Ellsinlove

Morning Yardies:

Not having the best of days and no I don't want to talk about it. Going to listen more today. Maybe something someone says will help me.

I hope everyone has a blessed day though

If you do start to feel like it, you can PM me or IM me or whatever you know!

I'm here...got in late because I took Hubby to do his driving test. HE PASSED!!!!

Congrats to Mikel! I know it's such a help when they have their licenses!

you dont have any prepaid plans that are unlimited in your area..

We do, but they're $60 a month! Shoot, I don't even pay that much for my plan! That's what I pay now pre-tax to have him added to my plan. Anything more is just not in the budget right now.

Hey!! I'm all alone on here. I just read a few pages to catch up.

Thanks for the condolensces. It was my grand uncle who past away. He was 93. He lived his life to the fullest as determined by the creator. Of course family is sad but Uncle lived to see 93 which is a true blessing. In regards to some of our issues on here, he wouldve said " nuh worry urself. Everything criss."

Congrats Charandivan on receiving the AP & EAD in the mail.

MzMorgan, you two heading to JA already?! Go on w/your bad self heading back to yard so soon.

I too am guilty of the "big foot" club. I however describe my feet as being long. No fatness @ all on it. Just narrow & bony.

Dens, it will continue to get better. Try don't make telephone thing mash up unnu good thing. It irritates me when bill is ran up but I believe we deh pon d same level now.

Now to my big issue. Today while @ work I received a phone call from PayPal about some transactions. Purchases she spoke about had me like huh?!? Or better yet #######! She immediately put in an investigation & assured me $$ shall be returned. It was like $60 or a little more in purchases. Now I was annoyed but knew I myself would look into it further when home.

Called bank & noticed checking acct is in neg status. #######! Not my style. Now I'm even more pissed & have plans to be first one @ bank to look into this. Long story short, later that night my bank calls me. They just as PayPal see some weird activity. Some a*% made over $700 worth purchases on my damn bank card!! They even had audacity to go to apple.com & buy stuff. I'm so pissed. But I'm glad they have ppl @ the banks who look out for red flags like this. Lady cancelled my card which unlinks it from acct. Have you ever!?! So 2mmrw I have to go fill out some papers about all these erroneous purchases. I'm telling you these thiefs are really something else & dem ah tek it too far espclly since they robbing poor little old me. I'm glad it was noticed though. But I write down every deposit, withdrawal, purchase. Name it. I writes it down!!! So Mr. Techy wouldn't have depleted my acct w/o me knowing. Some damn nerves. I just hope every $$ is returned in a timely fashion b/c I need my $$$.

OK. I'm done venting. Talk to every1 2mmrw, that's only if I accomplish everything @ bank as I'm intending to.

I had more to respond to with this but forgot. However, my co-worker friend JUST came in to my office to tell me that she just had a few random transactions to her bank card (which she has never lost) that came to the amount of $600!! They used it at a Shell gas station, at a Walgreens & somewhere else. We can't figure out how someone could use a card that has never been lost or stolen. Perhaps someone is making counterfeits & generating random #s & having them manually keyed in when they shop. WTH?? Hope the bank remedies this for you ASAP!

Hey Yardies,

Ivan got his AP and EAD in the mail yesterday!! He screamed when he opened the letter because its feels like we have been waiting forever.

I had to chime in on the phone discussion because we just had this same issue last week. He called a girl that he used to talk to that lives in the area. His goal was to link the girl up with one of his friends back in JA. The day that he spoke with her, she asked him if his wife approved of them talking. He later that day asked if I would mind being her friend and them talking. And I'm like "For what?". Why would I want to be her friend? He then later tells me that he is trying to link her with his friend. I'm sitting here thinking what kind of chick would date you, then date your friend. I just thought the suggestion was crazy. Two days later I see that she has called two days in a row and the conversations are lasting way too long. So of course, I asked him about it. Long story short, we had a long discussion about and we called her to confirm their conversation. She was really cool and respectful of our relationship. She even told me that she was concerned that I would not be ok with them talking and asked him about it. The bottom line is that I don't feel like there is a reason for my man to communicate with previous chicks. She is in the past for a reason. He didn't really understand why I wasn't feeling it. But I just think its disrespectful. Not to mention, everyone is not respectful of your relationship and many people can't stand to see you happy, so they cause drama because they are unhappy. My point is don't open the door for potential drama when you don't have to. People are in your past for a reason, so that is where they need to stay. I admit I check my phone bills, but hubby knew that I was somewhat insecure based on past relationships and knew that it was his burden to prove that he was different. I feel like you have to do what's best for your relationship and express when you are unhappy with something. Otherwise, they will assume that its ok. As far as BM, I don't have a problem with that. I feel like its appropriate to converse with them whenever necessary because I do the same with my BF. I call to let him know how her day went, if she got in trouble, etc..And she is 7 years old. I think both parents should be fully involved in their child's life, even if they are not together. And whatever it takes to raise that child has to be done. As long as both parents are respectful of the significant others. Just my 2 cents...

