Chelle62

Hellooo everyone, I am so sorry that I havent been able to reply, We have two computers but the monitor broke on mine and on his for some strange reason it wont let me reply or post in here but thankfully my soon to be brother in law found me a monitor so here I am !!!

Welcome to everyone and I so look forward to continueing on this page.

Hey Beans, I am returning to maine on the 1st of december, I will be staying with my oldest daughter for a few weeks while looking for a full time job and a place to live. I will also be living in the Hampden /Bangor area woooot. we need to keep in touch so that when you get here we can meet.

We all need to meet in the summer time. Maine is beautiful then esp. on the coast. It will be so nice to get together and relax and have all of this behind us and have our loves with us

Lets tell a little more about ourselves so that we know more

I am 46 years old, a mother of 3 daughters ages 29, 16. and 14, I am a grandmother to two little boys ages 8 and 6 .. I am so in love with my man and pray that everything works out and that we will be done with this stuff for a while very soon. We are still waiting on the NOA2 but am in hopes to get that this month. time will tell. Not much left to tell lol... ok comon you guys tell me about youuuu

Chelle

I have no hurry getting my noa2. we talked more about it today n my guy wants to make sure all his debts are paid off n save up a bit for when he moves here. so even after we get approved, he probly wont move here right away. will take the full 6 months to come here. so I may be looking at a full year. how do i deal with that? i'm angry n sad. i cant wait that long. i dont want to lose 6 months of our lives together over money! wat do i do? i just want to cry

Hi PB&JAM,

I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same situration almost. I came to England to be with my guy back in June of this year. Our plans had gotten so messed up before from a bad choice that he had made while in america and he wanted to fix it so brought me and my daughter here to be with him during the process.

Last week, he informs me that he isnt comeing home until his debts are paid in full. He owes his family quite a bit of money due to helping us out when I got here , finding a place to live etc. I just looked at him and didnt say a word but the tears instantly came because I thought to myself here we go again, another excuse! He then told me that he was planning on sending me home 2 weeks early so that he could give up the apartment, move in with his parents, get a second job and pay them off. He says he will then come home to me but it might be the entire 6 months before he can do this. I am so angry, upset, hurt and very defensive at this point.

The way I look at this is , we love each other, we have made a commitment to be as one for the rest of our lives. I dont need a piece of paper to tell me I am his wife cause I feel it in my heart. We call each other husband and wife and have for a long time. I always thought when you love someone you stick it out, you fight together to make ends meet you dont run away and do it on your own. I feel that money is coming between us and maybe it is cause in the long run he is missing the things he use to have , he says no but I see it everytime he sees his family get something new and he just cant afford it. Yes its been a struggle while I have been here and yes we have had days when food was a wonder how we gonna get it but we always do and we always make it. For me to be able to hold him and love him is worth more then any amount of money. I guess I am a fool to feel that way but after living my life with a abusive man , being with such a warm loving man is worth the world to me.

I have cried my eyes out for weeks now since he told me all of this and he says I dont understand and NO I dont understand. anyways he phoned the airlines and it is going to cost way to much to send me home so we are going with the original date of dec 1st. I will then return to america, stay with my daughter for a few weeks, find a full time job as the one I have there now is only part time but I cant raise my girls on that income alone. Then I will find a place for me and my girls and hope and pray that he loves me enough to return to me when he can. I have no other choice but to do this because he says he is doing this for my own good. Umm when did he get the right to decide what was for my own good? oh well life is life

So I do understand how you feel, I do feel the same way.. Money is more iimportant then me? Money is going to keep me and him apart but as he said its the best thing for me.

I hope your guy wakes up and realizes that there is other options and rushes home into your arms as soon as he can. My brit is to damn stubborn and cant see it , I told him to remember the pain of us being apart and to remember how it feels to look at me through a computer screen. I can only hope that he misses me so much that he will rush home then too.

God bless you

Chelle

Hello from Southern Maine,

There is another user in my Portal that lives less then a mile from me. I have also seen a picture of a couple by the Old Orhard Beach board walk.

Welcome!

Hiya from southern maine and welcome to this topic .... I wonder if that was meeeee by the old orchard beach board walk as that is where my guy proposed to me... Tell us your story as it is so much fun to hear about it...

