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I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God ! kicking.gif

You don't have another woman? Then why would you be praising God that she already has a greencard?

You keep changing your story once you realize just how bad what you posted sounded. I believe that first impressions are usually the correct one.

I am sorry I think your being a bit irrational. This is a friend. If my wife decided she would live in California. Like I had originally thought she would when I wrote that post. Yes, I would of hung out with that girl as friends.

I wasn't going to jump into a serious relationship with her, and she knows that. I wasn't going to use her as a rebound.

This girl does like me. She knows of my wife. We got to know each other as classmates.

Concernin the green card,I meant is a woman likes me, and she has a green card..... I was begining to think I was just a guy with American citizenship, and my citizenship makes me attractive. By this girl liking me at school I realized someone likes me, not for my citizenship, but because of who I am.... When I wrote that post I was talking about being used for a green card by my wife.

You can't understand my situation, because you've never met me or my wife

Tangkas the point many people are trying to make here (and you are unable or unwilling to accept) is that most stories have two sides. Yea you wrote a book about how bad your wife is & maybe she really is that bad, but you also come across as seeing her as a possession rather than an equal partner. You act like you bought a defective product and you are exchanging it at Walmart for a replacement.

I know this ! My wife has decided to come back and work things out. My wife has her faults, and I have mine also. We've spoken on how we could work our problems, and we MAY give it another shot. Did I say I was getting remarried any time soon. I don't know where your getting this from. Possibly I wasn't clear on the fact I am not looking for another wife

I really hope your wife isn't making a mistake by coming back to you, and I also hope the other spanish lady with the green card isn' making a mistake either by comunicating with someone like you... Feel really bad for both of them..

Abby

To be honest you have the right to your opinion. My Spanish lady person is a school mate that knows I am married. Never promised her a relationship. I never told her I would leave my wife..... We never had an intimate relationship...

My wife wouldn't be coming back here if she didn't think it can work... Our problems aren't as intense as everyone is thinking... I thank you for your input...

You are still married, you state that you and her MAY work it out. But you have already found a new woman online. I don't know what to tell you here. Why didn't you simply wait for either a divorce, or a final decision to divorce before you moved on?

Please do yourself a favor. Take responsibility for your actions. Show kindness towards your wife. Do the best you can. Then if you did your best and couldn't reconcile your differences then walk away without so much anger and resentment towards her. I am not convinced that she used you for a green card, and trust me, I believe there is a large majority here that are out for the green card. I think you both had unrealistic expectations for your marriage.

But to have moved onto a new woman already doesn't show much for your intentions of love towards her.

Where do you get I found a woman online ? I have a friend from school that likes me, but where do you get I found a woman online ? See you don't know me or my wife. So there's a limit to the advice you can because of that.

You said enough on this thread. Now your just posting based on irrational assumptions. I am not trying to be rude, but thats what you doing. I don't think I had unrealistc plans for marriage, nor do I think my wife did. The problems are caused my promising breaking. Again I say you dont know me or my wife to say we had unrealistic expectations.

I never moved on. What I done with the online site was for excitement, wasn't looking for marriage, and comoanionship, no marriage at all.

Marriage counseling for what? He's already moved on to his next woman.

I guess you overlooked this

I know this ! My wife has decided to come back and work things out. My wife has her faults, and I have mine also. We've spoken on how we could work our problems, and we MAY give it another shot. Did I say I was getting remarried any time soon. I don't know where your getting this from. Possibly I wasn't clear on the fact I am not looking for another wife

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God ! kicking.gif

Yay, a woman you don't have to make any sacrifices for, so she can make them all for you! Yaaaay!

Yep. I can really tell you loved her.

My wife has too many local Filipino friends here locally. If I didn't let her go to the store and buy what she wanted, she would of been gone much sooner then 10 months. My wife isn't the type of women to tolerate stuff like that. She would of been out the door much sooner, and she wouldn't had thought about me again. She's not a gullible woman that's going to sit around and have someone tell her what to do. You don't know my wife. She's very intelligent. She's actually gifted. Her GPA was the highest at her university. She has the smarts to become a medical doctor.However, she wants to be an educator. She's also not one to let someone take advantage of her, nor does she fear me.