Congrats Char & Ivan!

Very good points all around but I really agree with why open that door?

I agree with you ladies and if I were in your shoes, id probably feel the same.. cept my hubby pays his own bill and we are on different plans... so im not going looking for nothing because if it comes out he is talking to someone else I will approach it and if something should happen in our relationship where he feels like this aint working, I guess he better start making his way back to JA. Certain things I just aint tolerating.... Everyone dont have to agree, its just me!

I'm right there with ya mi fren!

On another note, We received hard copies of our NOA's today in the mail onward bounddddddddddddd!!!

Congrats Tee!

We all have different views/opinions of what marriage should be and should not be. As you can see, Im not the babying, coddling type.. If you want to be treated like a man, you just need to act as such. I love teaching, helping, showing, but somethings you have to stand up and do it for yourself. I believe in independence when necessary.

Only you yourself can gauge what type of marriage/relationship you want through communication. That's the key!

I couldn't agree more with all of this!

Afternoon Yardies!

I have a bunch to reply to but I'm feeling some urgency that I just need to put some business out here first. I may need to be talked down off the ledge so to speak today. I'm gonna preface by stating that I'm not distraught, not very upset, nothing....just sort of matter-of-fact about what I'm feeling right now. I'm not going to jump to any conclusions or decisions but I'm definitely mulling things over. So here it is:

My hubby is a chronic liar. Since we have lived together full-time since he arrived here, all of the lying has become more apparent. He lies about the smallest of things at times & although I don't necessary think (or want to accuse him) he's cheating, he's behaved in ways that are suspect & it's really coming to light now that he's on my cell phone plan & I can monitor things. I really don't want to go into detail cause it would be too long but basically, I've caught him in lies all along but have a specific incident on Saturday that I was able to directly call him on a lie because I could see the phone log. He received a call while we were out Saturday & I could hear it was a pretty basic (albeit short) conversation with a female. He said he'd give a call later & the response was like this (with a high-pitched very feminine voice), "Oookaaaaaaaay byyyyyyyyyyeeeeee!" After I asked who it was he tried to pass it off like it was a 'new person' at his school who is a tranny (we have many around here so it is conceivable). Well, checking the phone log this morning I saw that it was the same friend who is in his 'soccer gang' who is supposedly a girlfriend of one of his guy friends. I've called him on this before but I don't have a problem with him having female friends as long as they respect our marriage so I just let it go at that time. He tries to tell me that his friend (whose girlfriend he talks to) doesn't have his own phone (YEAH RIGHT!) so he always uses his girlfriend's phone (is this making any sense??). Well, WHATEVER. I haven't met these friends yet but I'm going to for sure now....who cares if they're young & will ridicule him about his fat, old wife. I'm also going to start answering the house phone now. I used to leave that to him cause it was always for him but now I'm going to make my presence KNOWN!

But the real problem is, he just plain lies...about his phone calls, about his friends, about random ish around the house, etc. etc. etc. I'm nearly ready to file for divorce. We've had this discussion on several occasions that he has a lying problem & I told him if he doesn't change that, I will never be able to trust him. If I can't trust him about the little things, how will I trust him when the big issues arise?? Again, I'm not distressed or depressed, I'm not all that angry, I'm just feeling exhausted with this all. Also, lately he's been slacking (again) with helping me out around the house, etc. & frankly, I'm tired of doing everything I always did for myself & now for one more person on top of it. I'll defer to the Madea quote now, "I can do bad ALL BY MYSELF!" Anyway, we may seek counseling although he doesn't want to go or we may try other things but I've been scouring this web site about lying in relationships http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ & I'm not really sure compulsive/chronic liars can be 'cured'. I know I can't live with that....to me that is a seriously fatal flaw. I'm by no means perfect but if there's one thing I am, it's HONEST. I've been honest to him about everything & he is not returning the favor. Well, WHEW....just writing this out felt much better! I'm ready for any responses....don't temper your responses, if I wanted to be coddled or told the easy stuff, I wouldn't have put this out there.

