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I'm not the right person to give you an advice about this because I waited less than you, 181 days (still counting) and I feel depressed about this process before too. However, the only thing that makes me patiently wait is because I know at the end I will be with the love of my life. The one and only guy I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. I told him everything that I worry about. What makes me stress and everything that I feel. He always asking me to think positive, don't worry so much, don't feel stress and sad, because sooner or later, we will be together. Soonest is the best, of course. My advice is that, everytime you miss him, tell him. Every time you feel depressed, tell him. Share with him everything you feel. Every time I do that to my fiance, if he noticed that I said I miss him so much and I keep saying it, he knew that I really do and I will start to feel stress about this process. So, he always said that I can't be with you in person yet, but, we can have a video call now. 

Hi everyone, 
 
First of all, I would like to thank you so much for your kind words when I needed support the most. You guys really motivating me. I know that I'm such a worry person. That might be because I really afraid to lose him. I worry every time I think all the possibility that might happen. I worry how I will go through this process again if we fail on our first try. 
 
So, yesterday, my fiancé and I had a talk about this. I’m asking him whether he will be with me in person throughout the process if we need to go through this process again. Guess what? He said that he will! He will figure it out how to do it and he will be with me in person and he can’t be without me and he needs me in his life. Oh wow! Automatically, I realized how much he loves me and him actually willing to do everything for me. How stupid I am! I almost lose a guy that loves me so much (I love him more, of course!), my soulmate and my everything just because of my anxiety disorder. He even joking after that by saying “Don’t sabotage our interview though just so we can swim with elephants again, we can always do that when we come back” (we did plan to swim with elephants when he come here )
 
I do appreciate what he has done to me before, I do love him super duper much before. But now, I will appreciate him more and I will love him more, more and more. I know he will be reading this. “My lovely and sweet fiancé, thank you so much for making me the happiest girl in the world. You are the best! But in our love competition, I still love you more than you love me! Of course. You need to keep loving me more, and more if you don’t want a big gap between us)
 
again, thank you so much everyone! Super duper excited waiting for our NOA2, no more worry after this, I just want to be happy with him! 

I keep dreaming about we will get an approval. I keep dreaming about our future together. Because of that, I'm afraid that it will hurt me more if it didn't go as what we plan. Yeah, 6 months waiting is crazy. I really hope we will get an approval for the application so that we don't need to go through this again. I will try to be strong. 

I don't want to lose him either. I hope that we will get an approval on the first application so that we don't need to go through this again. 

@Perfect two 💑 be strong...it's coming. Think American way... if you think you'll fail you will. But if you daydream about your goal it will became true!
Also...it's just a matter of time, you'll get together again, and this time forever!
Before this 6 months waiting we have had to be apart for other reasons, it was maybe even harder, I don't know what is worse, but we made it, and we will make it this time too!
I'm sure if you love each other it will all come together very soon!  Be happy, there are many people out there that will never find their love, period!

This is how I look at it...
Yes, it is very hard but I know without a doubt I have found my soul mate and we have gone through to much to give up now and even if I did try to part ways and find someone closer I would always know that I let my one true love get away and always regret it. Stay strong. This is horrible and most people just don't realize how good they have it.

I would like to seek an opinion. Please don't give hurtful comment. This process is tiring. Now it becomes unexpected from time to time. For example, Processing time - Now it becomes 6 months or might be more than 6 months (we will hit our 6 months on this Monday). My fiance and I keep revised our plan since we plan for him to come here during the interview. RFE - I can see many people received unreasonable RFE this month (things that they already provide but USCIS still asking for it and things that are not included in the list required, but suddenly they ask for it). It makes me worry, what else will happen. And the most thing that worries me is the interview. I'm worried about what will happen if they reject us. This process is not 100% depend on us. It depends on the interviewer too. We can do our best, we can make sure we have a solid case, lots of bona fide relationship evidence, answer all the question truthfully and confident. Still, the final decision is not up to us. The interviewer is also a human. Sometimes they might be affected by the emotion and other factors (I'm not saying that all the interviewer is like that. I know they are professional. It just that, they are still human."
 
Someone might say that, if you guys are really a real couple, you will overcome this obstacle and apply again. However, to be honest. I'm not that strong to go through this process again. I don't want to go through another 6 months without him. It is hard, even now it is so hard. Actually, I have been kicked out of a house by my parents. Now, I'm living alone. To be here without my family around me, did make me feel so lonely. Every time I pass by any places that I visit/hang out with my family, really make me remember them more. And yeah, it did make me cry. Of course, my fiance and I always have a call, message and video call. However, with the 13 hours time difference, it makes things harder. I'm a family oriented person. I spent most of my time with my family. We do lots of activity together. We go out quite frequent (dinner, movie, lunch, shopping and lots more). So now, when I need to be on my own. Doing everything on my own. It really hard. I have friends. But, of course, some of them already married, have a boyfriend and have their own family to spend time with. 
 