Where abouts in southern maine are you?

Oh this is getting good lets keep it up !!

Chelle

OK now that we have a couple of people here from the great state of Maine I will tell my story and wait anxiously to hear yours

Keith and I met on a game called Second Life.. fantastic place by the way .. We met on Dec. 15,2006. We started spending all of our time together and became best of friends. I was going through alot in my real life and second life was my escape. I never expected to find such a great person in there and I am blessed that I did.

In the game we got married on feb. 10,2007. If you dont know the game it is fantastic and a good way to spend time with your love. In the game you build a avator .. she or he can look how ever you want them to.. They move around, you can shop in really neat stores and buy clothes, build a house, furnish it.. not like the sims game this is so different. You can go dancing.. you jump on a pose ball and so does he and you waltz together. You can get dressed up in formal gowns and him in a tux and spend the evening together at a club. Its really great... This is where Keith and I spent all of our time apart. We would go on picnics, go to the movies, go dancing or just lay on the bed and hold each other.. I know this probally sounds crazy but until you check it out you wont understand. ANYWAYS

So my life was a mess, Keith gave me the support that I needed and a shoulder to cry on. As each day went by the strength in me began to grow and I was ready to move on in my life. Soo I got a place for me and my girls with Keiths help... He lent me the money to make this move. After the move he mentioned that he might make a trip to see me and of course I said yessss. When he arrived it was so real, when I looked into them gorgeous blue eyes I knew that I loved him, not only did I have the greatest friend ever I had more feelings for him then I thought and he felt the same way.

We spent to wonderful weeks together. site seeing, we went to Bangor , to Bar Harbor , Camden, Rockland and on and on lol. It was fab ... then came the day that he had to return back to the uk.. I went with him to the airport in Bangor and we sat there together for a couple of hours. He held me in his arms the entire time and I tried not to cry as I had promised him I wouldnt. When they called his flight, I tried to stay strong.. we walked up to the gate, he held me close and he told me he loved me but it was time for him to go... it was like in a movie.. I kissed him goodbye , told him I loved him too and then with us still holding hands I turned away and walked and our hands slipped apart. I never looked back as I was crying so hard , I ran to my car and there I sat for over a hour crying my eyes out as I knew he was the man of my dreams. I wondered if it was just a 2 week thing or if he would be back.

Well almost 2 months later we met in boston for a weekend. We had a great time and he came back to Maine with me for 3 weeks. On the way back we stopped at Old Orchard Beach and he got down on one knee and proposed to me, I said yes and he slipped a beautiful diamond onto my finger

then the 3 weeks was up and he had to leave again. This time it really wasnt so hard because I knew in my heart he would be back.

In august of 07 Keith came back to Maine and stayed with me for almost 9 months. We was to be married but something happened and he returned back to the uk... this giving him a overstay of 170 days. Making it hard for him to return to me in Maine soo he invited us to join him in the UK while the paperwork is being done.

Our return date is Dec.1 and I pray that the paperwork is done so that he can fly home with us. If not then we will figure it all out when that time comes.

We have had our ups and downs and it seems like this journey has been such a struggle but at the end of the day we love each other and we will get through this and when we are old and gray and sitting on the front porch , in our rocking chairs , looking out over the ocean we will both say ,, we made it baby and know that we did the right thing..

Dont ever give up hope.. I did once but will not do it again.

Ok soooo tell me your story ))

Chelle

Hi everyone, I did do a search and didnt find anything on Maine so if there is and I missed it please let me know. I thought it would be fun to start a thread of us men and women that live in Maine waiting for our k1 or k3 visas to do it together. Also I think it would be fun to hear everyones story .. like how you met, something special about your love etc. Hope to hear from some of you Mainiacs soon...

ChelleKeith

Hi Chelle

I am from Maine and my fiancee is from the UK. We are waiting for his interview date and I have to say are feeling a bit anxious. He will be coming here to live ...as long as we are approved. I'm a new to the site so plz forgive if I'm not up to par as far as timelines and all that. It's great to see someone else from Maine on here.

