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Technically they *should* forward all your new mail to your new address, sometimes they wait a bit until they have a lot of your mail and then forward it, they should not hold any of your mail, hopefully. I'm having trouble now with my mail since I moved to Illinois from Florida and I've no idea where's my mail, that shouldn't happen to you and even if it did, your mother in law will receive it so that's still good!

I'm sure if you just make her feel home and always shower her with love, she won't care where she is, don't make her feel like she's an outsider, that was a challenging thing for me cause I was surrounded by my husband's family and couldn't really feel at home for a while. The suburbs and small towns are definitely not bad and have lots of advantages, she can easily love it and may be prefer it to her old life. Shukran kiteer, insgallah heya rah teheb el suburbs kiteer Wish you the best!

Glad you worked it out, next time, don't put ANYTHING that has liquid near your passport, that is your most valuable item in the US!! Best of luck.

I totally understand what you're saying, I lived in Egypt in a huge and very open city with tons of places and things to do, if you go out at 2 am, you'd still find tons of people everywhere, I took it all for granted and moved to the suburbs of FL 9 months ago to be with my husband, the very first months were complete cultural shock to me, but I didn't hate it cause it was still new and I had my parents and 2 sisters for a whole month and then I went to Hawaii for the honeymoon, but starting from January really, I got severely depressed, I'd cry all the time, couldn't make even one friend, ate food I hated, missed my family so bad, had no car and no job, I was a prisoner in my apartment, we went house hunting and it was so bad I got even more depressed, we HAD to move to a bigger city, it was really unhealthy for me to live in the suburbs, and my husband found a better job and we moved to Chicago (and had all our family who hate cities trash out Chicago for us) and I feel a lot better here, still homesick, but not like I was in Florida. There's a Middle eastern restaurant around the corner, lake down the street, parks, awesome movie theaters, public transit and life! I've been here 1 month and I'm meeting tons of friends and tons of Arabs!

Some people cope very well with changes, and this is a drastic change, and with others they don't take it aswell, but she isn't doing it on purpose, if your fiancee goes through the same, be understanding and try to bring Morocco to her as much as possible, I enjoy watching Arabic movies, listening to Arabic music, eating an Arabic meal, or just speaking Arabic to my dog just cause I need to!

I can't live in Egypt again for the time being, but if one day God grants me the opportunity and finances to do it, I'd go back home in a heartbeat. It's home!

I hope I helped at all, I just wanted to open up and tell you I've been through exactly that.

Just wanted to add a joke I just read online:

I found my wife crying last night.

I asked her why and she said "I am homesick."

I said "but darling, this is your home."

"Yes", she said "and I'm sick of it!"

I totally understand what you're saying, I lived in Egypt in a huge and very open city with tons of places and things to do, if you go out at 2 am, you'd still find tons of people everywhere, I took it all for granted and moved to the suburbs of FL 9 months ago to be with my husband, the very first months were complete cultural shock to me, but I didn't hate it cause it was still new and I had my parents and 2 sisters for a whole month and then I went to Hawaii for the honeymoon, but starting from January really, I got severely depressed, I'd cry all the time, couldn't make even one friend, ate food I hated, missed my family so bad, had no car and no job, I was a prisoner in my apartment, we went house hunting and it was so bad I got even more depressed, we HAD to move to a bigger city, it was really unhealthy for me to live in the suburbs, and my husband found a better job and we moved to Chicago (and had all our family who hate cities trash out Chicago for us) and I feel a lot better here, still homesick, but not like I was in Florida. There's a Middle eastern restaurant around the corner, lake down the street, parks, awesome movie theaters, public transit and life! I've been here 1 month and I'm meeting tons of friends and tons of Arabs!

Some people cope very well with changes, and this is a drastic change, and with others they don't take it aswell, but she isn't doing it on purpose, if your fiancee goes through the same, be understanding and try to bring Morocco to her as much as possible, I enjoy watching Arabic movies, listening to Arabic music, eating an Arabic meal, or just speaking Arabic to my dog just cause I need to!

I can't live in Egypt again for the time being, but if one day God grants me the opportunity and finances to do it, I'd go back home in a heartbeat. It's home!

I hope I helped at all, I just wanted to open up and tell you I've been through exactly that.

