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For the I129 they did not ask for it. But if you read the RFE Master List under K1 you will find that some people received a RFE for not sending it in.

I was reading the RFE MASTER LIST under K1 and some people got an RFE because they did not include their fiance's birth certificate. Did anyone from this forum receive a RFE for not including his/her birth certificate???? Did you include your fiance birth certificate????

Counting down the weeks.

Congrats!!!!

I think a lot about things after getting officially married. One of the things that has crossed my mind is about changing my name to my husbands. After we officially get married, my name would be Julie El lastname. We are now pregnant so of course the baby would have his last name, but I do not think I will change my name to his last name. What are your thoughts about this?

Yes for the most part. It pays pretty good. I do not get bored at work, it keeps me busy.

That all husbands cut the grass, do all lawnwork, and wash the suvs every weekend or everyday if necessary, and most importantly pay all the bills in the household (after getting a job).

Congrats!! I can't wait until I receive ours.

Next few weeks could get excting!!!!!

Yes and i am getting excited. Good luck to all of us november filers for Maroc.

Congrats and God bless!

Congrats That gives me hope that my approval will be coming soon.

I'm going to choose my words very carefully here, so I hope everyone here can appreciate the fact that I'm not trying to offend anyone...BUT...I think threads like this perpetrate the same drama they are complaining about. And everyone comes in and picks a line in the sand so others can feel free to complain very passive aggressively with sweeping generalizations. I don't think it's right.

We are all adults here...why can't things be sorted out in a rational, reasonable manner? Do any of you ever wonder why there's so much drama and personal upset in this forum? I'd dare say its substantially larger here than any other place on VJ. From a non MENA perspective, it seems like it's a constant pizzing contest in here over who knows what, who's more qualified to speak about things, people who are 2 seconds from getting deeply offended, etc. It's ironic that this forum is indicative of what's actually going on in the MENA region (of course to a lesser degree, but you know what I mean).

Take it fwiw, and I'm sure someone will come tell me why I'm wrong, why I offended someone, or why I'm not 'qualified' to speak. But at the end of the day, we're all adults here....so maybe find some common ground, or figure out a way that so-and-so doesn't get a rise out of you. We all at this site share a bond, and you women in here have a deeper one. No one knows what it's like to be you, but another MENA woman would most prolly have the closest idea. So you can use this resource of being on common ground, and use it for your benefit, or you can continue this ridiculous pizzing match that is used for fodder and amusement to everyone here.

Well said!!!

My fiance and me. Or my fiance and I . . .

That is how I will refer to him. Maybe even my man. But for sure, I will not say my Moroccan. To me the signals a sense of ownersip. How can one this day and age own another human being? I have been reading several messages and though not commenting, I have enjoyed them all. You guys seem to have some real online friendships going on.

My moroccan is just like saying my chinese girl, my Jamaican, my Russian, My African, my American. Is it just me or do these terms not sound right to others?

I agree with you and have often wondered why people refer to their spouses that way. They may not mean it but it sure sounds bad. Now where is my Jordanian, lol.

That is funny

I know that it is off the topic but just wondering how was Morocco...Its good to see you back and I hope that you had great time with your fiance...

Dorothy

I had a wonderful time with my fiance. He spoils me. I do not have to lift a finger for a change. It is so much fun just being catered too. I will want him to cook and clean for me here all the time. I do not think It will happen, lol. Thanks for asking.

Sounds like the honeymoon, lol. Looks like you be doing double tasks soon with a baby on the way, get that rest!

I just pray that everything will turn out ok. It won't be easy, working, caring for children, a new abby, a new husband, and going through this process. I hope I don't lose it, lol.

Yet another forum that's becoming a boxing match. Baggage, well, I guess I could say I have a lot of emotional baggage that I just cannot get rid of even though I think I have. During the whole K-! I started having panic attacks which I had never had in my life. Of course I was always the one saying people that had them were crazy, so now I'm crazy too! I actually thought I was having a heart attack the first time I had one, I was quite embassassed when I was told it was a panic attack. So now we are together and waiting for Amr's AOS and I still on occasion will feel a panic attack coming on and I don't understand why. There are nights that I wake myself {and Amr } up screaming. If I wake up and he is in the other room, I freak out. I know there is no reason for it now and I tell myself this all the time, but I guess my brain isn't listening to me. My doctor also thinks I have fibromyalgia now. Once again, I always thought this was a made up condition. He said he has seen many patients that have been or are very stresses develop this. Don't know if this is true or not, but it's not fun feeling like I have run 10 miles on some days. So that's my baggage. Thank you to my goverment.

OMG- I hope you feel better. You have those kids to think about. Wishing you much health and happiness. I have baggage right about now too. I'm pregnant. Alone even though Omar is in my heart everyday and wherever I go, I am going through this alone. I was sooooooooo sick a week ago and very very angry. I started and picking fights with my fiance everyday. When I started feeling better I stopped picking fights with him. I hope that if I feel really sick again and want to start fights in the middle of the nights, he understand what I am going through. Now that is sad, right? I pray that when I get sick again from the baby, I can still be kind and nice to my fiance. Especially since he does whatever I want to make me happy, including working two jobs now to save money for us and the baby.

I personally learned 95% of my visa info in the first 2 months of being on VJ... I just to stay to earn my little heart, then cos it was so funny here... very lively overall nice bunch.

What little heart????

under your title.... little blue boxes eventually get hearts in them if you post enough!

