teenutty

I should have known this was coming. knowing I worked for such a crappy place (a Chapter 11, Chapter 7 Bankruptcy Trustee) where the longest tenured person is two years.

I was fired given the following reason: "The President (the Trustee) has a "personal" problem working with you."

I never word directly with him, have hardly any contact with him (except for that one month where i was forced into a promotion suddenly, with no training, and had to work with him while the Supervisor/Paralegal was out with back surgery). I was never written up for this or given any advance notice there was a "personal problem" at all.

The Vice President, who has only been there two years, said I should file for unemployment right away.

I am so furious now.

Furious that they ever promoted me.

Furious at the lame excuse.

Furious with my husband for:

1) Never listening to me when I told him how bad the company was, the high employee turnover, bad treatment and the stress.

2) Refusing me to enroll me onto his health insurancere when I had another job lined up (but without health insurance) because he wanted me to keep working at the Trustee.

This is the first time I have ever been fired in my life. It's a shock because my work ethic is I always did my best and never left a task half done or done improperly.

When my husband got a job, I suggest we open a joint household account in which both of us contribute X amount of dollars to pay the rent, electric, telephone, internet and food. My husband said no. He prefered both of us to buy food and put all receipts in a jar. After a month, we would tally the amount both us spent and one would pay the other according to who spent more (to make it 50/50).

I did not like this idea. It was more like college room-mates than how a husband and wife should be. I told him so. However, I went along with his method.

Low and behold, a few weeks ago, we tallied up the receipts (for 6 weeks or so of food). I spent $350.00 and he spent $190.00. So he owed me money for the difference. He then said, "I can not participate in this because I have a bad ecomony." This is because he just bought a truck and PREFERED to pay TO LARGE LUMP SUMS OF CASH rather than a longer, less burdensome 6-8 month payment plan.

This really irked me. The reason my food bill is higher is because when I shop for food, I buy basic ingrediants to cook home-cooked meals, usually 4 or 5 servings worth (FOR HIS BENEFIT). Cheaper cuts of meat, like pot roast, value pack chicken thighs, herbs, stock veggies, etc. (make tarragon mushroom chicken soup, beef stew, pot pies) I am also the one who does 90% of the heavy cleaning. So I know when we need dish soap, cloth detergent, A-jax, sponges, etc. Whenever he goes shopping he buys (milk, cereal, dates, eggs, cup of noodles -THAT'S IT!).

Well, I decided if he can't "participate" because of "his economy," neither could I. So I stopped all shopping and cooking. I refuse to even eat with him. And I will eat the food he brings home. So I have been living on cereal and cup of noodles off and on. But mostly eating at work.

He finally asked me, "aren't you going to cook anymore or eat anymore?"

good morning. Charles is mad i threw away his cough syrup. but it expired 2 years ago. I gave him 2 other cold medicine that we have in here and are good, and I'll buy him another one of the yuck syrup thing tonight. Am I a bad wife?

I know he likes expired stuff, he eats bread that expired a month ago as long as it's not green or smelling bad, but 2 years ago medicine? that cannot be good.

Charles eats old bread and cough syrup????

I think we all know about my guy. He professed to love Lagerfeld and Bijan cologne. Bought it, he never puts it on. Refuses to wear deodorant (but he showers everyday).

In Iran, he was more fastidious. Here in USA, this has declined. I don't know if this has to do with his job which he is on call 24/7.

We had a thread here a year or so ago about how MENA men are a little..............almost metrosexual in the way they dress, care for themselves. I never really paid attention to it until just recently. At first my husband sure put a little more cologne on than the average men that I work with do but I figured that was just him and heck he smells awesome so who am I to complain?

He's vigilant about conditioning his hair and OMG I don't know what he'll do when the conditioner that he brought from Cairo runs out. Apparently nothing in the world compares to this stuff. I've used it and it is good but I'm not that picky plus I wear hijab so who the heck cares if my hair is all pretty half the time.

My dad gave him tons of jackets when he got here. Spring/Winter ones and good ones from Eddie Bauer and North Face. Well since he's been here he bought two, I just got him one yesterday and he just told me he wants two more. Me/ I have two jackets, like my dad. One for spring and one for fall/winter. Hubby needs one for on the way to work, out with the kids and me, out for errands, out for a night on the town, etc. Different jacket for different occasions.

