think like an alien that is wishes to deceive USCIS into thinking that a marriage that was entered into for immigration benefit alone is bonafide, you'll see that documentation such as those listed doesn't necessarily mean that the couple spent one night together in a residence. It would be very easy for an alien intent on committing fraud to have his or her name added to a bank account, or a tax return, or even a deed and yet never spend one moment with the USC (of course this is typically ONLY the case with a spouse that goes along with the plan).

To prove shared residence one would normally supply evidence of mail and correspondence directed to the alien and received at a shared address, personal identification documents showing the shared address, bills for services for a particular shared address paid for or obliged to by the alien.

Having a mortgage, for primary residence, with both names on it (at same address) is not proof of residing together? Or for that same token, having the same address appear on the tax and bank account statement? I understand that it is proof of shared financial obligations...but then how does one prove 'common residence'. These would be the types of things I would be considering sending....so I'm just curious.

The bolded items demonstrate shared financial obligations, but not necessarily that the alien continues to share a common residence.

If this is the extent of your evidence, I don't see much that demonstrates that the couple resided together. Have you moved since you filed for AOS? I am curious why you would not have received an RFE, if the reason for denial is a lack of sufficient evidence.

I filed for my I-751 on 02/15/08 jointly with my husband, we are still happily married. I sent my Mortgage, life insurance, health insurance, my 401k, taxes 2005, 2006, 2 letters from friends and my sister in law, house taxes, bank account statem,ents of the last 2 moths. I did not send pictures because all are in my computer and did not think they will even look at them (like last time in my interview for AOS).

The OP does not know the reason for the denial yet...so lack of evidence as the reason is only speculation. The bolded items, if they reflect both names, are demonstrative that the couple reside together (the other items can also be proof if they bear both names and the same address)...and I'm not sure what more could any petitioner offer to demonstrate co-habitation.

Is all in order in your passport? Have you recently arrived in the USA from a trip?

dear friends i have question that when u r called for deffered inspection by custom and border protection in marriage cases can they deport you ? my case is that my spouse filed for divorced and got divorce from me and then complaint to immigration that my marriage was not in faith (which is totally wrong). now i m very much concerned abt my stay in states .CUstom and border protection ordered me to appear in person at the airport for deffered inspection . some people r saying that they r gonna deport me and some r sayin diffrent things ,i dont know , i m confused . any help or suggestion will be appreciated.thanx

There are several options. If your husband is willing you can jointly file the I-751, even if he is being depolyed and therefore would obviously not be residing with you. Naturally, this requires that the marriage subsists and that no legal termination of the marriage has commenced.

Alternatively, you could begin the divorce process (with or without his consent) and hope to terminate the marriage in time to file a waiver, citing "good faith marriage that ended in divorce". If you are approaching the deadline to file the I-751 and you have not yet consummated the divorce, you would have to wait untila decree is available. Acceptance by USCIS of an untimely filed I-751 is discretionary, but if you can demonstrate that it was late due to no fault of your own, chances are you should be fine. That depends, of course, on how late, "late" is.

You could also submit the I-751 waiver without a divorce decree, citing any of the grounds that apply at that time. One is that you are a battered spouse. Caveat: You need clear and convincing evidence to prevail when using abuse as the grounds. Or. the "catch all" grounds for persons in your predicament is "removal from the country would pose a severe hardship" which certainly would apply since you have shared biological children, and he is claiming that you would have to leave them behind. After submission of a waiver using this as grounds, if you subsequently divorce, you can withdraw that one and replace it with a waiver using the "good faith" grounds. It means double filing fees but assures more success. Caveat: You'd need documentation that demonstrates the bonafide nature of your intentions upon entering the marriage, of which, your child is one very good example. Good luck

I read on another thread that if you withdraw your support as stated on the I-864, her waiting for the green card just might not happen. However, that is only a belief. You should still talk to your lawyer about all this.

My question is, why are you wanting for her to go back to her home country, when she clearly wants to stay? It sounds as though you want to get back at her for hurting you and therefore filing for the divorce, even though you say you're not a bad person and all that. Surely if you have ever loved her, you wouldn't want to see harm come to her? I mean, withdrawing your legally recognised financial support from her and getting the divorce done and over with should be enough to get on with your individual lives, right...?

