Ning

I dont agree with much of this advise. Some of it is nice to read but doesnt mean anything in the end.
You cant throw him out of his own house or change the locks. Those acts alone are enough to enable him to have you restrained.
The most positive thing you could do is prepare yourself for a new life. That life will be better than what you have now because the abuse will be over & you will determin your own fate. You can forgive him later if he gives you a reason to do so. He wont.
When you confront him in a few days you will be sorry. He will respond with anger & lies. Do you really expect him to be truthful or change his thinking? Everything you have said indicates he doesnt care about you. What redeeming qualities does he have? His ego wont allow for counseling because he will have to be honest & accepting of change.
Now is as good a time as any to begin to figure out what the divorce laws in your state indicate about what type of support you may be able to get. You dont say how long you have been married & that will have an impact on what will happen. Find out if your marrige is termed " short or long term " under the laws of your state. The cost of a lawyer for example can become part of the settlement so dont be afraid of spending his money on one. Contact a lawyer & meet with them to determin what your actual legal position is.
Dont let ignorance nor emotion weaken you when you need to remain strong. Your last sentence indicates you are intellegent & understand your situation better than anyone here.
I thought you were wrong to look for answers here but have changed my mind because you are right in saying this is the best you could do at this time. You can see here that people do care about you & what happens to you.
You have given enough to this guy. Its time to take care of yourself now. It wont be long before you are healed & see that everything is going to be ok. It certianly wont be as bad as it is now.

There is no service that can help you do anymore than you can do yourself.
My case file was " lost " for a long time. I found that it wasnt lost at all & neither is yours.
USCIS explained it to me. The last thing they do is give the file a bar code. It is then placed in an area for transfer to NVC & sent out asap.
The problem seems to be at times at with the NVC mail room procedure. For some reason there are times when the cases stall in the mail room. If they dont scan them in it appears that they dont have the file.
When I inquired at USCIS they explained all this to me & said to contact NVC. When I did that NVC said to contact USCIS. After some time NVC said to write to them requesting they find the file. Incredible. I wrote but never got a reply.
Contact the American consulate section of your embassy. Specificly the duty officer. Ask them to send message to NVC to locate the file. I did that & got an answer in a couple of days. They found the case had already been sent along to the embassy.