One question please prove without a reason that I didn't try to make sacrifices.

Asking a woman to HELP with cooking, is making her a housekeeper ?

When did asking your spouse to help in an area become trying to make them a housekeeper ? I don't ask her to clean my clothes, my house, my car, or nothing more then help my son with his homework since I am not home.

You don't know my wife, nor do you know me. My wife wants to become an educator. So she enjoys teaching...

Oh please do not mention God in such a vengeful stateswoman...

As if you were the catch of a lifetime. I do feel sorry for whomever crosses your bitter and resentful path.

You don't want a wife, you want a maid that performs sexual favors. Good luck with that.

A maid with sexual favors ? Sorry ! I am not the one that thinks women are ITEMS. Maybe someone else. I have too many sisters to think like that... I am not looking to get into anything serious...

Tangkas the point many people are trying to make here (and you are unable or unwilling to accept) is that most stories have two sides. Yea you wrote a book about how bad your wife is & maybe she really is that bad, but you also come across as seeing her as a possession rather than an equal partner. You act like you bought a defective product and you are exchanging it at Walmart for a replacement.

I know this ! My wife has decided to come back and work things out. My wife has her faults, and I have mine also. We've spoken on how we could work our problems, and we MAY give it another shot. Did I say I was getting remarried any time soon. I don't know where your getting this from. Possibly I wasn't clear on the fact I am not looking for another wife

So, something doesn't match. You spent $500/mos and when she came you didn't have any money to do the AOS?! Come on! It looks like you just wanted to use her as a housekeeper. And you blame her?! I suggest you to read about emotional abuse. You will find a lot of interesting information.

You still didn't answer the question if she could go in the stores and buy something. Did she have any freedom?

And question to all guys which think that foreign women are too spoiled and want too much. If you don't have money to buy a car you don't buy it, if you don't have money to buy a house you don't buy it because you can't afford it. So, why do you want to have a foreign wife if you can't afford to have her? Don't you think about it before you start dating? Or you don't? Then what are you thinking about? If you think it's too expensive don't bring them here.

You don't fully know the issue. I don't have the same job I had when I was giving her the $500. I recently moved to Atlanta from another region of Georgia. My current salary is nowhere near what I made before. Plus the money I sent my wife was for her, not her family. If she wanted to spent it on them. Thats her business. She does what she wants with her money. Once it left my hands, it was hers.

100% freedom. I don't rule my wife. She could come here to Visa Journey, and say I don't rule her. She's free to do what she pleases. I don't think this thread is going to be very constructive, because none of you know my wife or me. It's funny because my wife could easily come here and say I never treated her like a maid. Asking your wife to HELP you cook isn't treating her like a maid. The cooking responsibilites wouldn't fall all on her.

Like I said you don't understand our issues. Plus alll do respect, you dont know us to assume why our relationship turned the way it did. T

It's nothing personal against anyone. It's just many of you are assuming when you don't even know ur or what our relationship was like. It takes two to make a relationship go sour. I admit !

Think about what ? Did I say I can't take care of my wife ? Never did I !....

I don't think a foreign women are too spoiled. Afford to have her ? Who says my wife even wants to drive ? Who says she didn't understand I may not be able to buy her a car right away ?

My friend marriage isn't solely based on what you can provide. Marriage should be based on love. There are many couples that didn't have much when they got married, but together they together to receive the finer things. My parents are a testimony to this.

Your relationship may be a relatioship you felt you had to be able to give your spouse the world. I don't think you have the righ to say a man must be able to buy his wife a car before he even thinks of marriage.

Because I can't buy my wife a car your saying I can't afford to have her ? Come on ! I never said I am struggling to take care of her.

Never said my wife is too expensive. I am 100% able to care for her, nor do I keep my wife chained to a fence... Come on now ! My wife never freted over the fact I couldn't supply a car for her right this moment, nor do you know if my wife even wanted to drive. She never drove in her country. All do respect, but you don't know our situation fully. I am not saying this to be rude, but its actually true...

