Marlita

While, we're sitting here talking about dieting, I just opened a TWIX, does anyone want a piece?

My wanga gut would love a piece

HA!! This is my nickname from the Mister!

Does anyone dance in the car when they are driving? Or sing out really loud?

I've been wanting to break out in a dance when Beyonce's Single Ladies song comes on in the morning.

You know I have a long commute.

haha, thats me. Love that song. People driving next to me think i'm crazy, but that song is like lighting a match under mi bum!

I'm a stress eater....I've had 3 CapriSuns back to back. Did I really need to drink 3? No....Did it make me feel better or fuller? No.

What am I to do?

Alright Marlita...Time for me to PUSH. I think of you all the time with the Pray Until Something Happens.

whenever I am asked how am I doing...I say.....Great! Having the best day of my Life. My co-worker thinks I'm crazy. You have to encourage yourself sometimes.

KK and her random thoughts. Yes...I just talked about myself in third person.

Thats what its there for! I know all of us have our personal and immigration struggles, and I think could all use a little extra PUSH in our lives to get it back on track.

Has everyone put of their christmas trees?

I'm still looking for black ornaments. I'm trying to do a black silver and red tree this year.

Walmart had nice Black ornaments. I thought that was so odd...black ornaments. do you have a white tree. I put them next to the green tree and they disappeared cuase they were so dark.

we got ornaments last weekend. Copper, and plum. Goes well with the coppers in the house already. We get the tree this weekend. Monday night we decorated a wreath and placed it on the door, and put out the lit deer, and then we have to put the canycanes outside and the lights too.

I saw them last year at Walmart but they didn't have a pack that didn't have broken ornaments. I have a white tree. Husband picked it out. I've always been a fan of the regular green tree. I have no creativity in my bones. I'm an accountant by day. So I've been checking out what other trees look like in the office building and in stores.

Our building has a huge beautiful tree. It has magenta and gold ornaments on them. Very pretty!

Hey everyone!

I finally caught up. School and work has kept me so busy and finals are coming up soon

The charity discussion sounds good for after the holidays. Right now too much deh pon mi brain

nuffa oonuh figet seh there are some real Jamaicans on here..yes mi seh it..real Jamaicans...u know wah i guess mi need fi tek a break from posting ova yah so to...

Ur right Kimmy, a lotta ppl have forgotten. I've taken offense to a lotta things that have been posted by non-Jamaicans but don't even bother to reply. I just sit and shake my head. When it comes to certain topics and ideals, some people don't look at both sides of the equation. A so it go

You know..I'm curious as to the things said that may be offensive to you ladies that are Jamaican. I know that I dont TRY to say offensive things...but hey I cant possibly know whats offensive to one person thats perfectly civil to another.

If you guys dont mind....could you state a few things that have been said that are offensive. No need to point the finger of who said it, just a general statement of what you found offensive. if you all dont mind. If this is gonna start a ruccous nevermind.

Has everyone put of their christmas trees?

I'm still looking for black ornaments. I'm trying to do a black silver and red tree this year.

Walmart had nice Black ornaments. I thought that was so odd...black ornaments. do you have a white tree. I put them next to the green tree and they disappeared cuase they were so dark.

we got ornaments last weekend. Copper, and plum. Goes well with the coppers in the house already. We get the tree this weekend. Monday night we decorated a wreath and placed it on the door, and put out the lit deer, and then we have to put the canycanes outside and the lights too.

Somehow im still missing what is being said?? i honestly dont have a damn clue, but i at this point im done trying to figure it out. Never once have i intentionally or knowingly disrespected anyone on this site and if i have i apologize. Yeah i engage in the ish talking as we all do, cause we are bs ing or its all in good fun or so i thought. Obviously not, i enjoyed VJ because it gave me something and someone to relate to....where all this other stuff came up i dont know. All i know is i have more than my share of ####### to deal with this in the past weeks, and now this!!!!

I have encouraged, prayed for, championed and laughed with all of you on here, but today i guess its my turn to catch hell, for whatever reason. I have enjoyed chatting and laughing with you all and value the friendships i have made on here, and those of you whom i have met. FOr those of you, who care to keep in contact, you know how to get in contact with me. For the rest of you, its been real

Peace

Hey Honey,

I hope you are not taking my posts personally. I'm just talking bout general stuff. I've been gone off VJ for the last couple weeks so who knows how much i missed. I have seen part of your issues you are having but I dont know they whole story. I think folks are just commenting on things they see or have experienced but not all is referenced to you per se.

oonuh waan si oonuh man get tek..lef him wid a Jamaican ooman wah want him...ooman a JA put on the "the face" cause they are fighting for their bread and butter their men..who provide for them..no matter how little it is

they are taught to hold on to what they have...but they say who know better do better

Kimmy, this is really true. I gotta say it and I aint even Jamaican, but I know if i aint putting it down a JA woman could slip in there....they do know how to put on face.

