Darrinos

Thank you very much for that. In my search to find a way to her, there are honestly times when I feel like I'm all out of options. But, something inside of me keeps telling me not to quit, not to give up. And your right... love will always win as long as we just don't give up.

I did not post on this page to touch anyone, nor did I post to hear judgments about our relationship, her character or the single life in Indonesia. None of you know the details that I know, or the fantastic woman who I find to be very ethical and independent, not ever wanting money or anything else from me other than my time. After two years, we know each other quite well. Posts like the one quoted above, and a few others that were thankfully removed, are the reason that I stopped posting in here before, or held back some of the facts. If you want to give relationship advice, talk to Dear Abby. Maybe she could use some help. Otherwise, please give constructive information without making judgements about people and relationships that you know nothing of. Maybe you are trying to help in your own way, but nothing you've said has done so.
 
You are right... there are women (and men) all over parts of Asia as well as other parts of the world trying to find a way to the US. Many turns to unscrupulous if not criminal behavior to accomplish their goals. It is wise to beware... I get it. I know it sounds like a cliche, but "this is different." You just gotta trust me on this one. So, any constructive advice is quite welcome... as always.

It tells me that her husband was not loyal to her and she was left, hurt and alone, and after FIVE YEARS of being so, she decided to try to move on with her life. Her profile said "separated" but I was blinded by the photo... which was accurate and honest. I found out about it probably after a month... about the same time she found out about me and my past. We were both very honest and truthful as soon as we suspected we might be something more special.
 
However, let me say this: I am not here to listen to judgment on our relationship as so many seem ready to give. This has already been decided and the validity and sincerity of our relationship is not the topic here... it's how to find a way to one another. I'm not saying this is what you're doing, just that many others are.
 
Thanks for writing.

He is, in fact, one of the leading AWA/Immigration attorneys, and has the results to prove it. He also has a very good network of other attorneys/friends who "wrote the book" on AWA cases. I feel very confident in his ability. I'm sure that when we can get the divorce done that he will do an excellent job... we've just got to get to that point!
 
Thank you for your reply.

DaveSana,
In complete truth, yes, I believe that they would give her the tourist visa. Our love is real and can be proven. Her ties to her community are real and can be proven. Our intentions are sincere, honest and pure. As I've posted before, when we choose to marry, we would then follow the fiance visa process. Neither of us wish to do anything illegal as we do not want to compromise our future together. It's really frustrating when you try to do everything correctly, you're right. And still, it's what we must do. I wish there was a way that immigration could look into a person's heart and see their intentions. I suppose that's what they're trying to do, but it doesn't always work out very well.
Thanks for your empathy. I truly appreciate it.

I'm sure that's the case, Boiler. But we're not trying to skirt the system or pull any tricks. We're trying to use the system as it's meant to be used.... legally. (Unless I'm not seeing something obvious???)