Gratitude

Hi everyone.

I have sent AR11 more than once to USCIS for them to change my address. After the first time, more than a month later, they sent me mail to the old address. Luckily, the letter was forwarded to my new address. That's when I knew the changes hadn't taken effect. I reapplied for change of address. After waiting more than another month, I sent another letter to confirm if the change was successful. The reason for this is that when I called the call center, I get told that they have no information on my file. 

I just took a chance and called call center again, more than 3 months after my last correspondence to them. I was transferred to a tier 2 agent, without even asking. He immediately told me to write a letter to Immigrations as he has no info on my account. It doesn't matter what I asked him, all he kept telling me was the same thing.

My question to you is, how many times have you had to write to USCIS before your address was finally changed? Also, other than my next mail being sent to the wrong address, and risking them landing in wrong hands, which could not end well, how do I find out if the address has been changed or not? I am expecting Prima Facie in the next month or so. 

Thanks

@sandranj Thanks so much for clarifying. 

Have a great day!

Hi guys. 

Thanks for your support so far.

I'm  trying to figure out which route to take regarding my aos denial based on my husband withdrawing i864. The denial includes me losing my EAD which is very stressful.

1) Is there anyway to hold on to my ead? 

The denial cannot be appealed however I can fie motion to reopen. I'm going to file VAWA.

2) Would I let the denial stand and just file VAWA on the side or do a 290B motion to reopen and tell them I'm filing for VAWA and would like them to hold on to my i485 application? 

Thank you

I've been on Google all along but wante to see if anyone could recomment what worked for them. some people have DM'd

2 minutes ago, bold said:

U r most welcome Gratitude. Just ask and u will get information on here (information from experience - people going through same thing u r going through) and also from a professional like Sandra. 

Also, do not hesitate to chat with me; I am more than willing to edit ur statements, help with whatever and however I can coz I got helped too.

As per my divorce, that is not a priority right now. 

Thank you so much for abailing yourself so willingly. I will definitely take you up on that as I go along with my case. 

I appreciate this so much. 

22 hours ago, sandranj said:

Why do you want to continue  living   with your abuser if you are being abused???  He does not love you, he does not respect you, just because you love him is not enough, he must love you as well.

 

If he didn't attend individual  therapy for at least one year and anger management  classes for at least 6 months  then don't continue living with him because the abuse will continue. Abusers don't stop abusing their victims just because they decided "ok I dont want to abuse her anymore". The abuser has the moral compass broken,  lack empathy  towards others. They don't have a "mental illness " as many victims describe their abusers. Abuse is a choice, it's about power and control.

 

If you don't have a place to go then go to a shelter for victims  of domestic  violence.

 

VAWA  was enacted for victims fleeing domestic  violence and not as a escape to get a green card. 

Thanks

29 minutes ago, bold said:

 

3. Catholic charities are better but then again u can do it ur self, it really isn’t difficult if u follow instructions and ask for information on this platform and also consult Sandra. I practically did my VAWA on my own and after it got approved I filed for I485, I765 etc on my own with the help and f Sandra of course 

@bold thank you for your advice. It gives me hope. Today's my first off day since I received the denial. I'm going to get started with the forms. I've been compiling evidence before and after work and during the night in The meantime. 

I appreciate this website. Everyone is so helpful and generous. 

congrats on your approval! 

Good luck with the divorce 

1 minute ago, iwillsurvive said:

Let us know where you are located and I’m sure someone has experience in that area. 

@iwillsurvive Ugh! I forgot to mention I'm in LA. That's what happens when you post at 3am. 

Thanks for the info. I guess, I will file and use irreconcilable. 

Please anybody who knows of organizations hat can help me with free or affordable legal aidin LOs Angeles. I'd appreciate it. 

Thanks 

Hello.

I have a few questions:

1) Does it make any difference who files for divorce in a VAWA case? (My husband has been holding on to signed divorce papers, as a gambling and control tool for more than a month). I'm wondering if I should go ahead and file myself. 

2) if I file, do I have to list abuse as reason for dissolution of marriage? It is. I just need to know if that helps my case. 

3) do you know of any domestic violence centers or legal places that can help me with my VAWA case? I've contacted Catholic charities, they set me up with a free one hour session with attorney appointment next month very far from me. I went to 3 other places so far and two of them no longer exist. One referred me to the above. 

Please and thank you

54 minutes ago, Roms2017 said:

Keep all those evidences and file for vawa included proof of bonafide marriage.

