B&DT

1 minute ago, AnotherLove said:

Phew. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Looks like he is a decomposed pile of garbage - like mine. Will read this whole thread now. 

Oh yeah....  so sick. Well no USA for me unfortunately. But its been a rough ride..traumatized finding out everything was all lies. Now divorce, the a**hole wont file for divorce ..letting me pay for that too

8 hours ago, Redro said:

9 hours ago, B&DT said:

 

What counts as fraud in divorce court

 (where only one party is guilty) might count as immigration fraud (by both parties)… Have you spoken to an immigration lawyer FROM THE US or a divorce lawyer FROM THE US/ Sweden…?

 None of the above. A Fraud specialist laywer from the US.

You seem to mix all this up with Visa fraud. There is no visa fraud in all this but plain fraud  and false intend to marry for financial benefit.  This is plain criminal charge or charge for a civil lawsuit.

I would probably qualify for a work visa as a Nurse. 

Unfortunately anullment is not a thing in Michigan as i understand it.  

Im simply trying to figure my way around this situation. 

4 minutes ago, Family said:

What you have described will not meet the VAWA standards. ..inasmuch as the multitude of chat logs did not scare, intimidate or threaten you and only now as you filter them through the heartbreak lens do they seem bad. 
 

Cheating , relationship stressors and even grifting are par for the course in long distance ..though he may have imagined himself more as a Sugar Baby than a Provider Husband.

 

If your marriage won’t survive the infidelity, future hopes of green card via VAWA are unrealistic.  Flagging him w USCIS will shine unwanted attention on you too. For now you are able to come and go as you please..don’t risk it

With all respect you dont really know whats in the chat logs. A laywer called it a def. Entering marriage with false intend.. 

I might not qualify for vawa but why would that risk me coming to US ? 

20 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

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Thank you so much ! I will do that right away

9 minutes ago, Boiler said:

We have had members apply for VAWA through Consular processing, not common, but I have seen it happen.

 

I do not think I have come across a case where the non USC has reported their spouse to USCIS, maybe I have forgotten, no reason of course why not. I see the main benefit is that this would make it very difficult for him to sponsor somebody else.

 

I agree with the other posters, your first focus should be getting your life back on track, filing for divorce, I think you have 2 years from the date of divorce to file VAWA. You can divorce in your home country.

Thank you,  I have learned that the internet is his playground and i wouldn't wish upon anyone to experience what i have, so if he could be "flagged" at USCIS that would be the best tbh. 

I was clever enough to bring the marriage certificate with me home. So i will divorce him from Denmark.

Im just very confused right now sorry. 

4 minutes ago, Redro said:

I am so sorry you are experiencing this right now. 

As you are in therapy I recommend talking to your therapist about how best to move forward.

I wish you healing and happiness.  

Thank you so much ❤️

15 minutes ago, Redro said:

VAWA isn't a fast or easy fix especially outside the US. 

It currently takes about 3 years when someone is inside the US. Most people don't apply outside the US but you would be waiting maybe 3-4 years. 

You won't be able to resolve your moving to the US issue in September when you are no longer able to stay in your current residence. 

I would add - if your spouse is being supported by you and has children (and appears to not be working). I do not think they will be able to successfully sponsor you via the I-864. 

 

You might want to reconcile with the reality that moving to the US is not on the horizon and if your spouse is currently not working and using you for money. He might not have ever had the plan to complete the process. 

You are probably right, right now im traumatised by it all and trying to figure things out. My whole life has been shatterd etc.  

Im not supporting him fully but over some months ..

16 minutes ago, carmel34 said:

All you can do is report his behavior to USCIS.  They will review the facts and make a decision whether to investigate or not.  Documentation of the fraudulent behavior will be necessary, not just your claims:

 

https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud/uscis-tip-form

 

You can also try to file VAWA from outside the US if you qualify:

 

https://www.uscis.gov/humanitarian/abused-spouses-children-and-parents

 

Note that to qualify, you need to have resided with your husband in the USA for an undefined period of time.  You can apply and see if your visits to stay with him are sufficient.  You will also need documentation to show that "extreme cruelty" occurred in the US while you were visiting/living together.  His narcissism alone may not be enough, but the reviewing officers will make the decision based on their judgment and interpretation of the law.

