Beauty for Ashes

How exactly did you become a US citizen? Were you married to an American that you met here while working for EPCOT? Im guessing epcot because of Orlando.
How you got your greencard sometimes as a petitioner matters. How long were you married to the american that petitioned you and how long was your divorce final when you married the man from Morocco?

I think that any mom bringing someone over here needs to understand the impact of bringing someone new into the family unit. Too often, these relationships are all about the mom's desired and not enough about the kids. Also, with the divorce rate among these couples after status, its very important that the immigrant spouse realise their impact on the american kids as well. These relationships are a lot more involved because of the fact you are sponsoring someone, they are relocating from a foreign country etc, unlike meeting someone stateside and building a potential relationship or marriage. Too often, it seems as if the relationships do not really incorporate the kids..there is a lot more to parenting than talking on yahoo or skype, and boom, someone is a dad. So many of these guys are not emotionally prepared, as much as we would like to think they are, to come over here, adjust to a new life and then all of the sudden, have a kid thrust on them.
Having been through this journey and I am now 6 years into it, I would advise anyone marrying from overseas like this, petitioning for a foreign spouse to make sure your kids have some kind of support system or counseling. When things are good, they are very very good but when they go south, things can go very badly and yes, it does affect your kids. If the foreign spouse is only it in for papers, that affects the kids for a lifetime. My children became very attached to the man I married. He on the other hand had swung back and forth between caring about them to just caring about himself.
I think that these relationships , if handled incorrectly can cause permanent damage to kids. These men that we are petitioning over, some have never been alone in their whole life, then to be thrust all of the sudden into a new culture with new people and kids to take care of and nurture. I think taking the whole transition very seriously is a given and also its important that the foreign spouse understand just how important it is to be a good step parent to the american kids. I have met very few mena who have been divorced from their american sponsors that continue to keep in touch with the step kids after divorce. I think there is a general perception that perhaps we are more used to divorce etc and its not a big deal to leave or cut off contact afterwards

I think that any mom bringing someone over here needs to understand the impact of bringing someone new into the family unit. Too often, these relationships are all about the mom's desired and not enough about the kids. Also, with the divorce rate among these couples after status, its very important that the immigrant spouse realise their impact on the american kids as well. These relationships are a lot more involved because of the fact you are sponsoring someone, they are relocating from a foreign country etc, unlike meeting someone stateside and building a potential relationship or marriage. Too often, it seems as if the relationships do not really incorporate the kids..there is a lot more to parenting than talking on yahoo or skype, and boom, someone is a dad. So many of these guys are not emotionally prepared, as much as we would like to think they are, to come over here, adjust to a new life and then all of the sudden, have a kid thrust on them.
Having been through this journey and I am now 6 years into it, I would advise anyone marrying from overseas like this, petitioning for a foreign spouse to make sure your kids have some kind of support system or counseling. When things are good, they are very very good but when they go south, things can go very badly and yes, it does affect your kids. If the foreign spouse is only it in for papers, that affects the kids for a lifetime. My children became very attached to the man I married. He on the other hand had swung back and forth between caring about them to just caring about himself.
I think that these relationships , if handled incorrectly can cause permanent damage to kids. These men that we are petitioning over, some have never been alone in their whole life, then to be thrust all of the sudden into a new culture with new people and kids to take care of and nurture. I think taking the whole transition very seriously is a given and also its important that the foreign spouse understand just how important it is to be a good step parent to the american kids. I have met very few mena who have been divorced from their american sponsors that continue to keep in touch with the step kids after divorce. I think there is a general perception that perhaps we are more used to divorce etc and its not a big deal to leave or cut off contact afterwards

She could just watch netflix and buy something with batteries. At least the 50000 she spent would be in the bank or her IRA and not in this useless fruitless pursuit of these guys..
YIKES..

they have everything in mena that they have in western society, including openly gay people although they do better living in large cities.
They don't scream it from the rooftops but even gays have their place in mena society although its not always easy.
They even have openly gay rai singers..there is everything in mena that there is everywhere else.. good and bad.. I dont know what Naomi is trying to prove.. She just wants to sell books. People are really the same everywhere as much as we would like to separate them. I do think that its much harder for a mena woman to change her station in life but I did see that when women relocated to larger cities, they could do more of what they wanted to

