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EASY, easy there, folks. Just trying to make a funny!

Ok, this is NOT a joke.... there is a right place for that if you want to be funny.

or a guy who has a foot fetish and don't even bother to tell you about it.

& just what the Heck is wrong with that?!

not telling is wrong.

Exactly there is nothing wrong with a person who has a foot fetish. it is just wrong when you do not tell your girlfriend and only to figured her out once she's already married to you.

I know a Filipina who is married to one, she only figured it out once she came to America with her husband to be. mind you they already had sex when the guy visited her many times in PI but the guy never bring up the subject. The Filipina she find it disgusting someone lick and suck her toes. is not her thing though which is very selfish of him not telling her about his kinkyness. well, expect a bad karma is coming for him to hunt him because the Filipina has plan to leave him.

so better be honest from the beggining, that is including about what you like and what do you not like in the bedroom. some people have different liking in the bedroom. some are extremely kinky and there is nothing wrong with it. it is wrong when you lied to your partner and only to figured it out when she already her in US. you better find your good match in the bedroom and stop lying and pretense about it while you dating.

This should be entertaining to watch.

Why is that? I did NOT mean "ALL" Men in cherry blossom dating site.

And besides I was refering for those Filipinas who are SINGLES and AVAILABLE looking for love.

My advice to Filipina be selective don't settle for less. know the guy well before you agree to marry him. don't fall inlove because of his sweet words. you will never know if you are marrying a loser one. who is divorced multiple times, drug addict, just came out from prison. women beater, or just a guy looking for a maid, or a guy who has a foot fetish and don't even bother to tell you about it.

In fact I know some Filipinas who encountered of the above I mention.

My friend( I will not call her name for her privacy) who married to the guy for 2 years now, she found out later in her marriage that she married to a jerk guy. her husband treat her like a maid, she doing all the house work. and control her what food she should be eaten etc. she is also a sex slave, her obese husband use sex toys and only his pleasure that matter do not mind about her. she have plan to scape and go back to work in Hongkong instead of being stuck with his jerk Husband.

Now I'm not trying to scare to all of you. this is just a reminder that America is not milk and honey most especially you have not a Family here.

For those Filipina who are singles and looking for love. there is free dating site;and you can join too in the forums. you will learn a lot about American culture. forget the cherry blossom there are a bunch of jerks there who will take advantage of your innocense. I observed many of these men in cherry bloosom they speak to you like they own you; and you are that easy to get.

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name='jundp' date='Apr 26 2009, 02:31 AM' post='2875091']

A good marriage does take work and it takes both people to work on it. And for some people it is possible to move past cheating, and to become a stronger couple. I'm not saying it's right for everyone, but it does happen successfully.

It is called dysfunctional relationship. cheating your spouse over and over is not going to be the relationship stronger. perhaps you are in denial...and it is hard for you to let her go and chose to stay in unhealthy marriage instead. Some people are just lazy to start over and to find the right person who treated them with respect.

Stupid question!

NOPE not at all..I think the OP was just curious how other people react to it if their bf/gf or spouse cheated on them since every one is different.

I'm not into the whole sanctity of marriage bs. But I'm not sure that I'd throw away my hard-earned marriage/relationship for my hubby's one night stand. Trust CAN be rebuilt.

Trust maybe can rebuilt but most likely is not.......

I think I would consider the /type/ of affair first. A one night stand? Or a mistress? What was the level of emotional involvement? Is he still emotionally involved with me?

And what about the risks of stds? it is worth?... def not.

To me if my husband doing in the above you mention, I def kick hiss ####, no matter how long we have been married. I cannot tolerate that kind of behavior. I love and respect myself. I can find a much better man than him, who is NOT A CHEATER....... A good marriage takes two people to work it out.

I'm not into the whole sanctity of marriage bs. But I'm not sure that I'd throw away my hard-earned marriage/relationship for my hubby's one night stand. Trust CAN be rebuilt.

Trust maybe can rebuilt but most likely is not.......

I think I would consider the /type/ of affair first. A one night stand? Or a mistress? What was the level of emotional involvement? Is he still emotionally involved with me?

And what about the risks of stds? it is worth?... def not.

To me if my husband doing in the above you mention, I def kick hiss ####, no matter how long we have been married. I cannot tolerate that kind of behavior.

If the person truly loved you, they wouldn't cheat on you. PERIOD! It won't get better....just leave, or kick them out! Time to move on.

That is understatement...."love" has nothing to do why some people cheated on their love one.

It is mainly about the character of a person

or perhaps they think they can get away from it; and

sometimes friends are bad influence

A B*tch or a jerk guys have excuses they cheated on their spouse because they're not so good or their spouse do not pay attention to them that is why they seek somewhere else. which is BS! no matter what reason it is, you have NO right to cheat. if you are not happy anymore in the relationship simply just divorce him/her instead of cheating.

If the person truly loved you, they wouldn't cheat on you. PERIOD! It won't get better....just leave, or kick them out! Time to move on.

That is understatement...."love" has nothing to do why some people cheated on their love one.