Ok..whatever Honey..all that ish is pure ish..and yes nuff a wi go a JA go ** but that is not MY # 1 goal..get it in when u can...all that bout joking pure foolishness..we all know u serious..so everybody can play hypocrite and laugh off ur ish..but whateva...all ppl read on here r words..so it can be taken in any light they see it until u clarify urself. aND DOES he really know all the ish that goes on here..how u sit inna him face etc....please

Bwoy, Kimmy yuh bole ehhh?

Dis wha mi seh?! Kimmy how yu go so?!!

Hey guys!

All you women of faith and prayer warriors, please keep me in your thoughts.

It is so hard for me to read threads and everyone else that applied at the same time as me have their SO home a long time ago..or they are getting ready for them to come home this month. I am so happy for everyone, but sometimes I get really discouraged!

How is everyone today?

Aw Shrewdie

It'll soon be over. I know you hate hearing that cause i hated to hear that too!....so scratch that! it sucks for now, and I know there is nothing that can take that sucky feeling away until this mess is done with. So I'll just keep holding you an M up in my prayers.

aww thanks pal

Nice to see you back

Yea, i'm doing like you told me....leaving little notes...haha!

so i will be home this xmas god willing and i was thinking about being alone at night when my husband is doing the night shift. i usually sleep on the couch when my husband is at work so one night i decided to go to bed and i felt i feel like someone or something was holding me down on the bed. i woke up and felt shills down my spine and went back into to living room. i didn't sleep in the room when my husband did his night shift since. boy i will be living there now so i guess i will have to have the bible or a cross with me when i go to bed. or feel brave like king kong and just take a go at it again. i refuse to not go to my bed because of that 1 experience

This happened to me last week. My mom said it is when a witch is riding your back. It is the worse feeling in the world. Bless some oil and anoint those walls in the house. You will be all good!

My mom use to do this all the time. And you know oil never soaks into paint, so it just dries up. I remember years later always looking at the wall where she put the oil and when the light hit the wall a certain way i could still see the image of the oil cross on the wall.

But that dream of being held down and not being able to talk or make a scream always happens to people. I forget where i heard it, but its said to be when your spirit is out of your body.....your spirit travels when you sleep. So if you cant move its cause your body is there with no spirit in it and it needs to get back in there first. I have those alot. They use to be scary for me, now I just focus on getting back to my body...i visualize my body laying in bed and then I slowly am able to move or wake or speak....its very wierd. But I really believe this though...that your spirit can leave your body at many times in your living life...not just when you die. I dont think God gives the spirit power in death, but power in birth, but its up to us to condition or mind and body to understand the spirit so that we can live by it. Afterall the spirt will live on not the body, when when we pass, so I think the spirit has more power and control that we give credit.

Jaws mi totally agree...so mi nah seh nuttin more

ok..i changed my mind...Honey this is one of the reasons so many women gets pissed at the "farrin" ooman because it just seems as if u only want to have sex and don't give a rats about whatever else that goes on

Well I know nobody talkin to me but here goes... I think I understand where the Ja women are coming from and I could see how they get that notion that farrin woman want to just have sex and don't care about anything but speakin for this "farrin" woman I have not even had sex with my SO. I am not looking for a fling I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with however long that happens to be. I can't speak for anyone else but I think that a lot of things get distorted because they are viewed thru the lens of stereotypes on both sides of this equation.

Your right Sol, things to get "stereotyped" but lets face it sometimes ITS THE TRUTH!! People....a stereotype is only relative. If you are performing like said "stereotype" then IT IS NO LONGER A STEREOTYPE for you!!! I don't know anyones whole story on here or how they act in JA, but come on now.....ask yourself.....am i not acting like the stereotype?

Yes....No? What is it that JA men say about foreign women....are you that girl? What is it that JA women hate about foreign women.....are you that girl? Now if you're not then keep it moving and know that they "stereotype" is just that. Otherwise lets quit calling it stereotype when its truth!

I hear you Lita and I know I see plenty of women actin like said stereotype but that has never been me cause my mother raised me right! Therefore I can let the nasty looks and the rude behavior I encounter "roll off me like water down a ducks back" as my mother puts it because I know 1. those people don't know me and 2. that is not who I am.

