Chavonia

Wow, this thread is hot!!!! Well, at least that is what it says on the home page
So much humor too. I love all the sarcasm by the way. Such an entertaining evening for me.
I think there is a fine line between whinning and venting. Is there a forum entitled, "I need to vent?" That would be helpful to ensure that the threads stay focused on important topics and helping people. I am on both sides of the coin here. I empathize with all the people who have had to wait a long time and those who are still waiting. Waiting sucks especially when you are an impatient person.
I think squeaky580 brings up some great points about the process and if you look at what she is saying, you will see the help in her comments. It does not help to stress about this. While it is a stressful process and it's ok to acknowledge that, dwelling on the stress is bad for your health and bad for your relationship. Try to relax about this process. VJ is here to comfort you, not bash you or make you feel badly. The reason the site was created, or at least I'd like to think so, is to help you with the visa process. Let it help you!
You are not the first person that has had to wait this long for an NOA, an interview, approval, or whatever the case. By thoroughly researching this site, you will discover that. After you have researched it, let it ease your mind. Don't let this process make you crazy. Also, saying something isn't fair makes an individual sound as if he or she is in grade school or something. As adults we grow up to realize that life isn't fair. We have to pull our own weight, sometimes take what we want, and learn that patience is one of the best lessons in life.
On a personal note, the process made me a better person. I am a perfectionist and kinda impatient. I was on VJ at least 3 times a week. I called the USCIS maybe 4 times throughout the entire process and checked my case status maybe ten times. That sounds like a bit much to me. I told myself from the beginning not to obsess about this process (as I had seen so many people do on VJ...."omg, I got touched"...sounds kinda kinky to have the government touch you...) and my husband was very helpful in helping me to do that. I accepted that this will happen when it happens. I will pray about it and leave it in God's hands. I truly believe that attitude (with the prayer and some sexi as paperwork) is what got me through this process.
Just relax....

Wow, this thread is hot!!!! Well, at least that is what it says on the home page
So much humor too. I love all the sarcasm by the way. Such an entertaining evening for me.
I think there is a fine line between whinning and venting. Is there a forum entitled, "I need to vent?" That would be helpful to ensure that the threads stay focused on important topics and helping people. I am on both sides of the coin here. I empathize with all the people who have had to wait a long time and those who are still waiting. Waiting sucks especially when you are an impatient person.
I think squeaky580 brings up some great points about the process and if you look at what she is saying, you will see the help in her comments. It does not help to stress about this. While it is a stressful process and it's ok to acknowledge that, dwelling on the stress is bad for your health and bad for your relationship. Try to relax about this process. VJ is here to comfort you, not bash you or make you feel badly. The reason the site was created, or at least I'd like to think so, is to help you with the visa process. Let it help you!
You are not the first person that has had to wait this long for an NOA, an interview, approval, or whatever the case. By thoroughly researching this site, you will discover that. After you have researched it, let it ease your mind. Don't let this process make you crazy. Also, saying something isn't fair makes an individual sound as if he or she is in grade school or something. As adults we grow up to realize that life isn't fair. We have to pull our own weight, sometimes take what we want, and learn that patience is one of the best lessons in life.
On a personal note, the process made me a better person. I am a perfectionist and kinda impatient. I was on VJ at least 3 times a week. I called the USCIS maybe 4 times throughout the entire process and checked my case status maybe ten times. That sounds like a bit much to me. I told myself from the beginning not to obsess about this process (as I had seen so many people do on VJ...."omg, I got touched"...sounds kinda kinky to have the government touch you...) and my husband was very helpful in helping me to do that. I accepted that this will happen when it happens. I will pray about it and leave it in God's hands. I truly believe that attitude (with the prayer and some sexi as paperwork) is what got me through this process.
Just relax....

