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yet another thread falls victim to a Tim Hortons hijacking!!! sheesh ...canucks and tims

back to the party......hehehe

maybe we can get timmys to sponsor the party......tell them its a good customer research plan....since there are no friggin tims here :/

maybe i should organize a trip to toledo for coffee for all us canucks jonesing for timmies LOL

my hubbie just doesnt understand my willingness to drive 2 hours for coffee hehehe

o o o we can still celebrate May Two four here, except its 'memorial day' and we would have to grab a 'case' of beer. no one seems to 'get' two four.

I will pass out copies of my canadian to american dictionary to the US spouses at the party so they can understand what the hell we are talkin aboot

also to add to the menu

nanaimo bars

YAY!

ok...I'll talk to my friend tomorrow, book the bar for a 'private party' so they dont book bands for that weekend.....and please input from everyone!

This could become an annual event...I hear its pretty big in Canada LOL

oops clicked here from elsewhere, didnt notice i was in the regional forum...ignore my post LOL

I actually opened my account before I moved here, before I was even approved for my k-1 visa. I just went to the bank and told them I was moving here soon and wanted to set up an account. They set it up as a non-resident account, never even asked for a SSN.

I guess I should go change it to reflect tht I am a resident and have an SSN.....we will see what happens there!

No one seems to have much experience where I live with immigrants of any sort so people tend to confuse easily LOL

yay...we are at 2 so far

We had an extremely small church ceremony in a local church, just family and super close friends, maybe 20 people in all, my sons walked me down the aisle, 1 attendant each.

We went to dinner at nice restaurant tht had a private dining room in the back wit the family and bridal party, about 16 people.

Friends (matron of honour and her husband) own a bar, my husband worked there for 9 years, he even proposed to me there, so it was a no-brainer to hold the reception there. We dd a bunch of food, veggies and dip, lnchmeats, breads, chips and dip, pumpernickle and spinach dip etc, some hot trays also of lasagna and stuff like that from BJ's, heck we even bought the cake from BJ's. I ran out of time to make one of my own and this was easier to serve...adn they put our photo on it!

The bar is a band bar, my husband and all his friends are in bands, have been in bands, play or sing so we didnt have a 'band' or a DJ, we had a 'jam night'. Everyone who wanted to got up and played something. My eldest son played drums with the guys. It ws a real cool intimate night. It suited us well, the music, our friends, the atmosphere. Laid back, fun and filled with music.

A personal wedding is more important than a big one.....IMHO anyways

This came up as a joke...but I am thinking of doing it for real.

July 1 is on a Saturday

My friend owns a bar.

I think getting local Canucks together to party is a great idea.

Think aboot it....

The Menu:

Poutine

TimBits

Ketchup Chips

Beverages

Molsons Canadian

Labatts Blue

Tim Hortons Coffee for the non-imbibers

Entertainment

Rush (ok local band imitating Rush)

all Canadian music all night long

If I get enought response, he will let me do it...hell I know he will, but since he usually has bands I would have to book it ahead so they dont book something else that night.....obviously there would be more to it than the above, but its a start....

any one interested?

Nybody wanna buy a wedding dress? I have 4 of them LOL. No Im not that indecisive or stood up that often...I used to own a bridal shop back in Canada and have a few left over...however when I was planning my wedding, none fit, and I knew what I wanted and it wasnt any of them. I went to Davids bridal nd got something 'similar' to what I wanted...but after buying it and getting home and thinking about the alterations I would have to make to get it to fit me, and to make it what more like what I wanted, I said to myself screw it...start from scratch and get what you want....so I made one

Seriously, I have 4 for sale tho, 2 ivory infomals, 2 white formals, I have pics of all 4...but here is the one I made...and I loved it

It was a 4 piece. Corest top, the skirt was 2 layers, mermaid style with a small train and the bottom came off so it was a short dress for the reception, and it had a jacket similar to the lace one anytaholland had but long sleeves and out of a heavy battenberg lace that I wore just to the church and outside etc. It was Feb, and rainy, I expected colder, didnt really need the jacket but it was the most expensive part at $50 a yard x 8 yards LOL

I wanted an actual corset top and a straight skirt, however actual corsets are hard to come by unless you want to pay $300+ after making one, I see why heh. I dont have great pics because ...they are at the videographers, he is making us a dvd but here are a few of what I have to see it...

http://www.visajourney.com/gallery/albums/...al_wedding4.JPG (front view)

http://www.maplegrove.bravehost.com/thewedding.htm (a bunch of pics with the lower skirt off, the reception etc, bravenet.com wont let me post the pic from here)

If I could figue out how to add pics to the albums.....

tissue tucked in the bouquet...what are you gonna do...whip it out of the cleavage? and you know you are gonna need it!

the only complaint/issue on our wedding day was hubby was getting irritable about the photographer taking soooo many pics...after he saw them he said 'i shouldnt have been so cranky i would have liked more' %^$^% LOL

I came to the usa on myk-1 in december, my son stayed behind to finish the school year, we checked off 'follow to join' on the application, so that he could come at a later date. Now the tme is coming for me to go get him shortly, he sent away for his visa etc ....but my question is, will he have to adjust status going through all the same things as me?

I assume I will have to pay an additional fee (he is 15), but do I have to resubmit all the documentation? The support affidavits only listed me, because at the time, he wasnt coming over yet, so will I need all new support affidavits?

the entire package resubmitted with a whle seperate AOS interview for him?

