Good advice. I'll give some advice not already given.
Wangari Maathai, the Nobel Peace Prize winner, said "The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now." Yes, azar has been on here for close to four years. And he and Marivel have been living together for about a year and a half. But I don't see any posts before this one! Waiting until things are bad enough (or seem so after a few drinks, perhaps) to make one post this sort of rant is obviously far less desirable than seeking advice much earlier. But at least he's asked now - better late than never.
Second, I am sure there are plenty of us on here who - especially early on - had days whether both partners thought "my god, what have I gotten myself into?!" Our previous lives on opposite sides of the world (or whatever) didn't really give us the time to get to know each other, each other's cultures, and each other's surroundings, all that well. Sometimes the process is delayed a couple months, as it was for azar - and for us. I certainly remember some conversations along the lines of "well, yes, you told me what your life was like, in detail, but I didn't think you were serious." It can take a lot of time to really sort things out. If the first six months were okay, then the next six months were worse, and the six months after that even worse, then things may not be going in the right direction. But if things are gradually improving, I'd say work at it.
Finally, if you are going to work at it, instead of lawyering up, seek advice or counsel, not just on here, but from marriage and family counselors, therapists, priests, other people you know who've been married a long time, etc.
Yeah, regardless of whether you're immigrant or native-born, if you want to enjoy something that is age-restricted - smokes, alcohol, gambling, and apparently R-rated movies - you should be ready to show ID. I've seen people get carded at the store who are clearly grandparents already.
Yeah, regardless of whether you're immigrant or native-born, if you want to enjoy something that is age-restricted - smokes, alcohol, gambling, and apparently R-rated movies - you should be ready to show ID. I've seen people get carded at the store who are clearly grandparents already.
Yeah, regardless of whether you're immigrant or native-born, if you want to enjoy something that is age-restricted - smokes, alcohol, gambling, and apparently R-rated movies - you should be ready to show ID. I've seen people get carded at the store who are clearly grandparents already.
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