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Ok, so this might be a bit off topic, but are any of you struggling the way we are? Our entire relationship was long distance and it was always a struggle. I thought after we got married n got the papers rollin that things would get better. For like a month after we got married we were doing great but now its back to fighting all the time. It is purely stress from living apart, its not that we dont love eachother or get along, but when ur so far, even if u do trust ur spouse, theres a feeling of insecurity. We probably have at least a year of this and I neeeeed advise???
I understand that you feel like your relationship is a struggle some days. I used to feel that way too.... But I can tell you this... It will get better! A lot better. Me and my husband met while I was vacationing in the US 3 years ago. I had to go back home after spending only 1 week with him....(I met him on the last week I was over there!) We knew that things were going to be hard... And we really didn't know much about each other... All we knew was that we really felt for each other and that we could not just let each other go without trying. So we started dating..... The first 6-8 months was not always easy, but not so bad that we wanted to break things off! So we went ahead and got married.... Everything changed after that. He have met all my friends, family, co-workers etc...
We have lived together in my apt as married couple(all this before we got married) But what really changed everything was the marriage itself. We trust each other 100% and the stupid arguments/fights that we used to have doesn't happen anymore.... We have the BEST relationship! He is my best friend and lover... Everything! We have changed so much and everything is for the better... We talk about that a lot. And we both agree on that it is mostly cuz we are husband and wife now. Marrying someone is a huge thing and that's when you know that what you have is for real, not some game that you're playing!
I know for sure that things will get better between you two if you only give it a chance! Don't start a fight the minute you get on the phone/online etc. Maybe you should do what me and my husband did... We wrote this thing together "Our beautiful love story", it took about 3 days. What we did was that we decided on a "topic" for each day that we would write about. We started out with "the first time I saw you".... So I wrote down my thoughts and feelings about this moment. And he wrote his.... 3 days later we had our story in a folder on our comps. It was a great feeling reading his thoughts and feelings about me and the things that we had been been doing for the past 6 months or so... I still read this "story" some times and it puts a big smile on my face every time... After we had finished this little project we felt so blessed for finding each other. We realized how lucky we are to have each other! Things like this might seem silly to some, but it really makes a difference. Another thing you can do is try not to talk to each other in a couple of days.... Or will that make things worse? How about if you do some shopping online together? Like picking out things that you want to get for your first place together.... If you can't get online at the same time to do this, you can send him pictures and ask what he thinks about this and that... You need to do things "together", like you were living together. Watch the same movies and talk about them etc. There is so many things that you can do to make a long distance relationship a lot easier. If you can't find a way to do so, maybe you are not meant to be? How will things get once you live together in the US? I'm sure you can find a way out of this!!
Don't give up! -
My case was completed on 1/29/09!! I'm so anxious for the interview date to come already!! Does anyone know for when I can have a possible interview?
Thanks
Congratulations!!! I'm really happy for you.... :-)
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If your husband is agreed to live overseas (Sweden or elsewhere) My advice is to give it a chance and go for it. Life is about a journey and the destination doesn't have to be the US.
The decision should be based on things other than the current financial crisis or benefits in your home country (those are valid of course) but rather on where you want to live, together, where you'll be happy. Millions of people find Europe (even Sweden
) a perfectly wonderful place to live, grow and raise a family. (Plus you can always come to the US later on.)When the opportunity is right for us, we'll gladly move back to Germany - because it's where we love to be..
You are absolutely right!
It isn't about the money, it does count though... I would go anywhere in the world, if I knew we would make it there! I don't need a big house, cars and other things... All I ever wanted is my husband, a family some day and food on the table. I am a very simple girl, my husband is the same way.... I just don't want to make a bad choice, cuz that is about our kids future. I don't want them to grow up in a shady neighborhood with no money, no nothing! My husband never had a bike when he was a little boy, that was his dream. When he got older he made a promise to himself, that one day when he will be a father, that's what he will do... give a bike to his kid. I want to make that happen cuz I know that would make my husband really happy! I'm not sure that will be possible if we decide to live in the US...(this is if things would go downhill for, I mean get really bad! lol) I know for sure this will happen if we decide on living in Sweden....So.... We have 2 options. A, Stay in "safe" Sweden, pay those crazy taxes...(we will always have food on the table tho) B, Take a chance and go with the US... We might end up in a nice house on the wealthy side of the city.... OR end up in the trailer park next to the city dump!