Jan

Hi Jan, Yayyy another mainer.. where abouts are you? I am from the Belfast area. I am in the UK right now with Keith and have been here for almost 4 months. I do miss home though but its not what I had there its the Ocean. I lived right on the ocean and I love to hear the waves, and to feel that fresh sea air. Its my favorite place to be.

When did you start your fiance journey... The time line thingy isnt really that hard but we can help ya if you need it... good luck and post back often so us maine gals and guys can go through this together.

Good idea Chelle. I was happy to find another person from Maine here, and it would be great to know others. At work so I can't write much now, I will later.

BTW....how's things?

Hiya Sherri,

Things are going ok.. still have the issue of a cosponsor as my boss backed out on us yesterday. I am going to stay positive about it though and believe that everything will work out ok in the end. I am not going to give up as I love my sexy brit and will do whatever it takes for us to have our life together. How are you girl? I am sure you are missing matt and I know that feeling. Be strong and before you know it all this will be in the past. We will have to get together when its all over and go out and celebrate

Please advice me on what to do. I need to travel urgently as my dad passed away yesterday. MY I751 is pending in VSC and I need to get a stamp on my passport just to be on the safe side when coming back. I tried making an infopass appointment and the only date available is oct. 14. Can I just go in tomorrow with the appointment letter for the 14th and plead with them to stamp my passport. My dads funeral is on Friday next week and I hope to travel next week at least by Tuesday. Please advice.Thank you

Stamp it for what? You want special treatment some how? Should have applied for AP with AOS, just in case of such an emergency. You can still file for AP. There are protocols in place for you to travel now and apply for AP while you're out of the country. Check it out.

WOW !!! and you call that support? Dont be so mean...

Please advice me on what to do. I need to travel urgently as my dad passed away yesterday. MY I751 is pending in VSC and I need to get a stamp on my passport just to be on the safe side when coming back. I tried making an infopass appointment and the only date available is oct. 14. Can I just go in tomorrow with the appointment letter for the 14th and plead with them to stamp my passport. My dads funeral is on Friday next week and I hope to travel next week at least by Tuesday. Please advice.

Thank you

I am sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers and I hope you get things sorted so that you can be there for the funeral

Hugs

Chelle

We met online at a game called Second Life. In the game you make a avi and I was gorgeous hehe... His avi was different from all the rest of the guys on there.. I was shopping for boots for a event and went to a store and he was there.. I noticed him instantly but was to shy to speak to him. He walked by me and almost bumped into me and typed in open chat sorry I said np and walked away.. then something told me to message him and say hello, couldnt hurt anything so I turned around to click on his avi and he was gone. A few minutes later I remembered he had spoke to me so looked in chat history found his name and messaged him and we have been together ever since. In the game we got married on feb 10,2007. Its a great game and I think it would be fun for alot of you that are away from each other. Its hard to explain how it works but there you can dance together , get married, do lots of things together, dont laugh , just check it out. It kept us sane while apart as if you put your mind into it , you can feel like your really together

We met in real the first time when I picked him up at the Bangor Airport in Maine

PS.. if your interested in the game send me a pm and I will help you get set up when you get in there

Hi everyone, I did do a search and didnt find anything on Maine so if there is and I missed it please let me know. I thought it would be fun to start a thread of us men and women that live in Maine waiting for our k1 or k3 visas to do it together. Also I think it would be fun to hear everyones story .. like how you met, something special about your love etc. Hope to hear from some of you Mainiacs soon...

ChelleKeith

Hi

You have not received your NOA2 in more than 1 year?????? You can call USCIS and put in a special request to process your case since your case is outside normal processing timeframes.

Sara is very aware of all resources possible to try and get answers regarding her petition and has taken every step to get this resolved. They are stuck in security checks.

Hello again,

My boss has agreed to cosponsor Keith , this is good news but also has me a little concerned as his buisness didnt do very well in 07 but is doing better now. With the economy the way it is the hotel buisness is suffering along with most companys right now. He did speak to our lawyer and has agreed to go ahead with this feeling that his finances will be enough.

My question is this... we also have a friend willing to cosponsor... Can we have 2 cosponsors to make sure there is plenty of income when we go to the interview? My lawyer doesnt seem to find the time to answer my questions or doesnt understand what I am trying to say lol but he is doing the paperwork correctly and to me that is worth having him around ...