Anyone on FB who hasn't seen my pics from yesterday yet should go look...it's pretty amusing! Jamerican did a REALLY REALLY nice thing.

On another note, Lehi got his first credit card the other day. We haven't used it yet but we will just to get it going & so he can start to establish a credit rating in case some day we should ever try to get a home loan. We're with B of A & when I signed him up right after we got married & he had his SSN, the rep told us he could probably get a student Visa any time when we decided to try it. Since he has his City College ID because that's where he is taking his ESL classes, he qualifies for Campus checking & for a student credit card. I'd put him as an authorized user several months ago on my Target Visa which only has a $200 limit so I figured that would be safe since no matter what happened, he could not do much damage with such a low limit. A couple times since, if we ate at a restaurant, I'd pull out his credit card (in my possession for the time being) & have him sign for the bill. Well, that might've helped him get in the 'system' because we went into a branch last week & within 5 minutes he was approved for his own card with a decent interest rate, no annual fee & a $700 credit limit! Not bad for a first card! It may sound controlling BUT, this card will also stay in my possession & we'll use it on occasion & I will promptly pay it off. I just want to get him started for when the day comes when they'll look at both our credit scores.

gurl nat done made a spreadsheet, she waiting for us...lmao

You lef har alone tuh!

where is finesse, she the one started all this "ho"

I thought it was 1luv who got us chatting when she told us bout her wild sexy party last night! Of course, Nessy would be the next likely culprit!

Ladies mi tink we gwaan ave ta ave classes fi Luv.. She needs us

Ooh did anyone warn Nat to be careful reading you know dis all might be a likkle too much fi har..

Lef Nat alone!

You told us your weight. No skinny people are allowed to mention der weight on here..

Okay, I wasn't sure either but yeah, that's right....talkin' bout 110 lbs. Shoot, I think one of my LEGS weighs 110!

Aww Dills (((hugs))). Dat is o.k. you don’t have to be the upbeat wife all the time. It might be best to take a chill pill and maybe something will fall pon his head and make him think back.

Just tink one year down and a zillion ta go!

I think you should sit in the bed with your strawberries and glass of champagne and sip and eat dem. When he ask what‘s that for say they were for you until you pissed me off so now me nyam dem myself…

Give him something to do like looking for jobs himself show him how.. these dyaam men need busy work to keep their minds occupied... Steve is cool calm and collected. I even told him I was going to show him how to go on craigslist and things like that. He takes walks, long ones, we leave near Chester so my son takes him all over the place. He hasn't made not one friend yet But he is a trooper!

Does Mikel know how to drive? Does he have his license yet?

Awww, Steve! I know it's so hard for these guys coming here & having to start all over again. He'll find friends, it just takes a while. Lehi is still looking for that one really good friend like he had back home. It still took him several months before he met the friends he has now & plays soccer with sometimes.

1 luv..i love to role play and push the envelope, i sometimes tell him to do things and im thinking.. "does he think im crazy" ..so far no complaints LOL.. my ex used to ask me where did i get all this stuff cuz i HATE pornos.. i would be like.. well i wasn't blessed in the kitchen..God had to bless me somewhere else

It's more then that. You just have to be confident.

Go to Barnes and Noble and find the book......365 positions....1 a day. Forget the exact name of it. There is a whole section of tame yet sex filled books. It's not perfect....they are missing some

mi like dat one too

I had to yell 'RAPE' last night....I was laughing at the same time though!

Ive actually been keeping a little diary for my Steve and will present it to him for his birthday (July 5th) It's gonna be a scrapbook project for me. Im trying to have a bbq out in the park for him since its so close to a holiday. He is getting a red, white, and blue cake weather he likes it or not (lol) gonna get my best friend who is a pastry chef to hook it up for him. I just love her cakes.. She has a FB page with her cakes on it. Ive saved everything, the first trip we took together, his first basketball game, his first movie, his first hotel stay, which was the day he arrived. His first trip to the poconos for our honeymoon. Im mapping out the whole immigration process he has gone thru....All that stuff..

My case was "touched" April 7th yippee

That's really sweet Mrstee! I'm not so good with certain things like that...I wish I were sometimes. I'm very sentimental but I don't keep track of things except for taking a lot of pictures.

