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Darrinos

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    Broken Arrow
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    Oklahoma

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    Houston TX
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    Indonesia

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  1. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    JG, thanks for your comments. Let me first say that somewhere along the way people seem to have gotten the impression that I was looking for relationship advice. I am not. That part has been decided. My whole reason for writing to begin with was to relate an experience and maybe makes someone a little wiser along their journey. I was hoping that they would see what all I've done and see what hasn't worked. That being said, thank you again. Along our journey, I've learned a lot about her, myself, and Indonesia. I know that Indonesia is corrupt and even though my "friend" in the airport says he can get me in, I have not tried to take advantage of that for the very reason that you mentioned. (Even if I could get there, I wouldn't try his idea.) I don't need to add insult to injury or trouble on top of trouble. I am also already aware of the conditions and provisions for owning a business in Indonesia. It works out great for the Indonesian citizen, so I get the reason behind it, but not so much for the expat/foreigner. Indonesian laws and regulations seem to be very dynamic... changing all the time, and it's hard to trust anything. If I were to work there, it would be for an international company operating in Indonesia and they would be taking care of the arrangements. I really doubt this would ever happen, so I'm not holding my breath. I love the Bahasa proverb, (I'll have to remember that one) but as wise as it may be, I just wanna say this: it's for the birds. Lol. We are both being very realistic about all of this and it may never happen no matter how hard we try. But the one thing that is guaranteed in all of this is that if we don't try, nothing will happen. We are both willing to keep trying, for now. I'm just bold enough to believe that if I keep working at it, we'll find a way. I may be proven wrong in the end, but if that happens, we will both know that we tried everything earthly possible to find a home for our love. Again, I really appreciate your thoughts. Your knowledge of Indonesia seems very deep and personal, and maybe I could learn more from you. It's a fascinating and complicated country. I know you are trying to help prevent a heartache or more trouble. I am very aware of the pitfalls and dangers, and I am very careful not to take part of anything illegal. In my position, I've worked too hard to be where I am to do anything foolish. As far as the heartache, well... we're pretty invested in this already. We laugh, we love, we strive, we hope. In the end, it's end God's hands to bless what we do... or not.
  2. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Lilith, I'm so glad you wrote. The culture is so different there from here... the church plays a much bigger part than here. Far more than simply going to an attorney and filing paperwork, it is apparently a huge process. And please forgive me for asking, but as I understand it, a divorce is not something taken lightly in some circles, especially the religious, resulting in criticism (especially if you are a woman.) I am glad to hear that you were able to complete your journey, and hope that one day we'll be able to say the same. Thanks again!
  3. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Thank you, usmsbow. I, for one, have become very familiar with Indonesian culture as well. It is a very complicated society, but the people in general are good people. I've sit with many of them in coffee shops and churches, read many news papers and current events, and have a very good understanding. Such a different world, for sure. Thanks again.
  4. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    I did not post on this page to touch anyone, nor did I post to hear judgments about our relationship, her character or the single life in Indonesia. None of you know the details that I know, or the fantastic woman who I find to be very ethical and independent, not ever wanting money or anything else from me other than my time. After two years, we know each other quite well. Posts like the one quoted above, and a few others that were thankfully removed, are the reason that I stopped posting in here before, or held back some of the facts. If you want to give relationship advice, talk to Dear Abby. Maybe she could use some help. Otherwise, please give constructive information without making judgements about people and relationships that you know nothing of. Maybe you are trying to help in your own way, but nothing you've said has done so. You are right... there are women (and men) all over parts of Asia as well as other parts of the world trying to find a way to the US. Many turns to unscrupulous if not criminal behavior to accomplish their goals. It is wise to beware... I get it. I know it sounds like a cliche, but "this is different." You just gotta trust me on this one. So, any constructive advice is quite welcome... as always.