(of course there are things in between those two options too! It's like the lottery, you never know about America... lol)Whatever we'll decide on, we will win some and we will lose some.... But, hey... that's life! You can have it all...(I wish tho) Thank you so much for your comment! I feel a lot better and less confused about things now....(thanks to everyone who took their time to write a reply!)
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As you have a job and an apartment in Sweden it would seem like a good idea for you both to be there for a few years, start a family - take advantage of the more family friendly system.
I'm not sure what the rules are for Sweden and dual nationality but if there's the option of your husband staying long enough for that then you could DCF for the US visa (much quicker than the K3) and you could follow the US system through to citizenship and then in the future you could both live anywhere in the US or EU without any more visa hassles.
I would have loved to do a similar thing - I had a really good job with fantastic maternity cover in the UK - basically you could take a year off and still come back to your same job/pay with the option of part-time flexible work when you returned.
Unfortunately my husband isn't able to move to the UK for several years and that means I have had to give up my job and am about to move to the US. We are going to want to start a family as soon as possible and I am DREADING doing it within the US system.
Your husband sounds like he is used to travel and living within other countries/cultures - he may relish the challenge of living in Sweden for a few years. He will certainly then be more understanding of your move to the US when that happens.
Hi there!
Thank you so much for you comment! The things that you are saying makes much sense. I do think that staying in Sweden is the best thing to do, at least for the next 4-5 years or so... Until the kid/kids are a bit older.(less costs etc) I understand that the difference between the UK and the USA is huge!(when it comes to maternity leave etc)But.... I am sure that your life in the US will be so much better, cuz you will be with your husband! That's what really matters in the end. Too bad your hubby can't move to the UK... But that's life! Ha ha... I guess we can't have it all!(I wish though)
All the best to you and your husband! Good luck in your new country....
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Isn't Sweden a part of the EU? If it is, then isn't the whole of Europe open to you to immigrate to? If you don't want your husband to have to learn a new language (I'm guessing Swedish isn't that easy, but it can't be more difficult than learning English ) why not pick some other EU country and go there, where there's a large population of English speakers. But I've never met a Swede who didn't speak English, I'll also guess it won't be so difficult for your husband to get around for a while before he picks up a few phrases and eventually finds himself nearly fluent.
If you're both thinking of having children in the next handful of years, I'd seriously think about staying in Sweden or another EU country. Medical costs alone in the US can have you bankrupt just giving birth, and gods forbid if anything happens to the baby or you during birth (The US has the highest mortality rate in all the Western world for pregnant women, can you believe that! Also the highest rate of premies in the Western world, because of lack of prenatal care). Plus of course only 6 weeks maternity leave (UNpaid), and if the baby gets sick, as someone else metioned, you have to use up your precious little vacation time to care for it, or take an FMLA leave (UNpaid).
Medical insurance is another major cost. For just me and my husband I pay over $400 per month premiums, and then still have to pay out of pocket any time we visit the doctor. Depending what the visit is for, that can run anywhere from $10 to $100 if labs are needed.
There are small pockets of the US that have not been terribly hard hit by this recession, but if it goes on much longer, there won't be one single person here not affected by it. We have no way of knowing, short of getting a time machine, what the new year will bring.
Yes, Sweden IS a part of the EU. I did look into this option... I was thinking that we could move to Spain, my husband speak Spanish and I will get fluent in 1 or 2 years I guess... There are thousands of Swedish citizens living(or just vacationing there) in Spain too, so I could probable get a job at a hotel where Scandinavians usually stays at.... My hubby wasn't too happy with that idea though! Ha ha... So I guess that's a no go!
I know that it is very expensive to have a child in the US(and many other countries) and it gets even worse if something should happen during the pregnancy or after the child is born. If you are not sure you will have a easy pregnancy/labor, nothing out of the ordinary, such as preeclampsia or a birth defect(no one can possible know that!)you are good to go! But if anything happens to you or the baby, you are alone to figure how to pay for the hospital care(surgeries, medication etc) That really scares me... Not that I am worrying about it, but IF.... This and knowing that I might not be able to pay for my and my family's health insurance makes me wanna stay in Sweden, but there are so many good things about living in America too... It's not always about the money! Money is not everything, but it sure makes a difference! It wont buy you love or happiness but it does put food on the table... So this is a really hard choice for us! If I had a million dollars on the bank, enough to pay for everything that my family will need... I would definitely choose the US over Sweden!