 

So sorry this has happened to you, and best of luck!

Thank you !

I have a ton of proof. page after page of chatlogs, reciepts and so on. He hated talking on the phone so everything is chatlogged. I had to stop reading them because it made me sick. The lieing, manipulation and everything is so clear. I didn't see it at the time, only remember times of confusion on what he said etc. Very traumatising.

I will look into it all thank you so much.

Im trying to make sense of my life right now since it has been broken into a million pieces. 

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

VAWA can be done through a Consulate.

Thank you, im looking into possible crminal charges for fraud.  To me it looks like he never intended to have me immigrate. But only wanted me to support him from Denmark. So i think that he married me to "keep the fraud going"  He asked me to marry him. 

3 minutes ago, Dashinka said:

I am confused.  Are you in the US now?  What is the status of the spousal visa?  If outside the US, I am not sure there is anything that can be done.

I left Us because i didn't know where to go or do when i found out about it all. I was in a state of shock. Status on spousal visa has just turned to *taking longer than expected* 

1 hour ago, Allaboutwaiting said:

You need to read on the requirements for self petitioning to evaluate if your case qualifies.

 

https://www.uscis.gov/humanitarian/abused-spouses-children-and-parents

 

Now, I'm curious about two things:

1.  You mention "financial benefit". What do you mean by that?

2. Why do you want to move to the US if your marriage is not working out?

By financial benefit i mean that he actually wasn't looking for jobs, letting me pay rent etc.  

I dont have any family anymore here, i have made friends and have a close relationship with his kids.

Thank you for the link.

There are many many more details to all this. I im therapy because of this. My whole life and future i thought i had was all lies.

Since May my husbands behavior changed alot. Suddenly silent treatment while i was there and finding out about other women. We have spousal visa pending. I have visiting every 3 months staying for 3 weeks. I left after 5 days with my personal stuff. I was completely in shock and had a very bad feeling. We been together 2 years and married 10 months. I have temporary living in my country getting ready for GC. Only a bed and personal belongings. I have read through chat logs etc. And there is no doubt that he has been grooming me, gaslighting, silent treatment, lies..lies lies. I have paid for furniture, helped out with rent, gerting his car fixed etc. So he could get a job, keep it etc.  When waiting time on i130 now said weeks.. this behavior to me in direct person. Cleary all other visits has been love bombing to keep in loop. 

I cant find a new place to live that i can afford in my country. Im pretty sure this whole marriage and relationship is fraud on his part for financial benefit. 

I am so lost and dont know what to do.

My future was in US and now nothing and the place im staying told me i will have to move out in September.

Can i do Vawa?  Hours and hours leave little doubt about the mental and psychological abuse he put me through.  

Please ..i really didn't see it. I know i should have but i didn't. 

I visit my husband on esta without problems, i have return ticket. Been asked a few questions, but no problems at all !!

You are completely fine staying your 90 days on esta or the full length of visa !!

11 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

Once you get to NVC, He will complete the I864 and use his current income .. payslips  as documentation. 
 

breathe.  I know its not easy.. i had my own pure panic moments during our immigration journey .. but we made it .. and so will you. 
 

This is a great resource and v useful to read read and reread in preparation  for the NVC stage 

 

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/us-visas/immigrate/the-immigrant-visa-process/step-1-submit-a-petition/step-2-begin-nvc-processing.html

Thank you !! for comforting words.  i do feel hopeless right now. 

I even have an education wheres theres a ton of jobs, so i wouldn't go without work anyway.

Ah this is such a depressing difficult journey

22 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

Are you DQ at NVC?  If so, he csn complete an updated I 864 and you csn take it to the interview along with the pay stubs etc. if not yet DQ.. wait and see if there is an RFE.. and how it us worded. He should  file 2022 tax asap and ensure you have the pay stubs in hand.  .
 

What did he put for current income in the I864 .. or is that still to be completed and uploaded  ? 