Cream. His skin has been very dry but instead of using the Vaseline Intensive Care stuff he went with me to Sephora and is now hooked on Jack Black products. (Are they by the actor Jack Black or is it a coincidence?) I just put on his handcream and it IS very very nice but I just giggle at the thought of him having a costmetic line that he likes. Usually it's women who love MAC or Clinique, etc. I never hear of a man saying at a bar with his buddies, "guys have you checked out the new eye cream from Max Factor? It's FABULOUS!!!"

So is your guy very fussy when it comes to this stuff?

Bad Thursday for me!!!

All of you know I work in a stressful place. Well, one of the jerk supervisors (who I have had run ins with - he's a pinD*kc) has made the working condition of my dear collegue (the file clerk) unbearable. So she gave notice.

She's relieved now that it's over (she was not desperate for the job) and he is gleeful. I am the only one who is really sad.

It does not matter whether is it a K1 or K3, IR1/CR1....All applicants have to go through something called "administrative processing" before and after the interview. Scrutiny is scrutiny.

Yes, coming from a MENA country means the applicants, especially men, will receive more attention than those applicants from other countries.

The only thing that i can say that will sooth your mind is that it will be a long time, months and months, before the interview. So you're jumping the gun a bit to worry about something so far in advance.

Heya,

I have been lurking around here for a couple months and decided it was probably time to actually sign up and introduce myself. I'm Amy, I'm 28, a nursing student, and I married my husband in Egypt last month. I decided initially to go with the K-3 visa because I thought it would be quicker and there might be less scrutiny about his origins. The more I read, though, the more it seems like that might not be the better route, and that the CR-1 visas are taking approximately the same time (maybe slightly longer) to be approved. I've looked at the statistics for the visa process for each one, but I'm still unsure. I haven't received the NOA1 back yet for the I-130, so I guess i still have time to change my mind. What is your experience with this? Does being from a MENA country make it more difficult to receive a visa? He has no other issues that might hang up the process, he's had the same good job for 11 years, same residence since birth, never previously married, no police record, and so on. The other thing i am concerned with is the interview process at the US embassy in Cairo. I have heard that Cairo is kind of a crapshoot, and that sometimes if some cranky asshat is working the day you're interviewing, then they will shut you down before you even walk in the door. Does anyone have any soothing experiences to ease my mind? I am hoping that everything goes smoothly, but I know with the US government, it's always kind of up in the air.

Thanks, and hi!

Amy

Dear Nutcake,

Please try to control your anti-India sentiments. India and Pakistan have intoo much in common since it was basically one country until about 60 years ago. The mud you throw at them, falls on yourself.

Ur right no man hating Hos and ####### fests going on in mass orgy over there on the Desi thread. what a shame. someone hand me a tissue please

This may be an unpopular opinion, but for me, unless the couple needs the extra income just to make ends meet, then forcing one's spouse to clean toilets just to show initiative is rather degrading.

If the question is one of survival, then yes, any job should be taken immediately.

I am living in one of the most expensive cities in the US on a librarian's salary. People in their 50s still live with roommates here because rent is easily more than $1000-1200 for a 'cheap' apartment. We will need two incomes just to make ends meet if we ever want to have our own apartment let alone send money back to Nepal. I have 2 master's degrees but if I needed to clean toilets to pay the bills, I would suck it up and do it. I would never 'force' my husband to do anything but if he wants us to have a decent life without having to ask my roommate to leave any time we want privacy(as will be the case when he gets here) and maintenance work was the only job available, I would hope he would take it - I would. If we are entering into a depression in the near future then a lot of us will be grateful to have any job, education and sense of entitlement be damned.

Dear Pattu Rani:

First of all, your husband comes from a culture where a lot of people living in small, confined places would be acceptable. In fact, he may enjoy it.

In my first marriage (to a Tibetan), I moved from Boston just for the fact the rents were so high. I just knew we could not make it as a couple there financially. So I moved to Portland, Oregon.

You may want to consider relocating to a place where the rents are cheaper.

I thought I replied, I will answer again.

1) Get copies of your wifes 2007 FEDERAL TAX RETURN

2) Now is year 2009. So year 2008 is finished. Now is the time, everyone in USA files their 2008 FEDERAL TAX RETURN. It is standard procedure for consulates to ask for the LAST YEAR FEDERAL TAX RETURN.