Well.... We still have a few months to decide on how to do with this! Your comment definitely helps a lot! Thank you so much for your point of view in this.
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Having lived in Sweden myself... I would recommend for you to stay in Sweden a bit longer till you make a decision. If it wasn't for the weather I would have myself moved to Sweden. However, as my Swedish cousin says, "You will always be a rich POOR man in Sweden" (Of course he is referring to the high taxes one has to pay).
You are still young... you have a few years to play around with. If I was you I would enroll in a college in Sweden
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
The climate in Sweden is the following: Jan-April, Cold, windy, lots of rain or/and snow. May-July, Chilly/too hot, raining all the time OR too damn dry(in other words you are prohibited to light a fire, which means no BBQ on the beach) Aug-Sep, Super HOT! But some times quite nice... Too bad most people are back to work...(ppl always seem to forget summer does NOT start in June)Oct-Dec, Freezing! Windy, Rain or/and snow(not unusually both on the same week, on and off...) The weather and the high taxes, that is the 2 "issues" I have about Sweden and living there! If Sweden was a country in the Mediterranean, I am sure everyone would immigrate to Sweden!
I am thinking about going back to school(the university)actually! So I might just do that and work for 1-2 years.... Start a family and move to the US when the kids are in middle school or something.... Ha ha....
Thank you for your comment!
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I'm not gonna tell you not to come to the USA I do really like this country, otherwise I would not have stayed myself, but if you are planning on adding kids to the mix in the near future, I just want to warn you how not-kid friendly the USA is.
You get, about 6 weeks off from work after having a baby, unpaid of course unless you are one in a million who is employed by a company that pays you. You will have to provide health insurance for this child which is very expensive, daycare can be pretty high too, depending on where in the USA you live. When you child is sick, you better hope the company you work for is very understanding, or they will take out any of you vacation days so you can stay home -hopefully you will not get sick yourself too, that even more UNPAID days off from work.
In Denmark where I am from we have very similar benefits Sweden and was horrified to learn how they do thing over here. Luckily, I had my daughter while I was college over here; I could take a semester off and stay home until my child was 6 mo. old - it should be a crime to expect a new mother to leave her child at 6 weeks!
We were planing on going back to Denmark because of the situation over here but at the last minute I was offered a well paid job and we have now filed for AOS instead. I hope things will get better soon and if you decide to come over here, I'm sure you will make it although your standard of living may be lowered for a while - it depends on where you are going and what kind of profession you plan on going into (finance/real estate is not doing very good (-: )
You might newer really notice anything except maybe slightly higher food prices. If you have already applied I would say you might as well go ahead with it and move over here and if things get worse you can always leave. That's what we plan on doing, and I think that is one of the benefits of marrying someone from a foreign country. And who is to say things won't get worse in Europe too - just look at Iceland!
good luck to whatever you decide, it's hard to predict what will come of all this really.
Yep. We do have a lot of benefits in Scandinavia, some times too many in my opinion...(people just want more and more)
I didn't even think about that before I met my husband... You really have to earn things in the US. You wont get things unless you do something for it. I think that's the way it should be, but not about everything. One thing that I think is better in the US is that you don't pay cuz I want to have kids, that's how it works in Sweden. That is not fair to taxpayers without kids. Well no country is perfect...(If you find the perfect country, pls let me know!) Well we haven't filed for the K-3 yet, we were going to do that in the beginning of next year. But we are not sure we want that anymore... We do want to live in the US, but starting a family just seem too hard over there. My husband is the one who said that we should move to Sweden, cuz he really knows how hard things can be over there.(He comes from a big family)I have mixed feelings about this right now. Don't know what to do next! But I guess we will give Sweden a try... I'm not so sure my husband will like it though, there is a huge difference in living here and just visiting. I know many Americans that just couldn't stand it here!(life IS very different here compared to the life in the US) And I guess that I would feel the same way about life in the US(if we can't afford a "good life")
I guess the best thing is to stay in Sweden, for now. Cuz I really don't think that we will have the money to start a family, not in the next 5-7 years...(we don't want to wait that long) I'm just afraid my husband will be miserable in Sweden...