I'm trying to be positive. However, I can't stop thinking about it until I able to find a good back up plan if things are not going to be like what we plan. Some of you might ask me to just think positive. However, thinking positive without a backup plan, make me worry that it will be more hurtful and will break me into pieces when that happens. What will you do if your visa doesn't get approved?

I think I have anxiety disorder too. I keep questioning "what if" not only to myself but, I did that to him too. Yesterday, I keep asking him what if it doesn't go as what we plan, what we will do next. I'm really afraid to imagine that we need to be apart again. I'm afraid that I will be shattered by seeing him go to departure gate without me again. I'm afraid to not being with him. Actually, we already talk about lots of things. We did that the most to make me forget a bit about what is going on between me and my family. Maybe we should come out with a more interesting topic to be discussed. 

Best wish to you too! Good luck with the interview. And hope everything will go as what you plan. 
 
Btw, just curious, how many bags you will bring it there? On which website do you plan to buy your flight ticket?

Yes, it is hard. You can see him on video calls, but you can touch him. Whenever you try to reach to him, you can only touch the screen. Hopefully, we will get our NOA2 soon and all is going well and we will get an approval during the interview too. Thank you so much for your support. xoxo. 

Oh wow. That is awesome. Celebrate birthday, Christmas and New Years together. Have the safe trip and I wish you will come back to States with her on January mid month

Yes, it is hard. Hey, your interview is the end of December right? Will you fly there to meet her?

It has exactly 1 year since i have seen my fiance and to hold, hug and kiss her it has been really hard.

I love that. Love wins. Thanks! 

Yeah, it affects everyone. Hopefully, this waiting period will be over soon. I just hope that we will be together in person soon. It is hard to see someone behind the screen. It is hard to not able to touch, hug and kiss him. 

Love wins 💪💪💪

I think this process is seriously beginning to affect most of us honestly. When we were deciding to do K-1 or Cr-1 K1 was 6 months shorter in processing now they are the same. Noone entered expecting it to be this long so everyone's expectations have been shattered but we all just have to hang in there no matter how tired of the distance we are  

Oh wow, Naes. Thank you for your reply. You make me cry by reading it. After I read that,  I realized that I'm scared about lots of things. Until I forgot, the reason why I getting scared is that because I love him with all my heart. I always want to be with him and I don't want to be without him. I will try to stay strong.

Thank you so much @Shaman . I hope that too! Hopefully, our NOA2 is on its way. I can't wait to schedule the interview and packing all my things because we were planning we will fly back to the States together after we got our approval.

@Perfect two 💑 I just want to reiterate all the support others provided to you... this process is the probably the most difficult that I have ever gone through; although we have already received our NOA2 (and we were lucky that it came at 155 days) the wait was still excruciatingly long, stressful, and unbearable at times.  Now, due to some circumstances and if everything falls into place, the earliest she will be able to come to the US is the first week of January... we haven't seen each other in person since early September of last year.  This is going to test your relationship and this will either break you or you will find yourself invincible on the other side... hang in there; lean on your friends there and here... we're all here for each other... and remember that the best is yet to come and the best will be even better than that of which our imaginations could possibly dream.

Both of them are 28" haha so they will be checked in. Well I can check in two big ones and take a small on as a carry on, and thats what I will do. The worst part for me is like, some presents that I got and I wanted to take with me, sentimental stuff, but I won't beable to. Oh well, I will just slowly take it to the US when I come to visit mom or when she goes to visit me. The most important thing is to be with our love ❤️

Actually, I did buy 2 new luggage (1 is 28" and another one is 24").  Since my previous luggage was broken when we have our trip to Australia. Still deciding what to take with me. I don't have lots of things other than clothes. But, I bought few pairs of shoes yesterday! Both suitcases will be check-in or one of it will be hand carry?

Hi, thank you for your reply. It is nice to be here where I can find someone that goes through the same situation like me. To be honest, I really don't want to give up on him. I don't think I will be able to find a guy that can be my other half other than him. Hopefully, we will get our approval soon and we don't need to go through this process again. Because this process starts killing me from inside. We did argue a lot too. I think the main reason for the argument is because we are not with each other in person (long distance relationship). That is what one of the thing I afraid for. I afraid if we need to go through this again and need to be apart again, we might end up breaking up because there will be lots of argument. I know that most of the argument is because I'm getting upset. But, I can't avoid it either. Sometimes, being here alone makes me feel more emotional and easily getting upset.

Thank you so much for the wish. Good luck with your journey too! 

This is how I feel about this process. And I believe that this is how most of the people here feel, especially those who already get their RFE and it is ridiculous! It be like "what else do you want" "can you just approve our petition" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

No approval for May 17 again