I just want to make sure I have everything set when the time comes so I dont drive myself crazy rushing around.

Also as far as phone logs I do not have that as we used skype and he used his cell phone but it is a pay by use one so no paperwork involved. I used a calling card but I didnt bring it with me because there also is no way to prove the calls came here except that it is a international calling card... will that help? We have been together for 14 months out of the 22 months that we have known each other, between visits and stays. I do have some pics but most of them got lost when lightening hit my pc and destroyed my computer. I tried to get them off it but the mother board was fried or something like that lol. I am building a scrapbook now with what pics I can find from sending to family members etc so hopefully that will be enough.. Also what about blogs that has been written , would that be a good idea to copy and print and place in the scrapbook?

Sorry if I am sounding crazy, I really am not ! I am just trying to keep busy with all this stuff

Thankyou

Chelle

Proof of ongoing relationship is not needed until the latter stages of this process so you will have time to collect more evidence of a bonafide relationship. Some people will send a few pictures with the initial petition to support the evidence of having met. If you have a few just send those... take more if you can. There are ways to track your skype conversations...do a search here at vj. How about emails? Take a screenshot of your inbox...etc. Your computer got destroyed... what about your hard drive. Just because your motherboard was fried does not mean your hard drive was too it's quite likely the info is still there. You may want to take it to a computer repair shop to see if they can't save the info from your hard drive. It should not be too expensive.

As far as your affidavit. This too is not needed until interview stage (hope your lawyer also mentioned that ) ... if you are concerned that one may not meet the requirements then just have both fill out a I134..have it notarized and include all supporting information for both. Better to be safe than sorry. just fyi... You will also need to fill one out and include what you can.

good luck. glad you're making some progress.

Thankyou so much for your reply, I have read alot of your post and you are very helpful and you help me to stay positive during this entire process. Also congrats on the interview, I am so very happy for you both.

I did have the computer checked out and sadly the hard drive was also killed during the hit. I did send in a few photos with the application at the beginning. I am glad I can use both cosponsors as I feel that will help in the end. We are taking alot of photos now while I am in England so hopefully with what I have will be plenty.

I will be so glad when this is finished so that I can finally sleep a entire night again lol. It feels like it did when I had my babies, waking up every few hours lol

take care

Chelle

Hello again,

My boss has agreed to cosponsor Keith , this is good news but also has me a little concerned as his buisness didnt do very well in 07 but is doing better now. With the economy the way it is the hotel buisness is suffering along with most companys right now. He did speak to our lawyer and has agreed to go ahead with this feeling that his finances will be enough.

My question is this... we also have a friend willing to cosponsor... Can we have 2 cosponsors to make sure there is plenty of income when we go to the interview? My lawyer doesnt seem to find the time to answer my questions or doesnt understand what I am trying to say lol but he is doing the paperwork correctly and to me that is worth having him around ...

I just want to make sure I have everything set when the time comes so I dont drive myself crazy rushing around.

Also as far as phone logs I do not have that as we used skype and he used his cell phone but it is a pay by use one so no paperwork involved. I used a calling card but I didnt bring it with me because there also is no way to prove the calls came here except that it is a international calling card... will that help? We have been together for 14 months out of the 22 months that we have known each other, between visits and stays. I do have some pics but most of them got lost when lightening hit my pc and destroyed my computer. I tried to get them off it but the mother board was fried or something like that lol. I am building a scrapbook now with what pics I can find from sending to family members etc so hopefully that will be enough.. Also what about blogs that has been written , would that be a good idea to copy and print and place in the scrapbook?

Sorry if I am sounding crazy, I really am not ! I am just trying to keep busy with all this stuff

Thankyou

Chelle

Hello everyone, Sorry I havent replied to this in a while. As of right now we have hope again.

This is the situation....

My friend had been out of work until June of this year as she had a baby. Last year she made enough to sponsor and is back to work and making the same amount so there is hope there... Now how does this work? she takes her and her family and gets the amount needed from that and then adds keith to it right? meaning if she has 4 in her family, by adding keith she would go by the income limits for a family of 5 yes?

Keith is also putting money away in a savings account to save to use when we go for the interview so maybe he will be able to sponsor himself.

