ScooterMac

Additional vent:

WHAT THE HECK PEOPLE?! QUIT DYING! Another of my classmates from High School died of a heart attack, just read his obituary. This is my 3rd friend in the last few years to die of a heart attack, all under the age of 25. Our graduating class was just under 100, and we're down to around 90 now. Jeez

Morning Carla! Have a great time tonight at the game!!! We'll wave if we see you on TV

My mom was friends with a guy who's parents actually named him Jack Frost.

My ex-bf's grandmother's name was Mary Christmas. Her family would call the nursing home to speak with her, and new employees who hadn't learned the resident's names yet would always think it was a prank call and hang up on them. I've also met a boy named Sue, and went to school with a kid named Harry #######.

My vent of the day:

I work with kids, and as such I hear a lot of grumbled insults. Those don't really bother me, because teenagers are supposed to be sort of grumbly and angsty, and I'm just the nearest adult to blame for life being difficult (particularly when I enforce rules like "Don't throw shoes" and "pool sticks aren't weapons!"). Well, last week a bunch of our kids got kicked off the church bus that picks them up (some of them go from our youth center to a church youth group) for smoking on the bus. Then I find two new (fist-size) holes in our walls in various places throughout our building. Then one of my kids got really mouthy with one of my volunteers. REALLY mouthy.

All of that led up to yesterday, when I had to deal with an irate parent, a really angry member of our board of directors, and had a roomfull of insanity (teens). As I was cleaning up at the end of the day, thinking how nice it was to have a quiet room again, I noticed a scratched portion of one of the computer desks. I moved the mousepad and keyboard to investigate and there in 2" tall letters was engraved "SCOOTER IS A CVNT" (Obviously, it was my real name and not Scooter, but meh).

I am not amused. Kids are losing computer privs. until someone coughs up a name. Insult me all you want, but don't destroy our property while you're at it.

I wore black dress pants and a sweater, along with my leather jacket (it was COLD that morning!). I did wear my sneakers though - realized I didn't bring dress shoes to Montreal after I got there, and was in no mood to go shopping for them.

Just to echo other people - you don't have to look like you're dressed for a State dinner or anything, but I'd think it'd be beneficial to look like you put a little effort into it.

I feel so bad for my fiance.

He just got beat down by his mom for not including her in the planning.

Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for the wedding/reception and are the ones primarily making decisions and the guest list. When my brother got married, my parents were told that the reception hall could only fit 150, and that they were allowed to invite our grandparents, aunts and uncles (no cousins) and one couple that they'd been friends with for a number of years. They weren't involved in any of the planning. My mother was taking it pretty well until.....My SIL decreed that no children under the age of 16 (except for her flower girl, ring bearer and other "important" cousins, all of which were on her side) would be allowed to attend. At the time, almost all the people in our family had young children, and they were all pretty upset. My mom caught all the flak about it, and wasn't allowed to mention it to my SIL. It finally all got straightened out (after my family started RSVPing "with regrets"), but I remember it being not an awful lot of fun.

After having heard my mother's lament about not being involved, I've tried to involve Spoom's mom as much as you can involve someone who lives 5 hours away I sat down with her and made sure we weren't leaving anyone off her invites list, and sent her pictures of the church and reception hall (and then later, my dress!). I still think she feels left out, but I don't know how to involve her more when she's not willing to come visit!

Rhiann, I feel for you. Being on the receiving end of a maternal guilt-trip must have sucked for your fiance, and that whole crew certainly isn't making your life any easier

I should take another picture of my car now - 2 hours later - and see how jealous you are!

It's been snowing nonstop since around 7pm last night. It's CRAZY out there.

At least it's a snow day! Weeee no second job!

since carla's gone, i guess i'll do the coffee today.

Coffee's good on a snowy day like today! I only wish they'd have cancelled school earlier, so I could've slept in and THEN had coffee!

Snow snow snow here! Almost a foot of it! And 6-8" or more expected today! Gotta love lake effect snow

Picture is of my car with less than an hour of snow resting on it. It's really coming down steady out there!

can't even imagine in this day and age with younger people saying stuff like that and it getting all out of hand.

Man.