  5. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    It tells me that her husband was not loyal to her and she was left, hurt and alone, and after FIVE YEARS of being so, she decided to try to move on with her life. Her profile said "separated" but I was blinded by the photo... which was accurate and honest. I found out about it probably after a month... about the same time she found out about me and my past. We were both very honest and truthful as soon as we suspected we might be something more special. However, let me say this: I am not here to listen to judgment on our relationship as so many seem ready to give. This has already been decided and the validity and sincerity of our relationship is not the topic here... it's how to find a way to one another. I'm not saying this is what you're doing, just that many others are. Thanks for writing.
  6. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Yes, you are correct. It's the crime that you never get away from. Unless the laws change, there is no way to keep this from being seen. As you say, it might help, but in this situation, no guarantees; only hopes. Thanks again for your help.
  7. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Thank you for your very reasonable and logical post. Yes, she wants some kind of assurance that she'll be taken care of, and I don't blame her. In her country, even though she is only in her late 40's, she is seen as "old" and most help wanted ads stipulate women in their 20's sometimes 30's. Such a different world. She is a very realistic and reasonable woman, to be sure. A girl has to look out for her best interests, you know? God bless women... they are a wonderful creation and every one of us men are blessed to have one; you're even more blessed to have one present and in your daily life. My attorney believes that after I'm off of the registry that my odds for sponsoring her increase. Since he is not licensed in the state where the offense occurred, I have not discussed the expungement with him, though I am seeking an attorney now for this purpose. As far as a plan to support the two of us, I am taking a two-pronged approach. First, I am applying for positions in the countries that will allow me to enter. Second, I have been working with a business owner in a third country to purchase his business, though I'm still looking for a couple of investors to help with the financial short fall. (Anyone interested? I can offer about 12-15% over 6-7 years... just sayin'! ) We both would be allowed in this country and can work the rest of our plan from there. Short of finding an investor or two, or finding a job in another country, I've got winning the lottery and the genie in the bottle plan in my back pocket. I truly appreciate your well-reasoned reply.
  8. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    I'll choose door number 3.
  9. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    You are absolutely correct. In the beginning, I did not want a woman who was separated but somehow, she "slipped through" my vetting procedure! I've never regretted it though, even still. At the same time, I'm sure she never wanted someone with the legal troubles that I carry. Still, we both chose to continue. Definitely an uphill battle and the "guarantee" is not existent. Therefore, like you, I feel that the "third country option" is the best. Laws may change at some point in the future and that may help, as well as being off of the registry. too. It's all done on a hope and a prayer.
  10. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Thank you very much for your reply, and thank you for wanting to help. I don't need any more details, and you've done more than enough. Please, always strive to be honest is all you do, but I do not judge you at all. I have 8 months left of my registration requirement, and when that has passed I do indeed hope to apply for an expungement of my record, which is kinda like the clemency, but not completely. There is potential there. To be very honest, sometimes I feel so incredibly selfish, like I'm holding her from being more. She wants to leave the country so badly and sometimes I just feel like I should let her go so she can find another way. We have both talked very honestly about it, and in the end, the thing we really want most is just to be together someday, some way. It's a tough spot to be in. Anyway... thanks for your advice. I appreciate it very much.
  11. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Forgive me... I meant in Indonesia.
  12. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    True! It's crazy what love will make us do sometimes! I would not be so tenacious if I doubted the strength or depth of our love or commitment. I appreciate the kind thoughts, and yes... to all the others out there, just keep the faith. Love will find a way.
  13. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    Yes, and that's the plan I'm working on at the present. As I've said, I'm simply waiting for the door to open, wherever that may be.
  14. Darrinos

    Incredible difficult Visa journey

    In what way? I admit completely to my poor behavior, my breaking the law, and my regret and shame for doing so. I have lived within the law since and have done all that was required. US law has certain processes and triggers that are supposed to be available to us all, and all I'm saying is that things like due process, equal protection, and protection against ex post facto laws (retro-active) are something we should all receive. If you do a crime, pay your debt, and then move on. That's all I'm trying to do. I'm not asking for special treatment, I simply want to be with the woman I love, or have a chance to do so one day. So, what is the responsibility that I seem to be minimizing? I appreciate the honest debate.
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