Never be ashamed in admitting stuff like that---first of all., YOU weren't the one who did any of this...your husband did, before he met you.
Second of all, no one on VJ is going to know your true identity.
Third, most people in this thread knew it was about you from the get-go, anyhow...we see a lot of "friends" on VJ, not hard to figure out.
I have to say it, even though I am SURE there will be backlash about it but whatever. I won't reply to it.
I think sometimes we forget that when we are talking about people's situations especially illegals, we are talking about other HUMANS. Family members. People that are very meaningful to others. We are all here on visajourney because somewhere along the way, we were separated from our loved ones so if anything, we should be understanding. It isn't easy. Do people make mistakes or poor decisions? Yes. Are they aware this was not a smart idea? Yes. But the OP's mother-in-law is still a person---a human being. And as far as we know, she isn't a murderer or did any type of dangerous criminal activity that hurts someone. Sometimes I feel like people act like those who crossed/overstayed did the WORST possible thing imaginable.
We know immigration is a hot topic and there are millions of illegal immigrants who have crossed/overstayed in the US. But each one is a person with a story, family, etc. But when these people want to try to fix it and do the right thing, there are literally ZERO options. If this country created some type of path to citizenship, these people could come out of the woodwork and also become taxpayers. We could reunite families the right way.
For those of us who did it legally, that is great. We have nothing at all to worry about. I can sleep at night knowing my husband is not at risk for deportation and that is great. I'm glad we went the route we did and we were guided well. My husband was not in any type of oppressed situation and never once felt like he had to leave due to bad circumstances in his country. My husband's immigration status is not effected by anyone else. But it just drives me crazy when people who gained status through marrying in or whatever all of a sudden act like they are better and more deserving than anyone else. No, they were just lucky they met the right person. It is situational.
OP, I do not know enough about the system to advise you on how to fix your mother-in-law's situation. But I just want to say that I feel for you and your family and wish you the best of luck!