I think you'd be surprised! My little sister had some issues with this a few years back. She was 12 years old at the time, and a "friend" and her were talking about a girl from school they didn't like, and I guess in passing my sister said something she shouldn't have about wanting to kick the girl, or smack her, or something stupid kids say when they're angry. Well long story short, my sisters "friend" and her got in a fight, she showed the girl they were talking about a transcript of the convo, the girls mom read it and called the cops, and they came down to the school and were going to arrest my sister. She shouldn't have said it, no, but she was a kid and didn't realize it could come back around. She had never really been in trouble her whole life, straight A's, the whole bit. In the end cooler heads prevailed and they let her off with a warning, but it goes to show you how things you put out on the internet can come back and haunt you! I know its a different situation, but I was really surprised by the cops willingness to take action.

I keep trying to make the kids I work with understand that A] Threats aren't funny, or joking, they're threats....and B] anything you say to anyone anywhere on the internet can later come back to haunt you. Our school (and my youth center) have a close-to-zero-tolerence rule for threats/threatening behavior - the only exception I can think of is when the kid is obviously joking with their friend/sibling/cousin/etc. - and even then they're warned about it.

I had a kid towards the begining of the school year who got mad at me and told me if he came in the next day and [insert whatever he was mad about that day] happened again, he was going to kick my @$$. I told him not to bother coming back the next day. When he came back at the start of the next week, he and I had a nice little chat about why it wasn't appropriate, what the consequences could've been (if he'd said that to a teacher he'd be suspended, if he said it to an employer he'd be fired, if he said it to a cop he'd have been in a WHOLE lot of trouble...) and that he was never to threaten anyone on our property again. I've caught him correcting other students since then, trying to keep them from getting kicked out too

Tweens and teens don't understand that the internets are forever. They post all kinds of pictures/blogs/information about themselves that I wouldn't ever have dreamed of posting online. We've done a few online safety programs and I talk to kids as they post things that they shouldn't. I'm reasonably certain most of these kids' parents don't know that they have a myspace, and certainly don't check up on them if they do know. You should SEE what some of these kids post!

But anyway, if you are looking for someone here who went to the border, was denied entry or questioned and turned back and then later was able to come in, I seem to vaguely remember someone doing that recently.

On the other hand, without strong proof of ties to Canada - his chances of getting back in are pretty slim.

The absolute bottom line is - it is 100% up to the border guard you get on the day he tries to enter, regardless of what you do beforehand - even if he gets a visitors visa there is absolutely no chance of a guarantee.

Spoom was turned away from the border 3 times in one day (long long ago, in a detroit tunnel far far away). He returned a week later or so, and presented them with every possible tie to Canada he could find, as well as american cash (I forget the amount, it was on the sheet the border guard gave him) and they let him in.

It's all about your proof of ties to Canada and the border guard's attitude.

Good luck

WOW Rhiann! That's crazy that all these people are being invited without your knowledge I hope you're able to straighten it out or at least put an end to any new invitations! You guys know I'm all for big weddings, but ONLY when that's what the bride and groom want as well!

Our invitations are mostly delivered now (a few more Canada ones - we ran out of stamps! - and one or two US ones left to mail), and I keep getting phone calls and texts from my buddies asking me what the M______________ line on the RSVP card is for I love my friends.

I'd like to vent about the cleaning lady again!

So NJ cleared the gay marriage cleared the state Senate. She comes in today to ask me if I have read the papers. I told her yes. Then she proceeds to tell me how she knows people "like that" and how they act like they're "happy" and then says: "I think they'd be happier if they were normal!"

Ugh. Some people. So I asked her: "Well I think they should be allowed to marry, how does what they do affect you?" and she just looked at me and said: "Its gross and I have to look at it when they do it!" really? Do they have sex in front of you? Do you rent gay porn? How do you have to look at it every day? Because I have lived here for over 2 years and I have never had to "look at it".

Seriously? I don't even have the words. I was so annoyed and she knew it, so she just walked away.

LMAO @ "I have to look at it when they do it!"

Yah, those gays be doing it everywhere...in the supermaket, at the bank, on the streets...LOL.