Just saying what I'm observing, I'm not here to judge.

Either way, good luck.

Can't withdraw the Affidavit of Support if the alien has PR already, UNLESS the USC has strong and compelling proof of fraud perpetrated by the alien.

I TOO originally married for love. This wasn't just for the GC.

What is it about the divorce and your interest to end the marriage that has your wife thinking this is not a good idea?

Since the I-751 has already been 2 years, I can somewhat see her point. Why would you not want her to get the process finished?

I have recently filed for divorce with my lawyer. My spouse has refused to sign the divorce papers because she has not had conditions removed and received her 10yr card. Her thinking is that if she doesn't sign, she can hold out until her card come in the mail. How likely are we to have another interview? We had our initial interview two summers ago. Last year she received a letter for an extension.

I very, VERY much want a divorce and I was thinking, if I send USCIS a copy of the divorce filing, her point to hold out will become moot. To clarify, I want to send USCIS my filing for divorce so that they will refuse to grant her permanent status. Will this work? Will they refuse her application?

I appreciate your help and for the record I am not a bad person.

The bolded items demonstrate shared financial obligations, but not necessarily that the alien continues to share a common residence.

If this is the extent of your evidence, I don't see much that demonstrates that the couple resided together. Have you moved since you filed for AOS? I am curious why you would not have received an RFE, if the reason for denial is a lack of sufficient evidence.

I filed for my I-751 on 02/15/08 jointly with my husband, we are still happily married. I sent my Mortgage, life insurance, health insurance, my 401k, taxes 2005, 2006, 2 letters from friends and my sister in law, house taxes, bank account statem,ents of the last 2 moths. I did not send pictures because all are in my computer and did not think they will even look at them (like last time in my interview for AOS).

The OP does not know the reason for the denial yet...so lack of evidence as the reason is only speculation. The bolded items, if they reflect both names, are demonstrative that the couple reside together (the other items can also be proof if they bear both names and the same address)...and I'm not sure what more could any petitioner offer to demonstrate co-habitation.

If this is the extent of your evidence, I don't see much that demonstrates that the couple resided together. Have you moved since you filed for AOS? I am curious why you would not have received an RFE, if the reason for denial is a lack of sufficient evidence.

I filed for my I-751 on 02/15/08 jointly with my husband, we are still happily married. I sent my Mortgage, life insurance, health insurance, my 401k, taxes 2005, 2006, 2 letters from friends and my sister in law, house taxes, bank account statem,ents of the last 2 moths. I did not send pictures because all are in my computer and did not think they will even look at them (like last time in my interview for AOS). I did received a biometrics letter on 03/26/08, i went and everything was ok. Because i did not received the extension letter I called 1800 and then is when they told me i have been transfered to Vermont (I did not received a actual letter), so i asked for a duplicate. I received the duplicate on April 19/08. Since then i did not hear from then, until i got woorry and my extension it was about to expire. I scheduled a INFOPASS appoinment last friday and there they told me my case was denied back in January (i have not received a letter as today) She also called Vermont from there and told me to wait, after an hour later Vermont called back and informed her that my case was in the clerical office (preparing the letter to be send) and that in the letter will explain the reason why i was denied. She did stamped my passport for another 60 days. We are desperated we do not understand why they will denied my case or why i have not received a letter or a explanation. She told me if in 30 days i do not hear from them i will have to come back.

Do anybody has heard about something like this before please advised us. We are worry. It really make me sad the idea of leave my Husband, my house, my family. My husband said he will go with me if i have to leave, but i do not think that is fair, He has a son from his previous marriage that i love like mine, and i know the kid need him too. We will have to start over again from Zero in my country, after working really hard to make this my home. I will really appreciate any advice.

She also told me that it could be something it will be resolved easy and she was really sorry that she could not tell me a reason or give me an advice or what to do.

Thank you VJ's and i really appreciate your best wishes.

Depending upon what state you reside in (and how separation is viewed by your courts) there may be no reason to withdraw the currently filed joint I-751. As long as the marriage is not legally terminated prior to adjudication of the application. If you live in one of the few states that regard separation as on an automatic "path" to divorce (New York state comes to mind) then she might want to confer with an immigration attorney.

