kittens_0117

Did you do something unlawful to give her reason to call the cops? If not, then no.
Everyone has the right to call the cops, but she can't threaten to call the cops just because your visa is expiring - the USCIS will be responsible for the deportation process. And even if your visa expires the USCIS will not kick you out immediately - they will initiate your deportation proceedings, and you'll have a process to follow and a timeline to go back to your home country.

We all totally understand what they did. If somebody did a fraud and catch later even after citzenship they have right to revoke there citizenship and deport them and ban them lifely.
For all this to proof u can get success but in start u hav to take the pain to give then pain,if u understand what I am saying.

If your wife has been violently abusing you, you can try to get a green card through VAWA. But the fact you accepted a false charge of domestic violence will probably hurt your case. If it was false (and in fact you were being abused), why didn't you fight it?

I'm sorry I'm going to sound really blunt here...
I agree with everyone above - it does not seem like he's meeting you halfway. He seems to have a confirmation bias of how America "sucks" so he is seeing everything in poop-colored glasses. I am the foreigner in my relationship, and I'm lucky I rarely felt homesick (I am not picky with food, and anything I miss from home I make myself), but spending half a day to video-chat with friends and publicly b*tch about everything in the US is crazy absurd. If at some point you want to take things further in your relationship, what is his expectation? You uprooting your life here and moving with him to Cuba for the rest of your life? Do you want that in your future? Because it seems like he doesn't want anything to do with America, and now you're giving him an inch and he's taking a mile.
Don't take me wrong, while America has been very good to me so far, I do know some aspects of America suck - but hey, that's life. I'm with my husband and we work through our likes and dislikes of each other's culture.
Continue to talk about it -- maybe he'll take more time to adjust, but keep in mind that it's not all about him, so I hope he starts growing up. You deserve some respect. Good luck.

Re: Showboating: I think she means that by complaining about how the US is, he is in essence showing that the country and its standards are "below him", which can elevate the way his crew sees him (or at least he is hoping it will). I think it makes sense. People tend to dismiss and detract from people/things/situations in this manner when they feel a loss of control or if they are hurt. It is possible that he is doing this as a defense mechanism. It is possible he is doing this AND also just being mean and ill natured in general.
I DO agree with YOU though, that he is just out of line and needs to be checked. Many African and Latin men posting are trying to adjust to the states and they come from "macho" cultures. I beg oh! It's not okay to mistreat your fiance like this.

The visa is no good as soon as you entered the US. You need to go by the date on your I-94. You are given 90 days from your entry into the US. After those 90 days if you are still in the US and have not file for AOS you are out of status and subject to deportation.
If the date on your I-94 has not passed and you have not committed any major crime your ex-fiance can do nothing to have you deported. If you do not marry then you have no way to obtain a green card without leaving the US.

First of all: stop the charity. He DOES NOT need clothes for over $1000 dollar (unless he brought no clothes at all). I am not making money at the moment and I'm relying on my husband for things I need and I would never ask him to buy me expensive things.
And you have to tell him that it doesn't matter if you're a couple or strangers: it's "please" and "thank you".
Stop trying so hard to please him if he's treating you awful, it only shows him that you're willing to take it and his behavior won't stop. He is acting like a child so treat him like one: set boundaries.
As long as you're not showing him that his behavior is unacceptable he is going to keep disrespecting you and will walk all over you. Put your foot down, you can do it! I hope the two of you can work this out.

I'm sorry to say this, but his behavior is not about being homesick. He is just completely disrespectful to you and you should stop serving him everything on a silver platter and bring him back to earth.

If he likes properly cooked stuff perhaps he should cook himself? I got tired of eating out and started to learn to cook.
He sounds a bit more than homesick certainly not meeting you 1/2 way. Have you engaged in earnest dialog?

You are better off than Dallas field office. Has the largest back log. After my finger print on 6/16, my status has still not moved to in-line... Wondering why cant they centralize the processing so that excess bandwidth from other centers can be used to ease the Dallas load.

Update: Arrived about 30 mins before, checked in and waited. The officer called my name and brought to a room. Sworn in and seated. I was asked 6 questions, like who wrote the declaration of independence? name three of 13 original states. Who is the chief of military? Name one state that borders with Mexico, etc all in the book. I was a bit nervous, plus my interviewer had a very strong accent. Read and write were easy, simple. And I was asked about those questions that we submitted. I had my name chagned, got the document print out. I was told to wait 2 weeks for the oath ceremony appointment. So sometimes in August, it's gonna be big group, up to 120 people. I got a paper from the officer, saying I had paased. It was about 15 mins.
So good luck for who is still waiting and enjoy Summer!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well I think I am done with USCIS...lol.
I arrived around 7:30 there was only 2 ppl in front of me, then ppl start arriving and name by name they were called I was kind of upset that I was arrived way before some and they were still called before me. I was told that I had to wait for a special officer and around 8:45 he called my name and we went to a different office than the offices they would normally take ppl. He went through my application and asked me some questions from the application itself. Afterwards he started asking me question.
How many voting members in the house of representatives ?
Who is the father of our country?
Who's the chief of justice?
When we vote for the president?
Name one war the US fought in the 1900s?
I don't remember the last question, then he gave me a paper with " Who was george washington ?" and told me to read it and asked me to write " Washington was the first president". After that he started filling some document and gave me 2 documents, first one is the approval document and the 2nd is the invitation for the ceremony this afternoon (in 2 hours) which starts around 1:30 PM.
He advised me to stop by the Social security office to change my status and go after that to SIA to obtain my 2 passports (Regular and Diplomatic) because I am leaving this Sunday.
... And that was it for the day.
Can't wait to get my US PASSPORT...Yay !!

