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Hey Yardies, dont worry I am still alive It got busy at the job after lunch. We had a nice long talk and came to an understanding. I told him I needed some time alone. He disagreed and said we need to work it out now but then agreed later to take a little "break". I will let you all know how it works out. The wedding is off for now but I havent decided yet what I want to do, I havent got much time because he has already been here 2 months, but we will see.

Thanks for all the advise, I appreciate all of it.

Love you guys,

Thanks guys I am sitting here trying my best not to cry, my wedding was supposed to be in 9 days.

Now, I feel really sad

am sorry dont mean to make you sad, he is waiting for me to go to lunch so I will talk to you guys later.

Thanks guys I am sitting here trying my best not to cry, my wedding was supposed to be in 9 days.

So, I have a whole fish on my plate in my office on my desk (HEAD) and all. My boss comes in to put something in my in box and she screams and runs out the office WTH...I have to meet with her in 20 mins about my salary letter, I hope she calms down by them.

BWAAHAAA

wrong time to scare your boss tre

Thanks for the replys guys, he has not ran up the bill, I guess she has a chip it was just the amount of time that caught my attention. She showed up at my mothers house when I went to JA for valentines day saying, that they were in love and he denied it. I told him to leave and he is outside my job like a crazy person.

I think I'd have a LONG talk with him about this.

long talk? just a long talk?

i would f#ck him up to be playing with me after i have invested all my time and emotions spent all this effen money

but that's just me .....

Thats how I feel like F$#@ing him up right now and I can my brother in law would be happy to do it.

Morning Yardies, I just found out that my Fiance has been talking to his baby mother/ex almost every day for hours at at time while I am at work. I think this is it for me I cant take it anymore. I looked at the phone bill and couldnt believe it.

I am sorry to hear that

Now, as many of you know I am normally the first one to jump out saying DUMP HIM, but is there a possibility it ISN'T what you assume it to be?

Ie, does he have any friends here to call and chat with??

Does she have someone else, ie could they be just friends?

Reason I ask is that when you're bored, you often just find ANYONE to chat to to pass time with.....

I agree with JAE here too. The same thing happened to me. A and S (baby mama) haven't spoken in over a year. But about a month after he was here I found out he was talking to her almost every day. When I asked him he told me straight up that they have been talking since right after he got here. But once I cooled myself down it made sense because Jr was coming here and he told me that's what they talk about. She only calls him and he will chat while I'm sitting right next to him. Now I talk to my ex every couple of days but it's for the kids and scheduling. It took me awhile to get used to now I'm fine with it.

Love, could he be calling her because he misses his kids?

I know he misses his son, but I dont care he shouldnt be disrespecting me like that he has to go to west palm beach to his family, at least for a while until I clear my head.

Thanks for the replys guys, he has not ran up the bill, I guess she has a chip it was just the amount of time that caught my attention. She showed up at my mothers house when I went to JA for valentines day saying, that they were in love and he denied it. I told him to leave and he is outside my job like a crazy person.

He's outside you job? Where? Now?

yea, now

Thanks for the replys guys, he has not ran up the bill, I guess she has a chip it was just the amount of time that caught my attention. She showed up at my mothers house when I went to JA for valentines day saying, that they were in love and he denied it. I told him to leave and he is outside my job like a crazy person.

Morning Yardies, I just found out that my Fiance has been talking to his baby mother/ex almost every day for hours at at time while I am at work. I think this is it for me I cant take it anymore. I looked at the phone bill and couldnt believe it.

Thanks to everyone for your condolences and advise on the AP, we are gonna try to do th AOS immediatly after the wedding and then make a infopass appointment. The funeral isnt until the 18th so we have a little time. He is definatly not going if he doesnt get the AP, there no way am going through this process again.

Morning Yardies, I had a sad weekend. My boo's Grandma died on Saturday. He is doing ok now but just want to know if there is a way he can get an emergency AP to go to the funeral without filing AOS???

Morning, All. Congratulations, Dillon!

on the plus side of that i get to work the jazz festival this evening so im sure work wont be so hard to deal with....

Sounds fun, my2! Have a great day.

good news ladies!

NEW INTERVIEW DATE SCHEDULED: July 17 8 am!

this is the one

Great news! I bet he'll be EXTRA sure to make that interview day go as smoothly as possible.

Me and my boo are doing OK, whoever said this was going to be easy, was lying. It has even gotten to the point of almost cancelling the wedding, but for now its still on. I am praying on it.

That's good that your current boss sounds like he'll/she'll cooperate with you looking for a job. Not all are like that.

When I mentioned to one of my good friends last weekend that I'll want to go to JoP as soon as Steven gets here, so we can file for EAD/AOS as soon as possible, she suggested using at least part of the 90 days to get to know each other more and see how we get along when together for more than a week at a time. From reading your post, Lovesponge, I can see the benefits of not rushing to get married the first day possible. Hmm. I'll put some thought into that.

