sweet angel

Grabe na ang argument dito. Maawa nman kau sa OP grabe na nga ang problema nia inaaway nio pa. Pasalamat na lng kayo wla kayo sa kalagayan nia ngaun. Ang masama pa dito, d lng pla mga babae ang mgaling mang away dito mas malala pa pla mga lalake.

I see we have people taking things out of context.

In the U.S., without extenuating circumstances a man who buys his 24 year-old daughter cars and pays her phone and insurance bills is not "helping" her, unless you mean helping her be irresponsible and not grow up to accept her responsibilities in life.

But it isn't his daughter. It isn't even his stepdaughter. It is the daughter of someone he lived with. It isn't a situation of a multi-millionaire where nobody else is lacking because of it - the wife is. Furthermore he has lied about it.

I don't know what kinds of things he is keeping. Furniture is one thing. Hanging pictures is inexcusable.

Telling her to go back to the Philippines and then refusing to allow it if she concedes? Emotionally abusive and immature.

The last question was whether I would in her shoes want to try making the relationship work. I see this as the priority, not faking it for a green card.

You need a counselor, kiddy. If he does not agree to one then no, it isn't worth trying in my view because a decent man doesn't lie to his wife, threaten, and refuse to allow her in on things. Nobody is perfect but you've said he lies repeatedly and that is a big recipe for disaster in a marriage.

The reason for a counselor is to have an impartial referee that can put a stop to the childish threats, the non-cooperation, to ask the right questions, etc.

100%

thank you so much angel for the time sharing your opinion

i put here the real situation so that everyones here understand

im telling the 2sides also....coz how everybodys understand me if im hiding the real story

yes, makes me hurt so much that he take to fight w/me if im complaining about the daughter that i mention above.

i dont know...my heart so tired & i want to go home...

but how...he dont want to get me a tickets.....

Sis, try to save ur marriage until u can. But if u try and still fail, and he doesn't want u to buy tickets to go home, u can try contact the phil. consulate near u to ask for help to go back to the Phil.

the "ex" wasnt an "ex", she DIED... big difference. and doesnt matter, a child isnt a disposable item, they are people and those ties are there forever, whether there was a split up or a death.

so in your eyes once a child is grown they are no longer a child of the person? interesting. even though i've been out of the house since i was 16yo i am still my father's daughter... and i know my children will always be my babies till i am dead, so sorry, i cant relate to your mindset. i cant imagine abandoning a child (grown or not!), especially after their other parent has died...

perhaps this OP belongs more with the biological dad of this step-daugher, sounds like he knows how to break off ties and not live up to his responsibilities. but then again, perhaps he wouldnt be willing to support the 4yo baggage she's carrying like her big-hearted husband does...

I'm not saying abandoning the child. I'm saying here, she is already 24 yrs old. And here in the US, 18 yrs old is already independent. Have their own life, work, etc. And this girl has still a biological father and brother whom she can turn to. And maybe it's time for the american husband to take care his own family. The OP only want's to treat her fair and feel important as what the hubby gave importance to the step daughter.

Congrats and welcome back to VJ!

couldnt have said it better myself.

men like this are very rare! a man who will take care of a child (even after they are grown) who is not his own blood is someone to be valued, not put down. you should be thankful you have such a man, knowing he takes care of his responsibilities ... some men do not even look after their own blood children!

i feel so bad for this man hopefully she does not color his perception of all women and hopefully he finds a good one some day...

It is not bad to take care someone's child but not to the extend that the marriage will suffer in the end. And the ex-live in partner daughter is no longer a child. For heaven's sake she is already 24 yrs old!!!! She can take care of herself. I understand the wife misery here. Her husband doesn't treat her good. Especially when the husband gets angry and fight with her coz of this girl. The wife even not feel the importance of being a wife.( she mention she dont have right in his house ). And the worse part is that, hubby still keeping ex gf stuffs in their house! Show's no respect to me. I feel bad for u sis, i understand how hurt you are. But if u really care about ur status here, try to get ur GC first before decide for anything. Keep praying. Godbless

STAMPED!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

TODAY...

i got the coolest IO... didnt ask me for nothing come in stamp and out...

Congrats!

Congrats and Godbless on ur interview!

Congrats!

I'm an AFOL (Adult Fan Of LEGO) and like to tinker on my computer with LEGO CAD software (yes it really does exist!).

A Pixar (created by George Lucas, made famous animating for Disney) Employee, Angus MacLane, created a method to make abstract representations of people called Cube Dudes.

So I present my Wife & I in LEGO Cube Dude Format!

That's cool!

Congrats!

Alright, so my fiance is here and we'll be getting married soon. We plan on filing AOS very quickly after the wedding (he's a bit of a workaholic, and would like to start working ASAP), so I was just wondering about a certain aspect of the affidavit of support.

During the K1 process, we used my grandfather as a co-sponsor (since I'm a full-time student) and plan to do the same for the AOS process. I understand all that needs to go with it, but I was curious as to whether I needed to get updated letters from his employer, or if I could just use the ones that we used for the K1 process since that letter is only a few months old?

Thanks in advance!

Better to get a new one.

Congrats on ur upcoming wedding.

WELL! people... tomorrow is my Interview....

i have butterflies in my stomach and feel kind of sick....

Any last minute advice or words...

As long as u have all your docs with u, you'll be fine. Keep praying. Goodluck!

Congrats and Godbless!

Congrats and goodluck on ur interview!

That's awesome! Congrats!

Awesome!

Goodluck guys!

Congrats girl!

Hi guys! This is our 180th day from the date of filing so we called USCIS about our status. The USCIS representative told us that our case was just recently transferred to our local USCIS office so we should wait for 10 days to get some notice from the local office. I don't know what notice was she talking about (i hope it's approval notice). So hopefully next week we can get our approval.

FYI. We just got touched on 08/06/2010.

Same thing happened to my friend. Her case transferred to CSC and after 2 months they transferred it again in a local office. After a week she recieved an interview notice. Might same thing happen to u. Goodluck!

LMAO Yes, that's what I call it. The weehoo! eeeeeh! You know what I'm talking about! lol. You're welcome!

That's new to me Toni.

Congrats guys Godbless!

TGIF everyone!!

Well...fingers crossed here again...we had a touch yesterday sometime and again today already so maybe they are actually working on it and we'll get our approval soon!

Hope you all have a great weekend!!!

I hope and i pray that u will get ur GC soon!

Godbless!

Hello all my friend here. i wanted to know if i could bring a dried fish /banana catsup in USA/ i got visa and now ready to fly... looking forward if i could bring that staff. i will appreciated all ur answer thank u ..

Have a safe trip sis! As everybody says, better not to bring those to avoid hassle. U can buy those in asian store here.