George and Movi

Tahoma's favorite sentence is "Stop! Stop! Stop! ... What are you doing?"

We drive each other's crazy, but at the end of the day, we forgive and forget.

Funny but i AGREE. My fiance and I drove each other crazy too.

The first time he ever drove in the Phils, I was practically so scared(like holding on for my life). For me, his speed was quite fast. He was not scared even if cars would get so close to us in attempting to get in our lane. I could no longer remember how many cars got marks on their doors because of it.

He complained about most Filipino drivers. He was bitching about how discourteous Filipinos drivers are, having no tail lights at night, making a left turn from a right lane or right turn from a left lane, slow moving vehicles on a fast lane, turning without any signal at all and a lot more.

He is right about his complains. Most drivers here dont know what they are doing at all!!

After about a year of driving here in the Phils, he decided to teach me how to drive. It was melodramatic. He was yelling and I was ready to burst into tears and finally I said " I dont want to drive". No matter how much he prodded me to practice, I did not do it, so he gave up on me.

As soon as he left for the States, I enrolled in driving lessons.

When he came back here, he complained about my driving. He was there on the passenger seat barking orders. We were having fights that my kids said unless we settle the issue as to who will be the driver then they will not ride with us.

Then came the day that he was leaving for the States, and his flight was cancelled. He had no choice but to catch the flight in the next city which is abt 110 kms north from us. I told him that we will hire a driver but he insisted that I drive. I was crying coz it will be my first long distance drive with him, and 50% of the time will be on a steep road with cliff on the side.

I drove halfway to the airport and all the way back home. He said he was so proud of me!

Hi girls,

Reading all the posts above makes me smile at the same time wondered.I haven't been to the States yet, although i read some posts here and heard from close friends how they celebrated Christmas there.

Last monday, I invited my fiance to our christmas party. It was a big party(250 participants) and we were divided into groups and each group had their own presentation.It was hilarious and i practically lost my voice by the time we went home. He laughed so hard, had great talk with my colleagues. He know most of them because he has been coming here and seeing me for the last 7 years. I asked him, "do you have parties like this in your company? He answered " No, we don't have and over there parties are boooriiiiiing!!"

In the middle of the party, coz he doesn't want to listen to speeches, we checked the other party going on in the same hotel where the our Christmas party was being held. It was the Christmas party of all employees of a town. I personally know the mayor and his wife, so we watched their presentation and we even danced. then went back to our own Christmas party. It was fun hoping from one party to another.

I just celebrated Christmas last night with my fiance and family. It his 3rd christmas here in the phils. although, we will be leaving for the States this coming Feb, we still plan to have our christmas 2010 in the phils coz my family already planned for a reunion next year.

I agree that its quite difficult to look for a present for a guy, specially for someone so dear to us. I haven't bought a Christmas present for him yet its because he doesn't want to go to mall with me.He witnessed how people flooded the malls during Christmas season. But he said as soon as the Christmas fever here in malls is over then he will go with me and will allow me to shower him presents. I plan to buy him a new pair of shoes and i don't want to take the risk of buying one that doesn't fit him.I know there is no more element of surprise. But I surprised him with a late birthday present last week.

Am looking forward to spending Christmas in the States hopefully by 2011.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Hello everyone. I have not been on this website for a long time. After much work and stress, I finally managed to bring my Nigerian fiance here on a k-1 visa. It took me only 5 months to get him here. Now that he is here things have been good and bad.

I can't even type straight because I am so sad tonight.

While we were seperated waiting for him to get his visa: I found him to be emailing other woman online. I caught him doing this three times and because very distaught and angry with him.. Each time he apologized and asked for forgiveness and promised not to do it again. He was using dating websites too!!! Each time I managed to forgive him by allowing him the excuse that the distance is stressful and he could never tell if he was ever going to make it to be with me in US.

On the first night he arrived: I found that he had some emotional text messages on his phone to and from women in Naija, plus he had 15 new woman on his messenger. I was in tears and so upset but managed to forgive him again because of the distance factor.

Now he has been here a few weeks and this morning I noticed that he was using Tagged and so I logged onto his profile (he forgot that i knew his password) and found that he has been emailing local woman on tagged when I am at work or sleeping. ####### He tried to stop me from reading it cause he knew I would be upset.

He has been begging me to forgive him all day. By 5pm he was disappointed that I didnt' cook for him and I still had not forgiven him.

I don't know how to forgive him for this. I can't think of an excuse for him.

He tried to leave me this evening because he was upset that I have not forgiven him yet. Now he is sleeping

How can he f-------ing sleep?????? I am sleepless

I don't know what to do please help!!!

