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I'm very very happy, finally. I know this will not bring back those who lost their lives, but, justice has finally happened, and those who died can now rest in peace.

You can stay out of the US for up to 6 months with no consequence, as long as the person has a vaild green card and passport. Over 6 months contact with the US consulate is needed and the green card holder can stay out of the country for up to a year. Over a year the green card holder will forfeit their green card and not be allowed to re-enter the country.

I'm sorry about what happened, it's a shame that until this day and age people still stereo-type others, people who do this are uneducated and arrogant. Just like there is a lot of discrimination against African Americans (not THAT much in the US anymore) there are discriminations against Asians and every group in the world.

Why do you care what THEY said? The only person you need to worry about is your fiancee, you don't have to defend yourself or prove anything. When things like this happen, just ignore it and save yourself the headache. Haters will be haters just because they wanna seem like they're better than others. Ignore them.

Best of luck.

Anything can be a red flag, it depends on the couple, the situation, the country and the officer. It depends on how the embassy in Turkey sees it really (the norm in Turkey). Love knows no age and as people here said, a lot of the women are older than their husbands and they all got approved. Don't worry

I agree with Penguin, she is right so please listen to the advice we give you here (that is the whole idea of asking for advice)

They WILL sly and burn you with questions, they KNOW that it is not okay for muslim women to marry a non-muslim man, so expect lots of questions about that. To them, it is odd and out of the ordinary and they have every right to question anyone. That is their job.

K-1 and Tourist visas are entirely different, but they will ask you about it (if you ever applied for a visa/been to the U.S). They won't deny you because your B2 was denied before, so don't worry.

I don't think being a woman really changes much, more than half of the immigrants here are women, so you're not the only case.

I'd request to have my interview in Arabic or maybe French so you don't *mis-speak* in English, if your English isn't good enough.

P.S: Don't compare other countries to the U.S or the U.S immigration system. It really is very different and the most difficult in my opinion.

Best of luck!!

First of all, I'm very sorry about what happened to you, you have a child together and he should act more responsible than this. I've had an ex like this, we'd fight all the time and I never never felt happy, but I couldn't get myself to break up with him (now I'm glad I did)

You can forgive him, but you yourself said, you won't be able to trust him, and from his past, he seems like he tends to repeat cheating on you (feeling horrible about it isn't enough, he should have stopped) I miss my country so much, I miss my family and friends and some days, I wish I can live there again. You really gotta consider this, is he worth that?? I've noticed, that when a partner cheats, especially in what seems to be a serious relationship, he/she doesn't feel their partner is good enough for them, they think they can do better. (in the reality, it's not true, it's their insecurities that makes them think if they have someone they couldn't have, then they're worth a lot)

It's really YOUR decision. I've learned that on this site, you can give a million advice to someone, and unless they WANT to, they wouldn't take it. This is your life, do whatever you want, but play future scenarios in your head before you decide.

Best of luck.

Umm.. there's no expiry date to file for the AOS, as long as you marry within the 90 days, you're good. You really messed up between the two! He shouldn't have left the US without an advance parole or Green Card. I don't know what could you do to bring him back... I just wanted to clarify that he did NOT have to leave whatsoever. There are people here who adjusted a YEAR later!

Our AOS just got approved yesterday! after 2 months and a half, them losing my medical and costing us $300 to redo it but it all worked out!

It's very funny and ironic to me that I got my green card and my AP & EAD didn't even get touched! I also got tons of notifications, even a day later!

Congrats to all who got approved and to those who didn't yet, it's coming!

Our AOS just got approved even before our AP and EAD (how funny) Anyway, do I need to go to the social security office and get my card updated, remove that "VALID FOR WORK WITH DHS AUTHORIZATION ONLY"? Or should I just leave it??

Thanks!!

Thanks everyone!! I appreciate everyone's contribution! Me and my husband are praying about it and we'll leave it up to God! If we don't end up moving there I'm sure we'll move to another city because God knows who much I hate suburbs, they're just not for me.

This is EXACTLY why I didn't want everyone to comment and people still ignored my wishes anyway. I didn't ask for people's consent or if they think it is a good idea. I wanted people who live there to tell me what it is like, so please don't start arguing. Thanks for your input.

I appreciate your contribution but I really wanted Chicago residents to reply to my post, no pun intended just because I want real city life experiences not what every body *thinks* of it and where we should have stayed and lived. Thanks.

Oh my! Really that's no fun at all! Florida also isn't the best place at all, it has the 2nd highest unemployment rate (after Nevada) and the highest foreclosures rate in the entire country . I've been looking for jobs with no success at all. My husband took $11,000 cut to move to Florida (from Alabama) because his parents wanted us to live closer to them. We can't afford anything here, I've no insurance, no car, and can't afford a house even with a lot of savings in the bank!

One of the reasons we are looking to relocate to Chicago is that he will be getting paid a lot more and there seems to be many jobs for me there and I wouldn't need a car there.

