jawi876

morning everyone...

i had a dream that i squeezed oranges for a living. what do you all think that means?

Tell your husband "Squeeze mi breast dem like de trigga of yuh gun...turn mi backway and....

Mawning ladies, Happy hump day

Jawi, I thought u hubby was coming today. I posted something on ur FB page yesterday.

I need a vacation guys!

Not until tomorrow. I wish it was today...gosh! I can't focus at work.

I am so happy for u! Just take it nice and easy . Dont wanna hear u have to do another surgery !

Oh trust me...I know how to tek ie nice and easy and slow...he will be bawling when mi finish. In case you guys didn't know...Mya was modeled after me in the Stella story. Toya was modeled after Jonesie...all my Stella fans...I promise that I will complete the story for you and post it to my blog. My blog is listed under my avatar on my page as my website. Give me a little of time to bring it completely up to date with what you guys have already read. The Shades of Blue story will be finished to be my first novel with an attempt to publish. If it does well, I will publish Stella as the second. I also have another novel that I started years ago named "Muddy Waters", and it was loosely based around my mother's life. It brings tears to your eyes...I just have to find somewhere to get the story off the floppy disc since I only have a laptop now.

Not until tomorrow. I wish it was today...gosh! I can't focus at work.

Im SO happy for you Jawi!!! I wouldn't be able to focus either!

Thank you so much Ms.Tee...we have being surviving an LDR for 5 years as of July 1st. My wedding dress is absolutely beautiful guys and the birdcage veil/flower comb and shoes match perfectly. I also have rhinestone/pearl drop earrings that ties everything together. My sister is giving me a beautiful rhinestone/pearl bracelet to wear...the company doing my elopement package will be providing me with a lavendar rose bridal bouquet.

I'm hoping I can talk him into doing a white linen suit with a lavendar shirt...or something similar...but he has no idea what he wants to wear yet.

His sister is flying down on the 8th of Sept...but she doesn't want to drive for 4 hours to get to the ceremony...so A said "Fine...this is our day and we are not changing a thing to suit anyone else. She will see us when we get back." I was so proud of him because he loves his sister dearly. I was willing to postpone the wedding @ Tybee and just get married at the courthouse on the 9th so that she could be there for him (you guys know that I have been totally against the courtroom marriage but I was going to compromise anyway). He said absolutely not...you want the beach...and we will have the beach period. I love him so much.

My house smells so fresh and clean...there are no masked odors that are being covered by air fresheners and stuff. I even wiped down the doors around the handles because kids open doors and leave stains from whatever was on their hands.

My car needs to be detailed...but I'll leave that to A to take care of...at least I think I will. I may just take it to a detail shop today...and my fridge is still a mess.

morning everyone...

i had a dream that i squeezed oranges for a living. what do you all think that means?

Tell your husband "Squeeze mi breast dem like de trigga of yuh gun...turn mi backway and....

Mawning ladies, Happy hump day

Jawi, I thought u hubby was coming today. I posted something on ur FB page yesterday.

I need a vacation guys!

Not until tomorrow. I wish it was today...gosh! I can't focus at work.

I hope we don't lose touch either.

I have to tell you guys something. Since my fiance has come here. My daughter has been the happiest i have ever seen her. She is a happy little girl and my second son has been happy also. it makes me feel so good.

This is so sweet to hear. A lot of the yardies are having problems with their kids adjusting to the newest member of the family. I'm not sure if it is because of the interracial thing or what...but I'm so happy for you Rich!

Hi everyone...I lost touch a long time ago...and just don't have the time to try and catch up since returning to work. I don't know how to search for those of us that got approved, and I didn't get to say congrats, Woo-hoo! So, I'm saying it now.

I am hoping that this now includes my handsome little ostrich. Thanks Richard and Maire for stopping by my page to check on me. I appreciate it. I have been in a lot of pain at work, but I'm protected under the Disability Act...so they basically respond to my every ache and pain. Good job accommodating my disability thus far.

Aron will be here tomorrow and I am so excited. I will not be on VJ anymore after tomorrow. I don't have the time anymore with work. I am also going to focus on writing my novels so I can eventually stop working. I can still be reached by my email address jawi876@yahoo.com. Much love to all of you!

Jawi876 aka Shirley

awww...is this like a good bye?

Yeah...unfortunately.

Hi everyone...I lost touch a long time ago...and just don't have the time to try and catch up since returning to work. I don't know how to search for those of us that got approved, and I didn't get to say congrats, Woo-hoo! So, I'm saying it now.

I am hoping that this now includes my handsome little ostrich. Thanks Richard and Maire for stopping by my page to check on me. I appreciate it. I have been in a lot of pain at work, but I'm protected under the Disability Act...so they basically respond to my every ache and pain. Good job accommodating my disability thus far.