Nat I thought the same thing, my original date was in june. Then I thought about getting to know each other on a living together level first and I think thats what the govt had in mind as well when they came up with K1 and the 90 days "trial period". I am gonna be completely honest with you because I believe we are all here to help each other out in any way throughout this whole process. We argue ALOT and i mean over stupid stuff. Some of it is me i must admit I am 30 years old and have never lived with a man before so I am very private and cant stand anyone telleng me what to do or being in my personal space. Some of it is him, he has a very short temper and is kind of selfish. We are happy at the end of the day but trust me it is a loooooong day. I have prayed on it and will continue to use God as my only mentour because if it was up to family and friends we would have broken up a long time ago and I would be devastated.

My advise is use that time to get to know each others living habits, likes, dislikes, what pushes each others buttons and what doesnt break your relationship will only make it stronger. One day at a time.

Morning Yardies, my boo is sleeping so I had to come and catch up with everyone. I hope everyone has a great weekend. I am looking for another job because so pray for me in this economy. I love the job I have but I need more money and they told us from January no raises this year, so my boss is practically pushing me out the door because he knows I can make much more money elsewhere and that I deserve it. So the job search journey begins!!!

Me and my boo are doing OK, whoever said this was going to be easy, was lying. It has even gotten to the point of almost cancelling the wedding, but for now its still on. I am praying on it.

HAPPY WEDDING DAY DILLON may God bless you two with joy and happiness forever.

Hey Jawi, how are you feeling? Dont worry August 20, soon come.

Ells, welcome back. Sorry about work but enjoy you man this weekend.

Philly that lunch had me cracking up, you gotta give him a A for trying, how you feeling?

Nat hang in there NOA2 soon come, in the mean time enjoy that JA trip. I miss those trips already.

Irie congrats, that will be my next journey & Justica that was quick, this is going to be the one

philly.. i am so sorry honey for u loss, i know it was what u guys dreaded and hoped not to be true.. i am inspired by ur strength my gyal.. its such a GINORMOUS weight, the Lord is strong enough to hold u up...

i understand hubby's anger, and no matter how misguided, he is hurt right now and we get irrational sometimes.. i know he knows its not the kids fault.

I pray that God gives u wisdom and strength during this time, gives ur hubby patience and tolerance and gives ur children compassion and selflessness, and fills ur home w/ peace and unyielding love.. HOLD ON MY SISTER...

Well said!

Very well said, Philly I went through the same thing I am sorry for you loss and I understand how you may be feeling, we are here for you

Evening ladies

Thompson2B (I always type your real name then change it to your VJ name), do you have any more trips to JA before November? That's a long time to go without seeing your man!

So my friend is in town from Oklahoma. We went to this after-five event at CHURCH tonight where they served dinner, had a live band playing old school & jazzy songs. The singer was SO GOOD we would've bought her album if she had one. There was mingling between the men & the women and also line dancing. But why, WHY, did they play that Stanky Leg song (not sure of the name, as this was the first time I even heard it). I was sitting like the whole time that song played & people did the dance in their dressy clothes at CHURCH.

LOL You can use my real name. Oh yea I'm planning on going back a couple times until my honey comes. I couldn't wait until November. He'll be here before November though.

LMAO @ the Stanky Leg in church!! Where's Dada??? That's her jam, I think.

Lovesponge We have to wait until mid August because we are getting married in November. Speaking of weddings. Yours is sooooo close!!! Are you ready?

Safe travels Cara and Mrs. Palmer!!!!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend!!!

Oh and Sus, I make those deals with myself about the gym too. Usually I tell myself I can't go shopping until I work out.

I am ready and waiting. I decided to do somthing very small I have to take a pic of my dress and put it on here its soo cute.

Morning ladies I am at work

I know I am late but CONGRATULATIONS JAWI I am so happy for you, and I am wishing you a speedy recovery your man will be here soon to take care of you.

Thompson why August??? Why so long???

Just, it could have been worse, you will be ok hang in there

Sus if i lived in CT we would be partying all the time you know all the hot spots

Good evening Yardies, Congrats Quanna, you go and enjoy your man.

Thompson Yaay, I was sending you positive Orlando vibes all along we need to link up.

Ells, I am so happy for you when you come up for air let us know how everything is going.

I hope I didnt forget anyone but if I did Congratulations and Good luck.

I was reading from work and someone asked me if my fiance helps me around the house, am sorry I forgot who it was. The answer is yes, he does help me with cooking, dishes, and what he can but I am so ####### about washing clothes and some cleaning that I insist on doing that myself. I guess I do it to myself

Hey lovesponge how are you

Hey my2 I am doing good me and my boo are not talking so I had to come check up on VJ

Good evening Yardies, Congrats Quanna, you go and enjoy your man.