Honestly, there is no perfect place, we gotta pay our dues and suck it at times! I wish I can say we'll move to Egypt but it'd be such a waste of all the money we spent on immigration!

My husband and I have been thinking about relocating to Chicago since it has really good job opportunities to both our work fields and my husband is seriously under paid here in Florida for the amount of experience he has, his parents are quite controlling and don't want us to move away. I come from a big city so I understand everything that comes with a city, traffic, crime, pollution and so forth. I really hate the suburbs, I can not live there any longer.

I'd really like any advice from people who actually do live, or lived in Chicago. What do you think of it?

The only thing that makes me worry is the winter there, I've heard nothing but bad things about it, what do you do in winter time?? I hate the sun and heat that Florida has ALL THE time!

We are going to Chicago in May so it'll be a great chance to experience living there first hand.

Thank you!

All I know that my dad was here in the US for my wedding and it made my wedding all that much more special. Some day your kids will ask you "Why wasn't grandpa there?"

I agree your future wife should come first, but also, parents should be able to attend their children's wedding, you know?

Just do what you feel in your heart that is right

Best of luck.

I'd like to add one last thing, I was considering travelling alone without my parents and sisters because of the wait, and I AM VERY happy I did not do that, having my family there made me very very happy and I'm not even that close to them!

Hi Junita,

the shot that you took for the test containe proteins of Micobacterium Tuberculosis, the bacteria that causes TB, the reason why you had a slight reaction was because you do have some antibodies against MT probably from prior BCG vaccination and they reacted by attacking the injected proteins in the shot, called PPD.

A positve reaction is when the area is hard,indurated, elevated and over 15mm, even smaller in people with some other severe ilnesses or special conditions.

You don`t need to worry, most people get that slight reaction.

Oh, i called you Junita, didnt see you changed your name ,oops , sorry

Thanks a lot faithinGod, I actually noticed that the swelling is going down and it's even less pink now, thank God! It's all good!

The only logical explanation I have is, they're illogical when they transfer it from your POE to the USCIS office it's processed at.

Why don't they give us our medical back at the POE THEN we can file it with the AOS?

Why doesn't our local office give us the medical at the biometrics so WE can send it to the office it's being processed at? Why why why... many different scenarios they can do!

Mont Blanc, has your case been touched ever since you sent the RFE reply?

Thanks everyone!! I know I'm okay but just didn't get why I reacted to the test!

I recently had to do my medical examination for AOS (after they lost mine) and I got a TB skin test, after 2 days it started to be a little pink and form a small bump where the needle was, it wasn't itchy or red or even big, the doctor said it is a negative, and I had a chest X-ray before in my first medical exam and it was also negative. I just don't understand why did I react to it?? Has anyone reacted to the test before even though it was a negative??

Oh yea, they can send you an RFE at any time, even after an interview. They transferred our case to the CSC and bam, RFE was sent, lost medical!

We don't fight often but when we do, we don't really fight fair because we fight about major things, I like to have my own space and be left alone for a few hours to cool off and he hates that and keeps trying to talk about it (which makes me even more mad), usually the fight is over and forgotten by the next day and he can be very sweet when *making it up to me*

I think at times it's harder on the *immigrant* when a fight comes up cause we, feel more lonely when that happens.

I came to the States about 5 months ago, moved from a big city in Egypt (Alexandria) to a small city in Florida (Melbourne) and it is driving me INSANE! I don't have an EAD yet so I've no car, no job, I can't go ANYWHERE by myself, it's very boring, very quiet, I see no people walking EVER. I KNOW there are LOTS of Americans who love that but for me, it's very boring and I feel very lonely. I've nothing to do during day time. I hate living here. I'm used to walking to anywhere, stopping cabs right out of my apartment building and having tons of friends.

Anyone here from a big city who moved to a small one and have they same feelings? Any advice??

Please have no regrets, you loved very deeply and now you know how true and honest you are, and how there are a lot of bad people pretending to be doves. You're lucky you have no kids with him! If he has anything of his left at your place, give it to charity, or better yet, pitch it.

Oh my! I'm very mad now. How can someone take advantage of someone who loved him very much! Isn't it ironic that he was in AP? The officer saw something!

DEFINITELY report him!Send his *bum* back to wherever he came from, do everything you can to. It's not like the marriage didn't work out and you separated peacefully. He used you. Make an example of him so no other moron does the same to any woman.

If you're renting that house, you gotta try and move out, no house is that worth it, you need your peace of mind and you need to feel safe where you live and one day have kids.

I know a couple who found a gorgeous house for a great price in an AMAZING DREAM neighborhood, made an offer and decided to drive by it, and they saw an old creepy man sitting in the garage all the time, watching people, the couple decided not to buy the house after that. We went to look for a house in that neighborhood and we saw him sitting there, he went and ran after our car just so he can PEAK at us!!

They say you should buy the smallest house you can afford, in the best neighborhood you can find, you can change anything about the house, but you can't change your neighbors.