Hope that 'touch' means things are moving along!

Wow MrsTee that is so sweet of you. To be honest with you all we are going through a pretty rough time right now. Don't really want to go into a lot of details but not having a job is causing MAJOR stress in our house. So I don't know how he is feeling today as I am not talking to him. Hope he is spending the day reflecting on what a great year it has been and not focus on the negative point of not working. I was going to have a little celebration with chocolate covered strawberries and some champagne but I don't really feel like it now.

Oh Dills, I really feel you! We are going through a very similar ordeal right now. Lehi is stressing over not working no matter how many trillions of times I tell him that right now, getting his education & learning to read are the most important things to me. He just really doesn't like that he doesn't have any spending money & that sometimes things are tight for us. He gets so broody over it & a lot of times says "life sucks" which makes me feel bad because I'm doing the best I can to give him the best possible & show him places & things. It makes him seem really ungrateful even though when he says that that's not how he's intending it. We definitely have our good & bad days a plenty lately.

Congrats to Mikel's 1 year here anniversary though & I hope you celebrate a little even though you don't really feel like it (& I don't really blame you).

Chile, It felt soooo good. Sorry to hear you're not feeling so upbeat today. Situation so as these is usually so stressful for both parties. One party is always stretched to the limit while the other feels dependent and helpless. Things will get better you both just hang in there and be a good support system for each other and everything will be alright.

I think you should still have your little celebration as I'm sure it will lift both your spirits( If even for a couple hours).

Well said!

I may still do it. I am just tired of being the one to put my pride aside to smooth things over. Especially since I am not the one stirring the $hit up and my feelings are the ones constantly being hurt.

I feel ya....I SOOO feel ya! We are practically paddling in the same boat right now.

Most of the time Marley takes a shower every day but in the winter I let her go every other day because she has really bad eczema and it is worse in the winter. Jazz takes a shower every night and if his Dad had his way he would take one every morning as well. We just don't have time in the morning with getting ready for school. This time of year they are outside playing a lot and when they come in the smell like a wet dog so in the shower they go.

Oh and good morning yardies!!!

Today Mikel has been here 1 year. Boy time has flown by.

My eczema has been acting up a lot this year too...maybe I shouldn't shower every day. I can't do it though...girl parts need scrubbing every morning or I just can't leave the house.

I say this with my head down. Last week my kids were on spring break. It was Sunday by the time I realized I haven’t seen them take a bath since Thursday.

I was sitting on the computa when I seen my six year old going out side to play and I’m like wait I didn’t hear her ask me to turn on the shower for her. Then I started thinking like damn I didn’t do it yesterday either and then I was like wait Friday??? No. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks OMG Thursday. Ewwww I ran and called there butts in from outside and cursed them for not washing. They said well mom you didn’t run the water or tell us to get in the shower. I told them well you should have reminded me. When they got in the shower I came behind them and scrubbed them good. I bet they won’t forget to remind me anymore.

So I guess my answer is almost four days. Since then I’ve been calling my pickneys “ Peppi Lapu”

Cracking up at you saying this 'with your head down'. That's not so bad really. It was on the 4th day & it doesn't happen often so I don't think anything of that.

Thanks Mo, we don't have differences about too many things. I was literally in shock we I first talked to his mom and found out im only 1 year younger than her and all my brother and sister in laws are under the age of 19, which is the same age as my son! lol

Lehi's Mom is only a few years older than me too. We have a 10 year age difference. I'm 37 & his Mom is around 40 or so I think. Kinda strange but it's cool. It's not an issue for us but sometimes I do make jokes....when he talks about how cute I was when I was a teenager & says I wouldn't want him then, I say, "YEAH, because you were SEVEN!"

Some tips from the coupon mom book, and I'm not even finished the book:

1) Buy the cheapest ground beef, even if it is more fatty. Just rinse off the extra fat after browning. (In my HEB, the difference is like $1.79 compared to $3.49/lb for extra lean.)

2) Combine store coupons with manufacturer's coupons. (I'm buying someone Crest Whitestrips. I have a $10 Target coupon & a $10 manufacturer's coupon. )

3) Shop at drugstores, but be sure to combine their sales with coupons and with their rewards programs. (Stride gum is on sale for 99cents @ CVS, with a 99cent extra buck reward good on next purchase. Plus I have a coupon for the gum.)

