TracyHamza

well, it sounds to me like he is one of those ex's who doesn't like the idea of you being happy in your new life....from what you say i think you have been way too kind to him thru the divorce and after everything he put you, your husband and your kids thru...by him making those accusations and getting CPS involved when there was no reason is not only hurting you but your kids as well...i think he did that out of spite really (perhaps jealousy over your new hubby or maybe his new wife is prodding him..it's hard to tell)....i would definitely try to get some sort of action taken, ie. restraining order or harassment if it continues....i don't like confrontation either but sometimes you have to bite the bullet and say enough... maybe if you show him you have had enough he will let you and your family have a little peace...stand your ground and good luck...i hope things get better for you

oh yeah....and i think having a video recorder handy every time he comes over is a BIG attitude adjuster....see if he gets nasty while you film his every visit......

well, it sounds to me like he is one of those ex's who doesn't like the idea of you being happy in your new life....from what you say i think you have been way too kind to him thru the divorce and after everything he put you, your husband and your kids thru...by him making those accusations and getting CPS involved when there was no reason is not only hurting you but your kids as well...i think he did that out of spite really (perhaps jealousy over your new hubby or maybe his new wife is prodding him..it's hard to tell)....i would definitely try to get some sort of action taken, ie. restraining order or harassment if it continues....i don't like confrontation either but sometimes you have to bite the bullet and say enough... maybe if you show him you have had enough he will let you and your family have a little peace...stand your ground and good luck...i hope things get better for you

I would like for you to join me in offering condolences and prayers to one of my dearest friends and VJ member, GinFar. (Ginger and Farouk) Her 29 yr old son was needlessly murdered a few days ago in what they suspect is a case of road rage. Here is a link to the news story. http://www.wftv.com/video/20910995/index.html

RIP Chad

Meriem

my deepest condolences...no one should ever have to suffer the loss of their child this way...no matter what age

I just called the hospital in Virginia (Georgetown) they confirmed she is there, but would not tell me how she is doing

i am so sorry to hear this....our thoughts and prayers are with you....i was born and raised in MD and the drs in the Baltimore/DC area are some of the best drs in the country and i know they will do all they can...i know it might not be much comfort right now but don't lose faith.....

yea for Safi

definitely.....a beautiful city...my hubby's uncle lives there.....i felt like i saw nearly all of morocco in the 3 wks i was there...lol.....marrakech, rabat too and all the tons of small towns we passed thru...lol

Tracy

From: The First State (now sadly in South Dakota...lol)

SO: Anas

SO from: Beni Mellal

Yes, I've been to Morocco....absolutely loved Beni...too much chaos in Casa...Safi was beautiful....I loved it....the people, the scenery, and the food!!!!

Nothing extra to add except....I miss my husband lots....and I miss Delaware, the ocean, fresh seafood, TREES, good weather...(LOL)

My fiance is from souk sebt, about 30 minutes outside of beni mellal. My SO took me there, and we have some beautiful pics of us at the castle....just gorgeous there!!! Welcome!!

yeah, i loved it there...my husband's family lives in the city but pretty close to the castle...did you get to visit ain assardoun?...very lovely too but i saw it in february when it was not as lush...

Unfortunatly, when I was there, there was a transportation strike going on...LOL so Ouadia wasn't able to take me exactly where he wanted to, but we did make it to beni mellal for a couple of hours one night, and transportation resumed the last weekend I was there, so he took me to Marrakech...so I did not see ain assardoun. It's nice to meet someone who has an SO near mine... my SO lives in the boonies

haha....was that earlier this year?...if so, i think i remember my hubby telling me about some traffic law that was passed and alot of people stopped driving....he made a joke about how everything stopped...lol....

Tracy

From: The First State (now sadly in South Dakota...lol)

SO: Anas

SO from: Beni Mellal

Yes, I've been to Morocco....absolutely loved Beni...too much chaos in Casa...Safi was beautiful....I loved it....the people, the scenery, and the food!!!!

Nothing extra to add except....I miss my husband lots....and I miss Delaware, the ocean, fresh seafood, TREES, good weather...(LOL)

My fiance is from souk sebt, about 30 minutes outside of beni mellal. My SO took me there, and we have some beautiful pics of us at the castle....just gorgeous there!!! Welcome!!

yeah, i loved it there...my husband's family lives in the city but pretty close to the castle...did you get to visit ain assardoun?...very lovely too but i saw it in february when it was not as lush...