(It happened to me, my husband's appointment was February, he went to the interview with my 2007 tax return. And they wanted that AND the 2008 as well.)

ok i go to my interview at casablanca morocco ; so it wasa high security there and so many .anyway i go to this lady was there she were question some question i dnt know what she mean by this question she try to trick me and she have no reason for that but what i can say theres no gods but allah ..so after she told me to present something for her that i've in my folder i told her ok and i gave her all docs i've and then in last second she told me did you gave me a financial taxes income i said well i called you guys befor and you said i dnt need it just come cuz in morocco they didnt look for the taxes income cuz a lot of guys they gave them a visa without they showed that anyway i told her no my fiancee she didnt sent it to me and she said ahh well ill ask you for it sir i said ok and she gave me a papper its called 221(g) section its said that i need to return with my taxes income to complet my case and then they ll call me as soon as finis from my case in few weeks .so do i need to travel again to casablanca and give them this papper they need ? or just keep it unitil they will call me ?? i dnt know what thats mean and im really need a help and thank so much for anyone can give any idea

1) Get copies of your fiance's 2007 Federal tax return if you don't have them already.

2) Now that it is year 2008, the Consulate is requesting Federal tax return for 2008.

It is standard procedure for consulates ask for the taxes for the previous work year. Year 2008 is finished (and everyone is filing their taxes for 2008)

Well, I think the time a spouse should start looking is at the 5 or 6 month mark. Not saying he should get a job at that moment, just start looking.

I made up my husbands resume and did the introduction letters (because resumes/intro letters are not customary in Iran) and emailed a lot. My husband looked on the internet and even went to the state employment agency. It helped a lot!!!! Just to see he was making an effort.

He came June 15, got a job by October.

I am posting in MENA cuz I like how you guys share ur opions no matter what, you guys are real not fake. Ok I would like your honest opinion : How long do you think you should give your non-usc spouse till he finds a job after he gets his work auth?

It doesnt matter just any job just to help out and pull his weight, even if its at Wendys or just SOMETHING???

Take into consideration the economy , time for adjusting to US, and "culture shock"

how long? A few months, 6 months , a year or two years?????????????????

What if your man shows no initiative? What do you do without sounding like a nag? I know every situation is different, but I have been seeing a lot of things lateley even in my own life and I just want to know your thoughts, thanks so much!

Jelloshotgirl

AAMIN lil BROTHER

and when you "act immature "what do they expect, what does young man know about love, real love.Its so easy to blame the green card and not look at life and nature realistically. No arguments here. Over there thay would throw you back with your young wife and say grow up be a man and deal with it. Now you find yourself soo far away from parents and home, everyone confused.Older Usa ladies should know better on leading uninformed foreign guys on romantic love foreign young guy. yada blah, and expect them to be the man. esp under age of 30. WOW. when all said and done its still gonna be all your fault. Hang tough and grow ALLAH HAFIZ

LOL!!! Older "used" ladies. Is wonder if that is what was how the Prophet Mohammed referred to Khadija? Somehow I think the Prophet Mohammed saw the good and special qualities of her and loved her.

I really don't know how to reply to this because I am not sure what you mean. Are you saying your wife is saying things that are not true about Morrocans?

Of course, great differences in age can make a difficult marriage. But didn't the Prophet Mohammed marry Khadija who was many years older than him? A man in his early twenties probably needs to have a few more years before marrying to become a little wiser and more mature.

Hey, 1st thing is I really thank all the people who participate and share their experience and though. But like always nothing is perfect, i ll explain; my Wife and I have been married for 4 years and half, knowing each other for 2years before the marriage so its 6,5 years ,as every couple just start their life having their own problems mistakes... but thank God we always solve them before they grow. Lately all of what i hear from her 'my wife' that the moroccan people/middel east people are kind of wild and stupide also ###### up in their minde they dont respect their wives , why, because of what she is reading from some experience that they dont make no sence and i m sure other women are like her too, anyway she knew how the arabic, north africain people act and she respects them but some of ya making it hard and dark why because some of the wives are 68 and her husband is 22 she brouth him here after this he divorce her and she is wondring whyyyyy, ya tell me why!!!! and she write and ###### about him and everybody from his country,,,,, really i wonder why!!!!!! People must use brain stop making mistakes that ya gonna blame ur self for it.

I knew that some of ya will not like what i write but heyy wake up, age, though, open minde all of this do matter in the realtionship.

Last thing

share the truth not lies

HIM: In order of manifestation (lol): gorgeous, ornery, chatty (with his friends on the phone, not with me), spoiled, unmotivated. Still trying desperately to come up with more positive. This sure puts some things in perspective.