You know to me it sometimes seems that American women are very intimidated by Jamaican women....just in general. I know for myself I was somewhat intimidated or at least quiet around them, but i think it was mainly feeling out of place on my own part....not because the women were doing things to make me feel uncomfortable. I find that JA women have a "rougher" or more serious look to their persona and thats very different from many American women. I think it makes them unapproachable or intimidating to people outside of that culture. But once you get to know them they really are very sweet women for the most part just going through their day to day. Jamaica makes women harder i think and that definitely comes across.

After I began to let my guard down around these women and I began to feel more confident being and acting or even looking a little different than many people in JA I began to really understand where they were coming from. I think many of them do see "farrin" women coming over and living what they may assume as "lavish". Hotel stays, partys, bars, clubs, beaches, pools, relaxing. Which should be fine....that farrin woman is on vacation after all. But when it comes to her coming and dipping into the JA man and acting a what they may consider "wild" with these men, and the men just loving it cause of course he's a man it bothers them. The women start developing an image that may be a stereotype but now its their reality.

Dont know if this makes sense. I'm just not focused today at work cause I have so much to do and have no idea how to even start....ever have one of those days? So I'm on VJ talking all kinds of craziness to try an stimulate my brain/. haha

Hey guys!

All you women of faith and prayer warriors, please keep me in your thoughts.

It is so hard for me to read threads and everyone else that applied at the same time as me have their SO home a long time ago..or they are getting ready for them to come home this month. I am so happy for everyone, but sometimes I get really discouraged!

How is everyone today?

Aw Shrewdie

It'll soon be over. I know you hate hearing that cause i hated to hear that too!....so scratch that! it sucks for now, and I know there is nothing that can take that sucky feeling away until this mess is done with. So I'll just keep holding you an M up in my prayers.

Marlita, what is an MFA? How bizarre that you picked up a stalker now after all this time - some people have no life!

Master of Fine Arts.

Yes....some people!

ah, okay - In some ways I am regretting doing my MS, because I am SO SO SO SO SO SO SO sick of school (as I play on VJ and don't write my paper, lol) - In other ways, I am glad I am doing it now and almost done.

Yeah I thought i couldnt do the school thing again, but honestly I LOVE school and learning. it was just bills and work getting in my way, but now I realize that I wont really be happy doing this forever. I feel like my creativity is being sucked dry and I'm turning into a computer monkey.

Jaws mi totally agree...so mi nah seh nuttin more

ok..i changed my mind...Honey this is one of the reasons so many women gets pissed at the "farrin" ooman because it just seems as if u only want to have sex and don't give a rats about whatever else that goes on

Well I know nobody talkin to me but here goes... I think I understand where the Ja women are coming from and I could see how they get that notion that farrin woman want to just have sex and don't care about anything but speakin for this "farrin" woman I have not even had sex with my SO. I am not looking for a fling I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with however long that happens to be. I can't speak for anyone else but I think that a lot of things get distorted because they are viewed thru the lens of stereotypes on both sides of this equation.

Your right Sol, things to get "stereotyped" but lets face it sometimes ITS THE TRUTH!! People....a stereotype is only relative. If you are performing like said "stereotype" then IT IS NO LONGER A STEREOTYPE for you!!! I don't know anyones whole story on here or how they act in JA, but come on now.....ask yourself.....am i not acting like the stereotype?

Yes....No? What is it that JA men say about foreign women....are you that girl? What is it that JA women hate about foreign women.....are you that girl? Now if you're not then keep it moving and know that they "stereotype" is just that. Otherwise lets quit calling it stereotype when its truth!

if the shoe fits wear it..exactly !!!

And I just want to say, I'm not mentioning anyone specifically, its just that the word "stereotype" gets thrown around so often as if the action is a fallacy. Sometimes a person is just acting stereotypical...end of story. Sometimes these JA men ARE stereotypical!! I dont care what nobody say...some of them are a hot mess of craziness, users and abusers!! But some are not that stereotype. Same with the foreign women...on this Yardie thread and not....act stereotypical....end of story. Just be honest with it all and either accept the stereotype, quit acting like it, or run away from it as far as you can! Either option does NOT change that the "stereotype" is not true!

Marlita, what is an MFA? How bizarre that you picked up a stalker now after all this time - some people have no life!

Master of Fine Arts.

Yes....some people!

Jakeswife, here is the legend behind the statue - It's actually Japanese, I never knew that -

http://mygardengifts.wordpress.com/2008/11...overbial-adage/

Why is it offensive? i dont get it?

Jaws mi totally agree...so mi nah seh nuttin more

ok..i changed my mind...Honey this is one of the reasons so many women gets pissed at the "farrin" ooman because it just seems as if u only want to have sex and don't give a rats about whatever else that goes on

Well I know nobody talkin to me but here goes... I think I understand where the Ja women are coming from and I could see how they get that notion that farrin woman want to just have sex and don't care about anything but speakin for this "farrin" woman I have not even had sex with my SO. I am not looking for a fling I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with however long that happens to be. I can't speak for anyone else but I think that a lot of things get distorted because they are viewed thru the lens of stereotypes on both sides of this equation.

