Chelle62

Coria,

I have been in this same situation. Alot know my story but I am going to tell you it. My guy came to america from England to be with me in august of 07. We got a lawyer and decided to go with the marriage and then file the paperwork needed. We was told that he could stay with me in the states while the process was being done as long as he didnt leave the country. The plans was to be married on may3,08.

On May 2 , he was to meet me in the city for my birthday celebration with my girls. I waited for him for 5 hours, calling his cell phone every 5 minutes, it was shut off. Finally after phoning all the hospitals in the area, thinking he had been in a car accident it hit me that something was really bad. I went to the bus station to see if my car was there , thinking maybe he had left but it wasnt. I went to the airport to see if my car was there, my daughter tried his cell one last time and he picked up, he told her he was out of the country, she knew he wasnt as he was on a tracfone which doesnt work out of the country but what he had meant was that he was in customs. He got scared, cold feet what ever you want to call it and just jumped on a plane without any notice, note or anything. As he was considered a over stay at this point there was no turning back. My heart broke, I crashed big time. I fell to the ground and my girls had to pick me up, I ran through the airport screaming his name, thinking he was still there but in reality he was already in boston at this time.

The next day I went to our wedding, hoping that he had just rented a car and was driving around, thinking that he had cold feet and would really show up and sweep me off my feet and take all the pain away. He didnt show of course as he was already back in England. When I returned home my phone was ringing and it was him. I cried so hard when I heard his voice and so did he. He knew what he had done but didnt understand why he had done it. He said he lost all train of thought and reason and just walked away. There was a couple of times that he turned back before he actually got to customs, and he actually went back to the car and was going to come to the place to meet me but when he got there he remembered that he had locked the keys inside of the car and there was no way out , his thoughts was that he couldnt call me because I would know what his plans were so he ran. He was selfish yes and he hurt me very deeply with his choices.

I loved him so much that I didnt care what he had done, I needed him and I needed to know that he still loved me and wanted me. I made some really silly choices, I got on a plane , gave up my home, left my family , left 2 jobs just to be with him. I have been in England now for almost 6 months with him. Its been rough , but I have no regrets because I needed to at least try to make our relationship work as I didnt want to always wonder what if? I needed to know that I had done everything in my power to be with the man that I love.

I go home in 2 weeks, he cant go with me because the visa isnt finished. He says after paying some bills and the visa comes he will come home, I dont know if he will or not. I am worried that he will change his mind again, there is no way of knowing but if he does and he chooses to give up on us then at least I know in my heart that I tried.

I am sorry this has happened to you , I pray that everything will turn out the way you want it to and that you and your guy will be happy. Do what you feel is best for you , if its going there then do it , if its waiting for a reply then do it.. take the time you need and do what is best for YOU... I have a saying that I have always believed in , when I went through this I didnt follow it but now that I am leaving unsure if he will follow I have to believe and that saying is .... If you love someone set them free, If they return its meant to be. when I get on that plane , it will be the hardest thing that I have to do because I will not know for sure if it is goodbye or just see you soon. If its meant to be Keith will come home as soon as he can, if it isnt then he wont. I will hurt yes but I will survive as we are all survivors..

You are in my thoughts and prayers and I wish you all the best.

Chelle

Chelle,

I am SO sorry that he is doing this to you and I think it is unfair and BS if you ask me. He could do that here in the states WITH YOU. Sorry I do not mean to sound so harsh or mean but it sounds like he is butt-kissing mom and dad.

I realize it is important to pay them back, BUT if they wanted him happy they would say okay go and we will make a contract for you to pay us back. HE IS AN ADULT. He will have bills the rest of his life.

I think it is BS to make you WAIT all this time KNOWING the pain and expecting you to be so patient and loving and saying yes dear no dear. GIVE ME A BREAK. Kai would never do this to me and if he did LORD HELP THE MAN.

ALso His mother sounds selfish to have the ex wife arrive. Sorry she may be the mother of her grandkids but how self centered and selfish of her to do this to YOU. Even if you are NOT there she needs to respect that and SO does your man.

I don't think his parents were the ones wanting him to stay and pay back the money. I think he wanted to do it for peace of mind. I personally think that if you're about to leave everything behind to move countries to be with your fiancee, it's reasonable to want to pay off the debts that you have in your home country before the move.