Bonus: If you don't think you'll be back soon to use the Extra Buck Rewards, split your purchase into 2: first buy all items that come with EB rewards, then buy all other items USING the EB rewards

4) Buy seasonings in the bulk department of an organics store. (I already knew about this. I think I showed you my pictures of seasonings that averaged 40 cents/small jar)

Dang, Nat! When you decide to do something you sure DO IT! We gave you a few tips & you just took off running with it....now you're giving us tips!

Good Morning Yardies Im just stopping by to let you all know that Garfields EAD & Ap was APPROVED. EAD Card Production was ordeded on the 7th. Thank You all for you continued support

Congrats LadyC & Garfiend!

JG, I wouldn't let my child go a day without taking a shower. Those little sticky things be out playing and running around and #######. Oh no.. Get your azz in the shower.

I am sure my honey is all caught up tho, so will ask him to give me a recap

Tell me about it TAM that is exactly why I am not letting go. My Neighbor Mrs Bootsy had her 41st year anniversary last night and it made mi yeyes dem watah cause TRUE love is so beautiful. I pray that God allows me to be blessed with my Husband for the rest of my life!

Awww, Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs Bootsy! (The lovey kitty smiley is oddly appropriate!)

Girl Roc been linking me phone like crazy. Yes I had the threats dat I’m going to see the real him if I come back and go to Negril blah blah blah. Tell it to me last May when yuh dashed away. Now get out mi face!!!

Dats RIGHT Dada!!

Yep thats nice

mine says JAM8KAN does that make sense? its corny but I like it

Oh, I like that too!

Wait he's calling JA?? Oh I thought it was his friends here he met at school.

No, you're right....just local calls but running through the minutes like there's no tomorrow.

I'm over here scrubbing the ground in my office. I just got 3 e-mails/text messages. We're one step closer in this Visa journey!!!

Yay Dens! Almost there now!

Dillon you are so right, that is a huge step IMO and have to consider the other parties feelings that they are gonna miss the heck out of you when yuh gone!

Dills we must be the only couple who are attached at the hip. I don't need any time alone time at work is enough for me and when I'm gone is enough for him. I can't imagine leaving the country getting on a plane without my Husband for th sale of fun, God forbid something happened and I was never to return? All that aside I don't want to travel alone or with girfriends without him, I did that enough when I was single I love my Husband and want to spend every moment and share every experience I can with him. I understand there are certain instances where there is a need to travel alone, family emergencies and such, but just cause I need a vacation Nuh Suh not without my Man.

Now I know you Ladies prolly aint feeling this but its my feelings and I am keeping it real.

I'd have to say that 90% of the time I feel just like you Philly...that other 10% is usually just when I'm pissed off at him & need some space. Our place is so small that there's no getting away from eachother really. All of my girlfriends have left SF so I don't have anyone close by to escape to. Most of the time though, I really look forward to seeing him at the end of the work day. He must miss me too cause if we had the minutes, he'd be calling me 20 times a day.

This has become hubby's favorite line as of lately. however, he uses it as a response to everything....i'll say "what do you want to do tonight?" and he'll say "it's all good".....i'm like babe that doesnt really make sense ................maybe its his way of ignoring me but pretending to be listening

Lehi has a similar but different way of ignoring me & pretending to listen...his is a dead giveaway though, "yeah yeah". Ticks me off every time!

You spent all this money on these punk Mf ers and they cant go to Mo bay to pick up your daughters medical. I told him if the medical is not picked up ####### is the point going to the interview. but i bet they can find a way to get to Ochi to get these clothes and shoes.

Aint that about a b*tch

I will boom everyone azz tonight if they dont get it together i swear to Jesus

I'd be HOT too over that ish! Like Philly says, hotter than fish grease!

TF yall I posted my job stuff on here :rofl: Im doing to much hit yall back when I am done.

It's like you just 'chipped out' for a sec.

Sorry Philly... I didnt see your reply yesterday. I think I lost a couple pages... lost my place.

It has to be max 7 letters/numbers and can include a space.

Rasta 4 life would be nice... but if Louis gets to drive cant do luv my rasta!! LOL!

RSTA4LF ... Does that make sense?

I like that....or you could try RAS4LYF.

Ells you don't have unlimited??

Unlimited only before 7 a.m./ after 9 p.m. & on weekends. We only have 550 anytime minutes...AT&T kinda sucks but I've been with them for 10 years. I've researched Sprint, Verizon, Metro, etc. & they don't seem to be much more competitive....then when I read how the service is in our area, I get mixed reviews for every company.