As far as me, I do have a job when I return, I do get child support every week, not alot but enough for us to live on each week while we are in england. Me and my daughter I mean. I dont have any savings as I am a single mom and I do live paycheck to paycheck when home and it is hard for me to work a full time job right now with my daughters condition but she is getting older now and things will smooth out in time.

Returning home is the smart thing to do but it is not the best for me at this time. I have thought about this alot and right now my decision is to stay here with Keith and work together to make this all happen. If I have to return in order for us to be together then yes I will but right now the lawyer says we are doing ok so not to worry.

As far as the question... Am I afraid to leave him . no I am not afraid to leave him for any reason. He is a faithful man and very trust worthy , I have no doubts about that. For the first time in my life I am very happy and I am not ready to walk away from that yet. Some will think I am stupid to have made this choice but thats ok. I believe in my heart that things will work out if they are meant to be so I will continue on this journey with him and stay positive because as I always say.. Positive thoughts bring positive results and negative thoughts bring negative results.

Yes sometimes we get discouraged and sometimes we think we need to give up hope but in the end we know better because without hope we have nothing in these situations. If me being here hurts us and I have to return to the states without him then I will do just that and we will work even harder to be together but for right now I am enjoying this to much to walk away yet. It is fantastic to wake up in the morning and know that you are safe, to close your eyes at night and know that you can fall asleep and noone is going to wake you up and hurt you. This feeling is worth everything. Some will understand what I am saying and some will say silly girl.

So this is where we are right now.... I will keep you all informed on what goes on from here.. thankyou again for all your replys because you have helped me alot.

ChelleKeith

What about DCF in London if she's been there legally for 6 months??? You might want to look more into that option if it's possible.

Sorry , what is DCF ?

Does the cosponsor have to live in the same state as me? I have a friend who is married to a brit but she didnt sponsor him when they went through this because she had missed alot of work due to having a baby etc. Her sister sponsored him and my friend has offered to cosponsor for us , I live in Maine and she lives in Michigan. Is this possible? She is a USC

If she is allowed then how much money does she have to prove she makes to do this. My family size is at this time My daughter and myself and then keith when he moves with us.

Thankyou for your replys in advace

Chelle

I have just found out that I am not able to find a cosponsor. Everyone I have asked have said no they dont feel comfortable sponsoring someone from another country. Without a co sponsor we dont have a prayer of being approved.

My heart is breaking here as I dont know what to do and I cant imagine living my life with out him in it.

I finally found a man to treat me with respect and someone who doesnt use his fist to get his point across and treats my children the way they deserve to be treated and right now it looks like we cant be together.

I dont know what to do but am sitting here with tears running down my face because I have noone to help me and this is very sad news.

CHelleKeith

Perhaps there is another option. Does your fiance have assets? They cannot be used for a K-1 visa and I-134 but if he came here to visit and you were married, then filed for a K-3 visa, his assets could be counted on the I-864, or you could visit hom in England, get married and do the same. There is no visa requirement for him to come here as a visitor and for you two to get married. Anyone can get married, the visa process is so he can stay as a permanent resident and work, rather than as a visitor.

Just remember, marital status is separate and independent from immigration status. You do not have to be a resident of the USA to get married here and the marriage is legal and recognized in both countries

Gary

Thankyou Gary for your reply, there is a few things I will share now as you have mentioned this. This was the original plan , Keith came to america in august of 07. We got a lawyer and the wedding date was set for may 3 08. This put him as a overstay but the lawyer said it was ok as long as we got married and that he could stay in the states while the I130 was being done. Everything was good until may 2 and Keith was to meet me and my girls in the city for dinner as it was my birthday and then go to rehearsal. On the way keith got scared, panic rushed over him and he lost all train of thought , please dont judge him for what he did but he got on a plane without me knowing and just disapeared . He returned to the UK.

The next morning our wedding day , he phoned me and was in tears and couldnt understand how he could have done something so stupid. We talked alot over the next few days and he realized that america was his home and I was who he wanted to be with for the rest of his life. He had overstayed by 169 days I believe it was .. he arrived in the US on august 18 and left on may 2.