Tracy

From: The First State (now sadly in South Dakota...lol)

SO: Anas

SO from: Beni Mellal

Yes, I've been to Morocco....absolutely loved Beni...too much chaos in Casa...Safi was beautiful....I loved it....the people, the scenery, and the food!!!!

Nothing extra to add except....I miss my husband lots....and I miss Delaware, the ocean, fresh seafood, TREES, good weather...(LOL)

Hey ya peeps! Heres something I googled from Cooks.com BUT Im hoping to find some recipes from yall that might be easier? I dont really have hours in a day to wait on the yeast to rise or whatever. I went to an iraqi families home last year and the mother was making something like pita bread and she already had the ingredients in and was rolling them out, plus she didnt speak english so I couldnt really ask what was the ingredients for hers. Anyone got an easy idea for either bread Egyptian style or pita bread that wouldnt require 3-5 hours of waiting?? thanks! -Tamara

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ARABIC BREAD

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5 lb. all purpose flour

2 env. dry yeast

5 c. lukewarm water, approximately

2 tbsp. salt

1/2 tsp. sugar; optional

Dissolve yeast in 1/4 cup of warm water. Set aside. Add

sugar at this point.

In a large pan mix flour and salt. Add yeast mixture.

Gradually add the water, mixing and kneading until dough is

smooth. (This dough has to be firm enough to roll with a

rolling pin.) Cover with a towel and put in a warm place

for 1-2 hours or until the dough rises.

Cut dough into sections the size of an orange. Form balls by

tucking the dough underneath the make the round and smooth.

Let rest for 30 minutes between the towels.

On a lightly floured surface, roll out balls to 7 inch

diameter. Let rise for 1 hour covered with cloth. Preheat

oven to 450-500 degrees. Then bake 5-10 minutes until

bottom is light brown. Broil top for 1/2 minute until light

brown.

Makes 20-24 loaves of Arabic Bread.

i replace the regular yeast with "rapid-rise" (fleishman's) in packets or the jar.....it cuts hours off the rise time and tastes the same...

almost forgot....you can add the rapid-rise directly to the flour before mixing the wet and dry ingredients so there's no waiting like the regular yeast to activate in the water/sugar

Hey ya peeps! Heres something I googled from Cooks.com BUT Im hoping to find some recipes from yall that might be easier? I dont really have hours in a day to wait on the yeast to rise or whatever. I went to an iraqi families home last year and the mother was making something like pita bread and she already had the ingredients in and was rolling them out, plus she didnt speak english so I couldnt really ask what was the ingredients for hers. Anyone got an easy idea for either bread Egyptian style or pita bread that wouldnt require 3-5 hours of waiting?? thanks! -Tamara

------------

ARABIC BREAD

------------

5 lb. all purpose flour

2 env. dry yeast

5 c. lukewarm water, approximately

2 tbsp. salt

1/2 tsp. sugar; optional

Dissolve yeast in 1/4 cup of warm water. Set aside. Add

sugar at this point.

In a large pan mix flour and salt. Add yeast mixture.

Gradually add the water, mixing and kneading until dough is

smooth. (This dough has to be firm enough to roll with a

rolling pin.) Cover with a towel and put in a warm place

for 1-2 hours or until the dough rises.

Cut dough into sections the size of an orange. Form balls by

tucking the dough underneath the make the round and smooth.

Let rest for 30 minutes between the towels.

On a lightly floured surface, roll out balls to 7 inch

diameter. Let rise for 1 hour covered with cloth. Preheat

oven to 450-500 degrees. Then bake 5-10 minutes until

bottom is light brown. Broil top for 1/2 minute until light

brown.

Makes 20-24 loaves of Arabic Bread.

i replace the regular yeast with "rapid-rise" (fleishman's) in packets or the jar.....it cuts hours off the rise time and tastes the same...

i think it's more stressful than our wonderful husbands want to admit.......Anas hasn't said much but i know he is hurt by it.....he told me once that he knew he would not have friends here and it was ok because he would have me.....i live in SD which is already badly prejudice between native americans and whites...when i moved here last yr from delaware i was very shocked to see alot of hate...but i can say one thing....if my husband feels even a tiny bit uncomfortable here i am packing up and returning to DE where people haven't lost brain cells from the freezing temps...lol.....

thanks so much for the help everyone....it means alot

just bumping this thread to the front of the line again...and thanks sooo much for the in-depth post....it's a big help.....

Soffiya posted a very comprehensive list that will totally help you. Look up her posts --- I can't remember which thread it was in.

oh, ok....thanks for the tip.....