I wouldn't mind if my fiance wanted to stay an extra few weeks to pay back his parents for letting *us* stay together for 6 months.

But it also depends how long he plans on staying... if it's going to be a case of months as opposed to weeks, then I would probably have a problem with that after the long wait to be together.

I do feel his parents have alot to do with this. well not both anyways.. I have gotten very close to his father, he is a wonderful person and I love him dearly. You see I lost my dad a very long time ago and I miss him so much. When I met keiths father that big hole in my heart got closed up alot because he filled alot ot it. As for his mom, I have tried to get close to her but its hard as she still loves his ex wife and that is ok, I told her from day one its ok and I still feel the same way, I do feel she wants them back together and I can also understand that as she wants her son home where she can be with him. sometimes I feel this money deal is a way to keep him here and keep us apart , I will not give up hope though as I do love him with all of me and I do believe he loves me , He is just very much family oriented and his parents come first , I knew this when I met him so now I have to try to be understanding. I have asked him for a date, or a idea of time and he cant give it to me .. I believe it will be months and this is what I am having trouble dealing with at this time.

At first I was blaming his mom for having his ex there for xmas but Keith is a grown man and can make his own decisions, he can choose to be there or he can choose to be some place else during the time she is there. Time will tell what choice he makes and I pray he makes the right one for us.

I have asked santa to bring him home as my xmas present ... I do believe in santa lets hope

Thankyou for you support and great advice as you have opened my eyes up alot to see it the way he is seeing it. huggs

Hi all

I agree you all are very wonderful people and although there is wonderful news there is also sad news

Chelle,

I am SO sorry that he is doing this to you and I think it is unfair and BS if you ask me. He could do that here in the states WITH YOU. Sorry I do not mean to sound so harsh or mean but it sounds like he is butt-kissing mom and dad.

I realize it is important to pay them back, BUT if they wanted him happy they would say okay go and we will make a contract for you to pay us back. HE IS AN ADULT. He will have bills the rest of his life.

I think it is BS to make you WAIT all this time KNOWING the pain and expecting you to be so patient and loving and saying yes dear no dear. GIVE ME A BREAK. Kai would never do this to me and if he did LORD HELP THE MAN.

ALso His mother sounds selfish to have the ex wife arrive. Sorry she may be the mother of her grandkids but how self centered and selfish of her to do this to YOU. Even if you are NOT there she needs to respect that and SO does your man.

Anyway I am sorry to sound mean it just seems like a pile of ####### in the hen house if ya ask me.

BIGGGGG HUGS!!! I cant BLAME you for feeling like you do hun!!

Missbluesky

I understand your pain. It hurts to be seperated so long from your sweetie. Trust me I know I been apart from Kai for 1 year and almost 6 months now. We did the ldr and were only able to afford one visit. SO I know it hurts.

I think it SUCKS that we are allowed to fall in love yet it is rough to be with our SO when they are from another country.

Yet I understand..SIGH...Hold your head up sweetie...you got us!

Getting close you all...man its moving fast on igors WOW WOW WOW

Hugs you back and you are not mean what so ever, you are right with what you said , thankyou for your support and everyone here it helps alot to beable to express my feelings with people who understand.

Has anyone heard from Corea? I have been thinking about her all night and was hoping for a update. I hope she is ok

The adjudication date on the bottom of your posts is what you had filled in earlier from your timeline. It was only an estimate based on others' information at the time.

As people are continually adding timelines and updates, and others neglecting to update theirs, the interview date on your timeline fluctuates.

If we look at who is being adjudicated right now, it is late June and very early July. So you have about a month's worth of petitions ahead of yours i.e. July 1st is currently being approved and you are July 31st. Will it take an additional month to get to yours? Will it only take a few more weeks? No way of knowing until you see a 'touch' online or an NOA2 in your mailbox.

The good news is you can see the light at the end of the USCIS tunnel! Us October filers are in pitch black petitionerdom.

Does that adequately answer your question?