Aron will be here tomorrow and I am so excited. I will not be on VJ anymore after tomorrow. I don't have the time anymore with work. I am also going to focus on writing my novels so I can eventually stop working. I can still be reached by my email address jawi876@yahoo.com. Much love to all of you!

Jawi876 aka Shirley

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww, JAWI! I am very excited for you sweetie!!

be good!

Thanks Richard...you make sure you let me know when you get your approval. Once Aron gets settled a little...we will be over. I have been falling asleep at the wheel driving to work...so I'm still not up to par. I never thought about you coming to pick me up. We are getting married in Tybee Island on 9/9/09. Do you want to throw us a reception? LMAO

I hope we all here dont start disappearing one by one...I hope we can remain friends in real life for ever...seriously or is this just wishful thinking?

I want to remain friends...but thusfar Rich-Jo has been the only one to exchange contact information with me.

Hi everyone...I lost touch a long time ago...and just don't have the time to try and catch up since returning to work. I don't know how to search for those of us that got approved, and I didn't get to say congrats, Woo-hoo! So, I'm saying it now.

I am hoping that this now includes my handsome little ostrich. Thanks Richard and Maire for stopping by my page to check on me. I appreciate it. I have been in a lot of pain at work, but I'm protected under the Disability Act...so they basically respond to my every ache and pain. Good job accommodating my disability thus far.

Aron will be here tomorrow and I am so excited. I will not be on VJ anymore after tomorrow. I don't have the time anymore with work. I am also going to focus on writing my novels so I can eventually stop working. I can still be reached by my email address jawi876@yahoo.com. Much love to all of you!

Jawi876 aka Shirley

Wow Nat that is great!!!!

My brother loves Continental that is all he will fly but wait if you opened up a credit card your not going to have some debt.

Man I wish I could get a credit card. If I was to even think about appyling I think cops would jump out like step away from the application.

Nah. I don't plan to use this card except to book flights on Continental.... or when I'm having issues with my Visa. I can't even TELL you how many times Chase locked my Visa card due to fraud suspicions after I made a top-up at Digicel or tried to buy minutes at Rebtel.

Regardless of which card I use, I make sure to pay it off each month so I never have to pay interest. During 8 years of having credit cards, I've paid interest once (after a month in Africa).

I thought I was the only one to go through having my card locked off after topping up using Digicel Online. it makes me SICK! So now, I will only top up using my Paypal debit card.

Our interview was on August 4th (APPROVED) and due to the holiday on the 6th the visa stayed on hold until Wednesday the 12th and then was available for pick up in Montego Bay!!!!!!

That's awesome!

Clarification: It's awesome that he's here now. It's not awesome that it took 8 days for the Visa to be ready.

If I'm not mistaken it took a little over a week to get our visa too. I put it in my timeline...but I don't remember exactly. Anything less than the week is not the norm...its a miracle.

Good morning all..

i pray everyone is blessed and doing well..

i have some big news..didn't share yesterday cuz im too nosy and couldn't get caught up..

OKAY MY SISTREN..

Ya'll know i have been a worry wart when it comes to this JA/US love thing for 2 years now.. but THIS trip has been different than ALL others.. i am busting out ot the seams w/ happiness and joy everyday w/ this man.. the love he's shown me cannot be matched SOOOOO

we eloped over the weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i am officially a MRS.. and I LOOOOVVVVE MY GOOD GOOD HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so unbelievably happy for you Quana. I cried when I read this. I knew as soon as you said he was coming up that this would be the end result. I enjoyed our talk...and I hope the advice works. You guys deserve the absolute best. Best wishes and God's blessings and favor on your journey.

Happy Birthday Dillon....how did I miss this?

Roxcie congrats on your man's homecoming. I wish A was coming tomorrow too...but Thursday soon come.

Plus ending the drought...................

I have been as dry as the Sahara desert for over a year...I wanted to wait until our wedding night...but that smilie just confirmed that I will not have the willpower...how in the world do you get turned on with two round circles moving on a two legged cartoon bed? Dang.

We got email NOA2

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Congrats My2! Now you will have a lot more control on th speed for thie rest of the journey.

Too lazy to go back and quote other stuff, lol -

Jawi, you do more cleaning when you are in pain than I do when I am well, lol - Just don't push yourself too much, make sure you rest for A on Thurs!

Just, I hope you got the passport sorted - how frustrating!

Justie is having a problem with the passport...I missed this. He is supposed to be here in two days! EEK! I hope it's already straightened out.