To be honest with you, the women I know in Oran do their hair more frequently ( every week after they get out of the hamam, its like 5 bucks. They frequently go to weddings where almost everyone wears tasteful make up and those weddings are almost weekly with dancing and music in the street, they go get body scrubs, they buy cosmetics. Some wear hijab but its far from everyone and not everyone walks around talking about islam all the time.
I think there is a huge misconception by a lot of western people in general about mena in general. It was really surprising to me when I spent a lot of time there to see that many of the women there take much better care of themselves, hair skin everything than most american women I know. They obviously are having sex because look at how many kids there are LOL and they love their husbands.. I take terrible offense at this whole american idea that all of them are unhappy or unmakeuped or unkempt or whatever. HOWEVER in saudi arabia and some other stricter places, you have to admit, women arent treated very nicely, cannot wear makeup or even nail polish if they want or decide what degree they want to practice their religion. I was in UAE and the only place I saw women that were mena that didnt look opressed were in the wealthier areas. I dont think we can make generalizations about muslim women to other other direction either because some have a very hard time where they live and battle every day to equal access to education, right to work, to drive etc.
I personally thought that a lot of the moroccan and algerian and tunisian women I met took excellent care of themselves and honestly with the cost of a beauty shop visit,like 2 to 5 bucks, I wouldnt mind going over there and getting my hair done every single day and getting my make up done. My skin looked better over there than it ever did over here ( I LOVE HAMAM) and I just think a lot of american and western women who marry and visit there have an over inflated opinion of western beauty and its perception...including sexuality as well. Hasni sings ZARGA mon amor not barbie mon amor ( just kidding.. zarga means dark girl)

I didnt notice emil's face. I need to re watch this. Some how I just feel sad after watching it. Can you imagine how these guys perceive any western woman that they meet after these morons? Imagine going to turkey to look at anatolya or look up ww1 history and you are face to face with men that have had run ins with these pieces of work? Its not a surprise that everyone has such a bad feeling about americans and europeans..The women are almost emotionally abusive to the men as well, the way they talk about them. I am glad I am at least a little culturally sensitive...If they were in lets say greece, the clothes were ok but I would never, even when I was younger, ever dress that way around muslims.

in the er
on morphine salumedrol and atravent
laughing till i pee
i know its not proper haiku form but im in the er with respiratory distress and cant remember the syllable count
look mom a fake haiku
hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Toilet woes
Always overflows
Toilet a$$holes

No one can forget
That which is reverse pervstache
Cannot be unseen

what is up, weirdo
despite all, the one remains
age difference matters

I miss soda too
I wish I had it right now
But it is not good
I don't want to go
My class starts today at 2
Bye, bye fun summer.
Trashy tourist moms
Those guys looked super yucky
I just can't believe

Missed The Soup last night
Why they change it to Wednesday?
I like Friday more
Alternatively -
Missed The Soup last night
Why change it to Wednesday?
I like Friday more

No like Lean Cuisine
Dr. Pepper is the best
Strawberries good too

Safi scares Zagray
Makes him want to end the fun
Has mods shut it down

Invisible thread
Is overkill I do think
Kedab means liar

Stale chips are so sad
Should check expiration date
lunch is disaster

To the two muses, WOM and Mithra
My treacherous lover
You shattered my heart
And for years made me wait for the day that we would be as one
I carried our dream inside of me only to lose him, as I floated into the abyss of grief
Burdened by love for you and the knowledge that if I loved you, I would remain beside you
You burdened me, you shamed me, my treacherous lover
Unfaithful not just in body but in soul as well
You scanned my very being looking for just about anything
Anything left you could take away from me
You took my birthright, my homeland and made me feel as if I stood naked in a field of lost dreams
But I knew what I must do towards the end
I would hand you what you wanted and then I would be released
Released from the grief of losing not one but two
And still you cannot see the depths of how much I loved you
How much I did without not only waiting for you but after you arrived
So now we listen to the sounds of Mimouna
Of ethereal violins that forever play
You might feel released of the responsibility to be kind to me
And yet some how I tower, I am the tower of Mansour
I am the kouba in the villiage
I became epic in my pain and I never lost sight
Of the shores of Normandy where my father bled at 19
Or my mothers innocence as she married my father
When Patsy Cline sang on am radios
I am in the wind when you walk and I am in the coffee you drink
I gave 6 years of my life for you and I know who I was
And somehow I know who I became
In some ways ,more American than I ever dreamed to be
I laid down my life for another, so that they might have what I was born with
And as I walk through the gardens of stone
And look out my car window at stone after stone
And flowers that just might never bloom again
I know who I was to you and who I now am to me
Forever together in one way or another
But no longer bitter
My treacherous , treacherous North African lover