There's no long, complicated story here. I'm just ready to end this.

My wife and I have been married for just under two and a half years. We filed for her residency right after we were married, went through the whole process, and got her conditional green card. Well, recently, we separated. She walked out on me, and neither of us have any intention of getting back together. We've already filed to remove her conditional status, but it's delayed (I think everyone's is delayed). We've been waiting several months, and I have no idea when anything is going to happen. I just can't take this anymore.

Being separated has complicated my life immensely, especially my finances and my education. There are tax credits and exemptions I can't claim unless we file jointly. I haven't been able to get my student financial aid because of our marriage, and as a result I've had to drop out of college. I don't know when I'll be able to go back, if ever. I can't have a relationship with anyone else because I'm still married. My life has been completely, utterly derailed for this girl, and that, combined with the stress of not knowing how to deal with USCIS is destroying me. I was the one who enabled her to stay in this country. I was the one who went through all the paperwork. I got all the photographs, and documentation, and copies. I was the one who handled everything for removing her conditional status. When she has a problem, I figure everything out for her. I traded my freedom for hers. I just can't be the one to do everything for her anymore.

I wish my wife all the best. I want her to be able to stay in this country and be happy. There are no hard feelings between us; we've moved on. But I just can't take this anymore. I need to cut these ties to be able to get on with my own life. I just can't, because I'm concerned about her and what will happen to her.

I'm not sure what kind of advice I'm looking for. Maybe I need to know that she'll be able to complete the residency process on her own and won't have to leave the country. Maybe I just need someone to tell me to do it, and get this over with. Maybe I just needed to vent, and type all that stuff that I haven't said to anyone else.

I don't know. I'm just ready to move on with my life, and lift this immense weight from my shoulders.

I take it her spouse is an alien?

I'm helping a couple file an I-485 and learned that his wife has been working as a caregiver for the past year, at this point the we know its wrong.

we will send the package off in a few weeks being as honest in the papers as possible, what can we expect to happen as the process completes and the interview date comes ??? can anyone help ???

The whole purpose of VAWA is that an alien that can demonstrate abuse (emotional or physical) does not need a USC petitioner or sponsor to gain permanent residency. Do not worry about the cancelled petition. Just contact Catholic Human Charities and pursue VAWA.

Pls. gve me advice .... I got married last 2007 in 5 months of marriage he abuse me physically and mentally. so as the mother. but he filed my adjustment status. prior to his marriage to me. his dvorced three times and only lasted for a couple of months. my situation is very awful. I dnt know anybody in his town etc. I stayed alone in the house while his at work... out of iinonce... i call 911( just to ask advice that will i do wth my situation.... the operator gave me the number of violence against women hotline. I gve them a call when my husband is out. i talkd to them for a couple of times and advice me to leavehim and stayed at their shelter . they said i can petition myself without him since its against women(Violence agaisnt women act)--- in my opinion not only physically but emotionally. One day. he come home he said he wanted dvorce. well to mke story short. i call 911.. and police took me out from his house. they gave me police clearance etc.they gve me reports. from the times i called them etc. / vagainst women offce too.

my prblem is how can i petition myself when my ex husband cancel my petition already??do u think that the INS will give me a chance to stay here? because accdg.to the law...the self supporting--should be married atleast 2 years. ///// u mean i have to wait for two years before i will leave ?? please advice me... its going to be very helpful to me. Thanks and Godbless

Why did you wait until now to file? You became eligible to remove the conditions by way of a waiver as soon as your divorce became final.

Married 2 years ago and got my 2 year pernament resident card.The marriage only lasted a year due to different outlooks on life and stuff like that.We ware divorced and still talking and get on fine.It was a totally in love marriage but it didnt work.Now i must apply for the l751 waiver as it is approaching the 90 days.I would really like to know what would be the best way of going about it?Should i het a lawyer to do it or shouild i just file myself?i have been here 4 years now and love it.Even when i got my resident card i never left the U.S.This is my home now and i really dont want to mess it up.So anyone have any idea's about the best thing to do?

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