I'm taking mini breaks...I took a vacation day because there is no way I could work for 6 hours and come home to do this stuff. My sis helped a lot...but there is still more I want done. I'm just so particular about my cleaning that it borders on OCD I think. Then, I get overwhelmed and say FORGET IT ALL. But, I am trying to watch what I do so I don't overdo it and end up in even worse pain. I'm hurting right now...so I clean a little then lay down. I'm waiting on my pills to kick in so I can tackle the larger projects like putting up laundry and dusting. I just finished dusting the ceiling fan the top of my mirror, the dresser, and the wood and metal canopy on my bed.

me three

i feel sleepy and disoriented

Very sleepy and disoriented - I HATE oversleeping, it just totally discombobulates my whole day!

I took my oldest nephew to Six Flags New England yesterday - we had a blast - got there right as the park opened, went on rides for a while, then around 3 headed to the waterpark - We played there until around 6 or so, then back to the rides until the park closed. I am exhausted from that and walking around - But I also woke up this am with a HUGE bruise on my shoulder, a sore back, and think I broke two toes on one of the waterslides, lol - I don't remember these rides and things HURTING me when I was young!

Still have to post about the wedding on Sat - OMG!

Oh no...how did you manage to get banged up like that? I guess I will never get to enjoy those things again. I love amusement parks...love love love them.

While waiting for your fiances/husbands to arrive, did anyone else start IMAGINING him here?

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Yesterday at church, I glanced at the empty seat on my right and thought "In one month, Steven will be in that seat." Last night at this poetry event that happens every 3rd Sunday, I was at a table with four friends. There were three empty seats at our table. I imagined that at next month's poetry event, Steven would be at the table with me. Also yesterday, one of my friends went to Marshall's with me to help pick out a dress shirt & tie for Steven. We were arguing over size. I wanted to get a small (but didn't find ANY men's smalls). She said that even if a man fits a small, he should get a medium. I was like, I don't think you know his size; a medium will be WAY too big. She suggested that I should wait until he gets here & can try it on. I thought, next time I come to this store, he will be with me.

So then I get home from everything & Steven called & mentioned that he hoped I would've called him at some point throughout the day. I was like, Even if I don't call you, please know that you've been on my mind ALL DAY.

This is so sweet. I imagine A being here too. Then, I wonder if I will get over being a loner for the most part. I like my own private time and it used to hurt the guys I was dating. I want him here...but sometimes I want to suggest he train for his CDL so he can drive his tractor out of town a little. Crazy huh...maybe it's nerves. I have bubble guts when I think about going to the airport on Thursday.

who has excitement?

kk- what's good with ya?

jawi - where are you? you are not really gonna leave us, are you?

jaP - hi miss preggo! you not still mad at me, are you?

Hey Finesse...yeah I'm pretty sure I'm done once A gets here. I'm going to focus on writing my books and trying to get them published so I can stop working.

I have been cleaning this weekend in prep for A's arrival Thursday. I managed to "whitewash" the inside of the house...it looks so nice with freshly painted base boards and sparkling white doors and cabinets. Tomorrow Baby Father will be shampooing the carpets for me. I managed to get a pretty decent amount of space in the closet for A...and a entire 4 drawers in the dresser. I'm proud of myself.

I need to vacuum down cobwebs and clean the ceiling fans because men don't think of those things...then I will Febreeze my sofas since Baby Father loves to fry fish and chicken. Just to make sure the house doesn't smell like the inside of KFC or Church's.

My shower curtain liner is all fresh from being washed in hot water and a good dose of bleach....Things are finally looking like I like them...with my touch. The house was decent but it was definitely being cleaned by a man/boys for a long time.

That's awesome that you cleared 4 drawers for him. I only have 7 total in my dresser (3) & chest (4). I cleared 2 for Steven. I realized I could use a dresser with more than 3 drawers, but when I priced them, I decided we'll need to make do. I couldn't believe how expensive real wood furniture is! Don't laugh at me, but my bedroom furniture came in a box from WalMart (headboard, nightstand, dresser) for like $200. Despite its low cost, it has all lasted just fine for over 5 years so far, so I can't bring myself to buy a wood dresser for $600+. When I go to the homes of other people my age, I feel like they are living a more "grown" lifestyle since they have more expensive furnishings & decorations... but then again, my frugal-ness at home are what allow me to travel.

I had to laugh at myself when I read that you cleaned your shower curtain liner. For some reason, that didn't occur to me with mine. The housekeeper told me that I needed a new one because mine had a bit of mildew. At least, that's what I THINK she was saying, since she only speaks Spanish and I only speak English. But reading your post made me realize that I could've just bleached (or had her bleach) the old one & saved $15.