Thanks

Anyone notice the ones laughing the loudest are probably the most guilty?

And the ones that are suppose to be the kindest, lol

Maggie you just have to ignore the retards. This is one reason I don't come to VJ much. A few of my friends and I were always getting PMS from the "I'm so innocent and I don't know why you are picking on me" people. Also received a few "why are you wanting to marry a terrorist!" Of course it pissed me off when these individuals and their little buddies would gang up, but after a while I actually laughed! The few on here that I do speak with even contemplated on posting all of their idiotic PMS, but one gal reminded me that then we would be at their level. I see this kind of behavior with kids! Then I had to think maybe these people are just unhappy in their own lives somehow. A few of the people that sent those nasty PMS do not even come to VJ or have had their account disabled, {did that give anyone any hints?} others are still sending the "I'm so perfect and innocent" PMS. Karma is a B#### and will come back and get them. What goes around comes around. I don't wish ill luck on anyone, but I swear if these people act like they do on VJ around their husbands they will be posting in another forum one day. I do still find VJ to be helping when I have a question regarding something. VJ is a playground, some will help you and some will diss ya. Ignore them, and really put them on ignore on VJ, that did wonders for me! Hope you decide to stay around.

Kudos!!! Great post!!!

I don't think anyone can be responsible for making you leave. You can simply ignore those people who you don't care for and continue to interact with the ones you do care for. Needless to say, I don't get along with everyone on this forum but that doesn't stop me from coming here. There is no reason to let other intimidate you and there is no reason to take everyone so personally because as the OP said, this is only the internet.

I also agree with Peezey here and have always felt that long dramatic posts of saying goodbye are just as childish as the fights that may lead up to it. Everyone seems to have a full understanding that this forum is dysfunctional for lack of a better word and many don't have an issue following along fights between other people and often chiming in. Just get over it!

A shame that all the pettiness goes on. Why can't people simply post something they are curious to know about and other people respond in a polite, courteous, aND TACTFUL MANNER????

Always two sides one right one wrong

TWO SIDES AND THEN THE TRUTH!!

Hope you stay, and the PMS are childish as you said. THis group can have so much to offer to others that need the help, me included, but we (or I) already know how to fight and argue. I don't see any other group being made fun of so much as this one, I liked Maggie and I think those of you responsible for her words will see yourselves, but then again you probably wont.

I personally learned 95% of my visa info in the first 2 months of being on VJ... I just to stay to earn my little heart, then cos it was so funny here... very lively overall nice bunch.

What little heart????

This will most likely be my final post in MENA, if not in VJ all together. I have learned a lot from you guys, but the time has come for me to depart. While I am sad to go, I cannot participate in this 3rd grade BS anymore.

I thought this site was to help others get through what can be an incredibly hard process. Especially when dealing with SOs in the middle east. Those who have been through it know how hard it is to wait and wait and maybe even be denied for no good reason and then fight like hell to win. But you know when you are with people who have been there, they will guide you, help you, cry with you, whatever it takes to get you through to success. I have watched others get their visas, reunite and marry, and I cheered every one of them on, even though it hurt because they interviewed after us. I wanted those same people to give me dancing yellow guys when my turn came. I went through hard times, and there were people who were there for me every step, people I thought were real friends. Sucker that I am. The saddest part for me is that the people I thought were my friends were the ones that hurt me the most in the end.

I rarely if ever got caught up in the drama of others. It seems that although I have tried to be friendly/nice towards everyone, that is not allowed here. I did not read in the TOS that there were police here who will PM you when you talk to someone they do not like. It's the freaking internet. We will never meet 95% of the people we see on here. So why the big deal??? Why is it you have to choose what you can and cannot reply to because Susie won't talk to you if you do? I tried to simply ignore the PMs, which came from more than one person, but no, they just kept coming. This process is hard as hell at times. And to have to deal with this kind of drama is flat out ridiculous. So for that reason, this forum no longer serves the purpose I came here for.

I wish those of you who are together all the happiness in the world, and those of you still waiting a speedy visa in hand celebration.

I understand what you mean. It seems as though you can not post anything without someone truning it into a scandao of some sort. I will hate to see you go. you are a very nice lady. take some time away. But come back. Overall I am sure you got many needed questions answered. Good luck with Omar arriving here. i am fond of that name especially because i have an Omar too.

Exactly, to each his own. Everytime I have posted something on here, mostly people have a way of turning my meaning around and begin with insults. Hilarious. Is it that serious people. Not for me. I simply stated an opinion.

welcome to the mena forum just wait, it gets better.

as wom said, i don't think it's anyone's business what one refers to their so as. i've told nessa she can call me just about anything she wants but late for dinner

Yes, I know we can call our guys whatever we want. It was just a post on my thoughts.

My family has no clue! They know nothing about Rida because I know how judgmental they are and I would never hear the end of it. I don't have the slightest idea of how or when to tell them. Rida and I have talked about this many times, and since i have a poor relationship with my family, he tells me not to worry about it and live my life. He always reminds me that I have family there that loves me. My friends on the other hand haven't really said anything. They were all freaked out when I went to Morocco for two weeks and were genuinelu concerned that I would not return. I don't know what people think sometime. All you can do is live your life on your terms and ensure your own happiness.

Reminds me of my father. He said that when I go to Africa, they would keep me and not let me return. Now who would want to keep me, LOL