Dang, bet you wonder why I stay with him. So do I sometimes...... Can you tell we had an "incident" last night?????

ME: In order of manifestation: hardworking, chatty, honest, attractive, trustworthy. Notice there are no negatives...hee hee..... (I could put in "frustrated", but had to keep it to 5).

My husband:

extremely quiet

serious

unempathetic

unaffectionate

stubborn

ME:

emotional

humourus

impulsive

methodical

talkative

I lived for a few months in Iran. I can say the people are very, very friendly!!!!! It's an interesting place. More progressive in "laws on dress" relating to Hijab than other countries such as Saudi Arabia,etc...

People do speak english, but not a large percentage.

They are very curious about Americans.

I remember an interview once with him on NPR, and he was giving advice to travel guide aspirants to specialize, like he specializes in Europe. I found it a very refreshing approach to Iran, to see it in the same way one sees Europe through Rick Steves.

Anyone who's been to Iran care to comment on traveling there as an american? It's one of the places on my list of places to go, but after this show, it's definitely moved up the list. Maybe when we go on our vacation to Turkey, we could do Iran as well.

Thank you!!!

As a reminder, I came to this board because all of you are dealing with foreign spouses. So there is a bond between all of us for that reason. Sometimes it is hard to understand why our spouses do what they do. There are cultural differences and we have to learn how to nagivate those differences. We turn to each other for advice - and to share our troubles to.

I can't say what will happen. Maybe there is too much water under the bridge for me. A lot has changed and so have my feelings. Where we are different in culture, is that my husband firmly believes in marriage for life (even if the two don't get along). While in my culture, legal seperation and divorce are options.

My husband refused counseling and tries to pretend nothing has happened. He does not feel the need to change his behaviors or compromise.

With that in mind, a legal seperation (which allows reconciliation) and a long trip might make him realize the err of his ways.

im not saying this to be mean or anything so dont take it that way but i remember a while back u said u are wanting to go overseas to live and ur still saying the same thing now. are u sure ur not wanting that more then to save ur marriage? maybe it is in ur mind to go back over there and ur looking for reasons to go. maybe ur priority isnt in ur marriage.

You said it best Donna. At this time I think it's more of a justification on her part to leave. I'm sorry

she couldn't work things out. If one wants a marriage to work, they don't plan for a leave of

absence. I know Nutty will say "well my husband wanted to go back", but perhaps it is because he misses his home country as most MENA men do, But in time their SO helps them to try to adjust with patience, not running off coz things aren't going their way. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but somewhere lurking are sink holes.

As someone said, there are always two sides to a story.

Yes, there are always two sides to the story. I think we all know this.

I think what motivates me to "move on" is that in my past marriage I stayed years longer in it than I should have. I was the one who tried to make things work for a long time in my first marriage. It didn't. We divorced. (Now that we have both moved on, my ex-husband readily admits his mistakes)

So with that experience under my belt, my mindset has changed. Yes, I will work at the marriage, to be flexible. However, if it is only me who is expected to change and compromise with no compromise/change in attitude coming from the other side, it is unfair. Also, I do subscribe to the school of thought, "if the marriage won't work, the worst thing you can do is stay longer than you should."

As for the travelling.....my original intention was not to leave for so many months. Initially, it would have been for 2 months max. But as things got worse and worse, the trip became longer and longer. Why not? Give some real time apart to evaulate our own actions and how they affect each other. Make each of us appreciate the other a little (absense makes the heart grow fonder as they say).

My husband has an "enlightened" attitude towards marital independence. He said he has no problem with me going away for a month or two and expects me to accept the same of him. And I have.....I know he is not a filanderer and he knows I am not one either.

It seems like you have given him chances, and he is just acting like a big baby You need to take care of you first - that 50% stuff would make me feel so betrayed!

As for the health insurance - I honestly think they just have NO clue about its importance to us here My husband is flabergasted that I actually pay for COBRA coverage since I lost my job. I've had multiple health problems this year, but I think deep down he still thinks I'm just lazy because he can't see anything physically wrong with me He knows I'm not healthy, but also thinks the doctors are out to scam me for more money - he just can't see how health insurance is worth it. I guess thats what I get for dealing with all of the hospital bills myself and marrying a man who didn't speak English when he arrived (things are so much harder when you are translating all the time ).

