FaithfulandTrue

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Wow, thank you so much for posting it for me.. it was one of my favorites.. Happy New Year to you too.. many blessings to you for the new year and beyond

I'm glad this is still here. I forgot how to add videos though . My choice would be Too Much Time On My Hands by Styx. Have a great day people and a Happy New Year.

I would love to believe in fairy tales, but they are just that. There are some people that have beautiful relationships on here. Then there are some like me that I could write at least maybe 4 novels on. The choice is ultimately up to you. Hind sight is 20/20 and sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees because you're in love and you HOPE they change. In my case they didn't and it was a disaster and I almost died and they didn't care. Still don't care. My mom and I were supporting his family back home, although we didn't know it. All I am saying is please look at the red flags. It may hurt now but you don't want to go through I went through, trust me. I wish you the best in your decision and pray about it first. As I said, I'm sure you have the answer already but you are in denial as I was. God bless you sweetie and please guard your heart. Only you can do that.

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Have you sought professional help? If you can't afford it, you may qualify for medicaid. There are also counselors who offer discounted rates for low income folks.

Good Luck.

ETA: I see in the other thread that you say you are seeing a therapist. I wish you well.

Yes I have professional help. I had that even before I met him. My doctor has changed my medicine 3 times. I am having facial spasms because of all this stress. From all the crying, I have to wear shades even at night. My eyes are very dry. I have been hospitalized 2 times this year for headaches and chest pain. They had to rush me from my job because of that. All while we were married there were several times I had to go to the ER for chest pains. Please bear in mind I mean no harm. I just don't want anyone to go what what we went through. I was too trusting. It's not about looks or anything like that. It has never been that way with me. I am not Beyonce but I do get hit on, even while we were married and he laughed as if that was impossible. My heart always sank when he did that. I would often at night or very early in the morning just drive with the music loud and cry and ask God why so much pain. I have some bump on my chest that needs to be checked out, but I don't want them to tell me what I think it MAY be. I have been exposed to smoke since I was little and the old building that I worked in had asbestos in it. They moved us to this new building. In the old building it was on the higher floors. This house needs repairs, which he knew and wouldn't help, but still wouldn't take his name off of her house. So to say we kicked him out, how is that possible. I don't own a weapon. I have a young child here. She likes to come and get in the bed if she gets scared. The times that he and I did laugh, I often wondered was that a game too. I meant it all. I'm sorry Teddy B for going on and on, but we really need to move due to health reasons, as I said he knew about. He said is your mother going to pay it all and I can pay some. " I can't be responsible for 5 people". My God, he knew how many of us it was before he got here, plus my status. I didn't lie to him about it being hard here. My insurance is very high and they tax me at the highest rate. They asked me to change my exemption to S0, but how? It was because he wasn't being taxed almost at all. House repairs my mom paid. Taxes on the house my mom paid. His name was on it, why didn't he help. The last thing I remember him saying before he left is that he would never be broke again or end up in a shelter. He did the shelter thing to himself. No on ASKED him to leave, no police came to escort him away. He left on his own and said I abused him. When he came back the 2nd time he say an atm receipt for Regions bank and said you have another account?! I said it's an ATM receipt O_O. Wow. My head is still spinning from this marriage, I promise you. A guy is trying to see me, but I said no. He said why you still harping over that loser. I said it's not that at all. I am scared of bringing other men around my mom and kids. I don't just want to get laid, pardon me but just being real. I want a meaningful honest marriage. That's it. No games, no drama. A roll in the hay, no, those days are over for me. Thank you Teddy B for your kind words. God bless you

This.

I'm trying.