My bedroom set cost me about $4500 because I was tired of the bottoms of drawers falling out from the weight of clothes. I did my research, went to Rooms to Go found a set I liked...pulled one of the drawers out to see how it was constructed (always check for reinforced dovetail joints)...and low and behold, just from take the drawer out the bottom and the back of the drawer completely fell apart in my hand. The salesman turned red and assured me that this normally doesn't happen. I smiled and walked out of the store.

I usually wash my shower curtain liner very regularly because of soap scum even though it is a mildew resistant one. But, I haven't been able to clean the way I normally clean because of my health. My sister said I clean like I'm still in the Air Force and it takes too much time. LOL

USAIN JUST BROKE THE WORLD RECORD

9.58 BABY!

I was watching and it was so amazing!!! Usain will beat his own record many more times to come, I think when he is ready to retire from track he will prob do 9.3. It was nice to see him win a World Championship for JA; Asafa did wicked as well, he is usually very nervous but today he was calm and it helped him take the bronze!

I hate I missed this. I would have loved to see him run again. I was in Jamaica during the Olympics and it was amazing.

Hello everyone.

Jawi well i hope the cleaning spree is a sign that healing is going well ... i know your getting excited and i am so happy for you ..

Girl, I'm in pain right now...but I don't have a choice...I can't let my man think I'm a slob no matter what he tells me about knowing my limitations and me being sick. I do a little...then sit down and rest/sleep...take more pills and get back to it while I'm high. I had paint smears all over the floor. I just had my son follow behind me with a wet sponge. LOL

Jawi all the best on your husbands arrival may your new journey of togetherness be blessed.

Thank you...I pray so too. His sister is flying in from NY for the wedding...she already has her ticket...I haven't met her before...I hope we get along well enough on a 4 hour car ride. LOL

Ok, so to shake things up a bit..

It looks like my days are numbered as far as my husband and I go. If I am 'right' in what I'm seeing in our relationship, his sole purpose was to get a green card through some sucker who was willing to pay for it. If I am 'wrong', at the very least he not motivated enough or have the ambition to do anything to help himself in his immigration process outside of signing papers.

I guess time will tell...

Sorry to hear this Numbers...(hope you don't mind me calling you this...but I can't remember the sequence of numbers unless they have some relevance to me. LOL

Sorry to hear that, 887643. How long have you been married?

i have quite a few regulars that are just off the hook but the majority of my regulars are good people ... they like me cause i chat with them but still get them finished quickly where the others arent a quick with the moneygrams as i am... alot of my regulars are from africa, jamaica,india and phillipines... i love to learn from them

If I had your job, interacting with the international people would be the highlight of my day. I've always had a fascination with people from elsewhere. When I was young, I tried to get my parents to do a student-exchange program where I go live with a family in France for a while & go to school there, then my family would take in a [male] French student to live with us & go to school here. They wouldn't do it, though.

I love your diversity and ####### NatPat...you have done some things that I have wanted to do...but I let myself...finances or raising kids stop me...one day...one day

hey my2

i'm tired still lol

been cleaning from morning

numbers i'm sorry about your situation but as nat said you are handling it very well

and yes i agree everyone comes into your life for a particular reason but there are a couple things in my past that if i could have changed them i would have

but i don't dwell on them

Men are like buses...if this isn't the right one, another one will pass by. There's always that remote chance (because as you know, women are rarely wrong, lol), that I'm wrong. If I get all worked up now, and it turns out that I'm wrong, I would have wasted a perfectly good pissed off.

Hey, will ya come clean my house? Please!Please! lol

You are mad cool Numbers..I like your swag so far. I need to use this line at lot more.

Anybody want a kid? He's sitting here poking my stretchmarks-the one's I got when I was pregnant for his behind!

isnt yours grown .. i take little ones lol

How bout if I chop his legs off, then he will be little lol

lol

I guess I should be glad he's here to twang my nerves...in 10 mo he's off to the Marines. I know I'm going to be lost when he leaves

Oh the Marines...wow....I don't want my sons going off to fight in a rich man's war. Senseless killings for no reason...even more senseless than Vietnam. So, when I get married this time...I'm getting our Jamaican citizenship soon after. I will flee the country before I let them have my boys.

I have been cleaning this weekend in prep for A's arrival Thursday. I managed to "whitewash" the inside of the house...it looks so nice with freshly painted base boards and sparkling white doors and cabinets. Tomorrow Baby Father will be shampooing the carpets for me. I managed to get a pretty decent amount of space in the closet for A...and a entire 4 drawers in the dresser. I'm proud of myself.