You're right they have no clue about the cost of medical insurance. My husband has high blood pressure in his family and more than likely is suffering from it. But when I insist he get enrolled on his medical insurance, he fought it. He refuses to go to the doctor to check his blood pressure - even the machine at the grocery store he avoids.

As for me, my husband never paid much attention to me when I was stressing from the work. I think he only became slightly involved with my medical situation when the doctors called and he had to drive me to a few appointments. Then I think he started taking me for real.

It seems like you have given him chances, and he is just acting like a big baby You need to take care of you first - that 50% stuff would make me feel so betrayed!

As for the health insurance - I honestly think they just have NO clue about its importance to us here My husband is flabergasted that I actually pay for COBRA coverage since I lost my job. I've had multiple health problems this year, but I think deep down he still thinks I'm just lazy because he can't see anything physically wrong with me He knows I'm not healthy, but also thinks the doctors are out to scam me for more money - he just can't see how health insurance is worth it. I guess thats what I get for dealing with all of the hospital bills myself and marrying a man who didn't speak English when he arrived (things are so much harder when you are translating all the time ).

Cobra is so expensive, but not only is it beneficial is something happens while you are unemployed, but if you aren't on continued coverage, and you get another job that offers insurance, you will have to pay the penalty of no coverage for pre existing conditions. It's just a shame that at a time that you can't afford it is when it is at it's highest rate.

Small companies, less than 20, don't need to offer COBRA.

Medical tourism....

Cost of medical treatment in India and Thailand is far cheaper than that of the US. Met plenty of "medical tourists" from USA in both countries. Additionally, India has great cardiologists. A few times I did get sick abroad. What kept me there versus coming back was this thought, "Should I rush back and pay thousands out of pocket - or - stay here and get treated for a couple hundred bucks???"

Rent....you mean, storage don't you? I came back to USA two years ago with nothing. I have some items. But not a lot. I can get monthly storage at my mom's apartment for $20.00 a month. When I come back it would be $4000.00 (first, last, security and some extra cash)

Filing for divorce (simple with no children, no real property, no debts) is straightfoward enough. The filing fee is $200.00 and maybe some other fees. But not a lot. I am a legal assistant and can navigate the legalspeak of the forms.

Don't misunderstand, it isn't so easy to leave. It takes a lot of planning and saving. But it isn't impossible.

This is really none of my business but since you laid it out there, how can you not afford health insurance but can afford to go away on a $6,000 trip for 7 months and have money to file for divorce? How will the rent get paid while you're gone? These are things I'd be worried about but that's just me. Plus I have kids so I guess I think about things like having a roof over my head all the time. *sigh* To be free to just roam about the world would really be wonderful!!!!! Can I live vicariously through you?

Not loaded I assure you!!!

I never planned to go away for a long time. When this all first started I was only planning a month or two. It has just been that as things got worse, I felt like "why not just take off for a long time to regroup after a failed marriage."

And to be honest, he has been planning from day one to go back to Iran in April for a month.

I have been travelling to India and Thailand off and on for the past 12 years. I am a jack of all trades, administrative assistant, who did a lot of temping (long term assignments of 4 to 6 month periods) that allowed me to travel in the between time. Usually, I could come back and stay with my mom or friend (split rent and living expenses) and get another temp job in a snap. I always keep a saftey reserve of cash of approximately $4000.00 to cover rent.

I book my airline tickets through a broker: So I get some excellant fares (about $1500.00 for RTW)

India: Daily cost of living on a budget $10.00 to $15.00 a day. ($1.00 = 48 rupees) - average room costs 300 rupees, simple food, you get the picture

Thailand: About the same ($1.00 = 39 baht) (average room 300 baht, average food cost about the same for a day)

If you don't travel a lot, roaming around, and instead stay in one place for a while, you can negotiate a cheaper hotel price.

I don't usually reply to posts but this one caught my eye and I've been reading it with interest. Something doesn't sound right in this one.

Someone doesn't just up and decide to take a 7 month trip abroad to clear their mind unless they are loaded. In this economy even a budget friendly trip is still a gamble because once you return home jobs are not easy to come by today. So is it possible this trip has been planned for some time now. Plus why would anyone write to their SO'S family and tell them their filing for seperation and divorce is easy to get in the US. To me this would sound like a threat. Like "ok get with the program or I'm cutting you loose". I know if my husband got here just to find out I was planning a trip that he obviously couldn't take with me and I was planning to be gone for 7 months, he would be very unhappy and withdrawn from me. So I think this is your side of the story and if he could voice his side then this wouldn't sound like the story it sounds like. I'm not saying MENA men are always easy to live with but there is always two sides of the story and so far this one is very one-sided.

