Queen2myKing

Hello everyone
 
Will someone please update the spreadsheet for me?
   I-797, Notice of action letter date: 04/13/17
Postmarked: 04/25/17
Delivered: 04/29/17

Thank you to the person who added my information to the spreadsheet.  I made a typo.  The day the letter was delivered  was on the the 28th not the 29th.  Now waiting for the biometrics letter.

I have been thinking about posting more but I become discouraged on this site because some posters choice of words are too harsh for me. There is a way to voice your opinion without being rude. Some people are good at communication others need a lot of improvement. I wish you continued success in your marriage. God Bless you and your family.

The last time I used O'Hare I missed my connecting flight because they were not very helpful. Luckily it was the last flight home from Nigeria so it wasn't as stressful. However, I really don't like O'Hare but may have to use them again for a lower price.

Update on relationship after husband's arrival to US. Although I have not been on VJ for a while, I periodically come back and post updates to help others who are still in their VJ journey. My husband now has been here over two years. Recently we removed his conditions and he received his 10 yr green card. He is working hard and our relationship still going strong. The first two years did present its challenges for regardless of the fact we knew each other for a long time and he has remained very true to his promises and he is a very caring and loving man. The adjustment period was interesting nevertheless! There are so many things that they, as new comers to this country don't know about or how to adjust to. Time and patience will iron out those kinks ? I want to mention AGAIN that just because someone comes from a "HIGH" scam country doesn't mean you are married to one! There are good and bad people in every country/culture. Your experience is yours only. Choose carefully and expect to work hard to get your loved one to this country. It is not for everyone to go through the visa journey. It is emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically draining BUT if you have chosen the right partner, then it is all worth it. I am a living proof that even with red flags a relationship with a Nigerian is possible and a happy outcome is not far fetched! All relationships are hard work and with love and commitment, a happy ending is possible! Blessings and good luck to those who are still in their journey!

Almost everyone has given their opinion in a respectful way. I have not been offended by any of the comments. I have read every comment and my hope is that he will read each comment as well. Thanks again y'all.

The saddest part of all this is that I noticed you are so close to your interview date and should be head over heels knowing he would be home with you soon. I have to tell you, my husband is Nigerian and we have been living together for almost 6 years here in Ghana together. I have SEEN and HEARD just about everything I ever wish to see or hear about what some people are capable of doing to another for money. Its a hard life here, just like in Nigeria (I've been there twice as well). A lot of men and women will do criminal things here to earn money to eat or provide for their families. I feel bad for them, but at the same time they are preying on my own country men and women when they do it. Before we had internet in our house, we used to go to an internet café a lot to talk to people back home. I saw the lengths to which a young man would go to, and they were so used to seeing me in there, that I guess it didn't phase them or make them want to hide the fact that they were pretending to be a female talking to an American man who was on their computer screen doing some "really gross things"....in front of this young man, and not the hot girl they thought they were talking to.
My point is, this request your husband is asking of you, is classic scam 101. Someone is stealing money from someone's account and wanting to send it to yours (a wire transfer)....OR someone is scamming someone out of their money and in order to make the scam look legit, they are asking the person to wire the money to an American bank account. Sending the money to Nigeria whether it is thru moneygram/ western union or to a Nigerian bank account would never fit into the "story". I'm not saying your husband is the ring leader, but perhaps someone has come to him and said "hey, we know you have a wife in America, if you do this...we will give you a percentage of it". People have pulled my husband to the side on numerous occasions and tried to ask the same thing. He just tells them "no no no". He would NEVER put me in that position not to talk of getting mad at me if I said no.
I understand your husbands frustration, there is money dangling over his head if he can just do this one thing....and that would mean he'd have the money to buy the ticket to come there. But if there is real love there for you, he would NEVER put you in that position. That is something that you really want to take into consideration before you proceed with anything else. At the VERY least, he shouldn't be concocting a story about people owing his sister money, yada yada yada. If he'd lie to you about that, form up a big story about it, risk putting you in jeopardy AND making you feel bad for not giving in, then is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

I am a Nigerian and My advise to u is very simple, wait for ur husband to come and he should open bank account in his name then send it to his family and do d transaction himself, pls stay away from it

The issue is the Patriot act and anti money laundering laws.
If the amounts are small, there is unlikely any issue, but if the amounts are large -- over $10K -- then the bank is required to report the transactions to the regulators.
Most countries have reporting requirements about money brought into the country, but I have no idea about Nigeria. In the US, you have to report when you bring in more than $10000, for example.
Nigeria of course is famous for its scams, and this could just be another one, but scam or not, if your bank sees something suspicious or the amount is over $10K, they will report you to the regulators.
You can get around the whole scam question by using Western Union, MoneyGram, and countless other ways to send money internationally without any risk on your part.

I am so sorry you are feeling this way after all the waiting. I completely sympathize. Only thing I can say is stay strong in your decision to decline to help. If he wants a tranfer of funds his sister open an account in Nigeria. Any Nigerian resident with ID can open one for 100 naira. Those ppl who you dont know can deposit the money in her personal account not yours. This a scam and very widely known for scammers in Vietnam and Malaysia to xfer these usually stolen funds. Why would your husband want you involved in this even if the chance was 1 % that this could cause you legal trouble or possible prison time for your involvement? Why cant yous simply say no without a heated argument? Just remind him its not him you dont trust but his sister's associates. Just please stay away from this thing. And if your husband persists, I dont want to pass judgment on him but from now on I would watch him very closely and pay attention to everything he does and says just to be certain he is who he really says he is. Again so sorry you have to be dealing with this when you should just be in love and happy he is nearly home with you!

An updated I-864 can be sent to your spouse for submission at interview time.

People should please start their own thread, rather than hijack someone else's.