Since my wife arrived in the United States her dad and brother has been bothering her about money. I sent them money once and refused after that time. Soon she began to get upset with me. Once I saw her brother's instant message asking if my parents would send support them, and asking her to come back home so I'll take care of them like I had been doing. Not to mention her dad and brother didn't work when my wife was in the Philippines due to the $500 per month I sent them. They moved into a pretty luxorious apartment, and I paid the rent and bills on that also. After my wife came they wanted me to continue with the money and the rent I paid. I told my wife I have to care for you here now only in US.

Soon my wife began saying she wanted to go back home. Not long after she got in contact with a well off aunt in California that kept asking her to come and stay with her. I remember my wife asking me if she can go to California. This was 2 or 3 weeks after she came. "After 1.5 years of marriage and being separated. in 2 or 3 weeks you want to leave me already ? "

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I believe because I am not caring for her family my wife is not making herself attractive for me. Her personal hygiene has went down. When I ask her to make some Filipino food she takes a whole bunch of mung beans and cabbage and thats it. No Pancit, no adobo, no shopow, no lumpia. I remember once I cooked pancit and lupia because I wanted it so bad, and she freely at of it. I told my wife before she came to US if she could learn how to cook these Filipino delicases. She didn;t work. She didn't do anything but sit home and had everything paid for her when she was in the Philippines. I would of paid for her to get a cooking course if she needed extra. she said she would learn how to cook, but she never did.

My wife wont cook. I have to work and come home and cook. When I do cook she ends up eating the food I cooked. I work nights shift and by 7 hours I have to go back to work. I have to cook my food, and all she does is sit home.

Back to the aunt. Recently, I became very depressed knowing that I spent all this time and effort on a woman that doesn't take care of herself and refuse to help me in anything. I began wanting someone else. My depression caused me to start smoking again. From 3 a day to neary a pack a day.. From their it got worst month by month.My sleep patterns changed. On average I got 2 or 3 hours sleep per day. My grades at school dropped. I lack clarity and find myself forgetful. My depression got worst and caused me to eat one small meal a day. I have lupus. It went into remission but it came back. My doctor said stress would cause it. Sometimes I am in severe pain. At times I would wake up screaming of pain, and she would just lay there in sleep. I didn't care if I lived or died. All I wanted was a woman that take care of herself, has good hygiene, loves me, and can cook her island delicases.

It got to the point whenever we got into an argument she would pack up and attempt to leave. It really hurt me to see this. I had no confidence our relationship would last. I began searching internet dating services hoping I would find someone to love me for me. My wife soon found out. She began accusing me of being the worst human type. I tried to reason with her on why I did it. All she could do is point the finger at me. I tried to tell her to change her faults. I offered to bring her to the doctor to find out why she has the odor she does. I tried !

When your spouse has bad hygiene can you sleep with them and refuses to change it, can you sleep with them. Would you see any hope in the relationship ?

Anyways, time went on. Her well of aunt in the Philippines bought her a ticket. My wife soon left. I came home one day and she said I am leaving

Then she jumps in a vehicle with an older male with two kids and his wife.

My wife didn't even tell me where she was going. I tried calling her friends to find out where she was and they had very nasty attitudes with me. I tried telling them if your husband was missing wouldn't you want to know where he is. They just got more irate. They sent me nasty text messages. Only one of them was semi nice, but yet you can see attitude all over. I have not known many Filipino people. I began resenting Filipino people. I am sory for that, because we can't judge an ethnic group by a few bad seeds.

My wife says her aunt will help her get a working permit and then green card, and she doesn't need me. she's not coming back to my house. When I think about my wife was here for 2 or 3 weeks her aunt had been begging her to come there. Recently, one of my wife's family members had a kid. I guess my wife is helping them out as a domestic. My wife said she'll work for them to pay for her working permit and green card.

I tried calling her aunts this morning, and they got some nasty attitudes with me. One was yelling and how she's an American citizen she can get my wife to stay in US she doesn't need me. One of them denied she knew my wife. I know these are lies.This mad me very angry with Filipino people. I know its not realistic to think all Filipinos are like this. I am sorry for thinking that. I've known some American kids of Filipino descent. They just as I stated Americans of Filipino descent. This is my first time being around Filipinos born in the Philippines. All of the one's my wife know are very unreasonable. If your spouse is missing wouldn't you want to know where there at ? But all I get is a mouth full of curses and yells.