Are you kidding me? Do you really think anyone here is envious of you? Narcissistic much?
Juliana, I need to go run errands. Enjoy... really...LOL

To the two muses, WOM and Mithra
My treacherous lover
You shattered my heart
And for years made me wait for the day that we would be as one
I carried our dream inside of me only to lose him, as I floated into the abyss of grief
Burdened by love for you and the knowledge that if I loved you, I would remain beside you
You burdened me, you shamed me, my treacherous lover
Unfaithful not just in body but in soul as well
You scanned my very being looking for just about anything
Anything left you could take away from me
You took my birthright, my homeland and made me feel as if I stood naked in a field of lost dreams
But I knew what I must do towards the end
I would hand you what you wanted and then I would be released
Released from the grief of losing not one but two
And still you cannot see the depths of how much I loved you
How much I did without not only waiting for you but after you arrived
So now we listen to the sounds of Mimouna
Of ethereal violins that forever play
You might feel released of the responsibility to be kind to me
And yet some how I tower, I am the tower of Mansour
I am the kouba in the villiage
I became epic in my pain and I never lost sight
Of the shores of Normandy where my father bled at 19
Or my mothers innocence as she married my father
When Patsy Cline sang on am radios
I am in the wind when you walk and I am in the coffee you drink
I gave 6 years of my life for you and I know who I was
And somehow I know who I became
In some ways ,more American than I ever dreamed to be
I laid down my life for another, so that they might have what I was born with
And as I walk through the gardens of stone
And look out my car window at stone after stone
And flowers that just might never bloom again
I know who I was to you and who I now am to me
Forever together in one way or another
But no longer bitter
My treacherous , treacherous North African lover

yes 4 months is a strong indicator ROFL..
Try 5 years and post citizenship...then come tell us how it is ok?

yes 4 months is a strong indicator ROFL..
Try 5 years and post citizenship...then come tell us how it is ok?

thats of course AFTER they marry the harlot with no morals, character or values and secure their papers..
then they look for someone they can really love LOL..
And love alone is not enough to endure tragedies and lifes problems. Unfortunately love seems to be all you are seeking at sometimes of your life. Which is why batteries are looking better and better as far as I am concerned

I do believe that when you are kind when people are awful, their evil loses its power. Sometimes as one of my best friends says, you just go on adventures. When her car broke down, she took her kids on long walks to get to the store, etc.. and called them adventures. Some of the worst things in life can be endured by looking at the good things that came out of the bad...or what you learned along the way.. But mithra is spot on in her assesment and means very well by the reality happy meal shes serving.. shes serving reality to me on a tray and sometimes we need to be realistic and not a dumb ####
love it hahhahahahaahahahahahh
And its more important to save face in front of a community than to follow your heart,,,Boy do I know this one BIG TIME
Makes you think that falling in love and all the romantic nonsense aka love children are purely western concoctions LOL
some berbers are doing their own thing in arab societies by the way, rejecting the arab dump your illegitimate mentality..Not all people in mena are arabs or ascribe to all the things arabs think...many berber women keep their kids but thats a story for another day

makes you wonder how the dads sleep at night...I lost all interest in him building a relationship with a daughter he wont claim.....the dad can register a child born overseas outside of marriage in morocco but then everyone who looks in the book {relatives}can see who is where..I told him he needs to be concerned about taking his wife that dcf'd for him in the late 90's out of the book since they still are not divorced yet..someone he doesnt speak to can be in the damn book but his kid, who he pays child support for and hes on her birth certificate isn't but his kid didnt give him a gc...shes in second grade now by the way...I am glad there is no other requirement for being american when you are born here other than being born here...thank god by a twist of fate she was born here to an american mom...shed be an orphan ...... freaking hypocrites
the father can give his nationality to any kid he will claim... its just his word and thats it... so can a mom ( they did this so kids with saudi dads that have moms that are 2nd and 3rd wives can be legal