I'm sure you can definitely get a security clearance given that you become a US citizen, my father in law has one, and my husband used to have one, and let me say that they will annoy the living out of you, they're like an ex-boyfriend, they'll stalk everything you do, if you travel any where and I assume you will (to Egypt at least) they'll want a detailed explanation of where you went(full addresses), who you met, and so on. Every time you try to go oversees they'll sit you down and give you a *course* of how you can never tell any one about what you do, not even your husband. Many of these jobs are per contract, there's no guarantee that the contract would be renewed, they'll just let you go.

Jobs in Florida suck, and the only available good jobs are government jobs so I understand why you'd consider it, my husband was applying for a new job recently and we both made up our minds we don't want any job that requires SC and he took a job in Chicago instead, BUT, government based jobs do have really good benefits (401K, vacation time, paid tuition, insurance plans)

Good-luck with the job hunt, I know it's very frustrating, hopefully you'll find something you like.

Thanks again everyone. Its really sad that I have to worry about someone who abused me, go and file a claim that I abused them to get a visa. I filed divorce and i shouldve not looked back, then I go and cancel it..and if I file again I am sure he and his lawyer will use this as a claim of him being subjected to some kind of mental cruelty. Before this all, I was a single mother raising my son in peace, no kind of worries like this..if he accuses me of abuse, will it go on my record and could i go to jail?

You're assuming too much, too soon, you (so far) sound more credible than him, he looks suspicious just for the so little you've shared about him, please take action before it's too late. We can't force you to do things, but it's helpless if you come here to ask for advice, and your not willing to even help yourself.

You didn't think he was using you when he asked to marry you right after the court ordered to have him departed? It's obvious that he USED you, I'm very sorry to tell you that I don't believe he married you because he loved you, or your life would be so much different right now and you'd have had a husband who loves you, and respects you. Please, wake up. I wish you the best, don't let anyone take advantage of you, and your son, please think of your son as well, it's not just you.

IF he is doing something rather shameful and illegal (in that office of his), and he gets caught, the police would *assume* that you knew about it, helped him escape and stay by marrying him, and covered up for him, until you prove to the police otherwise, you won't look so good.

You didn't think he was using you when he asked to marry you right after the court ordered to have him departed? It's obvious that he USED you, I'm very sorry to tell you that I don't believe he married you because he loved you, or your life would be so much different right now and you'd have had a husband who loves you, and respects you. Please, wake up. I wish you the best, don't let anyone take advantage of you, and your son, please think of your son as well, it's not just you.

Hey everyone!!

My husband got a job offer in Chicago that we couldn't just say no to and we're moving there in 2 weeks, we both love Chicago. I'd like to know anyone here who lives in Chicago that I can make friends with!!

Thank you and have a great weekend everybody.

I don't think the letter would change anything at all, they really don't care if you marry at a church or court as long as you marry within the 90 days. The government isn't based on church.

I think he can't live in another country for more than 6 months at a time or he might lose his residence, but once he gets his citizenship you guys can move and come back like you want.

It really depends on where you wanna live for the rest of your life I suppose.

I'm so sorry you feel that way, I wish I had a solution, but I don't... I just wanna reach out to you and tell you that you're not alone, I've been here (in Florida) for almost 7 months, and I haven't made any friends, I live in the suburbs, that I loathe and hate, I'm used to big city and busy life, the huss and fuss, and like you said, I had tons of friends and families and friendships are very hard to maintain and build in a few days...I do nothing productive with my time, couldn't find any jobs in the lame suburbs, closest job I can find was an hour and half away. I guess you can check Craigslist in your city and look at activities and events or volunteer work, I'd do that but I still don't have a car of my own...

Also, if you go to church, maybe sign up for Bible studies/marriage classes. We did that and it was nice to be around people, they were a lot older than us so I couldn't really find a *girlfriend* to hang out with... the only person I hang out with now (besides my husband) is my mother in law, she's sweet but it's VERY hard to make your mother in law your best friend...

Does your husband have any friends that you can get to know, and meet their girlfriends/wives or so?

hope you really find a friend...

Thor is O-some! I thought it'll be all comic-like and full of action, but it was very entertaining, a lot of interesting scenes, comedy parts, and emotional story line, no to mention, a handsome bulky Thor!

I'd make an appointment and go to the embassy and check this thing out, I know it sucks but what other options you have? Better than being at the border and get denied. I'm sorry you're going through this, but what happened has happened and you can't go back in time, just try to find out how to salvage the situation... I hope it'll be resolved and I don't think you need to re-do the whole thing. I know when some people mistakenly rip their brown envelope they take it to the embassy and they fix it for them.