I need to vacuum down cobwebs and clean the ceiling fans because men don't think of those things...then I will Febreeze my sofas since Baby Father loves to fry fish and chicken. Just to make sure the house doesn't smell like the inside of KFC or Church's.

My shower curtain liner is all fresh from being washed in hot water and a good dose of bleach....Things are finally looking like I like them...with my touch. The house was decent but it was definitely being cleaned by a man/boys for a long time.

Not only do they test...but they will even ban for admitting to using in the past. 3 year ban with NO waiver...

i did not even know that it mattered, that's JAMAICA! who really doesn't there these days on my last trip there i was shocked to see some KIDS! maybe 10 or 12 years old smoking on the street corner.

Although you see at lot of weed smokers in Jamaica, it is very illegal in Jamaica. Your husband will also be going to a US Consulate...just happens to be stationed in Kingston. Please tell your husband that no MATTER what...he has never touched the stuff...if they trip him up or find out that he has indeed used recently it is an automatic 3 year ban with no waiver. There are a couple of yardies here that are dealing with this issue right now.

when my hubby did his medical, they asked him had he ever smoked weed, he said yes, but had stopped months ago, so IDK if they still ran a drug test.

Oh Mrs.Hamilton...I pray this does not hurt you at the interview. From what I have seen/read here they do not tell you at the medical...they will wait until the interview to tell you that he has a ban for three years just from admitting to using in the past...even with a clean test. One yardie woman said her man admitted to using over 7 years or something like that...and he got banned for 3 years. It was really sad. I see your interview is coming up...man I pray that they don't stick you over this...he should have denied it until the cows came home. MAN!

You don't have to notarize...unless it will make you feel better. If I'm not mistaken the I864 for CR1s is the only form that requires a notary seal. Best wishes.

Funny you ask about our phone bills. I JUST put together a spreadsheet yesterday to capture the $$ I've spent on Digicel/Ezetop top-ups, plus Rebtel/Ringyard credit purchases. It's harder to keep up with the Rebtel/Ringyard ones cause they only let you go back so far.

I've spent about $1,000, give or take a bit, since November 2008. I wasn't keeping track before that, cause we weren't thinking about filing yet.

5 years ago there was no Ringyard. I was using my home phone...luckily I had a 19.9 cent rate...but I easily topped $1000 on one month's bill. I refused to count the $$ I spent because I would be sick. Digicel should be given the JD Powers award for coming up with the International plan. That plan saved my relationship I tell you. Before, A would call on a $100 or $500 call and we would get a few minutes..then I would have to call him back. I don't make one single call now. LOL

if everyone expressed disgust at the idea that women are chatting ppl business under the quiet, then who the hell is doing it?

this is bizzare

unoo need to get tvj so we can watch rising stars together

whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyyyyy ooooooooooooh whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhy is moments still in the competition?

Bunz fake women will post fake comments about being disgusted. It's not bizzare it is the nature of backbiting as$ women...what is happening between me and my sister is real...it hurts like h*ll because I never thought a man would be able to separate us.

Satan is always busy...and he doesn't care who he uses to divide and conquer.

Well, since you encouraged me... I'mma do like JaP did.

Did ANYONE ELSE find it a BIT strange that ___ came to the site to say hi the very day that ____ mentioned her. Now, I'm not saying that someone went & said "You'd better go check out VJ today; they're talking about you." BUT!!! I find it VERY coincidental.

This is exactly the sh*t I was talking about that I cannot stand. We are all grown women (at least I thought we were). If you have a question about me...ask me.

My sister decided to put her business on here...I decided to post that I do not like or respect her husband...and I did not want him at my wedding. It is me and my husband's day. I thought she would think of my happiness just once since we have been family since the day she was born. But, I got tired of feeling guilty or feeling like I was breaking her heart by saying he wasn't welcome...so I conceded against my better judgement.

My sister has decided to stay friends with some women on this board that do not like me...that talk about me in PMs...she is aware of it...but decided to stay friends with them anyway. They are the same ones that I was talking about gossiping about her business off the boards...so maybe they went and said something to her...or maybe she just had some free time to look at the board and saw my comment.

I don't really care at this point. My sister knew how I felt about her husband...this was not news to her...no matter what she posted today. She has cut everyone off that doesn't agree with her marriage...including our mother...fine. I know I didn't do anything wrong and I am tired of being the one in the wrong for defending her...for supporting her...for wanting better for her. I loved her enough to try to get past my dislike of him because I wanted her at my wedding...because I didn't want to loose her. No one wants to be around him...and that is entirely his fault.

My sister was my best friend in the entire world and we used to be closer than any sisters could ever be...however, she has allowed this rift to grow between us because she wants people to accept them as a package deal. I cannot stand by and watch him treat her like he does. I am a very forgiving person...but so far he has not given me reason to feel he deserves her or my forgiveness. If I'm wrong for this, then I will deal with it with God.