I phoned our lawyer to let him know what he had done and that keith was desperate to return to me and my girls. the lawyer said that he didnt think US would let him back in so his advice was to go with the K1. After 6 weeks it was to hard to be apart for both of us , his guilt was eating him up and seeing the pain that it caused me was unbearable for him. Keith invited me to join him in England while the paperwork was being done , I had never flown before and was scared but I did it. My middle daughter and I are still here.

My question is this.... If he was to come back to america with me , would they let him in ? he is less then the 180 days but others have said that they may not let him in because of this. Since being back here he has returned back to his old job. We do have a apartment but it is only a 6 month lease as the lawyer felt we would be done by then. As far as assets, he left everything to his exwife , house etc. His name is still on the mortgage and the house here in england though , so would that count as asset?

If not then if we got married here in England , would we have to wait years to be together in the US?

We are desperate at this point. I have until Dec. 1 on my visit as I came here without a visa so have to leave before the 6 months is up. What would you do in this situation?

Thanks

Chelle

Maine here

You could also remind your family that when you do marry and he has been a permanent resident in the US for 3 years he can become an American citizen - and they would be off the hook regardless - plus having an American son-in-law again. Good luck. I hope you find a solution to your problem. It may be a matter of more time until you can be together but if that is your objective, do think of this as a speed bump.

My family doesnt care about me so they wont understand where I am at. I have lived through alot of bad things in my life and noone was there to help me what so ever. When I told them about my ex being abusive , my family said , he is a hard worker chelle and he pays the bills. That was all that mattered to them. I was hoping that my fathers side would be different but they arent so we will have to do this on our own and hope for the best. I wish my dad was alive because if he was here we wouldnt have to worry about it because he would do anything for me.

Chelle

First I want to say Thankyou to you all for your kind words and great advice.

I have not thought of a church as I dont attend any so they wouldnt be able to help , I dont believe anyways. I was told that I needed 2007 income tax return for the interview, is this wrong. Doesnt really matter as I have been here in england for 3 months and am here for another 3 so for 2008 I am only looking at about 8000 income for this year.

I have gotten some great advice about Keith being able to sponsor himself and this is something that we can work on but keith had lived with me in the states for 5 months of this year without a job so this will be difficult now but not impossible. We both just need to put our heads together and make it work is all. We wont give up with out a fight because our love for each other is worth it.

If I have to move to england to be with him then it is something that I will take some time to think about. Not to think about rather I want to be with him but to figure out where I need to be if this makes sense. My children do come first in my life and even though I always knew that it took someone outside of my life, that I have just met through here to show me that my family ( children ) are the yolk of my egg Sometimes we listen to people but cant understand what they mean in some situations, leaving you feeling confused and then along comes a person who explains the same thing but in words that you can understand and it all makes sense .. so thankyou and you know who you are

I really dont know what is going to happen, but I do believe that everything happens for a reason and if Keith and I are meant to be then we will get over this little speed bump and move on to our marriage and our life together , if it isnt meant to be then we have lived the last almost 2 years very happy and I have seen things and done things and felt things that I never even knew existed.

I am blessed to have his love for me and yes he is lucky to have mine hehe. Yes my ex took alot from me and made me weak but I allowed him to do it and your right , I wont give him that power ever again so I stand up right now and fight for what I want and we will give it all we have and see what the outcome is.. We wont give up hope !!!!

THankyou

CHelle

It is Me and my daughter so am not sure what the income has to be. I am not good at figuring that out lol. Keith is home now and we have talked and we both agree we will do whatever it takes to be together so I am feeling better and I need all the information I can get to do with this.