You talk about nerve-wracking ?
I sent my Package on the 5th and it's hasn't arrived to the US as of yet.

You ARE required to demonstrate that you are in a valid and legitimate marriage and that you are living with your spouse in order to apply under the 3 year rule. You don't need to send all that stuff with the application, but you should take it to the interview. Some interviewers are lenient and won't ask to see any of it all, but others will want to see everything before they make a decision.

I don't know the full story between you two, but if she has a track record of flaking out on the most coincidental of moments, I think you two need a talk. Admit that you're feeling a little bit "led on", that it seems like everything is a bit one-sided. She also needs to be more open to you and tell you what has been going on with her life - don't blame each other on anything, just grab the opportunity to listen to each other. Hopefully after that you guys can decide how you can help each other get to your goal.
Filipinos are very family-oriented, so she may be a bit hesitant to leave her family to live in a foreign place for practically the rest of her life. It's pretty much a completely new life to begin with, so I don't blame her for being scared to uproot herself and leave for the unknown. But I do think you guys need to find a common ground if you really want to accomplish your goal. Marriage is about two people working together.
Before my work assigned me to go to the US I also had sessions of cold feet, not sure if I can handle it (and the visa interview was nerve-wracking because I had to be there in the most ungodly hour to make sure I get in on time -- ugh, but I digress). But I sucked it up and went through it. I learned I didn't want to live a life full of "what ifs". When I met my now husband while I was deciding on whether I should marry him -- I thought about what my future will be when I get back (single) or if I stayed (married to the best guy in my world) -- I was like "f*** it" and stayed. I hated the paperwork involved and went under a lot of stress and anxiety of how USCIS now holds my fate, but heck if I don't suck it up and face it head-on. I made sure my husband and I have a fair share of the tasks at hand -- he wanted me with him, and I vice-versa -- so we knew we had to work together. I love my family back home, but I don't want them to be the reason for being stuck and not being able to move on to my future.
I guess in my case I didn't care if I didn't meet any fellow Filipino where I live -- I have my husband. I make my own friends, Filipino or not, I don't see why I have to surround myself with the familiar. It's a new place, a new adventure. I guess my introversion also helped because I really just prefer to be alone

I don't know the full story between you two, but if she has a track record of flaking out on the most coincidental of moments, I think you two need a talk. Admit that you're feeling a little bit "led on", that it seems like everything is a bit one-sided. She also needs to be more open to you and tell you what has been going on with her life - don't blame each other on anything, just grab the opportunity to listen to each other. Hopefully after that you guys can decide how you can help each other get to your goal.
Filipinos are very family-oriented, so she may be a bit hesitant to leave her family to live in a foreign place for practically the rest of her life. It's pretty much a completely new life to begin with, so I don't blame her for being scared to uproot herself and leave for the unknown. But I do think you guys need to find a common ground if you really want to accomplish your goal. Marriage is about two people working together.
Before my work assigned me to go to the US I also had sessions of cold feet, not sure if I can handle it (and the visa interview was nerve-wracking because I had to be there in the most ungodly hour to make sure I get in on time -- ugh, but I digress). But I sucked it up and went through it. I learned I didn't want to live a life full of "what ifs". When I met my now husband while I was deciding on whether I should marry him -- I thought about what my future will be when I get back (single) or if I stayed (married to the best guy in my world) -- I was like "f*** it" and stayed. I hated the paperwork involved and went under a lot of stress and anxiety of how USCIS now holds my fate, but heck if I don't suck it up and face it head-on. I made sure my husband and I have a fair share of the tasks at hand -- he wanted me with him, and I vice-versa -- so we knew we had to work together. I love my family back home, but I don't want them to be the reason for being stuck and not being able to move on to my future.
I guess in my case I didn't care if I didn't meet any fellow Filipino where I live -- I have my husband. I make my own friends, Filipino or not, I don't see why I have to surround myself with the familiar. It's a new place, a new adventure. I guess my introversion also helped because I really just prefer to be alone

Whoa. You guys were quick. I'm impatiently waiting for something to arrive in the mail.
Maybe it's good news! And hopefully the rest of us receive something soon!