The man is gone....Is/does the medical affect U? if not let it go

These R the fall-outs from ppl running games on each other for

GC swearing to love while they cuss the US govt. for not getting

thru the process fast enough

yes it does affect me.. why do you think I am here.. yes I know there are really bad people, both American and foreign.. yes I got angry at this ####### and I cry because of my mother andi kids.. I made an oath to my dad on his dying bed to take care of here and I blew it.. it was very important to me.. I have an older sister.. I don't know if he asked her first.. don't you know her name SHOUKD have been on there but wasn't.. she appeared to be selfish.. I was going to put her name on there the first time I filed for divorce buthe was in a shelter here.. I had no idea why.. my city is quite dangerous and I cared for him.. tnow my family hates me.. that's why the tears.. he knew what was happening to me.. I didn't need this.. at one point my mom didn't have any money to even be buried with.. how do you think that made me feel to almost be in the same boat again.. the house is falling apart and I Iasked him to help us.. so you hate them too.. sorry soliloquy again, but it is needed in this case

If he's gone from your home and his mail is still coming there write a note on his mail saying no such person at this address and put it back in the mail. Don't worry about his stuff or contacting him. It's time to let things go. Be happy he's out of your home and life. You really need to put the past behind you. Nothing can be done to stop the past and the damage that was done. Forget about him now. He's no longer your problem.

I was doing pretty good until the bills started coming. At first I was getting coordination of benefits letters and didn't know why. Now I know. He didn't have to put me down on something like that. I wouldn't do it to him or anyone, even if I didn't have the money. I would have said could they bill me instead of using someone's insurance like that. That would have been the moral thing to do. My immune system is down because of all of this. I can't go to the doctor because I don't have the money and I won't ask my money for anything else, although I know she would do it. She would give her all for all of us , him included. That's why the tears, for my mother. Also I failed my ded.

OP are U still hung up on this guy? for him the shebang is

obviously over, Time U dry up the tears and move on even

if hard to do...A PI could find him but why spend that money?

Once a person receive a SS# it will never change for life,even

if one miraculously dies and return SSA will attach that same #

to them, since U R such a considerate person ,store it in a small

box and in a basement, attic, cupboard or garage, don't knock

yourself out...if he came & learn to severe the ties that much, then

in his mind like Ceilo says (he's) saying 4get U...move on my dear.

No I am not still hung up over him, please know this... I don't sex need from him or anyone else for the matter.. please, it isn't , never mind.. tears have been dried up to the point I have no more tears, literally.. chronic dry eyes I have now.. it wasn't over him but my mom and kids.. my ELDERLY mother who was 87 the other day that I couldn't buy anything meaningful for her..that my dad trust me to take care of HER not a man.. Thank you for your lovely soliloquy of whoever Ceilo is.. maybe I will look it up.. yes and 4gethim too.. .. I said we need to move from the house so why, never mind I can't store this

What? In the divorce decree there was no court order to remove his name from the house deed? You can get that amended, if you so desire, getting a court order to remove his name from the deed.

His name isn't on here. However with his track record, I hope he didn't do anything foolish like forge our signatures on something. We are to be notified of such things. I would NEVER do anyone the way he did us, period. I still don't hate him, but I am coming pretty close to about now.

He said the prayer rug is not important to him because he told you to give it to the mosque. He told you to give his clothes away. Don't imagine he has sentimentality for things when he told you he doesn't. I know you are seeing a therapist which is why I suggested you talk to him/her about it.

I am sure your mother is proud of you no matter what. A box of old clothes doesn't change that. Best,

She is. The clothes I did give away. It wasn't about being sentimental, this was his stuff and I really don't want him to say I destroyed it. I just never know what's on people's minds anymore. Yes my mom is proud of me. However my family isn't because of this marriage and because of it I had to keep borrowing from him til she is almost broke. Yes she is still proud, but I'm not. His family kept saying be patient and him too. He said he wasn't leaving and disappeared while I was at work. Wow, I feel like Annie in Smooth Criminal and I'm not ok. I'm trying to make myself laugh but it isn't a laughing matter. My uncle was over her money and messed it up and then I turn around and do the same thing. Not for my gain though. That was the only difference. My uncle used it for his gain, not hers and certainly not my kids and I. He kept saying after this immigration stuff is out of the way, then he could help more. It wasn't always about money either. He wouldn't spend time with us. I couldn't go to clubs and party(he's younger) because of my medicine. With the medicine I am on, that's a deadly mix with alcohol.