I managed to get one of their addresses I called ICE, USCIS, and Department of State informing them my wife has left permanently. for some reason all of my wife's family members are trying to marry Americans. and once they do I guess they'll go to the aunts house in California. I have valid proof they've done that before with one cano. ICE said this is a fraud scam and they'll look into it. I gave them my wife's visa, and it might be canceled.

I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out good but at least you already knew her attitude before it gets worst..God do this things for a reason and you deserve someone better than her. Someone who will love you,someone who will always be there for you,someone who will take good care of you and someone who will cherish you. I am a Filipina and it hurts me that some of my fellowmen are doing such thing but not all of us are like because I can't see myself leaving my future husband,it will surely kill me because i love him so much.. I wish u all the luck and may u find your true happiness soon

Right Filipina are usually great women. We have a few that make it look like all Filipina are after green cards. Hopefully, by people like me the scammers in the Philippines will stop trying, and the good Filipina will be free to immigrate her sooner then that 8-10 months long wait

. She needs to go back where she came from.

Why? Is she a package so you think you have right to send you back?

She doesn't belong here. She came with the sole purpose of reconnecting with friends and family. I called ICE... I am going to go down to the local USCIS. I am going there in person. Hopefully I'll get more answers and better results.... I've been called a jerk my some Pinay, because I am doing this. Like I should be a sitting duck. We see where their primary motive was for coming here.

. No man deserves a wife that vanishes and tells you in Yahoo instant messager is the only way you can contact her for an extended perioid of time. I did that when she was in the Philippines I thought it would end once she got to America, but here I am at it again. Her aunt supposedly told her that she can only contact me with Yahoo Messenger. She keeps saying I am coming back. I ask her when, and she says on Monday...soon Monday turns to Thurs and and Thurs to Sunday. Evidently she doesn't want to come back. Georgia doesn't have as many Filipinos as California. She probably feels at home there. If she misses home so much, then she should go back home... What's the purpose of my charity. Anyone that would come to conclusion I should just avoid immigration, and let her stay and have happy life. Please ! Like we Americans are made of cast iron. Come on ! Americans if your wife leaves then call USCIS. She doesn't belong her. Our economy is already failing. Soon if many women commit these scams it will become harder for foreign women who do love their American men to come here. I remember in my uncles day all you had to was be married to an American to come here. Its harder now, and if these "marry and leave women" keep at and it goes unreported, it will become much harder...

Don't pitty her ! She deserves deportation and a night in an ICE holding and soon after a ticket back to Philippines. Alas justice I will have justice.

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God !

I wish ya all luck that went down this immigration path and had your marriages workout. I don't think I'll ever go down that path. I don't even think USCIS will let me bring another woman in this country. Plus I don't want to flip the coin. Heads will she leave and tails will she stay...

I am looking for solid immigration advice from ye people.. On what I should do to get this woman out of the country.

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

HEY READ READ PLEASE! I DIDNT ACCUSE U LIKE HOW U ACCUSE SHONE. LOOK AT THAT MESSAGE... LOOK AND READ DID I WROTE " HEY TANGKAS U DONT EVER KNOW A FILIPINA" DID I? DID I? AND AS FAR AS U READ IT WAS FOR FOR MARK AND JESS THAT SAY "FILIPINAS IS A GREAT WOMAN" WHICH I WANTED TO CORRECT THAT NOT EVERYBODY SINCE I KNEW SOME WHO IS NOT A GREAT FILIPINA WIVES. U KNOW WHAT, U BETTER READ OK, CUZ U DONT ACCUSED ME. U ARE FUN OF ACCUSING SOMEBODY. NOW U LET ME THINK SOMETHING ABOUT WHO REALLU ARE. OH BOY! READ OK READ! LIKE HOW U READ YOUR PHONE NUMBERS AND BUG SOMEBODY AROUND 11PM. PLEASE PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL.

ok i didnt read it right

yeah thank u thats all u say... ok didnt read it right! ur missing something. hope u know what it is.

Right ! I forgot to go down to the courthouse to get the divorce papers. Thanks for reminding me...

Anyone have some USCIS advice ?

and teach your self how to say SORRY to someone who u been accused of!