I am rrrooooollllliiiinnnngggg !!! No you didn’t say Lesheka!!!!

Yeah I did!

Girl hubby Boom

Aint said one word to me since Easter.

Im going to Jamaica and he is pissed

How the hel! you mad at me and im going to Jamaica for your daughter, but since you did not help pay for my ticket you cannot dictate how long I stay. If it was your money I would go and come back because I would be going for business but since my money paid and you did not offer, im staying for 6 days with my girls.

####### oh well, yall cant no one take my joy today no one!!!!!!

Im working like a Hebrew slave today at work because tomorrow is our Accreditation and Im going to be in Jamaica, hel!!!!!! yeah,

I know this subject is closed already & JQ is handling some business & about to enjoy herself but, I have to agree with her on this. I totally understand how he feels being left behind but at the same time it's unreasonable to expect her to go there just for business & get upset when she wants to mix in some pleasure too. It does sound like a little jealousy & maybe some insecurity but he'll need to trust that she's just having fun with the girls & working on bringing his daughter home.

Anyway, I learned that I feel the same way about lox as I do about sushi: if I eat more than very little, I feel sick.

The only way sushi makes me feel sick is if I eat so much I ram mi belly & hurt after. I LOVE sushi & so does Lehi now....we can eat the darn out of it....& drink that sake like nobody's business! We went last week & ordered two of the small bottles of cold silk sake & the waiter suggested one was enough....CHA!! Between us we went through 3 & stopped ourselves! LOL!!

hey ells..hailing u up cuz i never see u lol

Hi Q!!

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Okay, funny work story from yesterday:

My co-worker/saboteur friend was going around giving out red velvet cupcakes & of course I couldn't resist so I took one. Then she went on her way to go give the rest of them out. About an hour later, we head down to the cafeteria together to get a drink & while waiting for the elevator, one of the area supervisors comes around the corner to head to the men's room (they're right by the elevator lobby) & he says to my friend, "My cupcake went right here!" & proceeded to point to his a$$. We laughed & I was thinking he was making a female-type joke about how anything we eat ends up on the hips or butt. Well, turns out, she had put the cupcake on his desk & for whatever reason, he moved it to his chair....he forgot about it being there & a bit later sat down on it! So he was quite literal when he meant the cupcake ended up on his a$$!! Then he showed us where he'd had to go clean off his drawers & you could still see a little stain!

Im doing good thank you. I decided to go to sleep last night with no pain meds and I slept pretty good. The machine they put me on yesterday to stretch my neck did wonders.

Im leaving work an hour early to go to see the hand specialist to see why I keep having so much pain in my pinky!

I'm glad your neck is feeling better. Hope that keeps up! As we know from Jawi, those neck injuries are no joke!

LOL Yes I am a COUGAR... dyaam proud too! hahahaha.. There is a 16 year age difference between hubby and I.. He will be 24 and I will be 40 this year! Hot dyaam! I STILL got it! And for those who want to say Im like Stella trying to get my groove back, well I proudly tell them "I aint neva lost it"

Just to let everyone know Trelawny asked me to tell everyone hello for her. Finesse she specifically said to you that she is trying to get better.

She is really feeling it right now! I think we need to send her words of encouragement right now....VJ sistern its time for us to have a massive prayer link for her!!!!

Dear Lord we pray today that momma Irie find a companion Jesus.

Instead of a boyfriend, pray for God to place her in a position to be open to the right person and to put her in a place to be able to find him.

Dont let him come on to strong Jesus because she will BOOM him

Instead of a better social life, pray to be a more accepting soul and an accepting person so that more people want to be around her for companion purposes. But not to nice because we dont want to attract the wrong men.

We ask this in your mighty Name

Amen

That part made me

my hubby said thank you and we left he never said congrats or welcome to the US but i took his statement as an APPROVAL AND BY GOD IT WAS our interview was on Friday and my hubby's visa was issued on Monday and available for pick up on Tuesday afternoon was picked up Wednesday and we left Thursday GOD IS TRULY AMAZING!!

Excellent Sheka! Boy, I bet you two were sweatin just a lil bit until the very end there. And he got the visa in record time! Thank God!

Sorry to hear that Ells. I think we all have our moments where we for a quick second...the thought crosses our minds. Hoping this will pass soon and you will decide to keep him here!