So far I have put a password on my computer so he can't use it------

I don't know what to do

i feel so dead inside

Hi,

Im sorry to hear about this. I felt bad while reading your post. Let me tell you something. My fiance and I met in 2002 and he comes here in the Philippines every 4 or 6 months to spend 3 months with me. The last time we were apart for 13 months. For the past 7 years, we texted everyday, we talked online when i wake up in the morning and before going to bed. Indeed the separation was tough but NEVER NEVER did i ever thought of looking for someone else to talk to nor visit any dating sites during the past 7 years. It was because I love him so much and he trust me a lot .

The separation is not an excuse to go to dating sites. Besides at this time, you are already together so no more separation but he has the nerve to do that. And to make it worse, he does it again and again. Personally i can say that he does not care about you. he does not care if you were hurt.

The decision is all yours, are you willing to live with this kind of person, a liar?( he promised not to do it again but then he did). If this continues, you will eventually lost your trust on him. Are you already married? if not then you still have a lot of time to think it over.

Goodluck!!

Hi,

My previous marriage was annulled and i resumed using my maiden name or the family name of my father. So i secured an NBI clearance with AKA. Its was shown as follows:

Name : " Maiden Name/My Father's family name, First name , mother's maiden

name"

A.K.A : " Married family name, First name, mother's maiden name"

In securing the NBI clearance, inform the staff of the NBI that applicant's previous marriage was annulled and that the applicant is now using the maiden name. Make sure that the NBI is informed that the applicant wants her previous name appears on the Clearance as an alias coz as per my experience, even i filled out the forms indicating I have an alias, the same was not be picked up when they printed it. They have their own way of filling out the form if an alias has to appear on the face of the clearance.

Hi,

My fiancee' is in the final stages of getting her annulment and has petitioned for sole custody of her two kids. Our question is:

If she is granted an annulment and sole custody, does she need the bio fathers permission to take the kids our of the

country permanently?

Is this stated in the family code anywhere? We have an attorney and will post the question to him to, but want an independent

(think 2nd opinion from someone who has been through this) answer.

A

My previous marriage was annulled and the custody of my 2 children was granted to me. I was not required by the embassy to present the father's permission to travel during the interview.

I secured a Solo Parent ID from the City Social Welfare Office, by filling up the required forms and the submission of the documents such as the court order and birth certificate of the children.

Under the present rules a travel clearance from DSWD is no longer required if the minor is travelling with either parent.

Hi Daisy,

Sorry about your loss.The least you can do is pray for him. For sure, he was happy for you. I know it will be tough for you at this time but i know Lane will be there all the way to support you. Be happy for your uncle as he has finally rested with the Father.

Glad that you and Lane are finally together and will be spending this Christmas together and many more to come.

By the way, George also arrived in the Phils last week. We will be spending Christmas with the children in far flung areas where water and electricity is a scarcity.

Best wishes and God bless my dear!!

I'm just wondering if records of my sending regular money to my fiancee is a good or bad thing to be seen during the interview in Manila.

I thought maybe this wasn't a good idea because maybe some interviewer might be suspicious if my relationship was based on money.

On the other hand sending some regular money monthly may show that I have the ability to support my future wife and am serious about the relationship.

Besides it would help my girl.

Thanks for helpful comments from those that have done the interview already.

Hi, my fiance has been supporting me for the last 7 years. Im receiving a regular monthly allowance. We even have a joint savings account maintained in a Phil bank. I printed all the documents to show proof of the money transfers and secured a Bank certificate of our joint account.

However, during the interview, only the cards, pictures and affidavit of support were asked from me to support the relationship.The consul just asked why is it that I decided to go to the States only now. Guess he was surprised of the long engagement(15 days shy of 7 years at the time of the interview).

I personally believe that sending money maybe considered as an indication that the petitioner can support the beneficiary and will not be a burden or public charge when the latter will be in the US. So, its not bad for the interview.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!

Welcome to America!!!!

Thanks. Merry Christmas and happy new year too!!

Does he have any issues down there. I understand this place is heavy Muslim with ABU Sayaff

It's about 2 hours south of a place I hang out in PI, I heard it's a pretty city.

Our city has few muslims residents(less than 5%) but dont think Abu sayaff are here. My fiance and I went to far flung areas in the mountains as part of our social works without bodyguard at all but we do observe precautionary measures. This city is relatively safe.

He organized a Non government organization, GRACE, Inc., that caters to children in crisis.you may visit our the website www.gracegeneralsantos.org.

i tried to tell my girl that her friend or her husband needs to contact the aussie embassy to find out what they need to do. but do they listen nooooooooooo. so here we have another confusing post.

Your explanation makes me smile. Your girl was just too excited to help a friend.Thats nice of her.