Wow,
Well, to the OP, I really hope you have received some kind of help. Of course when you make such a post, many questions will be asked and its something you have to be prepared for. I, too, have a job that is not as flexible. I leave my home for long periods of time and there is no way out of it. Most people with a regular 9 to 5 do not understand what it's like to be tied into a schedule that has you traveling or working for days upon end away from home. I suppose you have learned a bit of a lesson in the planning department as you have been pushed to the last minute to take care of some important business. Also, I know this may sound a bit strange, but maybe looking at the action of getting married as a duty and responsibility might help. It something you have to get done or there will be some major consequences. Just wondering if that might help you.
So, I was once an active member of lovingyou.com due to the uniqueness of my relationship. I really was at a point where I needed help and support, that of which I found. I also got introduced to the other side of the coin. It never ceases to amaze me that people take the opportunity to insult, bully, be clique-ish, funny, and selfish when someone genuinely asks for help on a issue. They take the opportunity to make assumptions while forgetting the golden rule about what it means to assume. I loved being apart of that site until I saw how mean people can really be. No, life is not always sunshine and lollipops and everyone communicates in different styles. An appropriate sense of humor, straight talk, and tough love are definitely needed at times but I think people know when they are being _______...well, I won't say the world I want to say but I am sure most can fill in the blank. I loved being apart of that community but got tired of seeing the same people be "know-it-alls" and down right mean when someone didn't play by their rules; or when someone was unaware of something that one person sees so simply. So, I haven't been back to that site in a long time. When I found visajoureny, I thought, "here's a site that is different!" People here genuinely want to help and leave their presumptions and judgements at the door for the most part. I still believe that about this site. I really would love it if this site continued to maintain its integrity, empathy, intelligence, reason, and sense of human connection and not just become a place where people are mean. Am I judging? Perhaps a bit.
For those of you who get immediately taken aback or offended by this, my advice is that you re read all of the posts you have made or just a few and look at the tone of it. How did you come off? Were you being helpful? Do you have a trend of jacking threads and what is your goal in doing so? Did you parents ever tell you, if you don't have something good to say (in this case helpful), don't say anything at all? Why are you here at this site? Also, whether you'd like to accept it or not, when you are an administrator, you are seen as someone who holds himself or herself to high esteem and an expert in some matters. If you are someone with many dots under your name stating your level of membership, by the stranger or visitor to this site, you are also seen in the same light. Just something to think about.
Ok, so I officially jacked this thread a bit (my apologies to the OP) but I want to be apart of this site and I want people to feel welcome to come here.
Peace
=)

Wow,
Well, to the OP, I really hope you have received some kind of help. Of course when you make such a post, many questions will be asked and its something you have to be prepared for. I, too, have a job that is not as flexible. I leave my home for long periods of time and there is no way out of it. Most people with a regular 9 to 5 do not understand what it's like to be tied into a schedule that has you traveling or working for days upon end away from home. I suppose you have learned a bit of a lesson in the planning department as you have been pushed to the last minute to take care of some important business. Also, I know this may sound a bit strange, but maybe looking at the action of getting married as a duty and responsibility might help. It something you have to get done or there will be some major consequences. Just wondering if that might help you.
So, I was once an active member of lovingyou.com due to the uniqueness of my relationship. I really was at a point where I needed help and support, that of which I found. I also got introduced to the other side of the coin. It never ceases to amaze me that people take the opportunity to insult, bully, be clique-ish, funny, and selfish when someone genuinely asks for help on a issue. They take the opportunity to make assumptions while forgetting the golden rule about what it means to assume. I loved being apart of that site until I saw how mean people can really be. No, life is not always sunshine and lollipops and everyone communicates in different styles. An appropriate sense of humor, straight talk, and tough love are definitely needed at times but I think people know when they are being _______...well, I won't say the world I want to say but I am sure most can fill in the blank. I loved being apart of that community but got tired of seeing the same people be "know-it-alls" and down right mean when someone didn't play by their rules; or when someone was unaware of something that one person sees so simply. So, I haven't been back to that site in a long time. When I found visajoureny, I thought, "here's a site that is different!" People here genuinely want to help and leave their presumptions and judgements at the door for the most part. I still believe that about this site. I really would love it if this site continued to maintain its integrity, empathy, intelligence, reason, and sense of human connection and not just become a place where people are mean. Am I judging? Perhaps a bit.
For those of you who get immediately taken aback or offended by this, my advice is that you re read all of the posts you have made or just a few and look at the tone of it. How did you come off? Were you being helpful? Do you have a trend of jacking threads and what is your goal in doing so? Did you parents ever tell you, if you don't have something good to say (in this case helpful), don't say anything at all? Why are you here at this site? Also, whether you'd like to accept it or not, when you are an administrator, you are seen as someone who holds himself or herself to high esteem and an expert in some matters. If you are someone with many dots under your name stating your level of membership, by the stranger or visitor to this site, you are also seen in the same light. Just something to think about.
Ok, so I officially jacked this thread a bit (my apologies to the OP) but I want to be apart of this site and I want people to feel welcome to come here.
Peace
=)