It is mainly about the character of a person

or perhaps they think they can get away from it; and

sometimes friends are bad influence

A B*tch or a jerk guys have excuses they cheated on their spouse because they're not so good or their spouse do not pay attention to them that is why they seek somewhere else. which is BS!

Plus, unlike the US, many other cultures are not so hung up on age, physical appearance, and money. For example, it is not uncommon to see 50, even 60-something men with 20-something women. It's a lot more accepted there.

In the Philippines the MAJORITY of Filipina Women are married to the Men who are the same age or close to their age atleast.

It is very rare for a Filipina woman who get married to a guy with 19 or 30 years aged gap. unless the guy is rich.

but it is very different when it comes to foreign men, most especially to western men. a lot of these young Filipina are married to these old,fat western men. in fact we can see them everywhere.

there are many reasons why;

---A Filipina who is a single unwed with kids. Filipino men don't want them simply because they don't to raise the kid from other man; besides that single mother often look down there in PI. other reason, if she is old her chances of finding a mate is much lower.

some Filipina are naive and idiolize western men, they want them to have a baby with pale skin etc.

some are married to these fat and old men because simply they are poor and want to scape the poverty back home. Some are simply they fell inlove, the reason why they married western guys.

Now, why these fat and old men want to marrying these young Filipina because:

----Some men want to marrying these Filipina because simply they want a young,sexy wife and it is alot easier to control to have a young wife who is so naive

---Some men want to marrying them because they want a sex slave and a maid

---Some want to marrying them because simply they want a companion who will take care of them

---Some want to marrying them because they want to retire and live in PI

---Some men married to them because they think she will not divorce him and have a long lasting married.

---- No American women want them because they are OLD, FAT and OBESE, AND JERK

----Some marrying Filipina simply because they fall inlove.

Now its up to you where you belong in these categories....you can lie whatever you want.

Thanks all.....well...I didn't wish to divorce him, as long as Him and I still both working in our marriage; and I'm hoping everything is going to be fine even though I live there and He live here in the US.

what if you found out that he or she is cheating on you?

what u gonna do? :reading: :pop:

I'd be gone quick and throw his belonging! I won't cry not worthy of my tears. I will forgive him in the future but I don't want him in my life anymore....

invite friends over into my house to have drinks; .

Be honest to her and don't take her for granted; and she will do the same in return(generally speaking Filipinas are good women)

You have other option. If you cannot afford to petition a Filipina in the Philippines, you better search her in the US, I'm sure there are plenty of single and available Asian or Filipina women here in US. however I hope you are young, good kind, has a job; and live in your own house. Beause Asian or Filipina women who are already in the US are very selective. nothing wrong with that, just preferences; and all people have one.

I meant, of course you can afford to petition a Filipina in PI; but if you don't want to experience a lot of complication in immigration. your option is to find a Filipina here in US. So good luck in your search. hopefully you find what you're looking for.

name='itzallgood' date='Feb 28 2009, 02:47 PM' post='2693762']

OK, so it gets frustrating and expensive to search for Pinay in Phils, and do all the waiting, only to find out she was playing games and not serious to me. So, maybe I will try to find Pinay here in US who was brought here, married to kano, and then separate/divorce after a short time.

So, the general question is, how complicated is it (immigration wise, to marry her and make her legal here) to marry a divorced Filipina who is in USA for lets say, 2 years or less, and does not have her immigration status settled here yet. Thanks for you input and experiences. I am a serious guy and only want to find a nice lady and marry her, in spite of the complications of an unsettled immigration status.

Be honest to her and don't take her for granted; and she will do the same in return(generally speaking Filipinas are good women)

You have other option. If you cannot afford to petition a Filipina in the Philippines, you better search her in the US, I'm sure there are plenty of single and available Asian or Filipina women here in US. however I hope you are young, good kind, has a job; and live in your own house. Beause Asian or Filipina women who are already in the US are very selective. nothing wrong with that, just preferences; and all people have one.

If he wanted a divorce and you were in the Philippines. He could attempt to serve paper to you, and if were out of the country for an extended period he could get a divorce judgement against you, since you would not be able to dispute the divorce.

Do you mean I have no right to iniate a divorce if I don't live in America? does the Philippines goverment will recognize my divorce decree? or I am still married there but legally divorced in US ?... it is good that you did mention about this matter.

Are you a holding a dual citizenship now?If not and you are just a green card holder, you will put your LPR status in jeopardy.Marriage will still be valid as long as you and your husband will not get divorce and you both agree on this plan of yours BUT, 4-5 years of separation really does not sound right why don't you just convince him to live with you in PI?

Hi, thanks for the clarification. yes, thats what I believed so. I can stay there any time I want, as long as I'm holding a dual citizenship. I'm a American citizen now, so thats def means I don't have problem staying in the Philippines for many years.

My husband has a job here; and he want to stay here in US. He's going to visit me there atleast once a year.

Hello to all people in VJ. I am married to American guy for 6 years now. I am going back to Philippines and live there maybe 4 to 5 years for some reason. My question is, does my marriage still valid even in that longer period of time of separation??

thank you