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Pareho silang mali... if he just kept his "toy" in his pants edi walang sanang accusation. If she just didn't drink too much and go to the bar and be left with 4 guys edi wala sanang narape. Sana maging lesson to sa girls dyan na masyadong mahilig uminom at nawawala sa sarili. Uminom nalang kayo sa bahay and if you know you cant handle hard drink. Wag ka na uminom. Iba talaga nagagawa ng alak. Hay!

To all na sumagot:

Salamat ha! I appreciate your answers. Their marriage was doomed even before it started. Alam ko na action speaks louder than words pero sa mundo ngayon e kailangan diba smart ka din. Ewan ko sa kanya... she is helpless because she doesn't want to help herself. Tinanong ko nga siya bat siya nag asawa ng american kung di naman siya masyado marunong mag english.. so sabi niya love niya.. blah blah blah... so ako i suggested ok.. bili ka ng dictionary at mag aral ka. Pero di naman niya ginawa. She spent almost a year in Texas at ganon pa din ang english niya.

Before, nasa states na siya ako nasa Pinas pa she would talk to me online. Sometimes she speaks bisaya which i cant understand. She said they always argue because her husband is alcoholic. He drinks always after work. He talks to a different girl online, He talks to his ex-wife about her being so dumb and that she is just his servant...(they have a kid husband and ex-wife) She sent me the conversations. So ako e nagulat nalang. Sabi pa dun sa conversation... hindi siya nag asawa at siya ay servant lang.

so sabi ko sa kanya magdivorce na kayo and sabi ng husband niya e divorce na daw sila. lol So tinanong ko sya kung may pinirmahan ba siyang any documents. Sabi niya "wala" at sabi pa ng asawa niya na di daw pede ang divorce kasi di daw siya US citizen so annulment nalang daw. Sabi ng asawa tutulungan daw siya sa annulment kung magpropromise siya na wala siyang makukuha na kahit ano. (thats what she told me last night)

I spoke with her husband before and told me how he couldn't stand her kasi nga she is not trying to communicate with him, always argue with him and accusing him a lot of things. Tapos pag nag eexplain daw siya e di naman naiintindihan so he just gave up.

I think they chatted for a year and he visited her in Mindanao... first visit and they got married right away. So, kasalanan nila pareho pero ang tanong ko lang kung pano sila makakapagdivorce? pwede ba yung sinabi ng asawa na "sige tutulungan kita pero walang kang makukuha na kahit ano sa akin" parang di tama lang.

Hello! ako ulit! sorry ha madami akong tanong! dito lang kasi ako may tiwala magtanong tungkol sa mga problema sa buhay hehehe.

Actually hindi ako ang may problema yung kakilala ko. Lets call her Nova nalang. She married a USC sa pinas last 2006 ata. They applied the K-3 visa and everything went well. Nakarating siya dito last 2007 dun sa Kentucky then lumipat sila sa Texas. Her english is very limited and she can barely understand it. She was born and raised in Mindanao. Tinanong ko siya how did she communicate sa chat kung di siya masyado marunong ng english, sabi niya may taga type daw siya. I dont know if they just get married to use each other whatsoever. I dont want to judge them.

So sabi niya nung andun siya sa Texas lagi sila nag-aaway and sinasabi ng husband niya is citizenship lang ang habol niya. So umuwi siya dito sa pinas. Ngayon ang asawa niya is my bagong GF. So shes asking me what she should do? kung pwede daw niya kasuhan, ipa ban sa pagpunta sa Pinas to meet the new gf or magdivorce daw. Hindi kami close pero minsan nakikita ko siya online and shes always asking me what to do. They don't have a kid.

Her husband said na mag annulment daw sila pero di naman ginawa and the husband is always going to the Phil to visit his new gf na taga Cebu. May magagawa ba siya to stop her "so-called" husband?

I am just curious... All answers I will have here ifoforward ko sa kanya. Thanks again!

nahihiya lang ako kasi dito sa USA di ako tinataga ng mga taxi.. lahat sila nakameter no matter what race I am. Sa mga hotel.. same price din kahit di ako kano. At walang sumisigaw sa akin dito ng "Hoy Pinay!" yung asawa ko lagi nalang tinatawag na "HEY JOE" nakakairita lang. Ang trato sa akin dito ng mga kano e maayos at fair naman... nakakahiya lang talaga.

sorry guys... This may be long... its just that this is my only way that i can bring my feelings out... with someone actually listening.. to true genuine feelings. I really need help thru good and sound advice. U need not read the entire thing but just read the last paragraph where I ask my questions and where i need help on... but to understand where im coming from, you can read on. I appreciate all comments in advance.