I was not going to respond to her comment here because I thought it could be handled off line...but since you had to be "messy" as you put it...I'll deal with it in public. Nat, my comment was actually made yesterday...not today...but I didn't have anything to hide...and it was not anything she had not heard me say personally. So I didn't attack her.

I love my sister...but if I have to take him in order to be in her life...I will keep my distance. I tried to explain this very thing to my sister about posting all of her business. Now, it is something for you guys to talk about in hidden colors and PMs. I gave you more credit than that NatPat...I guess I was wrong. So hopefully this will answer your burning "messy" question and give all of you something else to gossip about. Truly sad.

If not, fly them to me, Jawi. I'll watch them.

JG you say the sweetest things...and I know you mean every word of it. Thanks.

Morning Yardies!

It's something about the inbred unconditional love they give that gets me every time. I've seen some of my dogs and cats do some really amazing things in my lifetime. It's not something you can put into words though. At least, I can't. When you know, you know.

I have had dogs growing up...but I never wanted the dog to sleep with me. When our last dog got sick and had to wear a diaper to stop nawing at her backside...I knew that I would never be able to stomach that stuff again.

As far as dogs go, I love them BUT, I'm really more of a 'dog lives outside' kinda person. If I had a dog, it would probably have a nice yard to run in & a very plush doghouse with bed but as far as staying inside, not so much. Just my preference. I'm a cat person though so within reason, a cat is allowed in & even at the foot of the bed (I love the purrs!). Just not on counter tops or sinks or other places designated for people. I enjoy animals & that unconditional love JG talks about but they're still animals.

Imma send all you animal haters some puppies and kittens

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Yes, everything went good! The weather was nice in the mid-90s & the ceremony was very short but sweet at the dam. A handful of friends from the Bay Area showed up & even played drums after the ceremony for a little bit. We then went to my friend's yard where the reception was & I'm pretty sure everyone had a fun time. My aunt said that she's been to many weddings and this was the funnest ever! My parents were dancing together & I don't think I'd ever seen that before. The food was great (tri-tip, jerk chicken, rice & peas & cabbage salad), the mojitos, rum punch & champagne were flowing & we had the Jamaican music representing. It was very 'Jamerican'! I didn't know what our cake was going to be but gave ideas of what I did & didn't like....it ended up being this yummy white cake w/buttercream frosting & shredded coconut on the outside. It was all very simple but beautiful. If planning a wedding wasn't so stressful, I'd want to do it again because the party was so much fun!

Congratulations and you look very pretty and happy. I'm now in the stress out mode you were in earlier. 9/9/09 is coming up so fast. My dress should be back from alterations tomorrow. My birdcage veil and floral headpiece are absolutely beautiful...I can't wait to try everything on together...and I get to do it before A gets here. Woo-HOOOOO!!!

Thanks Jawi! Hopefully you won't go through any of the last-minute 'questioning' that I did. Of course, I think it's pretty normal for people to get the jitters before taking the big plunge. Now, I feel totally calm about being married. You'll be there soon too....the big day goes by so fast but hopefully it will be lots of fun for you as well!

Thanks JaE...I agreed to let him come to the wedding because she was more important to me than proving that I still can't stand the sight of him. As far as A...he has already made up his mind. He doesn't like him at all, or what he has done to my sister. He sid bab you know I don't deal with phockery...your sister deserves so much more than he is giving her. I could let everything go if he wasn't still doing things to tear her down...and she continues to make excuses for his behavior like a battered woman. That is the ONLY thing he hasn't put her through. It makes me sick to my stomach...and I feel so responsible.

You and me are alike it that respect. You are a little brasher than me though, I have learnt to hold back. I do get my point across, but tend to be a bit more subtle...More power to you though!

I agree...I'm trying to work on the brashness. I get so passionate about this stuff...I have to learn how to stop caring so much and just let this place be an outlet and a place to have fun.

Jawi, you have to try really hard to give yourself a break as far as feeling responsible for your sis. Of course you love her & feel fiercely protective but as adults, we are each ultimately responsible for our own decisions that we make. I don't know the back story so maybe I'll be talking out of my a$$ but if you feel bad because she knows him because of you, well, you can't take that all on yourself. Whatever the case may be, it's still her choice to stay in a relationship that doesn't honor her & sometimes people have to go through some ####### to learn a certain lesson in life & maybe this is what she needs to go through right now. Like JaEnglish says, you can only be there to help her when the $hit hits the fan.