Thankyou , and yes this answers it very well .. The light is bright at the end and I am walking towards it ... I turn around with a bright flash light in my hand and shine it at you so that you can see some light on your journey

Hugs

Chelle

Our plans are all on hold yet again. I return to Maine on the 1st of December and need to get back to work and find a place to live. Seeing as we dont know when this will get done and we will have the visa , we have decided not to make any future plans as I cant take let downs again.

Two weeks ago Keith tells me that even if the visa is here in December he isnt coming home to me because he owes his parents money for helping us out while here. His parents paid for the 6 months so that we could have a place. Keith went back to work at the place he use to work at but having stayed with me for so long in Maine he had gone through all of his savings. I am really upset that yet again he is putting our lives on hold.. I know some of you will say.. understand what he is feeling owing his family money etc and yes I do but at the same time there is always something in the way. I love him and I will wait forever for him but that doesnt mean I have to like it .

My hopes for plans are that he will miss me so much that by the time the visa comes he will tell me he is on his way and we will beable to continue on with the plans from the beginning. I have already told him if he does this then I will help him to pay them back in full. He knows I will do this so I am going to stay positive, focused and yes the big P word I will work really hard to be Patient

I guess I am just down as I cant imagine xmas without him there. I know most of you have been apart for so long and probally feel that I am being silly. I do treasure the time we have been able to spend together and I will survive the holidays but what is hard for me is this... I know that on xmas day, he will be surrounded by his family, his son, and his EX WIFE as his mother considers her family still. So I sit home all alone on xmas day , knowing that they are celebrating the holiday together , just hurts alot. I do trust him but still its the point. He says , I dont understand that things are different and he also says her being there is NO big deal... He doesnt love her and hasnt for a long time and that he loves me so I have nothing to worry about. Worry, isnt the problem , sharing that special day without him is the problem .. sorry I am rambling again... I just will be glad when this is finished and we can all relax and just be happy.

My favorite drink is DIET PEPSI .. I am so addicted to it LOL

While in England I have come to love Chandy.. sorry if I spelled it wrong lol. I am not a beer drinker but when we go to the pub my soon to be father in law likes me to have a drink with him so that works for me.

My favorite alcohol drink is Baileys.. mmmm I love it

Oh Dear my head would be all over the place. I wouldnt be able to think anything but bad thoughts but my guy is a joker and has done something like that before and only to give me great news. example.. He wrote to me once and said bad news.. I am so sorry , but we need to talk , I will call you later... OMG I went crazy, thinking it was over, he had changed his mind etc...

When he phoned , he sounded so sad and that made me feel more scared.. then he said baby I am not coming over on the 27th of march, I just cant do it , my heart sunk and then he said oh by the way,, I am coming on the 18th instead, I wanted to slap him

Try not to get yourself all worked up... Lets just hope that he is going to really give you good news instead.. I hope and pray that this is what is going on... good luck

Chelle

When Keith came to stay with me for 9 months , He had a hard time at first. I would work all day and then get home and he wanted to go out instantly.. well I was tired LOL but would do it cause I knew how hard it must have been to sit in a home that he wasnt use to and in a different country where he didnt feel comfortable just going out for a walk so I did it.

Finally after lots of questions about what does that saying mean, that word mean etc and like I said wanting to go out all the time, I thought to myself I need to figure out a way for him to beable to do things for himself. Xmas was also coming and I was having a hard time figuring out a nice gift to give him, After some thought I came up with the perfect gift. I got him a GPS system. OMG best thing I ever did... He was able to get out of the house on his own , he would look up the address of a place that he wanted to go (online) and then put it into the gps, jump in the car and go LOL.. it was great

I know this isnt what your talking about but my point is this... Think of things for him to do , like others said maybe a class , computer class would be great cause then he could start doing things on his own, make him feel important because while Keith couldnt work , he felt less of a man. It was hard for him to watch me go to work while he stayed home. Its a man thing. When he ask you to call the airlines or anyplace , ask him to watch you do it so that he will learn how. As far as his English, let him know its ok cause half of the time its hard to understand the ones on the other line anyways so he might do fine with it ..

My advice is to be patient with him and with yourself.. give him a big warm hug, tell him you love him and let him know everything will be ok in time. Even men need to hear sometimes that its all going to be ok, they get scared and worried just like us women but sometimes they are to macho to admit it hehe.