May 20 - almost midnight...

I was actually awakened by a very bad dream - I felt it was so real, and I woke up to myself. found my husband still awake on the edge of the bed - doing something in his computer. I tried to calm myself down and rolled on the bed... tried hard to go back to sleep. Tried harder - I couldn't. I was feeling so bothered, since pregnant, I've been getting bad heartburn, everyday worse <that's why i always have antacid handy>, so I decided to get up and get a cold water for a drink. Still i couldn't go back to sleep. I wanted it all out. And so I thought about blogging it or post it here in VJ. I decided the latter since I could use a really good advice.

This is actually our 11th monthsary... yay! I am happy. I love my husband a whole lot, I have even convinced myself I love him more than i love myself...yeah. I have done things I have never done and/or never willing to do before when i was single that I am doing right now not because my husband asks of it but because i wanted to make him happy and please him. I guess... just a guess.. this may be where my problem started in the first place...

...back to my dream. I dreamed that I woke up the same night, the same scenario, my husband was there on the edge of the bed, still on his computer. It's 11 pm.. I woke up asking him why he's still awake, what he's doing on his computer that is much important than taking a good night's sleep... no answer. He just sat there and continued with what he was doing... so i got up and tried to peek on his computer. and then he locked it. CTRL ALT DEL. I got so mad. I was so mad, I was crying... and there was a big fight. That's when I woke up..

Reality... Had a usual day... though for me... secretly i was wanting something special to happen, something sweet on this day.. after all, this is our monthsary. He drops me off and picks me up from work but today, he asked me if somehow I could manage to have coworker drop me off at Ross and so he can just pick me up there since his boss is in town and he may not be able to leave work as expected. Fair enough. I managed. I failed my first driving test..and now I only carry a learner's permit. But since my husband is the only one i have here, there's really nobody to rely on. I don't have friends yet that I can consider really friends. I hate being in that situation. Not having friends and not able to drive. Most of it i blame myself especially for failing that drive test <this is actually a different story - funny and disappointing at the same time>. With making friends, I don't think I have problems with people. I actually make friends easily in the Philippines. But here, maybe because my world revolves around my husband like to things together all the time. He drives all the time, whenever, wherever we want to go when we are not working.

Anyway, back to today... on the way home from work, he was really saying he's tired. And I can tell he is tired. I was tired too. From all day's work and having to walk and walk window shopping, while waiting for my husband... to kill the time, carrying my handbag and a big baby in my tummy. We decided to eat out to treat ourselves since its our monthsary anyway and he said he's hungry and Im starting to get hungry too, we couldn't wait long enough to get home and make dinner. And so we did. We did our usual dinner, but as we were eating, there's not much words spoken. I tried to ask him how his day was.. do you love me.. and ask him why his eyes are almost teary and or sparkly.. but not much reply there. I felt disconnected. I have always wanted someone to share how my day was and my partner doing the same thing with me. I have always wanted to make memories, good conversation... just sharing those with someone I thought would be my husband. But i thought i'll just leave it at that... maybe he's just tired.. On the way home, while in the car, still the same thing not much words exchanged. Just sit there in silence... deafening silence. I just tried to close my eyes. And then his phone rang, he answered it - was his ex-wife, as usual. They chatted on the phone for a few minutes. He was giving her advice, where she can go to get some cheap clothes I think (the ex wife left me a message on my celfone earlier that day telling that she needs an oxford shirt, I didn't bother answering anymore. Since about a month ago, I just decided that i don't really want to be friends with her, I tried it but it's so not working for me. I only end up hurting myself more from it.. deep inside. so I just distance myself from that from now on. Try to get myself out of that situation. <this is one major big problem for me too but that's another story I might post here in VJ next time soon since i'm running out of ways to keep it to myself> After he hung up he asked me while trying to rub my hands "are you mad at me for answering the phone?".. I feel at the time, pissed but that scenario is almost always the case...nothing new there, been like that since I got here so i just replied i am not mad at you... there's nothing much I can do about it. And he took his hands away from me and again... the continued silence. I calmed down a bit. I told him "I am not mad at you... It's just that I hate that I'm in this situation. I can't do anything about it. As much as i would like to not want to be in it... that's not really reality... I guess it's just too much to ask not to talk to your ex wife, so sometimes to deal with it I just shut myself down so I don't feel as sad", coz for all the time since I came here, it never really happened even if i do sommersault its really not up to me reality is i have to face and deal with it every day. It's not really up to me. I am not the one in a relationship with his ex wife. and then again...<the one in quote i voiced out, the rest silently in my thoughts> continued silence until we got home. I walked my 2 doggies, that's also most of the time my outlet to my disappointments and frustrations here in US...brings me some joy, always put a smile on my face, makes me forget about it... my two doggies while he... as usual, gets to his computer... doing whatever... he said he's playing his game but i feel like he's doing more. I just tried to watch tv until I fell asleep around 930 pm... with other thoughts running in my head... like what is he doing on his computer? <whenever i would try to peek, he would close the lid of his laptop and lately, he put a password in it so i couldn't get in, i asked why... he said with a loving smile... just to torment you... i just tried to laugh it out, thought it was funny though a part of me is shouting he doesn't trust me>and woke up almost midnight..

