luckymom

I am very lucky to have a good mom-in-law though she is kinda forgetful already. She is always with us every time that my husband, my son and I go out to eat. She works in the dry cleaning and laundromat that my husband is working. My father-in-law is nice also but he doesn't go with us to eat out because he is fuzzy. I thank the Good Lord that my in-laws did a good job with regards to discipline because my husband is really the best for me. Even my family is very happy that I find the most wonderful man. I have one sister-in-law but she is in another state and I didn't see her yet but we talked for 2x already. Their family is very small dad-in-law, mom-in-law, sis-in-law and of course my husband.

I wish all the filipino women married to USC will have a good relationship with their in-laws. That helps a lot to build a better relationship

Leaving my 13 year old was the most painful experience in my life as a mother. We are texting back and forth everyday and my husband is in close communication with SLEC. He is on his 3rd month of medication and with God's help his body is responding well in the medication. I am praying that before the year ends I can pick him up and we will have the best Christmas here in the US ever. Good luck and keep the faith alive and everything will be ok.

Congratulations and good luck on your trip to the US. God bless.

I wonder if the OP is well off in the Philippines, if I were her I will be the one to spend for the AOS if the finances is the issue with the husband. The minute they got their Marriage Certificate she should ask the husband to file the AOS - this is the thing that I don't understand with the OP. Now she's got the biggest problem - her status here in the US. I know that they talked about helping or sending money back home, but since she is not yet established here, I don't think that should be the main concern. I'm sure she can always explain to her family that they (both her and the husband) should prioritized her status first. It's a good gesture to help the family but it should not be the in the front line. The moment she feels that the financial aspect is the big deal with the husband, she should not always remind him of the agreement to help the family. All she should do is to sit down and talk to the partner regarding what is going on with their marriage. There are so many things that is kept hidden in this topic. Three sides of the story should always be taken into consideration. We only know one side (I'm not saying that the OP is lying or not disclosing everything) but I think the husband's side should also be known.

I feel that her moving out of the house is not the smartest move especially that she has no status yet. I also wonder why there's no follow-up to this topic from the OP. I hope she is doing well as of the moment. It's a sad fact to know that one relationship is breaking just for financial issues.

I think I can give you an answer for this. I also have two kids there, the older one is 18 and the younger one is 13. It's almost the same case as yours. They had their medical last March 2009 and the older one was cleared by St. Luke's but unfortunately the younger one was not. He has findings in his x-ray and St. Luke's subjected him to medication. My older son proceeded to his interview at the embassy but before that you have to ask St. Luke's to release your other kid because they will forward his/her medical to the embassy before the scheduled interview. And my son passed the interview and I was able to bring him here in the US. Tomorrow will be his 2nd month here and he already has a driver's license and he will be in the university in Fall. But I am still sad because my baby is left in the Philippines for his 6 months medication and 2 more months for the last culture. Probably he will be here the most is December. I hope this is the information that you want.

Big congratulations and good luck on your trip to the US. Have you had your CFO seminar yet?

I don't think that's an issue as long as the filipina fiancee can prove the legitimacy of the relationship. They have mountain of proof and with that they can gauge if it's legitimate or not. God bless both you and your fiancee and good luck on her interview. Keep the faith.

Congratulations on your passing the medical. Good luck on your interview. Just keep calm and you will be all set. God bless.

Hi! From what province were you in Quezon Province? I am from Lopez, Quezon (close to the boundary of Quezon - Bicol I think).

Life is what you make it. US is still the best place for me and I'm sure many will disagree. As long as you live within your means, be a good citizen and happy with your loved ones - everything is all set. The good things in life are free. God bless America!