He is harrassing you actually

He is not good Dear

Working on it. I still wish this is a dream and I'll wake up. 

3 hours ago, Damara said:

Once its revoked they dont allow for "unrevoking". You have to start all over again. 

Thanks.

8 minutes ago, Damara said:

There are fee waivers if you qualify.

Thanks

Just now, Roms2017 said:

Yup once you guys file again humm you going to see that cercle of abuse pop up again and your life is not safe too.

I was a victim too but i was lucky that i did not file and i started noticing the early sign of abuse.

They dont change

I'm glad your abusive relationship is in the past. 

He says he will write another letter to revoke the withdrawal. Do you know if this is doable?

Just now, Roms2017 said:

Don"t make a mistake to refile with him;

otherway it is going to be a cercle of domestic violent again.

Abuser don't change

You're right. I believe that. 

13 minutes ago, miloy001 said:

If your spouse or ex-spouse is an USC, you can submit I-360, I-485 and I-765 concurrently to get EAD in about 3 months. However, for the VAWA I-360 to be approved, you should be able to provide evidence, and/or affidavits for your initial marriage intention, bonafide marriage, being abused and your good moral character. You should consult a VAWA expert.

Thanks for your reply. Gosh! I guess I have to spend the same about of money applying for this as I did exactly a year ago. 

Husband says he will take back what he said in the letter. Does anyone know if he can do that? We're hopig that'll let uscis proceed with processing our initial 485 application. 

Failing which, I'd have to file the 485 all over again and hope for the best. 

Thanks again

Hi guys. Husband withdrew i864. As a result, my aos / i485 application was denied. In the denial letter, I was told my EAD is revoked. I'm planning on filing VAWA. is there anyway of getting an EAD with advance parole while Vawa application is processed as I'd really like to see my family. It's bn so long. I was waiting dlfor the green card. Which took a yr but husband wrotr the withdrawal letter 11 months after out green card application. 

I'm so devastated! Husband keeps saying we should refile but I'd rather not go through that again as it's been a very depressing marriage and refiling only means being exposed to his abuse for at least another year. I think it's best I call it a day with this marriage. I tried my best. 

I feel so betrayed. 

@NigeriaorBust thank you! 

@hypnos how does one prove emotional and verbal abuse?

@Hypnos thanks so much for the prompt reply. 

I can't believe I'm back to square one with this Immigrations thing! I will go to the library tomorrow and file Vawa application. Is it something I can do by myself?

thanks

For those of you following this thread, I'm still alive! 

I've just posted an update on my case and would appreciate it if you would chime in. 

Click here for the new post. 

Thanks so much

Hello everyone. 

With a heavy heart, I appeal to you for any help I can get right now. 

Since my previous post on here, so much has happened. The long and short of it is, I, against my better judgement moved back in with my husband. Amongst other things, I wanted to know that I've given the marriage my best shot. He was the man of my dreams and I wanted to leave no stone unturned.

we had been in contact the entire 2 weeks I was gone but he didn't know where I was staying. I felt somewhat safe to be around him again. We went out to eat a couple of times and Hung out at  the house before I officially moved back in. 

The yelling and the screaming started right back 2days after my return. I won't dwell on that for now but as of recently, there has been so much peace in the home! I felt like I have my husband back. He had made me sign divorce papers when he was angry and forced me to sign them asap. Which I ended up doing because I wanted peace. 

He says he never submitted the papers. That doesn't mean he hasn't. 

Lately, we have been getting along. I even let my guard down. This morning, I received a notice from usps about mail on the way. Some of it was from uscis. I tell you, I was crying on my way to work with excitement that I was finally going to receive my green card and would be able to visit my family back home after all these years. 

I came home to find the mail and it's a DENIAL! 

Apparently my husband had sent a letter withdrawing the i864 or financial support commitment he made when we filed. I am devastated. I didn't see this coming! He and I talk all the time. He never mentioned this to me. According to the denial letter, attached to this post, I have to leave the country asap and my work permit has been revoked. Sad thing is, I was working on getting my ead renewed because the green card had taken so long to be approved. 

Throughout the marriage, I have considered VAWA, the ladies from domestic hotline suggested it. I Didn't pursue the idea because, how do you prove emotional and verbal abuse? 

I've been in the US for more than 4 years. First year was B2 visa. I was out of status when I met my husband. 