And, yes, you have to remember this place is an outlet for fun & info & even people just venting. I think we all get to caring about these people behind the screen even if we've never met in person. (I all the time talk about my 'visa friends' & people are like 'huh'??) And you should definitely keep telling it like you see/feel it because that's what makes you special. If some of us can't take it, oh well. Just don't let it all get to you so much because as much as women like to 'save the world', we can't save everyone so sometimes, as I said above, people just have to go through it to learn what they need to at that time in their lives. I know you care & that's what I (we) love about you....just don't let it get you upset. You need to stay positive to keep that healing going!

Hey Mrs....you got married on my eldest son's birthday...he turned 14. It is a special day. I don't think I will go through the questioning phase...we have had our rounds of him having second thoughts...me having second thoughts...we are both just ready now. He actually talks about it more than I do.

Can anyone recommend a nice hotel in Tybee Island (Savannah as last resort)...that they have actually stayed in? I'm reading Trip Advisor and beginning to think the entire city is a roach motel.

Thank you for your advice and I will heed it. I really needed to hear those words.

speaking of pictures....

you know those pictures i posted a few weeks ago? why the frick have they been downloaded like 75 times? i want to take them off. how do i do it?

When I saw this post I flew to Link 16 to catch em before yuh dashed away with em and I caught them so na na na na na... Wow Finese you really are white. Hmm I wonder if that really is you. U neva knwo y ou might be trying to trick us..LOL I must say your not bad on the eyes at all. Go girlie...Now what does your hubby look like??

Don't be hitting on my ooman! I personally downloaded her picture 75 times and hung them in a private little shrine to Finesse...last night. Let me stop before rumors start that I am checking women. LOL

I even dreamed about you ding ding ding

ells - love the pictures!!

jawi - morning to you! nice to see i've been on your mind already dis mawnin

why the frick does my coworker call in late like every other day?

Great Jawi, that date is right around the corner.

Thank you for providing this info Jawi! I've just started my journey, but have started to prepare for the next step nonetheless!

Glad to be of assistance. Best wishes.

JaP, I like your new signature. I liked your old one better, though. The colors in those two smileys under the heart was a nice balance for your avatar photo colors. But I do like the definition of laughter.

I liked the last one better too, but I laughed so damn hard today I had to put it in my signature...

I'll find another smiley tomorrow... There was a back to school night at my son's school so I am BEAT!

Good Night VJ

JaP why did I read this as: I was so damn hard today....? I was about to respond I didn't know women could get "hard"...well I guess I'm joining you and Finesse in the lackasex department. I'm 5 days away from ending a year plus drought. I think they will hear us in China. I hope my sis will still watch the kiddos for the weekend.

lol @ Dillon & the fish

When Kimmy comes back, I am starting a Yardies at home and a farrin' who love animals thread. The rest of you fools are on your own!!!!

See. I also don't understand people who love them that much. Just don't get it.

It's something about the inbred unconditional love they give that gets me every time. I've seen some of my dogs and cats do some really amazing things in my lifetime. It's not something you can put into words though. At least, I can't. When you know, you know.

I have had dogs growing up...but I never wanted the dog to sleep with me. When our last dog got sick and had to wear a diaper to stop nawing at her backside...I knew that I would never be able to stomach that stuff again.

jawi is that you?

get ur butt offa di computa and get ur rass ova here!

Your house is too crowded...and I don't like sharing much...you are waaaayyyyy to sexy in a big forehead type of way for me to share you.

I overdosed on fiber today.

Okay...gross and WAAAYYYY TMI!!!

Imma send all you animal haters some puppies and kittens

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Yes, everything went good! The weather was nice in the mid-90s & the ceremony was very short but sweet at the dam. A handful of friends from the Bay Area showed up & even played drums after the ceremony for a little bit. We then went to my friend's yard where the reception was & I'm pretty sure everyone had a fun time. My aunt said that she's been to many weddings and this was the funnest ever! My parents were dancing together & I don't think I'd ever seen that before. The food was great (tri-tip, jerk chicken, rice & peas & cabbage salad), the mojitos, rum punch & champagne were flowing & we had the Jamaican music representing. It was very 'Jamerican'! I didn't know what our cake was going to be but gave ideas of what I did & didn't like....it ended up being this yummy white cake w/buttercream frosting & shredded coconut on the outside. It was all very simple but beautiful. If planning a wedding wasn't so stressful, I'd want to do it again because the party was so much fun!

Congratulations and you look very pretty and happy. I'm now in the stress out mode you were in earlier. 9/9/09 is coming up so fast. My dress should be back from alterations tomorrow. My birdcage veil and floral headpiece are absolutely beautiful...I can't wait to try everything on together...and I get to do it before A gets here. Woo-HOOOOO!!!