Thanks Dens! Yeah, I decided he can stay....sometimes I'd like to send him off for a good long while & let him see what he'd be missing though!

Great name for your alter ego.. She now we got a Lesheka, Rashida and Nique1!!!! hahahahaha... see our husbands did this to us!!!

Yuhseeit!

Ells LOL @ Lehi wid yuh shake me up, I think that is all he needed a lil shakin LOL

I feel you on the vacay but ruh roh say it aint so yuh goin alone?

Ooh Mrs Bootsy is callin me let me see what she is doing outta door soon come

Yeah, he's a little scared now but I'm okay with that. When we have more than my income, maybe we can discuss getting a more expensive plan with more minutes. But for now, it's mostly for emergency & checking in.

I'd probably miss him like crazy if I went on vacation without him but some days I just feel like getting away & having time for myself.

Ells, do you think his chatting will slow down once he's working? I'm counting on that & looking forward to reducing our minutes.

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I got home from work today to find the apt cleaned, dinner cooked, and a bubble bath awaiting. I LOVE my husband.

I think it will slow down....he won't have time to constantly be answering every little call. Just like it slowed down when he started going to school every day.

Awww, go Steven! That was really sweet.

Besa, my mom sent two seperate money orders and she got her receipt letter yesterday...

Ladies, when your men went to the k-1 interview, I'm surentheybgot this paper saying that they should register for selective services (or something like that) as soon as they enter the country or else there'll be a fine. Did y'all let your men register? I didn't...

We didn't get any such paper but I'm guessing it's because he was 26 at the time & over the 18 - 25 age requirement.

I HATE getting up this early (unless it's to leave the country for a vacation).

You & me both mi fren!

Afternoon Yardies!

Okay, I'm gonna be replying from yesterday since I just couldn't catch up.

But real quick:

Oh Boy, sounds like my youngest son he is the same way on the phone, and it's like it doesn't even ring for me anymore!

Ells girl him truly chat too much, I don't even know what to say cause I see your rationality about adding him its definitley cheaper. When yuh talk to him abou the limits and charges what he say?

I just checked the usage today to see how we are doing & when I told him what was up he responded, "ok" & "now you shake me up so now I'm gonna do betta". We shall see.

On another note, I realized the other day that I haven't had a 'real' vacation in nearly 10 months (since the last trip to JA to bring Lehi home). Since I started travelling in '07, I haven't gone so long without some kind of getaway (usually to JA) & I'm feeling a bit stir crazy. I need a vacation....& alone I think.

well now..... hmph Lehi you messin up..

If this keeps up, he's going to see Lesheka come out!

He has been in his interview for 25 minutes now. I am sitting out in the car.

Wishing him lots of luck!

Only 1 hour in a week? Wow! He talks so little. I bumped our shared plan from 750 shared to 1500 shared one month, once I realized we were at about 1300.

Oh no, not just an hour. He talks CONSTANTLY on the landline! If we didn't turn the ringer off sometimes, every night it would be ringing every 5 minutes. It's very disruptive & annoying. Sometimes I think I married a frikkin teenager!

Oh No LOL Ells yuh sound heated Sis, breathe Woosaaaahhhh, if he is a big talker maybe you can get him a prepaid instead so he has to adhere to the time limits.

We tried the prepaid...TWICE! With AT&T the 1st time & his Dad got him Verizon the 2nd time with the promise of keeping his minutes going for him....well, apparently even his Dad got tired of how quickly he went through it because he stopped offering & then Lehi started begging him, then his Mom & then me. I told him I stopped the pre-paid for a reason & if his Dad wanted to keep up with it, that was between the two of them. I'm not spending my limited funds & breaking the budget for him to go through $50/mo in phone charges. I decided to add him to my plan finally since it will only be about $20 more to do so. But, he is not sticking with the agreement that it's mostly for emergency or 'check in' calls except for when it's unlimited on nights/weekends. This guy just doesn't get it that we don't have it like that right now.

me to Ells lol

I tell ya! I just put him on my wireless plan on the 31st & already he's ran up an hour of talk time....& on BS chupid calls from his little friends. Do they really have to talk to eachother 10 times a day?? And for a minute at a time?? I told him if he goes over our 500 minutes that I'm taking the phone back & sending his rass back to JA! I'm not paying 45 cents/min for stupid social calls. I've only used 4 anytime minutes since the 25th!!!

That is just one thing I'm irritated about....but of course, it could be getting close to Auntie's monthly visit so....