Your right Sol, things to get "stereotyped" but lets face it sometimes ITS THE TRUTH!! People....a stereotype is only relative. If you are performing like said "stereotype" then IT IS NO LONGER A STEREOTYPE for you!!! I don't know anyones whole story on here or how they act in JA, but come on now.....ask yourself.....am i not acting like the stereotype?

Yes....No? What is it that JA men say about foreign women....are you that girl? What is it that JA women hate about foreign women.....are you that girl? Now if you're not then keep it moving and know that they "stereotype" is just that. Otherwise lets quit calling it stereotype when its truth!

Hello Ladies!

How's it going? I've been away for awhile. Just busy with work,......and I have a stalker/hacker to my VJ account. So I'll be changing my screen name and maybe creating a whole new account soon. Just cant think of a name.

Anyway, how's everyone doing? Congrats to all those whose cases are in the final stages or on new interviews, or finally done with the process and their SO is home.

Hi Marlita, everyone has been wondering where you were - How is Evan?

I've been lurking, an apparently my stalker has too! B) Plus I have been mad crazy busy at work so I tried my hardest to stay away. I'm still really busy but just kinda giving up now, too much work not enough time, economy suck, stressed about having a job come next year. So I'm slowly gearing into going back to school for a MFA, I want to get into writing and journalism, or film production....we'll see.

Evan is fine. just doing a little work and looking for another job.

Hello Ladies!

How's it going? I've been away for awhile. Just busy with work,......and I have a stalker/hacker to my VJ account. So I'll be changing my screen name and maybe creating a whole new account soon. Just cant think of a name.

Anyway, how's everyone doing? Congrats to all those whose cases are in the final stages or on new interviews, or finally done with the process and their SO is home.

I like that story Claire...about the bedroom. Its so interesting to hear what people think and feel and go thru once their SO gets here. It is not all strawberries and rose petals. Me and Evan have not had any major issues since he's been here...he's just lonely. Misses having good friends and family that he can just walk up the street to hang with. He always talks about meeting friends here and how he doesnt see anyone he'd like to be friends with. He's only been here going on 4 weeks so I told him he'll make lots of friends when he starts working and going to school. he's very personable and can talk to anyone, but most of us know that majority of American culture is closed off and not to receptive to strangers. Its very much like that in my city...big city solidarity attitude. I have the same problem and I've lived here all my life.

Other than that he is doing well. His main focus is finding a job, or class, or volunteer program so he can get busy. Staying at home in a quiet neigborhood can be very boring.

Hey Kims, he's doing well....looking for work.

Hey Yardies,

Yaads, sorry the weather is all messed up for you tonight. That sucks!

Lawns you up from your nap?

What up Hotlegz and Lita?

And the dead has risen!! hey lady whats been happening?! How's it going coming home to Ray? Doesn't it just feel normal already, like he's been here forever.

Oh #######! Your gonna miss it?!! Its all I can do to get thru the week is to know that friday night soon come! and I am there!!

Hope you get to go in your hometown tomorrow at least.

Yes I will be going in my hometown but it won't be the whole shebang (sp?) so I miss out on the raffles/games/dinner etc but I guess the main part is the showing. I am still catching it tonight with my sis just gonna do it here locally.

ok, as long as you can see it. I swear that man tortues me in my sleep! I wake up all flushed!! The Mr. is into it too....just came all the way to my job to get the book so he can finish reading it.

would not have guessed

Mi eidda

Tanks Shem...if it is too wild for you then it is way too wild for me

Found another meaning...Appleton Temptation Island

We went during the day last August and it was crazy. A straight party for 4 days. Basically Negril is shut down. Appleton and Red Stripe are sponsors

You got it! Its off the chain as i hear. The Mister is from Negril and always tells me how busy it gets. he doesnt really party but the crowds it draws he says are massive.

I need to rant/cry for a minute

I was suppose to go out of town tonight for a big get together/dinner/party thing down in Seattle. The dyam weather is windy and rainy and absolutely treacherous (nothing like it was suppose to be...those darn weather forcasters). Add in nighttime driving and the infamous commuter traffic and it's a no go for me. Darnit! On top of it all I had to pre-pay and most likely won't get my money back! Ugh I am pissed.

End Rant

Oh #######! Your gonna miss it?!! Its all I can do to get thru the week is to know that friday night soon come! and I am there!!

Hope you get to go in your hometown tomorrow at least.