To you... Everything will work out if the love is there, Patience is the key and positive thoughts sent out to the universe will bring positive results.

Right now he is out of his world and in yours.. so hold his hand and even if your tired of all his questions , answer them with a smile and then if you need to go get in the bath, put some candles around you , music in your ears and cry its ok, just remember he is probally feeling the same way inside for having to ask you so much.

Love to you and your husband

Chelle

Hiya everyone, My question is this... When I post a comment , at the bottom my timeline says adjucated in November, but on my profile , when I click on time line it now says Dec 24th as the last date. Why is it showing two different things?

Thanks for your replys in advance

ChelleKeith

Hiya, We are also July filers. We havent recieved any touches either. I figure we are all getting close though so keeping fingers crossed.

I have been very lucky and have been in England with Keith now for almost 6 months. We was hoping things would be done so that he could return home with me but I have to leave on Dec. 1st so it didnt happen the way we had hoped.

I wish now that I had waited one more month before I came over here so that we could spend xmas together but neither of us thought anything about it at the time.

I am so tired of goodbyes at the airport, I just want this to be over with

Good luck to us all

PacificG, did your status changed? Good lord so sick & tired of waiting! When will our turn come? I've been checking USCIS website like 100000000 times a day. It is so frustrating But what can we do? nothing I called USCIS today , same old bullcrap. Lady told me I have to wait 2 more months Why are they so freaking slow? I just dont understand. Look at CSC, they are suppose to be bigger & suppose to get more petitions & yet they are approving like 4 or 5 petitions a day VSC needs to wake up & smell the coffee. To me these employees are a bunch of lazy individuals & dont give a darn about nething. They need to do some quality control on the work force working there and put some rules for some of these people to follow. I know they are backed up & all that bullcrap but comeon approving our petitions shouldn't take that long!

I checked my status online and , it's still pending as of August 4, 2008, but in my porfolio it was last updated 11-13-2008.

I dont received any e mails notifications.

I hope that it is not an RFE and hoping it would be an NOA2.

What is the porfolio?

WOOT huge congrats!!!

kiwiana thanks hun! I know I REALLY wish they would fix it! It is driving me mad!

Is Igor's list just down for CSC? Mine is working just fine...

Mine is working fine also even though I wish it would move a little ok alot faster hehe

My opinion on this is that its not as big of a deal as people think. Saying this , I will explain

I have 3 daughters , 14 almost 17 and 29 so I have been doing this for a long time My oldest was very sporty so didnt care about thongs and padded bras lol , plus they wasnt so popular back then, My youngest is ewwww over thongs and padded bras as she thinks they are nasty and sticks with the granny panties and regular bras.. Now my middle child was wearing thongs and padded bras at age 11. At first I was like NOWAY is this going to happen and she of course couldnt understand why I would say this as they sell them in her size at the store LOL.. I thought alot about it and then decided that if I make a big deal out of this then she would find other ways to do it , either through a friend or maybe even her older sister so On her birthday I bought her a couple of pair of thongs and she loved them, was more comfortable etc and same with the padded bra, I mean comeon who wants to wear a lacy itchy bra when you can have soft and comfortable.

I think people make to much out of this really... If your daughter is wearing them to be sexy and go out on the town and show it off then helll yeah there is a problem but if she is wearing them because they look good to her and comfortable then go for it.

I will also add that my daughter that wanted the thongs and padded bras at age 11 , is almost 17 now.. is still a virgin , has never been out on a date and is a good girl who stays home and watches movies with her mom

Ok just my opinion

Chelle

Thanks for sharing that, Chelle. I don't see how a thong was designed for comfort for any age. Thong underwear was first lingerie that became mainstream. How could anyone say they wear it for comfort? I realize it now goes hand in hand with more form fitting slacks but seriously, the whole purpose of underwear is to keep the body dry down there and a thong just doesn't function that way. Women wear thong underwear to look sexy and it's trendy and not for comfort.