Why so disrespectful ? Now I know why you and my wife are friends.

I came here for USCIS answers. She needs to go back where she came from.

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

HEY READ READ PLEASE! I DIDNT ACCUSE U LIKE HOW U ACCUSE SHONE. LOOK AT THAT MESSAGE... LOOK AND READ DID I WROTE " HEY TANGKAS U DONT EVER KNOW A FILIPINA" DID I? DID I? AND AS FAR AS U READ IT WAS FOR FOR MARK AND JESS THAT SAY "FILIPINAS IS A GREAT WOMAN" WHICH I WANTED TO CORRECT THAT NOT EVERYBODY SINCE I KNEW SOME WHO IS NOT A GREAT FILIPINA WIVES. U KNOW WHAT, U BETTER READ OK, CUZ U DONT ACCUSED ME. U ARE FUN OF ACCUSING SOMEBODY. NOW U LET ME THINK SOMETHING ABOUT WHO REALLU ARE. OH BOY! READ OK READ! LIKE HOW U READ YOUR PHONE NUMBERS AND BUG SOMEBODY AROUND 11PM. PLEASE PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL.

ok i didnt read it right

yeah thank u thats all u say... ok didnt read it right! ur missing something. hope u know what it is.

Right ! I forgot to go down to the courthouse to get the divorce papers. Thanks for reminding me...

Anyone have some USCIS advice ?

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

HEY READ READ PLEASE! I DIDNT ACCUSE U LIKE HOW U ACCUSE SHONE. LOOK AT THAT MESSAGE... LOOK AND READ DID I WROTE " HEY TANGKAS U DONT EVER KNOW A FILIPINA" DID I? DID I? AND AS FAR AS U READ IT WAS FOR FOR MARK AND JESS THAT SAY "FILIPINAS IS A GREAT WOMAN" WHICH I WANTED TO CORRECT THAT NOT EVERYBODY SINCE I KNEW SOME WHO IS NOT A GREAT FILIPINA WIVES. U KNOW WHAT, U BETTER READ OK, CUZ U DONT ACCUSED ME. U ARE FUN OF ACCUSING SOMEBODY. NOW U LET ME THINK SOMETHING ABOUT WHO REALLU ARE. OH BOY! READ OK READ! LIKE HOW U READ YOUR PHONE NUMBERS AND BUG SOMEBODY AROUND 11PM. PLEASE PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL.

ok i didnt read it right

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. That's not fair for you to accuse me of being racist. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

threads like this bring out the difference in perspective between the givers and the takers. there is give and take in every marriage, but it should be within a reasonable balance. few perspectives in this thread have balance.

to the OP, you were a giver, and you got taken. if you are a doormat, people will step on you. lesson learned, and don't do it again, with a foreign woman, or an american woman.

to people berating the guy for spending his entire life's effort/proceeds on someone who did not appreciate and respond in gratitude, grow up. give your time/emotion/ effort/money to someone who throws you away when you have nothing left. then tell us how you feel.

and before you say it, my wife and i are in balance, so i'm not speaking out of personal motivation. i'm just an impartial observer who is tired of watching unwise people set themselves up to be taken, and unscrupulous people taking advantage of them. seen it too many times.

There ya go again sharp shooter.

Again,two sides to every story. The fact that the OP held out applying for the AOS tells volumes. If you can't see that then you are blind.

Both need to grow up.

AOS for someone that shows all the signs of wanting to leave. Please ! Like I said I am not your neighborhood charity shop.

I feel sorry for your wife. It looks for me that she was a prisoner in your house, was not able to go out without you, was not able to drive a car or to go to a store, and so on. Your excuse about not filing AOS because you are not Salvation Army sounds ridiculous. More likely, not filing her AOS was a way for you to keep your wife under your control. If she had greedncard, she would have been able to find a job and to send her money for her family. But it was easier for you not to let her get legal status, so you could accuse her in not working and asking you about money.

Leaving you was a relief for her.

I am sad you feel that way. I know she could tell you otherwise.