Today, my fiance arrived in gensan. This is his 11th visit to be with me and my children. For the past 7 years since we have known each other, he lives with us for 3 months every 4 or 5 months. However, due to some financial constraints and while waiting for the results of the petition and finally the visa, it took 13 months between his last visit and now.

We are looking forward to celebrating Christmas and new year together with our friends and family.This will be his 3rd Christmas with us. As we say, fun times for all before the four of us( my fiance, myself and my 2 children) head to States this February. We already received our visas and the plane tickets.

The next 2 months, we will take care of some of the wedding preparations, attend to all stuff at work before i leave, comply with the documentation for the NCLEX, set up the arrangements for the NGO my fiance organized and how will it be run in our absence, and we will see more children this christmas. And of course, we will be spending more time with each other as this will be another long christmas vacation.

For all who will be spending Christmas with their loved ones, CHEERS!! Its time to celebrate! The waiting, patience and determination finally paid off. For those who are still waiting, just keep the faith and hold on. May we have all a blessed Christmas and a bountiful year to come!!

My fiance' has her medical on Monday and she is worried because her friend is in town (lol her period). I told her that is not a problem but she thinks they will make her reschedule. Can you tell her not to worry guys?

Hi,

Basically a woman's period has nothing to do with nor will it affect the medical exams results, however,before my children and my medical exams, I called St Luke's and asked if its ok to have a period during the medical exams. I was informed that the applicants should have no period during the medical exams.I think this maybe because the physical exams to be conducted required the applicants to be naked and having a period will be messy.

Goodluck on the medical exams!

Congratulations and thank you for sharing. My wife is in Lapu-Lapu City and we still have a while to wait. I will be filing for CR-1 soon.

Did you have to go to Manila for your medical exam? I was hoping she could do it in Cebu to cut down on the number of trips for her to Manila.

Please be informed that the only accredited clinic by the US embassy to conduct the medical examination is St Luke Extension Clinic, therefore your wife has to travel to manila to do this.

One of the reason of not passing the medical exams is having a contagious disease. Having a cyst is not one of them.So in my opinion, as long as there was no advice from the St Luke's to the contrary then you can proceed to attend the interview and just undergo the operation later. You will know you passed the medical exams coz they gave you the vaccine shots(should you opt to have it done here) and either they take your passport and tell you they will forward it with the medical results to the embassy or they will return the passport to you and the sealed medical results.

I read a post here that an applicant was undergoing chemotheraphy at that time she went for a medical exams, she passed her medical exams, attended the interview and got approved.

Good luck!!

My wife and her son were approved and she has received her visa already. Now I need to purchase their plane tickets. I am in the US, she and her son are in the Philippines. I called some of the airlines to purchase a ticket, but they all say I can not purchase a ticket for her, she has to do it from within the Philippines. I called AAA travel which I am a member of, and they said the same thing.

Is this right? How am I supposed to purchase her tickets? I guess I could just send her the money and have her purchase it directly. If this is the case, any suggestions of where I can tell my wife to purchase the tickets?

Thank you!

Hi,

Last monday,my fiance purchased from Northwest (3)one way ticket for me and my two children and a round trip ticket for him since he is coming here to spend the Christmas with us before we will all fly to the US. There was no problem at all. and i already received the electronic ticket.

Anyway, should you opt to send her the money, then she can check for Philippine Airlines, cathay pacific or northwest or there might be some travel agents in her locality that she can check. But then the availability of flight is one of the problem this season. We even changed airline due to this constraint.

Goodluck!!

From the tuna capital of the Philippines..General Santos City

Hi,

Congratulations for preparing such an impressive documentation. I know you put your heart and mind on it. I did the same for our interview documents, spent several nights after office. Only to find out that the embassy asked for only few documents namely, DS 156, DS157, DS 156K,visa payment fee slip, medical reports(coz we hand carried it) NBI clearance, birth cert, annotated marriage contract, pics and cards. Coming to the interview well prepared and with complete documentation makes us confident and lessens the anxiety.

What impresses me most is that you were the one who prepared those folders. My fiance did the documentation for the application submitted to USCIS and I was also impressed how he did it. It makes me say that this visa journey really brings out the best in our MAN - dedication, commitment, perseverance, patience and even creativity.

Great job and wish you the best! Good fortune on the coming interview!

Oops..i forgot to mention that the affidavit of support and the supporting documents was the last that was asked from us.

thanks for posting. This is of great help to those who are preparing for their interview..God bless

Hi,

Congratulations for preparing such an impressive documentation. I know you put your heart and mind on it. I did the same for our interview documents, spent several nights after office. Only to find out that the embassy asked for only few documents namely, DS 156, DS157, DS 156K,visa payment fee slip, medical reports(coz we hand carried it) NBI clearance, birth cert, annotated marriage contract, pics and cards. Coming to the interview well prepared and with complete documentation makes us confident and lessens the anxiety.