Welcome to VJ! I hope the rest of journey is smooth.

Jackie

hi.....thank you....i hope so too...

i noticed alot of questions and replies about K-1 interviews and am wondering if the same routine will apply for the CR-1.....any input about flags, questions asked, evidence, AP/AR, evidence, etc. would be greatly appreciated....we are waiting for an interview date and just want to get an idea of what to expect.....would also like to know what the odds are for AP/AR...so far i think we have pretty good evidence but from what i've read about Casa is to expect the unexpected.....

i understand exactly how you feel...sometimes its very hard to focus on daily life when the stress of the visa process and the seperation gets to you..i have been apart from my hubby almost 8 months now and the stress and worry has even affected my health....the hardest for me was the 4 month wait for uscis to approve...you just have to remind each other that you're almost thru this hell...in the meantime try to focus on something nice and romantic to do together when all this is over...it helps pass the time...we are planning another honeymoon when he gets here for some much needed alone time...lol

I've been having a tough time lately. I am sure you call all, if not most, relate to it as it is around the CR1 process and being apart from the person you have just recently married.

My hubby and I were lucky to spend 3 months together when married, then 5 more months here in Australia before he had to go back to the USA and now we have been apart since July. Our one year anniversary is in November.

I'm half way through NVC, which some may think is wonderful... but this whole process is totally depressing me and I feel like a different person.

My husband notices a lot and he tries to be good about it via phone and email.. but it's getting harder by the day and I am becoming more and more irritable on the phone or via email and I just feel awful.

When I was with him in America, it was wonderful, and now, back here, on my own, its not. When he was in Australia with me, we both knew it would be hard as my family was pretty upset I went and eloped.. and we knew we had to also tell them we wanted to live in the USA eventually... well it was a trial really.. Hubby may have stayed in Australia, but once we did a bit of living in both countries, we decided the USA was the place for us to start our marriage.

So anyway, my point is, does anyone have ideas on how to overcome this? Its really seriously wrecking my day to day life, my work, my health, my relationship and just everything. I am so depressed and I worry about things which havent even happened yet, I also worry that my husband is sick of my whinging, and that when I get there if he decides to leave me, then what will I do?

I worry because I have always had seperation anxiety from a young age, and even my ####### father who left my mother when I was 13 months old claims that my marriage "wont last" and I am "abandoning my family" - well what did he do?!?!

Anyway I am ranting now.. but I just feel like some days I cant deal with it, and lately, its been every day... and I want to be back where things were good, back in the USA... but will it be good when I get there? Theres nothing telling me it wont, but I am still so very frightened and scared and I just cant cope...

hi everyone.....to those that are sick i hope you get well soon..i know how you are feeling in a way..been feeling sort of yucky myself though mine is from a different reason..my hearts been doing a flip flop thing so went to doc and they ran some tests(i've got HBP anyway)..and HOLY COW my cholesterol was 408 (genetic thing the dr said)...there goes my bacon and mickey-D's fries ..course now the hubby is freaked out about my health...lol..but i think he loves being able to say "see, i told you pork is bad for you" ...got his 230 paperwork today... i double-ckd everything and sent it priority...hope it doesn't take too long for the interview date...am sooo excited...

I would write your aunt back simply saying, "I'm glad to know you feel this way." Let her stress about exactly what you mean.

WORD.

A cousin once sent me a long Christian BS diatribe against gay people. The email list included our cousin Bee, who is happily lesbian. OMFG, I replied all and let her have it.

i know exactly what you mean...my sister is currently bashing my brother about his "sinful gayness".... ...she recently has gotten a little overboard with her new-found religiousness....i just remind her that it's his life and that she shouldn't point fingers since i know all about her past ....and when some of my family learned my husband was muslim..OMG...haha..boy did i hear some off the wall things...like OMG aren't you afraid when you go to morocco that you'll upset him and he'll cut your head off? ...what if he won't let you leave? we heard how "they" treat their women... .... ....i even had one who asked my mom (when she explained that morocco was in africa)..is he black? ...quite a few of them feel pretty ashamed and stupid now that they know him and his family...i blame alot of this crazy thinking on the media portraying most muslims as "evil fanatics"...unfairly one-sided.....

all sorts of evidence...the best one being (i think) is an email i sent to Casa when they refused his tourist visa when i needed surgery back in June...lol....(at the time, i wasn't aware that since he was an intending immigrant they would not give him one)

To avoid any confusion it is the intent on that trip, many people travel to the US who have future immigration intent.

what i meant to say is that we had already filed for I-130 and it was in process....the consulate sent me an email stating that since he was an intending immigrant he was not eligible...the grounds were not enough ties to morocco because of the fact that he is an intending immigrant

Nothing to stop you visiting with a I 130 in process, I did it, many do.

