Grobanfan

2 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

Why is this thread in the diversity visa forum?

Because I don't know how to use this site. I originally posted about  the Visa Lottery . Feel free to take it down then.

13 minutes ago, Boiler said:

You have yet to meet.

Forgive me if I misread your tone. I am on edge about all this. 

No, this is why I came to this site, to get things out of the way ahead of time. 

You asked this before and frankly - please take no offense - I sense a very judgmental tone. What's with this question?

9 minutes ago, Boiler said:

You have yet to meet.

Wow I wrote a reply to this but it didn't post! I only married the first guy. The second guy chickened out and broke my heart.

I have a new unique issue with this. Tried searching this site but not having much luck. I'm visiting him early next year for my first visit. Needless to say we would like to be intimate, however by law he needs to be married in order to stay in the same room as someone of the opposite sex. The only solution I see is marriage, which I'm ready to do, but this will look bad to immigration!! Can we marry there, I visit a couple more times to collect proof of our true love, then start the immigration process?? Do you all know where I can read about this? 

Why must honest lovers suffer because of dishonest scam artists 😭

53 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

You will have some unique challenges trying to bring someone over from Egypt.  Not trying to scare you, but you will want to read up on it in order to be prepared for possibly very long delays for the admin processing.

Any idea where i would I read about it

1 hour ago, little immigrant said:

Hi there I just want to say he didn't get his k1 visa denied because of your history with the first. I don't know what country they were from but for some countries it's more difficult to obtain a k1. 

 

My suggestion is, get married and bring him here on the spousal visa. Depending on the country, make sure you have spent lots of time together. 

1. Pakistan 8 years ago

2. India 3 years ago

3. Now Egypt

My worry is him losing hope even though he says he won't. He seems strong and I trust him, but I also trusted my second who lost hope. (At the same time though he was being pressured by family tradition.) I'm sure my many visits will keep him strong and he can tie up loose ends in egypt while we wait. He's a smart and wise person and we're not young anymore so hopefully he remembers that. 

Meeting is happening in February, God willing.

Really wish I could control my thoughts. 

7 hours ago, SusieQQQ said:

Entering the lottery has zero impact.

if he happens to get selected, it’s a much easier and cheaper route for him to get a green card than either a fiancé or spouse visa.

So essentially we could marry in his country and he can still keep applying for the lottery, correct? Then if that isn't working out, we can apply for K3 marriage Visa? 

9 minutes ago, USS_Voyager said:

Sweetheart, you’re not even close. Just get married and file the I-130. Past cases can be looked at but you will get approval on this case by its own merits. There is no bar on how many times a US citizen can petition.

😭 I needed this thank you so much. I know what it looks like from the outside but my heart has been crushed so many times, I'm so happy I can finally make it work with someone. 

4 minutes ago, geowrian said:

If you want to live in the US together, he either needs to get a visa on his own or via you. Via you is the more logical option in most cases. Yes, the past cases will be considered, but it is not a death sentance either. You just need to make sure you have very strong evidence of a bona fide marriage. This may mean spending lots (and lots) of time together.

 

His past entry in the DV lottery isn't an issue.

 

Have you considered moving to where he lives? That may be a quicker and simpler option.

Thank you both for your replies... I just dont want to look like a criminal who brings foreigners here!! I have considered moving there, my dad was the only thing keeping me here and I said I'd leave at least this city when he's gone. He died last august. I actually like the thought of moving where he is, there are actually a good amount of Americans especially where he lives. However I just don't know what I'd do if something were to happen to him and I have nobody there. 

Forst off, please dont judge me. Only I know my feelings. In this instance I'm desperate and can't find my specific situation online anywhere. Please tell me if my thread needs to be moved... I'll explain in simple terms.

1. Fell in love with a foreigner, got him here on fiance visa many many years ago. He cheated, we divorced. 

2. Fell in love with another foreigner many years later, did not plan that. Engaged, tried the same Visa, kept having issues and denials. Most likely because of my history with the first. Was going to keep trying but he was being pressured by his parents to marry a girl there, so he broke it off to honor them. Sad.

3. Fast forward to now, tried to date guys already permanent here but just didn't work out. Met yet another foreigner by dumb luck, now yes in love again, not planned. This one is real however. Like really real. Fate is a funny thing, funny how we met too, but why always a foreigner?

We thought long and hard about our feelings before saying anything. Long, hard, deep serious thinking, trust me. We were both hurt by our exes in the same manner. He wants me to move to his country which I'm considering but not seriously yet. He knew my past situations before expressing his feelings. I explained my past telling him I don't want to bring anyone here in my name because I'm afraid it will get denied because of my 2 past experiences. Despite that, he still wants me.

This is my chance to do love right. I'm not going to lose this one. But here's the catch: before he met me, he had been trying to win the visa lottery but always came up short each year. He never seriously thought about why he wants to come, then he met me.  

Was thinking of marrying in his country to make him mine in the eyes of God and our hearts. We can try spouse Visa but I'm scared. So if he keeps trying the lottery, how will our foreign marriage affect that? Scared and confused.