What impresses me most is that you were the one who prepared those folders. My fiance did the documentation for the application submitted to USCIS and I was also impressed how he did it. It makes me say that this visa journey really brings out the best in our MAN - dedication, commitment, perseverance, patience and even creativity.

Great job and wish you the best! Good fortune on the coming interview!

We had our interview last Nov 23. I brought with me the letters of intent to marry with a date close to the interview date and addressed to the US embassy manila. It were signed by me and my fiance, however, were not asked during the interview. Indeed it is one of the documents required, so better bring it during the interview.

Congratulations!!! :thumbs:

A review will be very much appreciated. will wait for it.

the father of my daughter is not listed on the birth certificate of my daughter or any of the documents that involved my daughter, do i still need to give the cenomar since i give it to them last october 6,2009 during my interview. as a mother, i will be the one to accompany her to the embassy.

Under our family code, once the father is not declared in the birth certificate then you,being the mother has the sole and legal custody of your child. To somehow lessen your anxiety, then bring a photocopy of your cenomar, so it will just be handy. but you can tell them that you already submitted one during your interview.dont worry, the visa of your child is a derivative from your visa, Since your visa was already approved and you have more than enough proof of your relationship with your child, then no reason to delay visa approval.

hello to all my VJ family, my 3 year old daughter will have an interview this coming december 07, 2009 monday. I had my USEM interview last october 06,2009. My visa was approved already. I would like to ask if these documents is already enough for us to face the battle. These are the documents i prepared for my 3 year old daughter: NSO birth certificate, baptismal, DS-156 and DS-157. St. Lukes get her passport already. Are those documents already enough? Shall i still prepare an affidavit of support, cenomar and my birth certificate since i already given it to them last october 06, 2009. Please give me an advice guys. I get more nervous of my duaghter's interview than mine. Please whoever has an experience of visa pick please share also becuase we have both tickets already this coming dec. 13,,, all your help are needed guys.. please respond... whoever read this..thanks a million...

Hi,

I just read a post abt a 7 year old daughter who attended an interview and the consul asked for a cenomar of the mother of the child. I believe the consul requires documentary proofs to establish your relationship with your child ( first, the birth cert of your child) and determine if you have a legal custody of the child, so if you're not married to the father of the child, then a cenomar, and if your previously married, then i suggest an annotated marriage contract and a court order will be safe to assume.

Also i read that one member who had her interview today, verbally requested for visa pick up and the consul allowed it.

goodluck!!

Congratulations!!

Im just curious if you submitted a written request to the consulate officer to pick up your visa or you just asked verbally. My daughter will hopefully have her interview next month and we are hoping she can travel with us to the States on our scheduled flight so we plan to request for a visa pick-up. Your reply will be of great help. Thanks in advance and best wishes !!

I just ask verbally to the consul and he allow me. Good luck to your daughter's interview.

Thanks a lot for that fast reply. Have a safe trip and God bless!!

Hi,

I understand your anxiety on what happened and the desire to be with your daughter. I would like to ask if under what visa did your daughter apply?

At this point it is best to secure the documents they required the soonest and submit the same to the embassy. A friend of mine requested for a cenomar and was available in a week. As long as it is proven that youre not married to the biological father of your daughter, then under the family code of the phils, the custody of the child is yours( as long as there is no court order declaring otherwise)and as long as your daughter is qualified and no existing prohibitions then i dont see any reason why the visa be denied.

In my case, my marriage to the father of my children was declared null and void and the custody of the children was granted to me. During the interview I presented a copy of the annotated marriage contract of my marriage to my exhusband( with the information of the declaration of the nullity of marriage), the birth cert of my son and his NBI clearance. His visa was approved as my derivative. My daughter will hopefully have her interview next month and will be taking same documents to prove that she is qualified to be my derivative.

Keep the faith and be strong!

Hi to my vj family. My visa got approved today and my interview went very smooth... the consul ask only 2 questions to me, My name and my husband's name and he just look in my CEMAR. The pre-screener do the same question what the consul ask me. The consul allow me to pick-up my visa and he said I can get it by Monday just wait for the call so i know what time i can get it in the embassy. I am very thankful that i found vj... it is a big help to me. And I found new friend here. Thank you also lovely Anna L.

Congratulations!!

Im just curious if you submitted a written request to the consulate officer to pick up your visa or you just asked verbally. My daughter will hopefully have her interview next month and we are hoping she can travel with us to the States on our scheduled flight so we plan to request for a visa pick-up. Your reply will be of great help. Thanks in advance and best wishes !!