Thank you! I realize I am in a difficult marriage.

Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I had decided to live in Iran instead of coming back here. I certainly know I would not be working as hard in an office and doing all the work at home too. More than likely I would be teaching English part time and making excellant money by Iranian standards.

just a note but often times when we are not happy in the present we put those feelings in the past I forgot the psyc term but whatever feelings we have now is how we feel about the past. I would suggest not rushing but I truly can tell how hard it would've been to hear such words from the man you love.

I wish you all the best and know we are always here for you.

What is a REAL HUSBAND????

I am not not muslim. So what is haram does not appy.

1) I am ALWAYS HONEST with my feelings

2) I don't cry (not anymore)

3) I don't whine. I bring to his attention where he can be more helpful and what specifically I am requesting.

4) Running to others: interesting issue

In middle eastern cultures, when a husband and wife have serious problems, it is usually the family of the respective parties that sit down and try to arbitrate so the couple can reconcile.

In the beginning, it was hard. I did everything to get him settled and even found him a job. Yes, there were some hurdles. But throughout, I tried to explain that, "if you aren't working, can you help with the laundry and pick up the mail?"

Where I have snapped and lost my love for my husband is that over the past months working in a very stressful job (to the point of having chest pains and needing a cardiologist work up because I have a heart problem anyway and now this kidney problem) he has not been supportive. Are those the actions of a real husband?

crying whining, running to others and not being honest of feelings with husband now that is Haram and not healthy in any husband wife relations. Some time honesty may hurt , but it solve probelm eiather way soon be done and over.. nothing Haram about that. Cheating husband out of real wife now that not good at all

I realize my husband did this for two reasons:

1) to keep me from quiting my permanent job for the temporary one (because I was planning on leaving for India for a few months after that)

2) To lash out at me for resentments he harbors

It takes time for real love to grow strong, love does not fade is all Im saying. You really dont know someone truely unless you live with them a few yrs, married/. thats just everyday common grown up sense

It may take real love to grow, but it takes real ugliness to deny your wife medical help. Most people wouldn't do this to a total stranger. To do it to your wife shows some very deep seated mental issues IMO.

Dear Fruitcake lady (BTW - I loved her!!!)

In Iran, arranged marriage happens much less nowadays. Not like India, Pakistan or other parts of the middle east. Seems the practice of "love marriages" is not more than standard.

Yes, marriage is a partnership. But so far, in this marriage, there is inequity. I do the 95% of HEAVY housework, cooking paying bills, while working 45 hours a week. While, he on the otherhand, works less hours, sleeps more. Just yesterday, he dozed (why??? he didn't work for two days) while I cleaned the house from top to bottom (4 hours).

If the husband becomes a burden, as he has...and there are no redeeming qualities (like affection, communication and moral supporting for the work I do)....

ie arranged marriage and marriage in muslim world (thinking towards) esp for men is not marriage for love, its marriage for need and survival. societal as well as personal. Love in a marriage develops through time when the adjustment is done and repsect is achieved mutually and ya both grow up and stat serving and doing for each other instead of thinking of self and being hurt and Yada. To him the golden time is to come if youare the right person. keep nagging on him and he will have serious doubts. Go away together and enjoy tiem together to pamper and coddle each other sxytime. quit thinking soo much and putting hollywood ideals on romance and love. muslin marriage (or any other God based marriage) love grows, in western marriage it seems love is at the beginning and then fades. count yourself lucky instead of crying for what you though was then. Go to husband say sorry for your side of misunderstanding and how can you help him adjust and that he is doing a fine job with work and all so far. build him up instead of tearing him down Jeesh Qudah Hafiz

Why stand when you can sit, why sit when you can lay down!

If your apartment is small like mine (tiny), why don't you do the seating middle eastern style (

I look around my house it's small and really has no "style" so i was checking out Ikea and i saw something somewhere someone was doing orange and bown.

I love blue but love the idea of popping some orange you know the fall color??? I am thinking of switching the wood items to black though and tie it all together with a colorful rug with blue and orange... is that too crazy??? i am no where near the level of interior desinger but i wanted something MENA like and American together.

All any and every suggestion is appreciated... fyi i also got those decorative pillow covers from Marakesh with reds/blues and oranges in it...

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/S29847913

I also live in a rented appartment so my walls are that eggshell white.....