I would like to stay in the country legally. What steps, if any, could I take to pursue that route? I have very limited funds and don't have thousands for legal fees. Is there anything I can do on my own to fix the situation? 

Husband apologizes for taking this drastic step and tells me he would reverse it if he could. He is willing to pay a lawyer for us to file aos all over again. (Just because he says all this, doesn't mean he means it)

Please guys, can you help me. 

I appreciate all of you for taking the time to read and offer any help. 

TLDR: US citizen husband revoked i864/ financial support document, which caused my i485, AOS application to be denied. Please advise on how to move forward. Thanks

Thanks again everyone

On 9/15/2017 at 10:28 PM, sparrowxxx419 said:

Hey,how are you? Did you get any shelter or a safe place to stay? 

 

what people or your neighborhood says about you calling the police. Like someone said on here,DON'T HESITATE to call the laws if he grabs or touches you violently again.

 

I hope you are able to sort things out. Your'e in my thoughts and prayers.

You're amazing. Thanks for checking up on me. After being on the phone in the care at the library parking for hours. I went and checked out one place in person and they gave me a business card to call them. I had to go to work. I only got home before midnight. I'll be back at it tomorrow. 

PS. Sorry I disappeared on everyone. The site told me I had reached my reply limit. So I couldnt do anything for a while. 

I appreciate you all. 

Also, thanks for the PM's. You warm my heart. 

9 hours ago, Going through said:

An important thing with VAWA is documentation/proof of the abuse..whether physical, mental or emotional.

It is good you've called the police on him once and that they confiscated his firearm.  That started a record of police interaction in your household, which will be helpful to you as well in the long run not only for your personal safety but also for immigration purposes.

 

You called the police once, do not hesitate to call the police again tonight if his behavior escalates.  If he physically touches you in a violent manner call them immediately and have him arrested/removed from the home for your safety.  Who cares what your neighbors think--they're not the ones going through this.

I hate to say it but; There would probably be a hit out on me if I called the cops on this man again. 

I've asked the police for a copy of the report as they had promised the day of that they wouldn't leave here without giving me one. They told me that I wasn't the victim in the case, therefore I'm not entitled to the report. They gave me case number only. 

I don't really care what neighbors and others think. I'm too busy to care

12 hours ago, dnyal said:

I most certainly do not condone your husband's behaviour, but as a physician, I can't but notice he might be displaying features of either bipolar or even schizophrenic disorder and he obviously has paranoid delusions. Psychiatric patients are often like that: they seem very normal and then they deteriorate fast. Very, very often, psychiatric conditions manifest after intense emotional periods or revolve around emotional matters. To put it simplistically, mental illnesses are affections of the emotions, and it is no surprise he took your marriage (and thus you) as the center of his emotional bursts. Given that marriage is seemingly the most important emotional aspect of your lives right now because it is a great transition, it is logical that his psychiatric disorder would gravitate towards that.

 

Bein pragmatic, what you should do first is get him assessed by a board-certified psychiatrist and get that diagnosis on his clinical history. Why? You would have two choices: 1. He could start his meds and get counceling and with your help (if he's not behaving violently against you anymore and you are willing), you two could mend your marriage and you might get your "old" husband back; 2. His psychiatric condition could be a powerful reason to use for the immigration judge so you can get some relief in your AOS process. 

 

Most importantly, as a professional, I do not recommend that you stay in such a dire environment if the situation is this grievous and while he is this unstable. You should choose your safety first because unstable psychiatric patients are very, very unpredictable in their behaviour. Of course, it is ultimately your choice.

His outburst usually come from not having sex in a 2 day period. By day 3, he's livid! 

Thanks so much for this. Quite honestly, I've been trying to get this man to a therapist since I started seeing signs of imbalance. In the meantime, I was diagnosing him myself in my head and I'm not medically inclined at all but desperate times. I came up narcissistic personality disorder, borderline, ADHD, and bipolar. To name a few. Again. This was just me. 

It would've been nice to get an official diagnosis, if for my own sanity. 

He refuses to see a therapy. In the beginning, he used to say that they would find something wrong with him away his right to a gun. 

Now that there's no gun and our marriage is in entire need of it. He says he will ho if I pay for it. Then he chooses the $800 bundle. He is basically looking for a way out indirectly. I suggested the pastor and his response was, 'what did I ever do to you to want to embarrass me so much? What are you trying to prove?' 

I've been looking for a shelter; hopefully, I find an apartment soon so I can move out once and for all.