Thanks again

Chelle

I am also curious about this as I cant find a cosponsor for my fiance. I am american and he is british. Is it possible for him to sponsor himself to come to america as I dont make enough money and noone will help us? If so then how does he go about this. thankyou for your replys in advance

ChelleKeith

I have said this before to others and i hope u dont take this the wrong way......ur 13 year old is to young to decide YOUR future.......when ur old who is the one that will be giving u comfort? your child or will ur child have moved on to her own life? im not saying this in a hard way.......trust me i been there not as the parent but when i was 14 came home from school saw our bags packed and off to Pakistan we went that night...... i was not asked if i wanted to go.......i thru a fit all it got me was when ur old enough to get a job and take care of urself then ur opinion counts until then we do as i see is best for us........was the best experience of my life at the time i thought my mom was awful in the beginning and thought she didnt love me at all but u know it all passes........friends come and go but moms are forever

sara

I do hear you and I do agree but the situation isnt all just her not wanting to come with me. My youngest has taurette syndrome and has had a rough time of it with making friends etc. The biggest problem is my exhusband who refuses to let her come here , She is over the age of 12 so has the right through the courts to say she wants to stay with him. He was very abusive to me for many years and to our middle daughter who is here with me in england now. My worry is that if I stay here and he turns on her then who will take care of her. I know some wont understand my feelings and that is ok. I have been told that I am a mom and that I chose to be one so my job is to give up my life until they are of age to take care of themselfs. She lives with her dad now and they do get on well because she is a hard worker like him and does not mouth off to him or be disrespectful but she is still just a little girl.

I dont want to give up hope , We have been through alot along our journey and we are determined to make it but we also need to face reality and without a cosponsor it isnt possible.

So unless someone steps up to help before the interview which yes is still aways down the road I will have to make some serious decisions. I dont want to lose him

You do know this can be anybody who is a USC, yes? It doesnt' need to be family?

Have you been over the numbers in detail? Carla mentioned you get child support. Are you an at home mom? Is it possible at all for you to take a p/t job to meet the income requirements? Perhaps your family would help you out with that since they wont help you with sponsoring?

With your description of your fiance it sounds like you've had a rough past with at least one man. It's a shame your family can't see what you have now and isn't willing to help you out. I hope you find a way.

Yes I do know that any USC can do this but I am pretty much alone with no friends etc. This has all been because I was not allowed to have any for 16 years married to the other man.

I am a single mom yes but I do have a part time job , right now I am still in england with Keith but my job is there when I return. It just comes down to that I dont make enough money, the chances of me making enough in the next year is slim as I said before I wasnt allowed to work so I have no experience.

I guess this was all to good to be true

I'm sorry to hear you're so sad. I remember you asked last month about child support payments, and you do remember they can be included in your income?

There is oft times when someone says they can't get a co-sponsor, and a lot of the times, I think, the person being asked to co-sponsor, really doesn't understand what's being asked of them. Sometimes I think they have the mistaken impression that when the fiance comes over, they're going to be financially supporting them on a monthly basis. Maybe you need to sit down and talk about the co-sponsorship with your friends/family so that they better understand it.

Have you thought about immigrating to your fiances country?

Don't give up hope!

that is great advice......im really sorry to see u so sad........i hope that u find what ur looking for to make ur dreams come true.....as everyone else has said never give up......keep praying.......will put u in my prays

sara

thankyou sara , right now prayer is all we have.

I have spoken to the family and explained what cosponsor means and also sent them a link to read about it but they still say no because he is not american... my family should be ashamed of themselves for saying no because of not being american.. he is a good man , a strong man and would never take a cent that he didnt earn so they know he would never scam them ... this just hurts so bad

thankyou for your replys. yes I have taken in consideration the child support payments but still I am very short as for 2007 Was the first time I had worked in many years as I was married to a man that controled me and wouldnt allow me to leave the house never mind getting a job. My work started as part time in a motel in march so for the year of 2007 I only made roughly 8000 and that includes the little bit of child support I get every week.

I have thought about moving here but I have 2 daughters and 2 grandsons in Maine. the oldest would be hurt but she has her family and I believe she would be ok in the end but my 13 year old doesnt want to move here and leave her school and friends etc and I can understand this.

So I dont know what to do ... my head is going crazy here

I have just found out that I am not able to find a cosponsor. Everyone I have asked have said no they dont feel comfortable sponsoring someone from another country. Without a co sponsor we dont have a prayer of being approved.

My heart is breaking here as I dont know what to do and I cant imagine living my life with out him in it.

I finally found a man to treat me with respect and someone who doesnt use his fist to get his point across and treats my children the way they deserve to be treated and right now it looks like we cant be together.

I dont know what to do but am sitting here with tears running down my face because I have noone to help me and this is very sad news.

CHelleKeith