If she had a green card it would of been the pinnacle of her scam. She would have hit the gusto prize, and I would of been out her life. No thank you ! No consideration for me. I wised up after some time. Realized I was a face with American citizenship, and just that. A bridge into the Americas. She had her friends. Never objected to her spending time with her friends. AOS is around 1,000 dollars. I've neglected bills long enough. Interest is running high now. You should thank the Lord that you weren't in the situation I was in. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Knowing the person your with just see's green card you can supply.

Personally, my only concern now is getting out of here. She doesn't belong in this country. She was a maid when I met her. She got me for 25,000.

She has a visa and she's doing all this. what happens when she gets the official green card. does anyone know some people that were in this situation ? possibly this could be some great help for me.

I reported her to the state department, ice, and the Philippine embassy. I am hoping they cancel her visa soon.

There you go, that's why you marry her because you thought you will have a wife and a maid, well you were looking for a maid pretty much. Tangkas, I read your wifes post and I spoke to one of her friends and I pity her. She was asking for an advice because she caught you not ones but many times chatting with other girls and that hurts her so bad. She even read one of you sweet messages to one of your chatmates and she even caught you making a long distance phone call. She tried to talk to you asking you to stop chatting with other girls and you were mad. She told you she is willing to change, try to look sexy for you just to save your marriage but still you are chatting with other girls. As soon as you read her post asking for help you then make a thread about your wife saying bad things about her and she once replied to your post asking you to stop but you never did. I don't know your wife but I know her friends and like I said I pity her.

That's a one sided story. You can't base your view on a one sided view. I am not saying she's 100% to blame, but its not as innocent as you think. Has she told you about what she's been doing. Her story is one sided. I've seen my wife chatting to people and looking at various men's pictures late at night. She never mentioned that. This way before I ever got to the dating website.

All I ask my wife to do is take care of herself and help me cook the days I have a 6 hour break between my work shifts. That's it ! If that's making her a maid oh my gosh.I bet you pitty my wife because she's Filipina like you and just that. I dont think you even want to analyze the whole story. It's okay I aint looking for pitty. I am looking for justice

haven't filed for AOS. She plans to go around me to get AOS or should I say get to stay here

Why you didn't file her AOS? So, your wife had no SSN, no driver's license, no work permit. Is that correct? Was she able to go to a store while you were at work and buy groceries for a week?

I was about to do the AOS for her. Every week it was I am leaving. I am going to this place or that place. Its her right to want to leave, but I am obligated to do an AOS on someone that wants to leave and do her on thing in America ?

I already spent 25,000 in two years. I am not Fema, Salvation Army, or your neighboor relief organization. I am a human with emotions.

I bet you pitty my wife because she's Filipina like you and just that. I dont think you even want to analyze the whole story. It's okay I aint looking for pitty. I am looking for justice

I was about to do the AOS for her. Every week it was I am leaving. I am going to this place or that place. Its her right to want to leave, but I am obligated to do an AOS on someone that wants to leave and do her on thing in America ?

I already spent 25,000 in two years. I am not Fema, Salvation Army, or your neighboor relief organization. I am a human with emotions.

From your side of the story, my two cents worth is that your wife's family is spoiled. You spoiled them that is why your wife became indifferent to you. My husband always tells me that Americans take care of themselves before they they care of others. You should have made that clear to her from the start. The damage has been done and I don't know if you can still repair them after everrything that has been said and done. I feel bad about it, but not all Filipinas are like your wife. -- Marie

Your right my wife is spoiled also. I wanted her to be so comfortable that I told her she didn't have to work if she didn't want to. I am doing all the working and cooking now. I am more of the maid.

There's two days in my work week I work two 8 shifts that are 6 hours apart. The second day on the second 8 hour I have to be at school in 5 hours. All I ask her to do is help me cooking on those days, but I am making her a maid ?

Personally, my only concern now is getting out of here. She doesn't belong in this country. She was a maid when I met her. She got me for 25,000.

She has a visa and she's doing all this. what happens when she gets the official green card. does anyone know some people that were in this situation ? possibly this could be some great help for me.

I reported her to the state department, ice, and the Philippine embassy. I am hoping they cancel her visa soon.

