JerryP

Maybe your fiance means you are in fact the "Queen of De Nile" (Denial....) and it's an inside family joke; Do you realize that people can pretend for YEARS on end that they like someone? Especially if the end result will benefit them in some way.
Bottom line, I have to applaud all of the people who have responded thus far, I think you are all being honest and open and not sugar-coating it like I see so many other responders do. The Middle East/North Africa is in fact a very HIGH fraud area and what these people are saying about the cultural norms are very true. Do you really think there is a shortage of younger women of their own culture in their own country to marry? Most of these men do not even RESPECT American women, so in their minds, if they can put one over on you, then they have proven their point about American women.
But forget what I have to say, if you really love this man, then tell him you will go live in his country for 2 years and see how it goes. I would venture to say the same for the old guys who want the 19 year old wives--let them know you will come live in THEIR country for 2 years and then see if they still want the marriage. Imagine how much lighter the immigration paper load would be if this were the case.
I just don't want to see you posting on these boards in a year or so saying how he left you and you want to get him deported and why, oh why didn't the government warn you or protect you in any way.....there are plenty of posts on here like this, you can check into it yourself.
Just being honest folks, not trying to rile anyone up.

Do you think it's even worth it? The high majority of these people are so in love they will say "That may be true of other people, but MY relationship is real". They'll continue to say this even when the spouse has them sleeping on the couch or is spending all of their time with relatives. Even when the spouse wants to get a place of their own and make their own money (while still telling the US citizen "we just need time apart") , these people will still insist it's just "temporary". I base this on what I have heard and what I read on these boards.
Some people STILL won't even admit they are being used for a green card once the evidence is staring them in the face and the red flags are popping up all over.
It can happen to ANY ONE OF US, unfortunately. Some people are very good actors/actresses.
But good luck with the thread, if it helps even one person, it's worth it.

So my husband finally sends the petition express to Chicago on Friday with instructions to have it delivered today because the office will be closed on Saturday...and sure enough they attempted delivery on SATURDAY and left a notice for pick-up. I have a gut feeling they will not go to pick it up at the post office!
And because it was an express delivery, I can't reschedule online....my husband has to call his local number before 5pm (in which he can't today as he's working) to have it redelivered. The ONLY bonus is a refund of the money because of USPS' error. But who cares so much about the money....the point of expressing it and paying more is to get it there FAST AND SECURE!
I'm already fed-up with the immigration process and it's ONLY JUST BEGUN! I am seriously considering sponsoring my husband to live in Canada. American organizations are retarded and the immigration guidelines are as well.