♥Stiggy♥

congrats!!! And good luck!

I am in love with Jack in the Box breakfast selection. I actually went out at midnight a few times just to get a breakfast jack. But restaurant...probably Cracker Barrel (?) in Lawton, Oklahoma?

Is Lawton where your DF is stationed? One of my best friends is stationed there.. and she hates it! LOL! Her hubbys a pilot on the heavies

Im afraid of this , when I move to the states... from great old Canada where its free

Wow, some people put Olive Garden? I thought theres Olive Garden everywhere in Canada, lol. At least in Winnipeg when I lived htere uptill 2 yrs ago.

My fave is Chili's!

I never knew we had a venting room. I shoul dhave put this in there lol

Since he is paying LESS than what he should, then if he wants to be a jerk, you might as well go after the full amount!!

Right now hes not paying a penney because I live in the house still since I have no job. No bus service out here, to bring me into Greenwood (Im in the middle of Wilmot flames) or anywhere else. And I thought about moving out to my own place somewhere with the kids , but Id hate to buy furniture, sign a new lease, kids would have to change schools , etc etc just to apply for the CR1 soon and move out a few months later. So Im trying to tough it out in here with him living here too.

ANd trailmix, thats a good idea. I wonder if I asked him to drop it in half, if he would let them go. I cant say drop it totally, since who knows how long its gonna be till I get a steady job when I move down, and having D support all of us on his income alone is probably gonna be impossible. Especially with my sons medical issues and hwo often he has to be admitted to the hospital for treatments. He stays home ill about 5 times a month, I cant take on a full time job knowing that

Yah, our divorce will be final as of next week when we can file. Last night my ex and I talked about what my lawyer should put on the divorce papers, since he cant afford to have his lawyer draw it up (his criminal court stuff cost him about 12k last month). Ive got primary care and control right now, from our seperation agreement. And Im going to keep it that way in the divorce papers as well, and Im still asking for full child support. I just wont be entitled to spousal support because of the debt load he is taking on.

I just wish that this immigration process could be easier if you had proof showing that the courts granted mobility rights to another country and INS would accept it:(

ugh, my exhusband is driving me up the wall! Biggest hypocrite ever known to man.. lemme tell ya. Before I started dating my man, we were just friends. He had no problem with it. At the time he was allowing me to move from here (nova scotia) to Toronto to be with my family, for support and a better job in order for me to provide for my kids. Then, once he found out I was dating Dave, he went nuts. THe last trip I took to go see him in Florida, my ex literally packed up the kids overnight without telling me, and drove straight from Nova Scotia, to Toronto and drove straight there, without even calling the school to tell them that they werent going to be there, I didnt even find out till 2 days later after I couldnt get a hold of anyone at home, and my son told me he was at Grandpas house . Why did he do that? To go b!tch at my parents, saying im a terrible and unfit mother, and he wasnt going to let me have custody of my kids, and not let them move out of the province of NS, etc. (this coming from a father who barely did ANYTHING with them before I told him I wanted a divorce). He tried asking them for 'dirt' on me to help him with his case. Which infuriorated my family, asked if I was ever diagnosed with anxiety, or depression, or anything in the past.. so he could use it against me. Asked if any of them could help him out, etc. What a #######.

Anyways, it got to the point my parents couldnt trust him anymore, he was such an evil wench at my parents place, that my family had to call the cops not once, but twice on him out there because he went nutso. So of course he had nowhere to go since his family didnt live there, so he wanted to pack up and go back to NS. Of course I wanted to go too.. where my kids go, I go. Of course, when we got home CAS had to get involved because when the cops were called to my parents place, the kids where there, so by law they had to come and make sure things were kosher.

At this point, he STILL refused to let my kids move anywhere but from NS. But he also knew he didnt have a leg to stand on to try to take primary care and control from me (at this point we were still living together, just in seperate rooms since I had no job yet as I was a SAHM for 6 years). All he wants is what benefits him. He knew that if I were going to Toronto, I wasnt going to accept the full $1100 of child support he'd have to pay me since Id be lving with my parents trying to help me out, as a compromise for him to let me leave the province, I was only going to accept $700. That was fine till I started dating. He would see them every summer for 8 weeks, and every christmas break (alternating christmas days,then flying out boxing day)

I honestly think that was the ONLY reason why he was letting me go down with them. Because he cant afford the full amount of child support (because hes refusing to sell the house , and he is going to buy out my portion of equity using debt, which gives him more debt, which makes him not afford full child support... see how he likes to make his life miserable then cry to others that he cant afford full child support? UGH!).

Anyhow, he's still refusing to let my SON who is 5, move with me to Florida! He said he will 'compromise' and let my daughter move with me, so we each have a kid. And I honestly think that its because of child support, once again. He doesnt want to have to fork it out.