Is that supposed to be a joke or a funny comment or something?

What does that even mean? You can keep your spouse all you want!

I'm sorry, but I would not do it, discussing my divorce before my marriage is not a good sign no matter what the reason is, both people should be entering the marriage in good faith, or else, don't get married. He apparently doesn't trust you, or doesn't trust that the marriage will work. IF you get a divorce, you should get half of everything he has, this is your right, why give it up? What if you got sick, had a baby, and then a divorce? The money will help! Seriously, do not give up your right, i watch this show "Divorce wars" and there are horrific stories about pre-nups, they never have happy endings, please, please, think very carefully before you sign anything like this, this is very serious.

Those here who tell you "do it because I did it" just want to justify it just because they had to do it, if they had any choice, they'd have never done it.

I do not care who killed him, where, when or how, I'm content with justice that happened, I'll leave the rest details to anyone who has a lot of time to think and research.

Oh they did say they have pictures, it's just not released yet.

I feel bad for that poor fish!!

I KNOW. He definitely isn't a holy warrior and no martyr!

http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2011/may/2/us-osama-used-wife-human-shield/

U.S.: Osama used wife as human shield

Osama bin Laden used one of his wives as a human shield during the firefight with U.S. forces at the compound in Pakistan where he was killed, the White House’s counterterrorism chief said Monday.

The woman died along with bin Laden, one of his sons and two other men in a daring U.S. raid that John Brennan described as one of the “gutsiest calls” by a president in recent memory.

Mr. Brennan, President Obama’s top counterterrorism adviser, said officials monitored the 40-minute operation in real time but wouldn’t say if they were watching video of the event.

“The minutes passed like days,” he said, describing the raid as “probably one of the most anxiety-filled periods” in the lives of Mr. Obama and his national security team.

The Sunday operation took out the world’s biggest terrorist target, who was hiding in a fortified compound in Pakistan, setting off celebrations across the country as Americans cheered the death of the man who orchestrated the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon.

Addressing the nation late Sunday night, Mr. Obama called the news “a testament to the greatness of our country and the determination of the American people.”

In a briefing with reporters Monday at the White House, Mr. Brennan said one of bin Laden’s wives was used as a human shield to protect the al Qaeda founder. Both were killed in a shootout, and bin Laden was later buried at sea.

“Here is bin Laden, who has been calling for these attacks, living in this million-dollar-plus compound, living in an area that is far removed from the front, hiding behind women who were put in front of him as a shield,” he told reporters. “I think it really just speaks to just how false his narrative has been over the years.”

Mr. Brennan said U.S. forces were prepared to take bin Laden alive if he did not pose a “threat” but killed him when he resisted capture.

As for the burial of the terrorist leader at sea, Mr. Brennan wouldn’t offer many details but insisted it was done in accordance with Islamic law. He said officials had discussed ahead of time what they would do with bin Laden’s body if he were killed in the operation and burial at sea was determined to be the best way to ensure he was buried within 24 hours, as Islamic law requires.

The administration is still in the process of deciding whether to release additional proof, such as photos of the corpse, to convince skeptics that bin Laden is in fact dead, Mr. Brennan said.

“We are going to continue to look at the information that we have and make sure that we are able to share what we can, because we want to make sure that not only the American people but the world understand exactly what happened,” he said.

Mr. Brennan likened the death of bin Laden to “decapitating the head of the snake” that is al Qaeda and said officials hope to capitalize on the achievement by exploiting fractures among bin Laden’s successors wtihin the infamous terrorist network. Still, he stressed that the fight against terrorism continues.

“It may be a mortally wounded tiger that still has some life in it,” he said.

The decision to act on the intelligence was not without risk, Mr. Brennan said, given that even as officials were certain that the high-value-target living within the compound was indeed bin Laden, it couldn’t be confirmed until he was killed or captured.

U.S. officials are “pursuing all leads” to determine what kind of benefactors and support system that bin Laden had in Pakistan and whether any members of the troubled country’s government were complicit in keeping his whereabouts under wraps, Mr. Brennan said. He refused to speculate at this point but said it’s suspicious that bin Laden was found outside of a major city.

“I think people are raising a number of questions - understandably so,” he said.

If ANYONE would call him a holy warrior, than they have no religion and know no mercy. He killed almost 3000 souls..so to anyone who said that, SHAME ON YOU!

I'm SO happy. I just wonder what the look on his face would be when he finds out he is in HELL and the only virgins, are virgin guys