Thank you so much for you comment! It's always good to hear someone's opinion!
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Can I come to Sweden with you? Personally, I would decide on quality of life. I'm near your age and things are difficult starting out. My hubby's been here in the US with me almost 2 years and things have improved tremendously for us. We're looking forward to starting a family in the next year or so, I would jump at the chance stay home with our child without a significant loss of income. Daycare where we live is hard to find and costs more than our rent!
'course you can!
We really want to start a family too, in the next 2 or 3 years so that is the one of the reasons we're having 2nd thoughts about me moving to the US.... I am happy that things have improved for you guys! The only way is up now... ha ha.... I understand that most people in the US are saving money to be able to afford having a kid in the future, that is not something Swedes have to think about. Life over here is so easy, compared to the life in the US. I just wish that we could bring all those good things to America, cuz that's where we really want to live! Well you cant' have it all... Daycare is not free in Sweden, but it is not expensive at all...(that's the law, everyone has the rights to daycare for their child. Even if the parents are unemployed!) Both parents have the right to stay at home with their newborn for 3 weeks(again, that's the law) and after the 3 weeks is up, one of the parents will get to stay at home for 390/480 days(mom or dad, it doesn't matter. You will still get 80% of your salary.)Fathers MUST stay at home with the baby for at least 60 days, that's the law.... but you can choose who's going to stay at home with the baby after those 60 days are up. I know many fathers in Sweden that chose to stay at home for 10 months or longer, so that their wife/gf could make a career! Those are the things that I would love to "take with me" to the US...
Did i mention that you still will get paid(80%)if you need to stay home from work with your sick child?!(if the kid is 15 yo or younger)Why can't this be the same for the US? ha ha....I really hope that things will get better soon. People getting their jobs back etc. Cuz I really don't want my husband to move to a new country, again... learn a new language and all that! I believe that a life in the US would have more quality after all... But I can't go, if I can't get a job!
All the best to you and your husband! / Janette
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Things are always more difficult financially when you are young. It sounds like you put the relationship first, and you are right - it isn't all about money, etc. Proceed slowly, carefully, and above all together. You are both young enough to ignore the financial mess - it will pass in time. Good Luck!
You are so right!
This is not about money, but we can't rush into things and get miserable later cuz we chose the wrong path... On the other hand, there's always a way back! My husband and I will decide on what to do when he comes back from Iraq next year. And I know we will be alright, no matter what. Thank you so much for you comment! -
Hello, My husband is Nigerian and his medical exam tested positive for HIV. He submitted his medical waiver at the embassy and it is being forwarded to the USCIS office in Ghana Africa. We submitted evidence of medical insurance and income to pay for cost of treatment here in the U.S. and have secured a doctor who signed responsibility for his treatment and reporting to CDC and the health department signed for tracking of his medical care on the I I602 form. We sited hardship of his inability to get proper medical care in Nigeria for HIV related illness. His letter an mine showed our awareness of how his disease is transmitted, ways he can prevent infecting others and that he will present minimal risk of infecting anyone. Our letters discuss his cultural discrimination and shunning of HIV infected individuals in his country and his need to be here for family support and my willingness and our family here's willingness to take care of him throughout his illness. I am writing to see if anyone has gone through this process for HIV infection...not the other reasons for I601 waivers and how this process worked for them and were they ever denied for any reason? Please, any info will be helpful! I have searched the internet for days and only mention of denials are for other inadmissibility reasons not HIV and I'm wondering if that is a good sign that there's no discussion of denial in these cases?
Also, in a search of this site on topic of HIV i read where some UNINFORMED person wrote..."and if you have HIV then that's the end of it, you can't enter the U.S." PLEASE don't write something like this unless you have FACTS to support your statement! Isn't this site for information not assumptions? The interviewer will give the HIV positive person the waiver form at the interview and there IS hope! As of July 2008 Bush lifted the regulations with immigration services that denied immigrant admission into the U.S. due to HIV infection!!!!!!!!!!! And it is the ignorance of the public to the facts of how HIV is contracted that motivated the President to enlighten the immigration services to the myths that motivated public fear so that HIV positive foriegners are no longer discriminated against because of lack of public awareness of the risks of transmission of this disease. To be fully informed you can go to the CDC website and learn about the truth of HIV transmission. Ok, sorry I got on the soapbox about this, but that person's comment is just and example of statements made by under informed people that can cause unneeded stress to individuals already experiencing anguish and pain like you can't imagine...thanks so much for any helpful help that might assist us as we wait through this process. God bless....