You're just venting right? Cause I don't see why you are concerned about him at this point.

yes this is venting to me.. I'm sorry if you misunderstand me..being accused of abuse and being abused at the same time.. I guess both of us are guilty of that.. him saying be like this and that and me reacting.. that was never going to be a happy ending.. sorry Gowon.. there is something here that, well just never mind that part.. please don't get me wrong.. it's just I had no idea what was truly going on.. we NEED to move and can't.. I'm sorry if you don't understand.. I am not working right now, sorry.. I am trying to get better at handling pressure but this is just too much.. I just don't want anyone to go through what WE went through.. please again don't misunderstand me.. I am typing without correct grammar now.. sorry.. also please about the Koran thing, don't think I meant that as if he was Muslim that I am better.. that's not what I mean.. so how Gowon do you give something back to someone that you don't know where they are.. the reason why I say this is that someone lost a piece of mail by us one time.. it was a check.. I'm quite sure they needed it..maybe the bank would reissue it I'm sure.. this is not the case here.. since I was falsely accused of something I didn't do and maybe return to sender, how do I well never mind.. thanks anyway..

Hello all. Again I want to thank all of you for helping me out in the past and even know. I am however in a rather difficult situation that I really don't know what to do. Apparently my ex said we abused him, which never happened. He said we kicked him out, we didn't he left. Both times. I had no idea that he did all of this stuff behind my back until after he left. Here is the thing. I have NO IDEA where he is. The place that has sent me stuff about medical stuff, what do I send his stuff there. This is getting really frustrating. Yes he may not want this stuff since he left it here, but how do I know this for certain. He lied before so who is to say that he isn't now. His sister gave me an email address. I know all of us are on edge because neither trusts the other. Even my lawyer TRIED to contract him and he wouldn't respond. I left the phone on so 1, he wouldn't say I left him without a way to contact his family and 2, my lawyer could contact him.

I have been forced to work for free(government shutdown), had to stay at home due to illness for the past 2 weeks(not sure when I will be back). We need to move,but now because of all of this, we can't. He KNEW I was ill before while we were dating. He KNEW stress caused me to act "strangely". He complained so much to the point I said if you don't like it go home. Of course that was said out of anger, otherwise the police would have been called. I didn't do that. I don't know what else he has done, but morality wise, it doesn't add up. I'm not saying I'm perfect. I'm not, but I strive to do the right thing. I am being held liable for this stuff he has done. Now that I think about it, he was preparing to leave because he thought I had his tag decal. I didn't. I am still floored that he complained about 2.75 for cigarettes that he said I fussed at him about. It wasn't about the money, but cancer causing agents that took my dad's life and my ex said he would try to stop and all I could see was me as a little girl, BEGGING my dad to stop. I was about 4 or 5 when he accidently burned me in my hand with one. So I associated pain with those things. I even tried to smoke them when my husband came to "fit in" but that quickly fizzled, no pun intended. I cannot be something I'm not. My dad died in '93 from a brain tumor as a result from this, plus he worked in a coal mine

My dad worked hard to provide a place for us to live and I entrusted that to this man that ran off like this. So how do I feel? I am forever kicking myself for trusting him. Why did I trust him? I trusted him the second time because of his Koran. I said surely he wouldn't hold a holy book in his hands and lie. Well I guess people do it all the time in court when they put their hands on the bible too. Sorry for the ranting. I just want this to stop. So in my position, I don't want him saying I did away with this stuff too. There was something that he said there was domestic abuse. What domestic abuse if you left on your own. Then you ask for money back saying I'm not your family anymore?! What is that? I have heard of Rent A Center, but not rent a husband and I certainly wouldn't try to buy anyone's love. You either love me or not, simple as that. I am posting this because I believe this was a game all along and I guess it is checkmate to him because I don't know how to play chess, both in real life and in real love. I don't play games with hearts. Anyway, what do I do now. How do I give my lawyer a way to contact his lawyer or even him? We may not have a place to stay in a little while. My doctor had to let me be off for a minute and has had to change my meds which can cause craziness for sure. I am a little bit more stable than I was a few weeks ago. I mean being called a on the phone by someone and I gave them the information they wanted anyway?!?! It just brought back all of the pain he put me through. Just because I have a sitdown job and his was retail doesn't mean I have it easy. Just because I make more and him less doesn't negate his responsibility to me as his wife. He said I was taking his money. When he first got hired, he said he needed to send 300.00 to some man that helped him in Egypt and he gave me 50.00 per month, not week. He was getting 1000.00. We didn't have joint accounts when he got his 2 year card so there is NO telling what he did. Again I mean no harm to anyone on this site, but if you do not love us, please don't come. I lay dying on the floor and he has a smirk on his face. We I guess this was a family business deal and I wasn't family. My family and friends tried to warn me but I didn't listen. We got married 2 days after he got here so this was planned to be a shakedown by his family.