The guy lives off videogames. Eats, sleeps, works, plays videogames. I cant picture him waking up early, getting my son dressed for school, to the bus stop, then go to work, then be home in time for the bus, do homework, make dinner, clean, put them to bed, knowing he only has an hour or two for games. The guy has played about 40 hours a week of games. Not to mention, he is military! He thinks they are going to allow him to just work from 8:30-2 everyday so he can get my son off the bus. AND hes Airforce and is aircrew, so he thinks they will just say 'dont worry about not flying..so you can be with your kids". Im sorry... nope. Military doesnt work that way... even though he says they will accomodate him as a single parent. Whatever. Im sure its just all talk.

Its too bad that my exhusband is so self-centered, and does what HE wants, what benefits him.. and not thinking about what my son wants and needs.

I honestly wish there was a way, that this whole immigration process could be easier, and they would let kids move based on if a court awarded mobility rights to another country and the uscis recognize it.

This is also the ex, who the rcmp came and arrested, my ex was inconsistant with them, trying to say I was a bad mother, just to see if it would help his case out. And guess what happend? Yep, they arrested him and took him in. Karma's a b!tch.

I just wish at this point, after him purposely trying to make my life miserable, that I wish there was a way the embassy would allow the move for both kids, and I can get what I deserve... my kids, and my kids deserving their FULL Child support.

He wouldnt allow my kids to move to Toronto anymore, becuase he doesnt want to see me move on. He knows out here, I cant have the income to sposnor Dave to move here either. Dave wont find a good of a job out here as he is being offered in the states. My ex doesnt want me to have both my kids around a 'new person'. Yet, 3 weeks ago he met some chick , who is going to move in here now next year? Hypocrite.

Grr!

End rant!

That made me feel better!

I remember a while ago they used to give you the visa at the interview. Do they not do that anymore?

I was kinda hoping to fly to the states like, right after the interview. Guess thats probably not gonna happen, huh?

Through my exhusband 3 years ago, playing Final Fantasy online (similar to World of Warcraft).

I can understand the frustration. And I wonder if this is going to happen too when we file next year. But the way I see it... its nice to see its not taking as long as it used to several years ago, to get approved! Just try to see the positive

If its only been a few months... leave it alone.

Immigration is a priviledge, not a right.

In my county here n Canada, if you let ur cat outside, you get a $200 fine from the SPCA

Lion King!

Sorry to hear things arent going so well.

We talk A LOT a day. Im a stay at Home mom, so my schedule is really open for the most part on when we can talk around his work schedule.

Usually at lunch we talk everyday on the phone for 2-3 hours. Then again late evening for a couple hours on the phone (he uses skype in/out), then it miagrate to getting on skype, and turning on the webcam just before bed, while in bed, and I lay the laptop on my nightstand while we talk till I fall asleep Cheezy,I know... but it works for us

Then while at work we send a few emails here and there, and a couple text msg's on his days off

IF your employer is canadian then I think you just pay it to Revenue canada

Sounds like were doing the same thing CR1 visa... Im canadian and hoping to move to florida in 2010 We met playing ffxi

Hi Everyone

I'm new to this site I just joined today. I was wondering if anyone could help me. I recently got married to my Husband on Dec 27 2008. He is a U.S. Citizen and lives in Louisiana. I'm from Belize C.A. and I after we got married in Belize I decided to come up to live with him on my visitors Visa. I arrived in the U.S. on the 10 of Jan 2009, and they gave me 6 months on my I 94 so I was planning on staying until July 9th 2009. We want to start our paper work but after logging on to this website I read it is illegal to file for you papers while already married and in the U.S. I'm I right? do I need to go back to Belize and start the process from there? Whats this change of status I'm reading about? Can I do that first? Is there anyone here that was in my situation. Please help thank you I would really appreciate it. Oh do you think I should get a lawyer? Thanks once again

Namzab

You are right. You can not start the process from here, it will be illegal, since you decided to live with him here then came. If you get caught doing that, you can be banned for a certain amount of time from entering. Your husband is going to have to file for a K3 or CR1 visa for you. He can apply for you right away while you are visiting, but you need to go back home by the time your I94 expires, for the interview at your consulate/embassy.

Nope, dont need any of that with a capital one card. IF you dont have an ead/or income, they will give you a secured card based on the amount you put down for a deposit

Try goign to a department store such as Macy's, they may give you one with $200 or $300 on there. or Capitalone.com , they have cards on there that you pay a small amount as security and they give you credit. I did that, I paid $75 and they gave me a $300 limit, and then 6 months later they upped it to $2000

Flames, you said that the Kingston one processes them, right?

Yeah, having a B2 doesnt gaurantee you can cross. Its upto the officer at the POE to feel satisfied that the non USC isnt going to immigrate

Hope you can meet before you waste your $ applying

Wow that was FAST! Congrats!

Wow, why wont your fiance travel to see you if they want to marry you? That alone is going to look very fishy when applying.

I dunno, I think the majority of us on VJ here would do anything to see our loved ones