I disagree lol... I find thongs very comfy and more freedom, I dont have to worry about a wedgie or fixing my panties every time I stand up. For me its the comfortable part of them, I dont feel sexy in them as I am not a model figure so nothing works that way for me but we all have our own opinions and it is fun to see what we all think

My opinion on this is that its not as big of a deal as people think. Saying this , I will explain

I have 3 daughters , 14 almost 17 and 29 so I have been doing this for a long time My oldest was very sporty so didnt care about thongs and padded bras lol , plus they wasnt so popular back then, My youngest is ewwww over thongs and padded bras as she thinks they are nasty and sticks with the granny panties and regular bras.. Now my middle child was wearing thongs and padded bras at age 11. At first I was like NOWAY is this going to happen and she of course couldnt understand why I would say this as they sell them in her size at the store LOL.. I thought alot about it and then decided that if I make a big deal out of this then she would find other ways to do it , either through a friend or maybe even her older sister so On her birthday I bought her a couple of pair of thongs and she loved them, was more comfortable etc and same with the padded bra, I mean comeon who wants to wear a lacy itchy bra when you can have soft and comfortable.

I think people make to much out of this really... If your daughter is wearing them to be sexy and go out on the town and show it off then helll yeah there is a problem but if she is wearing them because they look good to her and comfortable then go for it.

I will also add that my daughter that wanted the thongs and padded bras at age 11 , is almost 17 now.. is still a virgin , has never been out on a date and is a good girl who stays home and watches movies with her mom

Ok just my opinion

Chelle

ChelleKeith

When you make a countdown - there are two options to copy/paste to a forum (like here on VJ). One is BBCode, the other is HTML - you want to use the BBCode to paste into your signature. I've modified yours below which you can use - or you can copy your link again from smileygenerator.

YAYY TY I used the bbcode as I couldnt figure out how to use the one you did for me lol and it worked .. ty ty ty

I did what you said and I made the timeline but its not showing up I wish I could do these things right lol.. I put the html into my signature under my timeline part of it... but it only shows the words not the cute little thingy

For me there is many but here is a few

1.. When we got married on the game second life. I wore a beautiful white wedding dress and he wore a black tuxedo and we wrote our own vows , words from the heart

2.. When he arrived at the airport the very first time and we saw each other and I froze lol but he walked over to me and put his arm around me and kissed me on top of the head and said alright? My thoughts were OMG he is so tall lol

3.. Our first night together, I rolled away and went to sleep and woke up hours later and he was laying there just looking at me and then WOW

4... His second visit we met in Boston for a weekend get a way and it was fantastic. on the way back to Maine we stopped at Old Orchard Beach, it was rainy and cold but we didnt care and when we got to the beach he put me in the water lol and then picked me up out of it and got on one knee and proposed

5... My favorite thing is how good of a dad he is to my daughters. He loves them and shows them respect which is something there dad never did , to me this is the best and all I ever wished for , treat my girls good and I am happy

Handing her a new role of TP through the bathroom door while holding my breath....all I could think was, "Must not inhale."

LOL omg that is to funny and has made me smile and yes your right , I remember that same thing and thinking what do they feed them in England

We applied in July and havent recieved any touches... I want to be touched hehe. People here saying not to worry about it has helped me alot and kept me sane without being touched

It will all be done soon for all of us and then we will all be smiling

Hi guys, I am trying to add one of the little things alot of you have on here counting down days etc . I have made one but I dont know for sure where to put it and how to. Do I use the html addy or the other one? and where do I put it on my profile to make it work for me? I know this isnt a K1 question but thought you guys would be able to help me so I can stop pulling out my hair lol

Thanks

Chelle

I'm from Toronto, ON, Canada -- but my fiancee is from Cape Elizabeth, ME (just outside of Portland, bordering South Portland). I've spent a lot of time there over the last 5 years of our relationship. It's the most beautiful place I have visited. I've been all around Southern Maine, like Bailey Island, Freeport, Portland, SoPo, Cape, Scarborough, and Saco.