No DQ yet ... trying to prepare for it. He just filed taxes for 2022 so thats done.

Im just really chocked... itdont really make sense to me, but thats just me.

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

OK.  What he made in the past is not important.  What he is earning now is king.  His CURRENT annual income is important.  Current annual income is determined as follows:

 

Gross income from most recent pay period multiplied times the number of pay periods per year = CURRENT ANNUAL INCOME.   Recent pay-stubs can serve as evidence.

Example:  If he currently earns $1,000 per week, his current annual income is $52,000. 

Oh so when asked recent paystubs will work ?

I hope so, just seems completely crazy having a minimum criteria and then not accepting it even when over that limit.

Thank you so much for answering 

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

Is he self-employed or an employee?

He is an employee and is back fulltime at work so he will make sround 70k in 2023

Im in chock right now! 

My Husbands income fir yesr 20 and 21 was 70k, but due to illness 22 is much lower  but still meet minimum requirement and is over at 26k for 2022.

In another forum everybody says that NVC most likely will require a joint sponsor despite qualifying income requirement. Is this true ?? 

Im heartbroken right now - we have no way of getting a joint sponser in anyway.

Anybody here has that experience? 

(My husband is alone in his household, do we look at min. income for 1 or 2 persons (2 would include me) ??

3 hours ago, BettyMai said:

Hi everybody

 

My husband (26, who is a USC) an I (24, Danish) filed for i-130 back in July 2022. We have been married since November 1st 2021.

 

Last time I was in the US was from July to September 2022. I am currently planning a trip to see my husband in the US in March, because it will be one year since his father passed away, and my husband and his family are having a small memorial. I am only planning on staying for about 2 weeks, because I’m worried the customs officer will be suspicious if I stay for longer, while my i-130 is pending.

 

I didn’t really think it would be a problem to enter the US when it’s only for a short period of time and I do have a good reason to go, but now after doing some research, it looks like you need a LOT of ties to your home country, otherwise you can get denied entry.

 

The problem is, that I basically have no strong ties to Denmark. I’m currently unemployed, staying with my parents so I own no property etc… Another thing is, I’ve previously gotten two extensions on my ESTA while visiting the US back in the beginning of covid. (First time was because my flights kept getting cancelled when I tried to go back home to Denmark, second time I got really sick and was unable to board my flight and leave the US. I have proof of both, and will bring them, if I go to the US.)

I’m afraid that the extensions will also be a problem when I try to enter the US…

 

Of course I will leave the US after my short stay, and would never try to commit visa fraud. But I am afraid that it looks like I would, with my i-130 pending and no strong ties to Denmark.

 

So my question is: Do you think I’ll be able to enter the US? If I only stay for about 2 weeks and of course bring my return ticket? Or would it be too risky/is the chance that I’ll get denied too big?

 

I know that it’s completely up to the border control officer to decide, so none of you can tell me exactly what will happen- but what is your guys experiences with traveling on ESTA while waiting for a visa, with no strong ties to your home country? And is a memorial a good enough reason to go? I so badly want to be there for my husband during this time.

 

I’m also planning on going to the US in May, for my sister in law’s wedding. If I do end up going in March, will it then be harder to enter again in May, even if that is also just for a short stay?

 

Thanks!!

Dont worry !!!  Im Danish married to US citizen since 20th September 2022 and just been in Michigan for 3 weeks and now back in DK.

They pulled me aside and asked me some questions,  I didn't have to show anything.

U can PM me if you want

Im Danish, my hubs is American. We filed i-130 yesterday evening, and allready got noa1, receipt is from Texas, hoping that is a good thing.

Too many personal opinions in this thread.

This document explicit says you can seek Aos on esta if you immediate relative ..even if you overstayed !!!

https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/document/memos/2013-1114_AOS_VWP_Entrants_PM_Effective.pdf

Is it necessary to file the G-1145 to when filing online ??

I had no idea you could get scan apps 😁  Thank you we gonna see if the turn out better than ss

Will they accept screenshots of documents if they they are eadily readable ? we are having trouble getting things scanned.