Basically, I needed advice on what to do to get my husband to talk to me more... have an open communication with the most important man in my life. We promised each other that even before we got married but i guess it's not happening. I feel like he's so far out there, like climbing a wall just to get to his thoughts...I believe he loves me.. and at first I thought and tried accepting maybe it's just his personality. But I need him to understand that I need that too... I need to connect with him to feel satisfaction out of this marriage. Am i asking too much? OUr communication is so poor. I want to try reaching out more and I just feel like im shut down. with other thoughts running in my head... like what is he doing on his computer? <whenever i would try to peek, he would close the lid of his laptop and lately, he put a password in it so i couldn't get in, i asked why... he said with a loving smile... just to torment you... i just tried to laugh it out, thought it was funny though a part of me is shouting he doesn't trust me.. again.. i just feel shut down and closed from his world. I don't care if he may be watching some nasty things on there... I understand the fact that man will be man... I understand privacy and I respect that a lot. What I don't understand is the way he acts when he tries to close his computer whenever I would want to take a peek. When he wakes up in the morning and looks at it and i come close, and i could almost see his windows, he would ask me to get him coffee or water or anything to get me out of the room and close his windows down... he would only say with a smile... just to torment you...

there.. i think at least i have let go of a third of my worst frustrations in this marriage.... i can go back to sleep now... still have to wake up at 5 to get to daily routine needs in the morning.....

What the hell was that Ex-wife calling your husband to get advice where to get cheap clothes?! that is SO not right! damn! I would be furious if I were you. Girl.. save something for yourself ok? don't give it all to him. Maybe he is thinking (this is just my opinion and i dont know him to judge) that you love him so much and its ok to do anything he wants. Don't look desperate for attention in front of him and see how he reacts. Do the same thing hes doing to you. (i know its not a good advice but trust me, you will feel better then mourn afterwards if you are that kind of person whos into revenge.. but in the end would say "i didn't mean it")

Yes.. i understand the privacy issue. He wants his privacy fine. So you want yours too. Had the same issue with my husband but he changed and said that Its not right to keep secrets from me.. not even his damn yahoo messenger/email password. Name it.. I know it all.. from his SSN, credit cards, email log in etc.. etc... and he knows all of mine too. My husband is sneaky and sometimes say things like "yea i like to make you curious" but your husband words is "TORMENT" which is not good. My husband knows that I am sensitive and likes to talk.

Say when your husband say "to torment you" try this respond: "Is this how you should treat your lovely wife?" and ask what is he hiding? IT is very rude of him to just ask you and get him some coffee, water.. whatever just to bust your #### out of the room. You are not his servant!

ONE THING....

you have the right to know EVERYTHING! EVERYTHING about him! no matter how much it hurts. SO Please! Be strong for yourself and for your baby. You are the wife and you have the right to shove off the ex-wife. Do they have child? If not... ####### is the communication for?! My husband has a daughter with her so they just talk about her and what to do with her. No more no less. He knows more than that means argument. Well... He hates his ex-wife anyway. It's also a good thing they dont have spousal support. Does your husband have spousal support on her? ASk him.

Be a strong woman. Don't ever let somebody bring you down and use your weakness to hurt you!

wow I am really sorry to hear that.

Hello to all visajourney goers here! I hope you are all doing great!

Share ko lang... ang hirap mag apply ng work dito grabe! as in overnight ako sa computer. Everyday yun ang ginagawa ko.. ang mag apply ng work. Sa wakas may tumawag naman pero grabeng piga pa ang ginawa ko kakasagot ng mga online test nila. I hope I pass the interview. Sa mga wives din dyan na nag apply ng work like me. Wag tayo mawalan ng pag asa... dadating din ang para sa atin!