I don't know anything about immigrating on this type of waiver, I just want to wish you good luck and all the best to you! HIV infection is a serious condition and your husband do need to get good medical care. I just hope that things will run smoothly for you guys... No bumps on the road etc. I will keep you in my prayers! The love that you have for each other will make things feel a lot easier when times get hard. Never lose hope or faith in each other! Once again, good luck to you guys! :-)
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From your first post it sounds like you are in the US and thinking of moving back to Sweden.
Weigh your options carefully. I'm sure you know money isn't everything...focus on the quality of life stuff. The economic problems in the US (and Sweden I'm guessing) will get better in time- and your pay checks will too.
Might be a good idea to put in 3 or so years living in the US now...so that you can get citizenship then you can come and go as couple in & out of the US at will. Otherwise, realize that if you stay in Sweden you will have to go through immigration if you plan to live in the US eventually. Either way, I don't think you can go wrong...its just another path.
I'm back in Sweden for now, my husband will be in Iraq until April 2009. And the Visa waiver only allows me to stay for 90 days at a time... And I do have a job and a apartment in Sweden, so we're in Sweden most of the time. And that is one of the reasons we are thinking about living in Sweden for a few years, or longer.... Who knows in times like these!
The best thing would probable be if I go to the US next year, go all the way with the GC process and so on... Nobody knows how things will be in the future, if the immigration "policy" will change in the next 4 years or not... Who knows if it will get even harder for people to immigrate to the US.... BUT the thing is that there are so many good things about living in Sweden. One example is that when you have a baby, you will get to stay at home with the child for up to 390 days. During that period of time you will keep getting 80% of whatever you make per month!(taxes not incl.) You also have the choice to stay at home for 480 days, but after the 390 days is up you will get about 25 USD per day. Pretty good, huh? ;-)
Well this is really not about getting all the benefits in Sweden or having millions on the bank, we would be happy if we could afford a apartment and live a happy life together. I would go anywhere in the world with my husband... But I don't know if we are willing to give up everything that we have in Sweden for a future in a trailer park, because that's were we might end up...(None of us attended collage, no money saved etc) I would love to go back to school! And I am willing to work with just about anything... But again, who knows in times like these? Will I be able to find a job? My husband is very concerned about all this. He is hearing about all those people losing their jobs and he is worried he wont even get that job!(that they said he would get as soon as he gets back from Iraq) I'm not there to see this with my own eyes, so I really don't know how "bad" things are in the US right now. I really don't want my husband to move to a new country(again)and start all over again with a new language etc. Are the headlines in the newspaper for real? Is is really that bad?(You can imagine how I feel when I'm reading all this about the country I was planning on moving to) Gaaaahh.... I really don't know what to do! :-S
Thank you so much for you comment!
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What's your status here then if you have not yet started the AOS process?
What's my status? Well... we were going to file for the K3 Visa... But we're not sure if we are going to do that! We are thinking about living in Sweden instead.
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My husband and I are having serious thoughts about leaving the US(NYC) for Sweden, my country of birth... We believe that we will have a better life over there(financially)but we really don't know what to do.... We know for sure that we will have more money, a better apartment and such if we do choose to live in Sweden. But we will miss so many things, that both of us love about the US... The people, how "things work", the weather(!) My husband was born in Latin America, came to the US when he was 9... this country is what he calls home. How about me? Well... I have lived in Europe my whole life(we have made many, many trips over seas for the past 3 years!) and I don't have a problem with that... :-p But I wouldn't mind staying in the US. I love it here, but giving up everything that I have here for a future we know nothing about, that's probable not a great move. We don't even know if my husband will still have that job offer he got, before he left for the deployment in Iraq... (He will be home by the end of April) Btw we haven't started the GC process for me yet. So what I am asking for is some advice! What should we do? Choose money over a "happier life"(that we would get in the US) Money is not everything after all.... But it sure makes a difference! Thoughts? I am very thankful for any advice or thoughts about this! :-)
//Janette Diaz
You might not want to rush anything following a deployment. Allow some time after he returns to let the dust settle before making any big life changing decisions. Please thank him for his service.