There you go, that's why you marry her because you thought you will have a wife and a maid, well you were looking for a maid pretty much. Tangkas, I read your wifes post and I spoke to one of her friends and I pity her. She was asking for an advice because she caught you not ones but many times chatting with other girls and that hurts her so bad. She even read one of you sweet messages to one of your chatmates and she even caught you making a long distance phone call. She tried to talk to you asking you to stop chatting with other girls and you were mad. She told you she is willing to change, try to look sexy for you just to save your marriage but still you are chatting with other girls. As soon as you read her post asking for help you then make a thread about your wife saying bad things about her and she once replied to your post asking you to stop but you never did. I don't know your wife but I know her friends and like I said I pity her.

That's a one sided story. You can't base your view on a one sided view. I am not saying she's 100% to blame, but its not as innocent as you think. Has she told you about what she's been doing. Her story is one sided. I've seen my wife chatting to people and looking at various men's pictures late at night. She never mentioned that. This way before I ever got to the dating website.

All I ask my wife to do is take care of herself and help me cook the days I have a 6 hour break between my work shifts. That's it ! If that's making her a maid oh my gosh.

She has a visa and she's doing all this. what happens when she gets the official green card. does anyone know some people that were in this situation ? possibly this could be some great help for me.

Why she doesn't have a green card? She was living with you for 10 months, that's enough time for AOS. Did you ever send documents for her AOS?

I haven't filed for AOS. She plans to go around me to get AOS or should I say get to stay here

Personally, my only concern now is getting out of here. She doesn't belong in this country. She was a maid when I met her. She got me for 25,000.

She has a visa and she's doing all this. what happens when she gets the official green card. does anyone know some people that were in this situation ? possibly this could be some great help for me.

I reported her to the state department, ice, and the Philippine embassy. I am hoping they cancel her visa soon.

Wow, tough luck. She took off after she found out you were looking for someone new on dating sites? Maybe you should've divorced her before you started looking. If you'd called me looking for her I'd be mean to you too. (It's not just a Philipino thing.)

So if your spouse or finace came up missing and you had reason to believe I knew where he/she was... would it be nice for me to be mean to you ? No man is an island we all need each other one way or another.

I say hit it one more time then send her packing.

Your funny ! lol

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

Well I tried for 10 months. I tried to tell her about her foul odor. She never took me seriously until I went on the internet site. My wife is far from a domestic. All I asked her to do is get her personal hygiene in order, start looking presentable, and share cooking responsibilities with me.

How is that immature ?

Since my wife arrived in the United States her dad and brother has been bothering her about money. I sent them money once and refused after that time. Soon she began to get upset with me. Once I saw her brother's instant message asking if my parents would send support them, and asking her to come back home so I'll take care of them like I had been doing. Not to mention her dad and brother didn't work when my wife was in the Philippines due to the $500 per month I sent them. They moved into a pretty luxorious apartment, and I paid the rent and bills on that also. After my wife came they wanted me to continue with the money and the rent I paid. I told my wife I have to care for you here now only in US.

Soon my wife began saying she wanted to go back home. Not long after she got in contact with a well off aunt in California that kept asking her to come and stay with her. I remember my wife asking me if she can go to California. This was 2 or 3 weeks after she came. "After 1.5 years of marriage and being separated. in 2 or 3 weeks you want to leave me already ? "

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I believe because I am not caring for her family my wife is not making herself attractive for me. Her personal hygiene has went down. When I ask her to make some Filipino food she takes a whole bunch of mung beans and cabbage and thats it. No Pancit, no adobo, no shopow, no lumpia. I remember once I cooked pancit and lupia because I wanted it so bad, and she freely at of it. I told my wife before she came to US if she could learn how to cook these Filipino delicases. She didn;t work. She didn't do anything but sit home and had everything paid for her when she was in the Philippines. I would of paid for her to get a cooking course if she needed extra. she said she would learn how to cook, but she never did.

My wife wont cook. I have to work and come home and cook. When I do cook she ends up eating the food I cooked. I work nights shift and by 7 hours I have to go back to work. I have to cook my food, and all she does is sit home.