Not enough ties is different issue.

I am not trying to confuse anyone i am just stating what the consulate told me...lol....i was not trying to explain in detail why he was denied but remarking on the fact that i sent the consulate an email and plan to use that as evidence of relationship regarding how upset i was that he could not be here for my surgery....but i do find it a little crazy that he was denied over something so important as surgery (at least to us anyway)... maybe we should have told them it was for disney world..

all sorts of evidence...the best one being (i think) is an email i sent to Casa when they refused his tourist visa when i needed surgery back in June...lol....(at the time, i wasn't aware that since he was an intending immigrant they would not give him one)

To avoid any confusion it is the intent on that trip, many people travel to the US who have future immigration intent.

what i meant to say is that we had already filed for I-130 and it was in process....the consulate sent me an email stating that since he was an intending immigrant he was not eligible...the grounds were not enough ties to morocco and more ties to the US because of the fact that he is an intending immigrant

and the "intent" was to be here for my surgery and recovery...its not as if we were planning a trip to disney world...

all sorts of evidence...the best one being (i think) is an email i sent to Casa when they refused his tourist visa when i needed surgery back in June...lol....(at the time, i wasn't aware that since he was an intending immigrant they would not give him one)

To avoid any confusion it is the intent on that trip, many people travel to the US who have future immigration intent.

what i meant to say is that we had already filed for I-130 and it was in process....the consulate sent me an email stating that since he was an intending immigrant he was not eligible...the grounds were not enough ties to morocco because of the fact that he is an intending immigrant

totally normal thinking enraptured. its better to prepare for the worst and hope for the best i guess

tracy, welcome!! i hope the rest of your journey is smooth,quick and painless

((Beth))) it will be over soon honey

thanks...i really hope so too...lol....my worry is he'll get the blonde that i see everyone calls "the dragon"...she seems a bit tough on people...well, i know its her job but maybe she'll be in a good mood that day if he gets her...lol

Interesting - so there are concessions to be had in Christianity to excuse the bloodthirstiness in some of its scriptures, but there cannot be any concession for context for Islam.

Again I ask - what is the point of this line of argument?

No concessions - completion of the law through Christ. Islam does not afford such forgiveness. Therefore, since the only way one can know for sure if they are going to paradise is to be a martyr, it makes muslims obligated to that around the world. As is proven by the worldwide violence in Islam's name.

Actually there is.. Christianity. You quote all old testament verses, and leave out the fact that Jesus came to fulfill the law since humanity cannot fulfill or obey the law. Jesus brought forgiveness, not death. Also, there is no salvation in Islam. You obey the law and hope you were good enough to get in. Though, even in islam it is physically impossible to keep the law. So no one knows for sure if they're good enough (that is unless they become a martyr, then they know for sure).

The NT is as full of internal inconsistencies (and I mean 100s) as any other religious text.

I can't believe that in 2009 we have two groups of adults that are trying to have a rational argument over which book of ancient mythology is the "true" one. Ridiculous religious disputes that are based on such nonsense are exactly why there are so many problems in the world.

No one lost and no one won, because this argument is not winnable.

What do inconsistencies have to do with the violence we are talking about? Red herring.

i dont really want to get into an argument over this but we received forgiveness from God........the terrorist are not martyr they will not get into heaven for what they have done.......Islam is a very forgiving religion and way of life....killing innocent people is against islam

sara

sara

I keep hearing this, but the Quran would seem to disagree. Care to post some scripture ?

i could post scripture from the bible and the quran taken out of context either one will look blood thirsty for either of us to understand the others bible or quran it must be studied just quoting scripture really means nothing...........:-)

sara

So apparently there aren't any verses which show the loving and forgiving god that Allah is.

really?...guess you skipped the part in our bible about sodom and gomorrah and noah built the ark because he was bored...oh yeah and he surely forgave the egyptians for enslaving the jews by killing all their children?....get a grip

This thread isn't a #######-for-tat about Christianity - I simply asked where the similarities were in regards to strapping bombs on people and blowing innocents up.

You make yourself sound stupid. It doesn't take me to tell you that.

stupid remarks deserve stupid replies