I usually visit around the holidays. I actually like Maine in the winter more than the summer... maybe because the last time I was there in August for 10 days it was raining and cloudy most of the time Here's some pics I took on a boat trip: http://www.panoramio.com/user/2132566

I am surprised no one has mentioned LL Bean yet! I'm wearing some wicked good slippers right now.

ahhh good ole LL Bean, I love the stuff from there also and every year that is where I get my girls school clothes from and there back packs.. Its nice to know if they break there back packs I can just let LL Bean know and they send us a new one

I will be returning to Maine on Dec. 1 , I am going to miss my Keith as he cant return with me because the visa is taking longer then we had hoped for. Being without him at xmas is really breaking my heart but We will survive it and thank god for webcams

I am so hoping that once I get settled again in Maine that we can all get something set up so that we can meet. I think Old Orchard Beach in the summer time would be a great place and of course that is where my hunny proposed to me so excellent memories

Take care all

Hugggs

Chelle

Hey Chelle & Keith,

Let's start a thread in the Off Topic area and call it the New England Area or North East area Thread. I would love to arrange a meet and greet in the New England area.

This is currently under the K1, which could be over looked by other petitioners and petitionees.

Have a great day!

Missy

Hellooo everyone, I am so sorry that I havent been able to reply, We have two computers but the monitor broke on mine and on his for some strange reason it wont let me reply or post in here but thankfully my soon to be brother in law found me a monitor so here I am !!!

Welcome to everyone and I so look forward to continueing on this page.

Hey Beans, I am returning to maine on the 1st of december, I will be staying with my oldest daughter for a few weeks while looking for a full time job and a place to live. I will also be living in the Hampden /Bangor area woooot. we need to keep in touch so that when you get here we can meet.

We all need to meet in the summer time. Maine is beautiful then esp. on the coast. It will be so nice to get together and relax and have all of this behind us and have our loves with us

Lets tell a little more about ourselves so that we know more

I am 46 years old, a mother of 3 daughters ages 29, 16. and 14, I am a grandmother to two little boys ages 8 and 6 .. I am so in love with my man and pray that everything works out and that we will be done with this stuff for a while very soon. We are still waiting on the NOA2 but am in hopes to get that this month. time will tell. Not much left to tell lol... ok comon you guys tell me about youuuu

Chelle

Sounds good to me

BoyScout74:

Let me make a suggestion:

Don't meet people on-line, the Internet has become a breeding ground for scammers.

Book a trip to Philippines, it will change your outlook on life.

So many beautiful woman there , and the people in general are very friendly and happy.

For me it was refreshing to look at a crowd and see the woman all with coke bottle figures.

Good Luck

OMG Please tell me you are not being serious when you say what you have just said.. Alot of people meet on line and are legit . As far as having a look in the crowd and seeing the women all with coke bottle figures.. WOW .. I am sitting here looking at a coke bottle as I type and wondering what is soo exciting about that lol. I thank god I am not shaped like or compared to a coke bottle .. If I was your wife I would wonder if that is all you was looking for in a bride. Meeting people on line you fall in love with the person , the personality not the body or looks and it is real love from the heart not from the eyes. I am just shocked I guess to hear the comments you made. There is more to life then a perfect body geeesh. Yes I am no where near a perfect body and probally never will be but I have a great sense of humor, a big heart that has so much love to give and all around a good person so please think before you say things and I am american and guys out there us american girls keep you warm at night so dont forget that too lolol... Ok I will step off my pedistal now !!!

BOSTON (Reuters) - A gunman took 11 children hostage at a school in Maine on Friday but was tackled by police after surrendering his gun to a child without firing a shot, local media reported.

WABI-TV said the children, all around 10 years old, were unharmed in the incident at the school in Stockton Springs, a coastal town of 1,617 people about 50 miles east of the state capital Augusta.

Randall Hofland, 55, who had been wanted by authorities who say he pointed a gun at a police officer on October 23, was taken into custody after holding the children hostage for about 20 minutes, the Bangor Daily News reported.

The hostage drama is the latest in string of security alerts involving guns at American schools since two teenagers killed 12 fellow students and a teacher at Columbine High School in Colorado in 1999.

(Reporting by Jason Szep, editing by Philip Barbara)

Yes this is very sad and very scary. Those poor children. I am originally from Stockton Springs where my father was the chief of police for many years. My dad has since passed away.. bless his soul

It saddens me to see this happening in our schools as I dont understand how anyone could do something so horrible esp. to a child. I just thank god that noone was hurt. These children will be scared now for such a long time and I pray for healing for each and everyone of them

Chelle