I am not sure if I will answer the question of the OP correctly but I will still post a little of what I believe in. My husband and I met online also and as I always say it was not the typical "love at first sight". To make a long story short, we exchanged emails at first, (he sent me very long ones and I find it weird at first). After two weeks we decided to talk over the phone and OMG he speaks perfect English. There are 3 USC citizens in the family but my husband is kinda different from them. So I tried my best to cope up with him, but I was very truthful to him that he has to bear with my English because sometimes I speak English literally. To my amazement that wasn't such a big deal. When we met in person there were no surprises, everything went smoothly and the rest is history. Learning English depends on the foreigner husband or wife. If the two persons concerned are willing to meet in the middle at all times, whether it be the conventional LOVE as they call, an arranged relationship, or online matched, for me the issue about learning English should not be a big deal.

We, filipinos are very lucky because our medium of instruction in school is English (which serves as our second language). We learned English by the book, and we don't normally use colloquial terms (and I wonder here it's mostly used). I always have a high regard for the non-English speaking majorities from other countries who get involved with an American. Being subject to the test of living with a partner who speaks English is kinda tough already how much more going out of the house where everyone is speaking English. But if two people are determined to be supportive of each other, there's not any obstacle that they can't overcome. It may be difficult at first especially some people are too judgmental. The bottom line is how two people adjust and eventually end up being better partners. No amount of cultural differences can defeat the willingness and determination of the partners to stick together. Whether I go by the original topic or not I am not sure. I am here just to convey what I feel.

Husband USC - 55

Filipina wife - 47

An ideal age gap because in my big family that is the typical age gap for husbands and wives. It works for all of us but I think the age is not the issue after all. It's the attitude.

This is a perfect topic for all of us. I came here last 2007, my third time. I met my husband the last quarter of that year when I was in Massachusetts. That was not the typical love at first sight (we're too old for that) but we really get along great. We don't have much issues, he is a very understanding guy especially if I'm cooking our exotic foods. He likes many filipino foods but not all and I also like American foods. I have a great mother-in-law and we get along fine. I have two kids and it's amazing that my USC husband is an ideal stepfather. He has no kid at the age of 55 and I was afraid at first that my two sons and him will have a hard time. He is always there to be our guide and he taught me and my sons everything about American culture. Many times he corrected our grammar (he is very good at it). I was an English tutor in my country yet I still have a lot of things to learn because sometimes I do tend to translate some words literal. My kids and I have a hard time sometimes because my USC husband tends to talk with a lot of metaphors (I hate that actually) but I have to live with it. And also those old American sayings, I just ignore him and my mom-in-law if they talk especially if they're using strange words and phrases but I ask him after "what do you mean by this and that".

Now, after more than a year of being his better half everything is much better. He was amazed when I talked about the words "positivity, litany, concubinage, paramour" etc. He is very good in English but it's funny because he is not familiar in those words. At least I know some words that are unfamiliar to him. And my greatest achievement in the house is I always beat him in spelling and scrabble. :dance:

Lahat ng nabasa ko sa post na ito ay di ko mapaniwalaan. Ang essence ng pag-aasawa ay magmahalan at magrespetohan. Walang respeto sa iyo ang asawa mo at wala ring pagmamahal na typical sa isang mag-asawa. Di normal ang ganitong sitwasyon na gustong makipag do sa asawa at sa ibang babae. Napakarami kong kakilalang may asawang foreigner at ngayon lang ako nakabasa ng ganitong pangyayari. Napapanood ko sa mga shows dito sa TV ang mga ganyang kaso pero sa tingin ko fiction lang yun. Sa katotohanan di dapat mangyayari ang ganyan. Wala sa katinuan ang asawang gustong gawin ang mga "kalaswaang yan". Parang di kapani-paniwala ang post na ito. Kung sa simula pa lang may takot ka na eventually talagang mangyayari ang kinatatakutan mo. Ang pakikipagsex sa asawa at sa iba pang babae at the same time ay isang akto ng kawalan ng katinuan. Kung filipina ka na may tamang morals at may pinag-aralan at alam mo na taliwas itong lahat ng ito sa buhay natin, di ka na magdadalawang isip kahit isang isang segundo na magdesisyon kung pupunta ka dito or not. Nasa delikadong sitwasyon ka at kung umaasa kang magbabago yan, I bet you di na yan magbabago at malaki ang posibilidad na magiging worse pa yan pagdating ng panahon. Di mahalaga ang pagtigil dito sa America kung buhay mo ang nakataya. Think way way ahead bago ka makisama sa taong wala sa katinuan. Ayoko mang sabihin ito pero "hindi tao ang nilalang na ito". Pasensya na kasi nakakainis lang makaalam na ang isang kababayan ko ang mabibiktima ng mga ganitong sitwasyon. It's up to you kung makikinig ka o hindi sa mga kababayan natin na nagpost sa topic na ito. Wala akong mapapala sa pagsasabi ng opinyon ko pero kung kahit one percent ay mag-iisip ng straight ang OP magpapasalamat ako sa Diyos na maliligtas sya sa mga darating pang kapahamakan. Nakakatakot ang taong ito, I am translating this case to my USC husband at di rin siya makapaniwala na may normal na tao na gagawin ang mga ganyan sa sariling asawa. At lalo na ang isyu na kukunan ng pictures ang mga kapatid na babae, OMG that's below the belt. Sorry opinyon ko lang ito kasi galit ako sa mga taong walang respeto sa babae lalo na sa asawa. God bless you and I hope you will at least stop for a minute and meditate.

Congratulations for passing in that culture test. Good luck on your forthcoming interview. God bless!

My condolences for the passing of your mom! I hope you will be strong enough to accept it and move on. God bless you and your family.

I second the motion sasha! This woman for sure has her own agenda for being with you. For me, as long as the husband is providing food for the table and providing for the needs at home - that should be enough. Money for shopping is just a bonus. Spending the "discretionary" if I understood the term instantly is a clear indication that she has some other hidden expenses. She is very lucky because the OP is a generous person and she should not take advantage of that. If you buy her a car and she learns her way around, that would lead to a more expensive lifestyle. Husband and wife should be transparent when it comes to expenses. At least that's why I've learned from my parents.

You are not forced to reply. This is a free forum and everyone has the right to post whatever they want. Be a man and mind your own business. I thought that the purpose of this forum is not just immigration but to gain friends. The OP just wants to have an idea how other people spend their lives in a productive way. (Just my opinion)

Congratulations! To all my fellow filipinas who passed their medical and interview my best wishes also. Good luck on your new life here in the US. I hope you will easily adjust to your new life (because sometimes it takes a while before someone adapts to their new life). Just don't forget our native land, Philippines is still one of the best country to live on though it is quite hard.

Congratulations! There is no impossible if we always call on the LORD.

Hi! This is a very hard situation, just leave everything to our dear Lord. Keep calm, pray and be strong to accept what will be the outcome. That was a very unfortunate accident and as I read the situation I can't help but feel sad. Our medical facilities in the Philippines are not properly equipped with the modern life saving machines but anyhow, keep your faith and hopes high. Whatever happen to your mom, just remember that God has every reason why everything in life happens. I will be with you in prayers. Be strong!

It is a sheet of paper that the flight attendant give to you when you're close to your PORT of ENTRY already. It is very important because that will determine your stay in the US and you will surrender that when you're going out of the US. It is only given to nonimmigrant visa holders (as far as I know).

Congratulations and best of luck on your interview!

Best of luck to all of you who will have their June interview. I hope you ALL make it. God bless!

It is a matter of adjustment and mind setting. Someone who emigrate should know what he/she is facing. Life here is way way different than in the Phil. Living with the man you love is a matter of choice. She's lucky that she has no kids left in the Phil. not like some of us. The only person she thinks of is herself so I think given some time she will be all set. If after some time she is still like that, I don't know what to say. Millions of filipinos felt the same way too and I think for the most part - they adjust very well. Filipinos as far as I know can easily adjust. You are such a good person to be around her.