Don't ever tell your wife.

Your sister kisses better.......................

haha now that's rodeo love! my husband makes fun of it. Say it while you are making love and see how long you can still stay on that position without being smack!

it also happen to me and my husband,from the bayview park hotel to robinson...i think just only 2 corner but the driver ask us for 300 pesos...i'm shock.but when we go back to hotel we only pay 75 pesos...im so shy to my husband about it.

yan! ganyang ganyan! hay talaga naman ang mga Pilipino oh! hayok sa foreigner... sensya na pero totoo naman.

Nung pumunta kami sa Tagaytay, ganun din.. taga din ang presyo. Nakaka-tawa pa nun, nung aakyat kami dun sa creater ng taal.. pati mag-lalakad ka na nga lang.. may bayad pa.. para daw sa upkeep nung trail eh wala naman kaming nakikitang ginagawa nila?! Puros basura din naman ung gilid gilid. Alam nyo ba ang horse ride, tumatagingting na Php700!! Nung naglalakad na kami.. bumaba sya ng Php200 na lang! wahahahaa!! sa inis namin.. naakyat talaga namin un maliit na trail na un ng walang kaba-kabayo! whehehehe.

kainis no?! galing din kami sa tagaytay papuntang Taal ata yon! yep ang kabayo is 700 mahigit.. e eengot engot pa ako non! Tapos may sasama sayo na parang mga bata grabe pinapalo ng pinapalo ang kabayo tapos magsasabi pa yung matandang kasama na pang tubig daw ng mga bata... kainis!!! nakakapanggigil! tapos nung pababa na kami aba sumakay ba naman sa likod ng husband ko tapos pagbaba namin ng bundok ayun NAWALA ANG WALLET NG HUSBAND KO! tapos TURUAN na sila... sabi nito... sabi niyan nasa kanya daw! halata mong SCAM para kung sino makakita e mabibigyan kuno ng reward! pano ko nasabing SCAM? kasi e nakita na namin ang WALLET nya tapos may isa pang naghabol na alam daw niya kung sino ang kumuha!

GRABE DIBA? di na kami babalik don! kahit kelan!

Tapos eto pa last vacation namin.. kasama ko tatay ko (malaking tao at mukhang sanggano ang tatay ko hahaha!) para di ko masyadong tagain sa taxi! so nagcheck na kami sa PAL at siempre despedida muna since matagal pa kami magboboard sa eroplano so nag abang kami ng TAXI sabi namin din sa KFC lang sa MIA aba sabi ba naman e 100 daw.. nagalit ang tatay ko... minura niya sabi kaya nasisira tayong mga PINOY e dahil sa mga BULOK na kagaya mo! tapos kinuha ng tatay ko ang plate number isusumbong niya sa pulis aba talaga naman di natinag! ang dahilan pa e 5 daw kami at mahuhuli siya! HELLO!!! bandang AIRPORT lang yon di naman kami pupuntang South Super Highway!

TINDI TALAGA! KASUMPA SUMPA! PEDE BA ISUMBONG KAY TULFO ANG MGA SIRA ULONG YON? (TEKA ANG PUSO KO!) LOL

Hello to everybody here! My husband and I just got back from the Philippines. We stayed there for 2 weeks for his dental work and spent the holy week with my family. On the day of our flight, (it was at Centennial Airport PAL). We checked in our bags, showed them our passports, greencard etc etc... The lady told first that I have to pay Php 1,620 for the tax plus Php750 terminal tax. I was like huh? Isn't it included in my ticket already? she said no... then she paused and looked for my greencard and said "oh i'm sorry you only have to pay Php200 plus Php750. I didn't see your greencard" She said i need to go to the "information" and get a paper for tax exemption and give it to her(she said i don't need to get in the line). My husband called it "ransom" only in the Philippines you cant leave without paying the Php750.

Aren't you guys angry about those taxes? I mean... they don't accept cards! only cash either in peso or dollar! WHY? I don't understand. Please enlighten me. Why don't they just put it all in the ticket? or charge the airline and let the airline do whatever they want to collect those. Why is it always cash? why not credit cards or debit cards? I know I sound naive but I just simply don't understand. grrr!!! and why the OFW don't need to pay anything?!?! just because they think immigrants and those who are going for tourist have more money? eh?

Also, have you seen anything like this? We stayed at Bellevue Manila in Ayala-Alabang because they have a holy week promo for two nights it cost only Pho6,000. But you will also see on their website "This is only for Filipino residents" Nakakaloka ang discrimination!