When we were printing out our friends invitation envelopes for the wedding, my parents (who are fairly conservative) noticed that a few were addressed to two females or two males. My mom made some comment about how nice it was that we could just put roommate's names on the same envelope. Spoom and I kinda looked at each other, and I explained that I had several friends who were gay, and that we were inviting them and their SO's to the wedding. My dad kinda "harumph"d from his chair and made some comment about how they'd "better not flaunt their gayness" at my wedding.

I asked him what would constitute "flaunting" their homosexuality - holding hands? dancing together? kissing?

He wouldn't answer me, and wouldn't continue with the conversation. My wedding should be entertaining, at least

We're getting nasty winds here too - local power outages, and downed trees everywhere!

And I just saw that they're predicting 2-4ft of snow before the end of the week. Ew!!

Anyway, I find the best way to get rid of a pushy salesperson is to say "i'm sorry I need to spend all of my disposable income on therapy. It's one of the conditions of my release." That's a pretty handy conversation stopper.

Sorry, not sure how I wandered into a thread that hadn't been updated for this long, but...

It sounds that way....her argument against gay marriage sounds about as well thought out as the one given by the 11 year old boys that come to the youth center. "Ewwww, it's yucky!"

I'd like to vent about the cleaning lady again!

So NJ cleared the gay marriage cleared the state Senate. She comes in today to ask me if I have read the papers. I told her yes. Then she proceeds to tell me how she knows people "like that" and how they act like they're "happy" and then says: "I think they'd be happier if they were normal!"

Ugh. Some people. So I asked her: "Well I think they should be allowed to marry, how does what they do affect you?" and she just looked at me and said: "Its gross and I have to look at it when they do it!" really? Do they have sex in front of you? Do you rent gay porn? How do you have to look at it every day? Because I have lived here for over 2 years and I have never had to "look at it".

Seriously? I don't even have the words. I was so annoyed and she knew it, so she just walked away.

Your cleaning lady stories make me glad I clean my own office I think she and I might've had a really nasty conversation.

I would like to vent about my own stupidity:

So this morning I get ready, put on my jacket and head out for work. As I leave the house, both our apartment door and the main door lock behind me. We're in the middle of a huge windstorm (complete with thunder, lightning, hail, sleet, a little snow, and icy roads) and I, like a moron, wore a hoodie instead of my jacket. Upon reaching the car, I went to grab the keys out of my pocket and discovered them missing. Okay, not really missing, just upstairs. No big deal, I think, I'll just call Spoom to let me in. Well, the phone rings and rings (both our house phone and our land line) and I don't know which doorbell is ours outside yet. My only option is to wake up my grandparents, who live in the downstairs apartment in the house, and borrow their key to the upstairs apartment. Then I realize, I don't know their new number (it was just changed recently). So I call my mom (also my boss) at work, and get my grandparents' phone number. They get up, let me in and grab the extra key to my apartment....

I made it to work after that without incident, but BOY did I feel stupid this morning.

Dear brain,

Wake the heck up!

kthx

Wow, did I ever make headway today.

Last week, my mom and I went into some of the bridal shops around here. Oh boy, was that ever a mistake. I do not have the patience it takes to deal with the women who work at those places. Anyhow, didn't find anything within my price range, nor did I find anything that I even remotely liked. Paying three times my limit for something I wouldn't want to pay $20 for stills a tad outrageous. So I gave up, told my mom that I'd just buy whatever was discounted at the David's Bridal just outside Ben's city...

So today, having planned out a ton of stuff I actually had to do (completely non-wedding related), mom and I decided to fluff it all off and and head to the mall in the city. Luckily, one of the dress shops had some gorgeous holiday dresses, including a small sized, light cream one that fit perfectly and was exactly what I was looking for, only $125 at Fairweather (my faaaaavourite dress shop here in Canada). So, we put it on hold while we were looking around some more, and then when we went back to pick it up/pay for, it rang through at only $80!

Found some matching, light cream flats, for only $15 at Zellers!