But Faithful, it is not your job to track him down. If he wants his stuff he can come get it. Don't destroy his things, but put them all in one box and store it somewhere. I highly doubt he wants his old shoes. This desire seems like an attempt to see him again, like "come back! You need to take your old smelly shoes!" If he wants them it is his job to come get them. This guy scammed you and abused you. Don't go find him.

Please talk to your therapist about your desire to give him his stuff back.

I understand what you are saying. Again, not an attempt to track him down. A prayer rug is important, right? I am seeing a therapist, although by what I say it may not seem like it. I wouldn't keep smelly shoes. I am not going after him. I will take your advice. I just didnt' want to be a failure for my mother. I had to keep borrowing from her, I really didn't want to do that. my children and I live with her. I never meant to hurt her in this way. So I have been very depressed about it. This is my 3 marriage. I don't want to do this again. We said a lot of hurtful things to one another, I never felt like I belonged, as a family member that is. I, well, never mind. .

Yep, it's getting chilly out there; he could surely use winter clothes. Had he no lawyer for his divorce?

I don't know if he had one or not. i wasn't contacted by one. I had no way to try to contact him. The number he had was when he was here. My lawyer tried contact him and email him but he wouldn't respond. I will just gather everything together. We want to move but with his name on my mom's house we couldn't and plus now I am broke, well broker. I told him I needed to get a seond car for my mom so that she wouldn't have to be trying to struggle to get in our van. I even called from the car dealership to ask could he help us. I applied for a home loan but was denied. Well with his name on my mom's house and mine too, I asked if we could move. He said he wasnt making enough money to take care of all of us. I said i never said I wanted you to make as much of as me to be with me. I just asked him to help. I'm trying not to talk too much about it. He did tell me to donate his clothes to charity and give his prayer rug to the mosque but it's his. I just couldn't do it. That's his and not a strangers. That's like me and my bible. I don't know what's doing on. I will try to put his things away somwhere.

We argued over eggs?!?!? Come on. I remember a friend of our had to come and keep us from being at each other's throats, not in the literal sense. I have VERY stressfull job and we had to eat out a lot. I got off late and then had to come home and help with homework, among other things. I was just literally drained. My mom has dementia and my oldest would watch after her, so not work for her. She want to work and did try to find work but in my city there isn't any. I wanted to move to where there was a place where she could walk to work and maybe my youngest to walk to school or it wouldn't be far to drive. Even with the company he worked for, there was a place near by.. I didn't mind him sending money home from time to time if he wanted to. I even did it one time for his sister. He said I was trying to keep him hostage or make a slave of him. No, I just wanted my husband to be a husband to me. My best friend, a shoulder to cry on. Not to use things against me, my illness against me. Sorry rambling. I do that from time to time. Depending on where he is, will determine if he wants it. When he was drinking and singing a song, that was so funny, but just a mask. I would have done it, but I take medication and alcohol makes it worse. I am not contacting immigration for this. I just wanted, well never mind.

I appreciate all of your suggestions. I don't hate him or his family. There were good times and then those not so good times. I have an issue and I've been hurt all my life, which I did tell him. Revenge doesn't solve anything, it only hurts al involved in the end. I am not trying to track him down to hurt him but to honestly return to him, what belongs to him. There are things, well like the shoes he wore when he first got here. I still have his winter jacket and other things. Why would I destroy them. I still go through some photos. Again not trying to track him down. I will say this, WE broke down the marriage. Sometimes I guess we acted the same. Darnell, he told me his parents are deceased. I only met his oldest brother and his sister. I have no pictures to even know what his family look like. The only address I had was when I first petitioned for him, but I don't know if it's still valid. Besides I want to make sure that he gets it. I don't want him to ever to say to me, I destroyed his things. I do still get depressed and say things that make absolutely no sense. It will get better for both of us, I'm sure. Today I tried to watch the video on my profile with Halim and listen to Zay el Hawah in the car and the tears started flowing. No looking for a pity party either. Again thanks for your time.