Thompson Yaay, I was sending you positive Orlando vibes all along we need to link up.

Ells, I am so happy for you when you come up for air let us know how everything is going.

I hope I didnt forget anyone but if I did Congratulations and Good luck.

I was reading from work and someone asked me if my fiance helps me around the house, am sorry I forgot who it was. The answer is yes, he does help me with cooking, dishes, and what he can but I am so ####### about washing clothes and some cleaning that I insist on doing that myself. I guess I do it to myself

Hey Yardie crew, My boo is watching the Magic game so I had some time to catch up. I have been reading a lot about being honest and adjustments and all so I decided to post what I been going through.

My boo has been here about a six weeks now and I love that he is here, I still believe that we are meant for each other and cant wait to walk down the aisle. BUT it has been anything but easy. The first week we got into a huge argument about my ex because he called me to wish me a happy mothers day. He is very jealous and kind of insecure. I dont think he trusts me %100 but he says otherwise. We are good most of the time and usually talk through our disagreements, but we we argue we ARGUE. I mean cussing, yelling and once he had to go outside to cool down.

The hardest part of the adjustment for me has been our different parenting styles with my daughter. She is 4 years old and kind of spoiled rotten thanks to mommy. She is my only child and even though I know its bad I basically give her anything she wants. When he came he was like ####### she is rude as hell (she is). I had to pray on this a lot because I knew he was right but somhow I felt like he has no right to tell me how to raise my child but then... oh yea he does he is gonna be my husband and the only father she has ever known. He is really good to her but he also lays down the law and does not play when she is being rude and wanting her own way.

Did I say I am tired as hell, I have never worked, cooked, cleaned, washed and take care of everyone like this my whole life.

Other than the adjustments, we are doing great. He has only been gone 3 hrs and I am missing him like crazy right now. I love coming home to him everyday from work, I love going grocery shopping, going to the mall, hanging out with family and doing every day things with my boo. Most of all I love sleeping next to him every night, and the sex is GREAT. even better than it was in JA lol. The thing I love about him is he is such a family man, he likes to watch movies together,hang out at the park and take my daughter outside to ride her bike. He gets so excited, he races with her. I just sit there and smile at them.

No relationship is easy it takes a lot of HARD work, patience, understanding, forgiveness and you have to really pray and stay close to GOD, only he can help make it work or get you out if its not working.

Good morning everyone ! Hope everyone has a wonderful friday.. My daughter is graduating from the 5th grade today..

Congrats my2 you must be so proud, is it middle school time?

hey love hows hubby?

1luv.totally know what ur saying..i didnt try to hide mine because we talked about it while he was in ja..all during making plans for the wedding and visiting and such..just be honest even his money cant make a dent in ur debt u must still be open with it..this also teaches them about credit and such..sorry babes..

Hey Kimmy, how are those pretty girls doing? Hubby is fine just bored as hell somtimes but he will get over it.

Good Evening Ladies, I miss you all

aww you have been missed as well

How you been my2?

VJ ladies I am typing with tears in my eyes. Hubby and I had a huge fight abt my finances. I am in a lot of debt and I tried to hide it from him. he found out. I dont feel that I should tell him abt them cuz they are NOT his debt. He says he cannot trust me cuz I hide these stuff from him. He cannot help me cuz I make way more than him.

What a coincidence that this happened cuz I see that u ladies are talking abt money and finances!

ETA: if there are any grammatical errors I am sorry. There are tears in my eyes

Girl, you need to start sharing the load. He is your HUSBAND, you share your life, heart, mind and soul with him, share the bad too. I know you have that stubborn streak that doesn't want to burden him, but your problems are also his. Don't take the chance for him to be there for you away from him. Now it's out in the open, you can move on from there girl...

I feel you 1luv I was kind of embarassed telling my boo about all my debt but it was worth it because he has taken it as his first priority to pay the credit cards off. It feels good to take some of the weight off my shoulder.

Good Evening Ladies, I miss you all

Hello Yardies !! ....

SUS : Welcome Back !!

ELLS : YAAAAAAAY !!! CONGRATULATIONS MY GIRL !! I HOPE YOUR HUBBY GETS TO COME HOME WITH YOU !!

Positives Vibes to UNRULY for her interview tomrrow !!

LOVESPONGE : Good to see everything is going well ! Ps. If u guys are ever down in Ft. Lauderdale..we should link up !

AS for me : I'VE BEEN ACCEPTED INTO NURSING SCHOOL and will be starting in august !!

Congrats Heaven, We was just down there last weekend for Memorial Day, we went to the Hard Rock Casino and loss our money