My sister's situation almost ripped my heart out because I knew before he even got here...I tried to tell her things to look out for...things to be careful of...she just told him everything I said...and he avoided me and the "pitfalls or red flags". I then said okay...I can't warn her anymore...all I can do is try to support her and be there for her when the foundation comes crumbling down. There is a rift in our relationship that I don't think will ever be repaired because I can't pretend anymore. She wants to believe in him...so I stay in my place. She was hurt because I don't want him at my wedding...I want her there so I conceded...even though it is my day. She wants him and A to hang out...and that is an absolute NO WAY! He didn't like A because A tried to give her advice too...oh boy I'm rambling...it's the medicine.

All I want to say is that you have to stop being so defensive and heed some of the warnings. Listen to your own intuition...I mean really listen. It won't steer you wrong...but I see so many women turning it off, ignoring it or lying to themselves that everything is gravy when they know in their heart of hearts it's not.

I know I ruffled a lot of feathers...but everything I said was not done in malice...it was with pure intent and wishing the best for all of you.

There are some people that I want to scream to the top of my lungs "WAKE UP" sweetie...but nobody wants to hear that when they are in love...so I bite my tongue and pray for the best. I have been about 99% accurate on the ones I know are not what the woman thinks they are...it is scary...but it's not for me to publicly forecast or denounce.

There are no guarantees in life...we just have to roll with the punches and pray/hope for the best.

I feel your pain girl....my approach is this. You are my friend/loved one etc, I will tell you ONCE of how I feel.

If you don't want to hear, I'm done. I'll there for you when it fails, I will bite my tongue and never say "I told you so."

Learnt my lesson a longgggg time ago.

Let him come to your wedding. If A wants to hang out with him, let A make the choice. Who knows, maybe A can inspire him.

But your sister WILL need you, that I know and I refuse to pretty up my words. It IS going to come crashing down, and you will want to be there for her. Let her put her hnd in the fire, stand by with a band aid for her.

Thanks JaE...I agreed to let him come to the wedding because she was more important to me than proving that I still can't stand the sight of him. As far as A...he has already made up his mind. He doesn't like him at all, or what he has done to my sister. He sid bab you know I don't deal with phockery...your sister deserves so much more than he is giving her. I could let everything go if he wasn't still doing things to tear her down...and she continues to make excuses for his behavior like a battered woman. That is the ONLY thing he hasn't put her through. It makes me sick to my stomach...and I feel so responsible.

You and me are alike it that respect. You are a little brasher than me though, I have learnt to hold back. I do get my point across, but tend to be a bit more subtle...More power to you though!

I agree...I'm trying to work on the brashness. I get so passionate about this stuff...I have to learn how to stop caring so much and just let this place be an outlet and a place to have fun.

I'm with Jawi & Dillon & whoever else on the animals thing. They sound too expensive & like they could break things or climb on stuff. Plus they give you more to clean. Vet bills... no thanks! If I ever do get a pet, I think some fish or a reptile would be the way I go.

nat, finesse know how fi do it.. ya'll nuh get her sense of humor yet???.. CRAZY..lol

I can def tell when she's joking about most things. But I've had the thought quite a few times: "Finesse has been on this board long enough to not quote the WHOLE conversation string." So I wonder if she truly doesn't know how to crop some out. Notice that most of her posts either quote the whole thing or nothing. finesse, it's okay if you don't know. We can help.

Am I the only one confused about Jawi & Finesse today? I can't tell if they're good friends who joke harshly with each other, or two people who can't stand each other but are trying (& failing) to be cordial.

Fish water stinks! I tried to have goldfish for my kids...three of them...but they all died. Then, my co-workers got me a beta for my birthday...which I really loved (his name was Lil Bow Wow because he loved to war...he would even flair up at the beta on his food jar LOL)...the water smelled horrible and I was constantly changing it. However, I didn't like handling him with the scoop. When I went on vacation, someone tried to change his water and he jumped out of the scooper onto the floor...they used a plastic spoon to pick him up because he was flopping all over the floor and out of their hands. I came back to an empty fish tank.

Nat neither option is right. We aren't good friends...but I actually like Finesse. I just wanted her to know that she wouldn't run me off the boards, and if she wanted a war...I wouldn't back down from it. I allowed her to decide how gully the conversation would get.

Say it again Dills!

nat,

jg and Q are confused...

jawi is on her way ova to mi yaad right now and we ago do di dutty wine together.......hubby, neighbors, and all...

Woman now you know I can't dutty wine with my neckback! But I can quint it up and whine to the bottom and sit pon ie like chair. I pass on the neighbors...they sound too needy.