We went to Ayala Museum... they charge more to tourist than Pinoys. Bakit?! I have never seen anything like this in USA. Wow nakakahiya! I feel so ashamed about this in front of my husband. USA never ever charges different rates just because you are a Pinoy, Japanese, Chinese etc.. etc...

Additional:

Taxis! omg... they will always always! try to give you a high rate, won't use their meter and the baddest of all is that when we are already seated and moving the driver will say "pede makidagdagan nalang po? or something like metro plus 100" (could you please add after the meter? or meter plus 100pesos) Thats when we are inside and the taxi is moving already. My husband was so angry and we would just leave it doesnt matter where or if its in an intersection and won't close the door.

Grabe! Just sharing!

im into that situation right now.. i know its hard for all the second wives with the same situation. But just always think... you are the WIFE now. Just think of it as if she didn't exist... ignore, ignore, ignore... and about the children, just be their friends and don't act like the devil stepmom hehe ( i 'watched too much drama!) I'm lucky enough that the X is not crazy and they didn't have spousal support.. they have shared custody and my husband just needs to pay $34 for the support. (but of course he pays more than that.. being a good daddy he is.. which i don't mind).

We just came back from the Philippines for 2 weeks. The X wife was ok with it... She looked at their daughter for 2 weeks straight. I'm thankful that we are both minding our businesses.

i came back to PI last september and didnt lock my bag.it was just me and my 7mos old baby who travelled that time,i just handcarried a baby bag with me since my baby was too heavy plus i had to bring her car seat with us.I took pal from los angeles to manila...when i got home and checked my luggage, my camera was no longer there...the camera bag was still there.Good thing that i put my baby's clothes on top of my laptop and didnt get it..i reported it to pal right away and after 1 week got a letter from pal saying that they will not take it as their responsibility since i already brought my luggage at home..oh well who's stupid do u think will check their luggage at the manila airport

when we came back to US, ive learned my lesson and locked my luggage this time..they didnt open it, well i put 5 locks on it lol

oh im very sorry to hear that. I know it happens... I already bought the TSA accepted locks because I don't really trust luck on this one. They will.. and will check and take advantage of unlocked bags.

Safe travels!!!

Thank you!!!

ohh i see.. thank you guys! I just browsed the SFO international airport website and I know now where to get the TSA approved locks!

hello guys! I hope you can give me an advice with my problem. My husband and I are going to the Philippines coming from SFO international airport. We are planning to stay there for 2 weeks and catch up with the Holy Week. The problem is... he doesn't want to lock his bags. He said that at the SFO airport, customs will check them without your presence and if its locked they will destroy the lock by force (is this true?). I don't know but i have never heard such thing. I came here from the Philippines and all my check-in bags are locked... they didn't destroy it. I saw they just scan it through x-ray... hell... they didn't even scan mine.

I'm worried because if our check-in bags are not locked... people might try to put anything inside like drugs, alcohol... etc.. etc... Especially i don't trust the Philippine Airport. There are so many incidents that unlocked bags are taken advantage of. I'm really worried. Is it really true that customs here just check your bag like open it without your presence? As if you could do something about it if they check it with you there.

Please give me some insights about this. Thank you!

I got a 2 way ticket because it is cheaper and I could use the return ticket in case of emergency. I just keep on adjusting the dates

wth? really? photocopy of credit card? Isn't that too dangerous to get your card stolen? Never ever give somebody your credit card number... might as well as photocopying it? It doesn't sound right to me. They also told me that. My husband and I booked a flight going to Manila next week. There was some complication because I had a return ticket when I got in the USA as a K1 visa holder. So i called them and said I want to move the date of my return ticket to April (my return ticket was schedule sometime in MAY) and charge it to the same credit card that I used but she said... "no mam, you can fax us the copy of your credit card directly to our office to pay the penalty fee.

Told my husband about this....he said... no way! There are too many credit card frauds already and no American or somebody who are used to having a credit card will just photocopy their credit cards or fax and give it to somebody. In other words, we changed airlines. They are too cheap that they are willing to risk their customer's security tsk tsk tsk.

thank you so much for the replies! It really helps me decide. My husband said for the non-special we could just give them chocolates. You know in the Philippines... news travels so fast and we might see people who are uninvited and know that we arrived lol. It happens a lot.

Again... thank you guys!