Thai Mom
This is his 2nd round... So I know things will take time, he will need some time before we make any decisions.... Thank you so much for you comment!
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My husband and I are having serious thoughts about leaving the US(NYC) for Sweden, my country of birth... We believe that we will have a better life over there(financially)but we really don't know what to do.... We know for sure that we will have more money, a better apartment and such if we do choose to live in Sweden. But we will miss so many things, that both of us love about the US... The people, how "things work", the weather(!) My husband was born in Latin America, came to the US when he was 9... this country is what he calls home. How about me? Well... I have lived in Europe my whole life(we have made many, many trips over seas for the past 3 years!) and I don't have a problem with that... :-p But I wouldn't mind staying in the US. I love it here, but giving up everything that I have here for a future we know nothing about, that's probable not a great move. We don't even know if my husband will still have that job offer he got, before he left for the deployment in Iraq... (He will be home by the end of April) Btw we haven't started the GC process for me yet. So what I am asking for is some advice! What should we do? Choose money over a "happier life"(that we would get in the US) Money is not everything after all.... But it sure makes a difference! Thoughts? I am very thankful for any advice or thoughts about this! :-)
//Janette Diaz
Sounds like you are pretty young. I suggest you get your US citizenship and then decide. That will give you more options.
I am 27 years old... ;-) Well I don't know if I want to give up my car, job, new apt etc. If I knew that I was going to get a job in the US, I would be on that plane right now.... But it's not that easy, not in times like these...(people losing their jobs because of the financial crisis) Thank you for you comment! //Janette
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My husband and I are having serious thoughts about leaving the US(NYC) for Sweden, my country of birth... We believe that we will have a better life over there(financially)but we really don't know what to do.... We know for sure that we will have more money, a better apartment and such if we do choose to live in Sweden. But we will miss so many things, that both of us love about the US... The people, how "things work", the weather(!) My husband was born in Latin America, came to the US when he was 9... this country is what he calls home. How about me? Well... I have lived in Europe my whole life(we have made many, many trips over seas for the past 3 years!) and I don't have a problem with that... :-p But I wouldn't mind staying in the US. I love it here, but giving up everything that I have here for a future we know nothing about, that's probable not a great move. We don't even know if my husband will still have that job offer he got, before he left for the deployment in Iraq... (He will be home by the end of April) Btw we haven't started the GC process for me yet. So what I am asking for is some advice! What should we do? Choose money over a "happier life"(that we would get in the US) Money is not everything after all.... But it sure makes a difference! Thoughts? I am very thankful for any advice or thoughts about this! :-)
//Janette Diaz
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Does any woman here have a fiancee who is younger than yourself?
Someone here commented that it might cause an extra scrutiny at the service center. Is it true?
My (male) fiancee is 6 years younger than me and I'm worried if this may delay our timeline.
Don't worry! :-) You will be just fine.... It's not like he is 18 and you are 42.... That would be a bit "odd".(It still happens though and that does NOT mean it is a fraud) My hubbie is 3 years younger than me and I used to feel like it was such a BIG deal!(I thought that was what people would think) Remember age is just a number! Plus... Love is blind! lol
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I agree in what you say.... It is hard some times when people doesn't understand or don't want to understand.... I choose not to tell some people about my LDR. When you are living thousands of miles away from the one you love, you don't want to hear that your relationship is not going to last etc etc. Some people are very understanding and doesn't think that a LDR is something weird at all! Those are the people I chose to talk to.
It was hard in the beginning of our relationship cuz my family seemed to think that this was something that would end in a few months or so... They just didn't realize that I and my now husband was 100% sure that we wanted to be together for a very, very long time.... ha ha.... Now that we're married the doubts that they had is gone. That makes me feel really good. Not that I would care if they disapproved for the rest of my life!
I don't get upset anymore when people say something negative about LDR's. They don't know what it is like... I have an ex-co worker that used to tell me that I was crazy for doing this blah.. blah... Guess what? Well... he went to the US for 1 year to study and when he got back home he said this: "I know exactly how you feel now! You are not crazy."(He met a girl)
I don't feel like I'm the only one in this world that is in a LDR anymore, not since I found VJ!(Knowing this helps me through those days when I feel blue) All the best to you all! <3