I was divorced last year. I am trying to give him the things he left back to him, but I don't know where he is. One looks to be very important. Any suggestions?

Ok let's say you work at a public school as a teacher. when you want to leave the country, does the consulate or the police at the airport ask you for any paper that allows you to leave the country? I'm on assumption that in Morocco you need to have some kind of paper stating it's ok to leave the country when you work as a teacher, is that right? did anyone go through this? any input would be highly appreciated. Thank you.

I work for the government and I just applied for my passport, sent it to TX and got it stamped to leave the country.. in 2007 of course.. wish I could do that like now

We need to love each other.

Love you guys.

I really love her. I tell my little girl about her and want her to do a report on her one day. I never knew the term hitting someone with a shoe meant an insult until I married my husband and I promise to God I was joking. My old pastor used to say I am going to hit you in the head with my shoe if you don't stop. My faith was kinda down at the time and she wanted me to straighten up. But she was joking by saying hit me. My husband and I were talking about something trivial, not important and I said what my pastor used to say because I was JOKING. He got really angry and said I insulted him. I said no honestly I am not. I explained to him what I meant. We then started saying that to each other from time to time, of course I am the prankster of my family. I always have been since I was little. My dad was too. I am glad she got the Nobel Peace Prize. There were some that said what about our army and stuff like that. Well don't you know what peace mean? Certainly not killing right? Sheesh

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I'm glad you will let him go. I'm all for marriage and give and take. Obviously he was taking ALL the time and gave you NOTHING but grief. Trust me I've been there. Don't try and get revenge but like I said protect yourself. He certainly won't. I looked back over this trainwreck of a person, i.e. my ex not me and said whoa you didn't see that. I guess I did but HOPED and PRAYED he would change. I was told by his sister he's never been married and to be patient and yada yada yada. All lies. Your story sounds similar to mine. Please listen to sound doctrine. Don't answer the phone, emails, nothing. If he wants to slip up and be a fool, call the police and make a report. Never try to handle this yourself. If you need to, go to therapy too. I tried to bring my husband to my appt one time and let my doctor tell him to stop the bull because I couldn't take stress. She didn't give him the time of day and left him sitting in the lobby. Even she knew he was a player and he probably still is. The whole family is. I am praying for you. You don't have to give up on marriage or love. I will say, when this is over please take a break. Take care of you. Remember HE lost out, not you. God bless you

It's time to move on.. it's hard I know because YOU love him, but it's not reciprocal.. he is to forsake all others, that includes family and you two work at your marriage.. when others become involved it's a big mess.. I was told by my SIL this is how we do it in Egypt.. I said I'm not in Egypt but America and he is too.. you are his number one priority not the other way around.. I will say do not lay a hand on him so he can say you did something to him.. I know I never did but still was blamed for everything.. I am feeling a little better and at least my mom and kids feel a whole lot better.. he sounds selfish.. those type of fish you need to throw back in the sea.. my ex tried to dig a ditch for me but I promise when you do that, both can fall in.. let it go please for your safety and your dignity.. God bless you

but for those trying to help me, thank you.

Sorry but it doesn't add up. There has to be more to this from her end. Is she telling you EVERYTHING? Did they give her any paperwork? There are missing pieces of the puzzle here. I'm sorry this has happened to you. Can she scan it and send you what they gave her?

Nothing is OBVIOUS on the interweb.

You can say that again

I always told my fiance everything.. I was honest from the get go..especially about life here in the states.. completely different from the Egypt I remember.. heck I fell in love with his country that I wanted to move there.. by all means, be honest.. what's the point of holding back.. they will find out anyway..please don't ever hold back or keep secrets.. a loving relationship is always about honesty.. maybe set aside some time to talk about serious matter and a time to talk about lovey dovey matters.. find out what works well for you and your spouse/fiance.. oh what about the church/mosque..do you have someone to talk to there.. it will balance out prayerfully for you

You can also look at Youtube videos and ask the poster about it too. I would do it in a private message. Astrophotography is what I really want to do. Let us know how it goes. Have fun.

^^ This.

Point well taken sir. Thank you.