Back to the aunt. Recently, I became very depressed knowing that I spent all this time and effort on a woman that doesn't take care of herself and refuse to help me in anything. I began wanting someone else. My depression caused me to start smoking again. From 3 a day to neary a pack a day.. From their it got worst month by month.My sleep patterns changed. On average I got 2 or 3 hours sleep per day. My grades at school dropped. I lack clarity and find myself forgetful. My depression got worst and caused me to eat one small meal a day. I have lupus. It went into remission but it came back. My doctor said stress would cause it. Sometimes I am in severe pain. At times I would wake up screaming of pain, and she would just lay there in sleep. I didn't care if I lived or died. All I wanted was a woman that take care of herself, has good hygiene, loves me, and can cook her island delicases.

It got to the point whenever we got into an argument she would pack up and attempt to leave. It really hurt me to see this. I had no confidence our relationship would last. I began searching internet dating services hoping I would find someone to love me for me. My wife soon found out. She began accusing me of being the worst human type. I tried to reason with her on why I did it. All she could do is point the finger at me. I tried to tell her to change her faults. I offered to bring her to the doctor to find out why she has the odor she does. I tried !

When your spouse has bad hygiene can you sleep with them and refuses to change it, can you sleep with them. Would you see any hope in the relationship ?

Anyways, time went on. Her well of aunt in the Philippines bought her a ticket. My wife soon left. I came home one day and she said I am leaving

Then she jumps in a vehicle with an older male with two kids and his wife.

My wife didn't even tell me where she was going. I tried calling her friends to find out where she was and they had very nasty attitudes with me. I tried telling them if your husband was missing wouldn't you want to know where he is. They just got more irate. They sent me nasty text messages. Only one of them was semi nice, but yet you can see attitude all over. I have not known many Filipino people. I began resenting Filipino people. I am sory for that, because we can't judge an ethnic group by a few bad seeds.

My wife says her aunt will help her get a working permit and then green card, and she doesn't need me. she's not coming back to my house. When I think about my wife was here for 2 or 3 weeks her aunt had been begging her to come there. Recently, one of my wife's family members had a kid. I guess my wife is helping them out as a domestic. My wife said she'll work for them to pay for her working permit and green card.

I tried calling her aunts this morning, and they got some nasty attitudes with me. One was yelling and how she's an American citizen she can get my wife to stay in US she doesn't need me. One of them denied she knew my wife. I know these are lies.This mad me very angry with Filipino people. I know its not realistic to think all Filipinos are like this. I am sorry for thinking that. I've known some American kids of Filipino descent. They just as I stated Americans of Filipino descent. This is my first time being around Filipinos born in the Philippines. All of the one's my wife know are very unreasonable. If your spouse is missing wouldn't you want to know where there at ? But all I get is a mouth full of curses and yells.

I managed to get one of their addresses I called ICE, USCIS, and Department of State informing them my wife has left permanently. for some reason all of my wife's family members are trying to marry Americans. and once they do I guess they'll go to the aunts house in California. I have valid proof they've done that before with one cano. ICE said this is a fraud scam and they'll look into it. I gave them my wife's visa, and it might be canceled.

When I married my wife I didn't think I would have to support her entire family.

There's a woman in Cebu who's married to a kano who is feeding my wife's family a false view of USA. You know the view USA = The God Lord's heaven including the perly gates and streets of gold. This woman in Cebu also never been to the USA, and her kano husband doesn't reside in USA anymore either. Her husband is also a jerk. He feels he can talk down to Filipinos and make a handsome profit by paying them cheap labor. They just dont see how nasty he is. He treats his maids like no American would treat their maid. Its almost like legalized slavery.

Husband and wife are both telling my wife Americans make tons of cash and should be able to support the entire family back in Ph. I am student, a dad, and a husband. My job isn't the best now. Just enough to take care of me, my wife, and my kid's needs. Its not enough to support others. Even when my wife begins working I dont think it would be wise for her to send most of her check there back home.

Most of her family members there dont even work. They seem to be wanting a hand out while they enjoy their lives. I didn't know what I was getting myself into when I married my wife. I refuse to support her entire family when they want to kick back and enjoy life while I am busting my chops all week. All of you marrying make sure you lay down all of this with your fiancee before you get married.

question for CO-SPONSOR

- is the co-sponsor need to be in the same house or is it okay if they not live in one house?

for example hubby lives in the other city and co-sponsors live in his hometown?

It doesn't matter .... They can live in different homes