So with that all taken care of, I came home and called up the office of the city where I want us to get married. There are two gorgeous parks, either one beautiful, where I want to simply officiate and take some pretty pictures... no real ceremony. Well the one park I guess isn't open during January because all of their flower gardens are done for the winter. But for the other one, once I explained what exactly we were planning, she said there'd be no issue with us going in there for our short period of time, so long as we didn't set anything up and didn't disturb anyone. No charge!

So, then I called the number of my future mother-in-law's employee, the family friend who has his officiation license. She gave me his number and even said she'd let him know I was calling. So... I called him. And after explaining five times who I was, I told him that I was given his number from [MIL's name] and that she said he had his officiation license. "My what?" "Um... your license to marry people..." "Oh, no, I don't have that."

:blink:

So... yeah. No idea.

Turns out she accidentally gave me the wrong number, haha, which I just found out. So now I have the right number and will call him when he's out of school.

Aaaaaah, craziness.

Y'know, I have my officiant's liscense......I'll work for the price of a plane ticket

Our invites got sent out yesterday, so I'm just starting to get the "Ohhh these are so pretty!" phone calls

it's about 30F here right now, but wind gusts from 30-50MPH

Also calling for 3-6+ inches of snow, but I doubt we'll get it. We'll see, I guess!

I found out last night why the tickets I won for the hockey game were so expensive. Apparently they're club seats, and we get free food and drinks with those seats. That includes alcohol. It's the Hall of Fame inductee night as well for Brett Hull, so we'll leave to get there early and partake of all the goodies as well!

That's so awesome! Have a good time!!

Quality, not quantity!

I don't think it really matters how many friends you have, you can still have a smashing time!

I don't have that many friends either, but the ones I do have are gonna make my bachelorette party a night to remember. (big rubber penises, woooh!)

For all you out there contemplating on having one...DO IT! You'll have fun & glad you did it.

I'm not wanting a big thing, I just don't have any female friends in the area to do anything with. There's no real "halfway point" for the chickees in my wedding party, and all the rest of my friends live about 4 hours away (which, when planning a wedding and trying to pay rent/utilities/christmas presents feels like a billion years away - I haven't been back since August.). I've only been in this area for about a year, and there aren't many people my age around to hang out with. My one close female friend around here is a retail manager at two stores and past her eyeballs in work because it's holiday season.

I think I'm still adjusting to being so far away from my friends, don't mind me

I don't get stars.. I do get a slight blue hue to everything I see out of my left eye about an hour before a migraine is triggered.

Happens far too often for my liking.

I've been lucky, my migraines stopped happening out of nowhere. I was having one almost every other day at one point. Dark room and sleep was the only solution.

Mine stopped too....but after I hit my head really hard in a car wreck. Maybe it jolted something back into place? When I got the aura part of it, it was often flashing lines in my field of vision, or my vision would blur out in one (and on one occasion, both) of my eyes. I had the aura-puking-photophobic-dizzy kinda migraines for a year or so, probably every other day to once a week. After the wreck, the migraines went away, but my panic attacks returned. In retrospect, I'll take the migraines.

I realized not too long ago that I'll likely not have a bachelorette party, since I don't have many female friends.

My guy friends want me to tag along with Spoom for his bachelor party, which he has no trouble with, but my brother is *absolutely* against it. *rolls eyes*

That'd be too weird for me. lol

Not for me. I've always been "one of the guys."

And I guess that sounds kinda flip, but my brother and I are really close, and we've always done crazy stuff together. Our friends are our mutual friends. The places he's planning on taking Spoom aren't places we haven't been together already. I guess I just don't get how all of a sudden it's "not right."

I really don't mind not having a party for myself, I guess I just feel kinda left out in the whole "party" thing. My girls are in Canada, Pittsburgh, Columbus and Cincinnati (5, 2.5, 4 and 6 hours away, respectively) and I don't have any close cousins/sisters/friends around my age in my area - just relocated last year. I guess the reception is "my party" (it's not, it's my parents' party, I just get to stand around and look pretty ), but it's not the same thing.

I realized not too long ago that I'll likely not have a bachelorette party, since I don't have many female friends.

My guy friends want me to tag along with Spoom for his bachelor party, which he has no trouble with, but my brother is *absolutely* against it. *rolls eyes*

I'm a couple pages late to the party, but CONGRATS!!!!!