Hello guys! My husband and I are going to the Philippines next week mainly because he wanted to have his teeth done there. He needs to have a new bridge and a replacement one. It is damn expensive here in the USA and our dental insurance is not really good. Here it would cost more or less $4000 now that's a lot of money. So we decided to just do it in the Philippines and of course visit my family as well. This might be the last visit for me because we are planning to save money. Just sharing

Now, I'm being pressured by my friends and relatives to give them 'pasalubong' -sigh- we don't really have a lot of money and if it wasn't urgent we wouldn't go to the Philippines at all. I want to tell them we have no money and trying to save as much as possible and not spend too much on this trip. I'm not planning to buy a lot of pasalubongs. Don't wanna be treated as a wealthy balikbayan because I'm not. We both are. They just don't understand how hard it is to live here. -sigh-

Just venting

just tell her go back to the Philippines and please don't advise her to find another man from the USA. It's bad. Its one of the reasons why Filipinas are having a hard time getting a visa to be with their loved ones because of this kind of situation.

Lawyer won't do anything

Marring another guy will make it worse

overstaying her visa of 90 days is also not good

i don't understand.. why is there still a fuss about this? Ok you told us your story.. Some of us here gave you suggestions, their experiences, their opinions and others criticize you already. So what do you want to know now? We've said it all here. I think we're out of things to say to you. This time you have to do what you think is right. Good luck!

hello guys!

i am so worried here.i can't sleep.i thought my great ordeal has stopped when uscis approved my k-1 petition.it took them SEVEN LONG months to do that!!! we filed on august and just on the 6th of march they had it approved on expedited process i believe so.now my petition is stuck at NVC!it's on administrative processing!i can't believe my fortune here.im so disheartened.i've waited long enough already, i don't think i could still wait for more.what should i do?

i'm sorry to hear that. Hey it happened to me too. If you look at my timeline there is a big gap after being approved before transferred to NVC. I even received 2 approval notice but different dates. What happened was.. instead of filing it to be transferred to NVC they filed it as their own record. It got stuck there for 3 months! I know how you feel. Keep calling NVC coz that might be the case. DO you know the NVC manager or director's number? I think it was posted here.

Maybe its just me but it really really turns me off when they ask me. Sometimes i don't know how to reply. Usually if its ym I just stop answering but if its in person... really caught me off guard. I don't want to be rude but sometimes when i'm not in the mood i really shove them off and act so mean. I guess I'm too serious My husband doesn't like it too and said it gives some Filipina a bad name. Like what would their intention be? If its for money or love... we wouldn't really know right? I just don't want to take the risk and be blamed afterwards. One wrong move by a Filipina could easily be judged by the entire world. Sad but it is true. Not all people are open-minded.

she might not be telling you all about her as what you have previously stated you didn't really tell her about your past relationships coz she didn't ask. What about you? did you ask her about her previous life? How much do you really know? This kind of situation is very rare and most of the time happens for a reason. When i went to have my interview at the embassy... nothing like this happen or at least not that I am aware of. And what's up with the pre-nup? when you marry somebody you don't need any agreements otherwise it would sound like a business proposal that needs contract.

I don't know you or her to judge but this sounds very very unlikely to me. She might not be the most smartest girl in the world but i understand if shes being maltreated then it's not pleasant. I have a relative who is a Visayan native and when she got interviewed by the CO she was given an interpreter. (but that also sounds fishy to me. lol dont know if shes telling me the truth... coz why would you marry somebody who can't even speak your language?) How's her english? I think you know communication is VERY important in a relationship. If neither of you don't have a good grasp of each others language usually its doomed. But in most cases, the Pinays are the ones fluent in English.

You can't marry somebody who you can't even communicate well. Might as well hire an interpreter for life.

hello again to my fellow visajourney goers! Hope you are all ok and happy with your loved ones! I know it's hard to be separated but I hope for those who are still waiting for their visas, you'll get it soon! Just always be positive

Anyways, I just one question and need your opinion about this. Do you guys find it so irritating (or seems not right) when your fellow Pinays ask you this "uy hanap mo naman ako ng papa dyan... or sino ang irereto mo sa akin dyan?" -translation- (hey, could you find me a lover there? or do you have somebody who you can introduce me to?" It really turns me off when my friends,so-called friends or even just somebody i worked with at the office ask me those. It seems for me that they only want a ticket to go to the USA. Sounds like it for me... but this is just my opinion. I might be getting paranoid too from not having enough sleep. lol No pms yet! Can't help but to think.. can't you find your own man?

Just want to know your opinion about this kind of attitude.