If I need the entire pkg for him, should I prepare it and bring it with me for mine or send it ahead like mine, and sneak him into the interview to see if they can do it all at once?

anyone else with this type of situation I would appreciate input thnx

my oldest is on the application and from what i understand, we have a year to finish it..he will have to go for the medical and the interview in montreal still, but he was listed on the original petition so i have until october to convince him to follow thru 'just in case'. thank god i brought the younger one with me to montreal and found out about the floow to join thing

feel for everyone who had to leave thier kids behind... I left my 2 sons in Canada as well.

here is the situation...

I divorced in 2001, my kids father and I drew up our own seperation agreement...I offered him visitation etc, he said he 'couldnt commit to every second weekend' (he didnt even work ffs, but thats another story), so I amended the seperation agreement to 'Mother has sole custody and the father has reasonable access with reasonable notice' This was acceptable to him and he signed, the seperation agreement became part of the divorce......I dont need his permission to take the boys here, I dont even have to notify him...of course i would have to know where he was to notify him wouldnt i???? heh

so anyways the kids and I moved from our small Northern Ontario town to a small city in Southern Ontario where we lived for 3 years...fast forward to spring of 2004, my eldest was in 9th grade at a highschool of over 2000 students..after a year wracked with one problem with the school or another and issues with the home life (we were living with my sister because my ex stopped paying support and she is the most miserable person in the world and he was miserable depressed etc.) we decided to send him back up north to live with my other sister who was single, no kids and really wanted him there...we wre always a really close family so having him live with his aunt was not an unusual thing...so there went my then 15 year old but at least I knew he was safe, happier at home and in a better school with 200 students and perhaps the opportunity to rebuild a relationship with his father (in the year he lived there he saw him 3 tmes...2 times by accident bumping into him on the street).

So in July 2004 we applied for the K-1 and I listed both my sons on it, intending to bring them both over with me....I was met with much resistance from the older boy, and he was doing soooo well at my sisters, we decided if he maintained his behaviour and schooling he could stay there....better to allow him to stay than o frce him to move and have him resent me or run away back there right?

Ok on to the younger one...he was living with me in southern ontario at my other sisters....the miserable one....but he seeed to be able to tolerate her and her husband better than anyone...the trick was to stay in his room almost all the time lol. So we finally got our interview in Montreal in October of 2005, the younger one was already in 9th grade nd doing extremely well...my move was planned for December....not wanting to screw with his education, we all decided that he could remain until the end of the school year then move with me. We listed him as 'follow to join'. The lady who first dealt with us at Montreal, the one who got all the papers in order before the interview, talked this over with us both and really made me feel more comfortable with the situation. I was so appreciative of her insight into the situation without judging me for 'leaving my children behind'.

My younger son adamandtly refused to move with me at any time, demanding he stay in Ontario, not being an ### about it but asserting his adolescent rights hehe. He is a shy kid and has few close friends, that kind of took him a long time to make, He is scared to death about moving here and being 'the foreign kid' etc. ALl the fears of a teenage boy....so we caved in and said...if you do well in school and dont get into trouble...you can stay.

The eldest ran away from my sisters in Northern Ontario and is living in the same city as my younger son now....on his own, the big 18 grown up but he is doing ok and its only 5 hours to visit him instead of driving 10 He refuuses to come to the USA (he has a girlfriend he doesnt want to leave and some brilliant lawmaker says they are adults and can make these decisions).

Now...my sister who the younger one lives with emailed me the day of my wedding to tell me she is moving out west!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!!! The deal I made with my boy was he could live there with her in that city where his school and friends were....not just stay in canad ain general and i'll be damned if I am gonna let her take him to northern alfreakinberta!!! So....thank god I had him on all the paperwork, he is sending his passport in to Montral for them to put the visa on it and I will be picking him up this summer not for a visit but to live with me

He didnt put up any fuss, ddnt argue or ###### one time about it. I was amazed because he was so anti-moving before...I think he wants to be here just didnt want to admit it because he had made such a fuss about not living here.

We let the boys decide for themselves...they were 14 and 17 when the move took place, they werent 'children' although my eldest sister wont speak to me, I am the devil for 'abandoning my children' and she refuses to acknowledge my husband and marriage as she feels he should have moved to canada to be with me...he must not love me enuf, etc etc etc......

In the end....I get my baby here with me in a few months, the eldest.....I pray for LOL but as he says "you moved out on your own at 16 mom and you turned out ok, I'll be ok too" . Makes me want to pull my hair out because there is a LOT between 16 and now he has NOOOO idea about......kids...gotta love em enuf to let em go sometimes

when i went to apply for my first one, i just used my k-1 visxa and got it wit no problem, i should have gone to change the name before the k-1 expired, then i wouldnt have had a problem. I dont have my EAD yet, I was getting my biometrics done and it was in the same building s the SSA, so I figured on killing 2 birds with 1 stone. I will wait until my AOS interview and try again....

We were in the SSA office far longer than the biometrics appt. They took me right away for bimetrics...was done in 10 minutes.

yay thank you....im printing this and carrying it in my wallet..along with a printout from statscan about the different ethnic groups in canada...apparently "canada has no crime because canadians are all caucasian".....i just walked away from tht one...i couldnt even speak!!!

i wax all the time, it really only hurts the first time...and i found sugaring to cause more ingrown hairs thaan waxing

waxing is expensive here in the usa...i used to get it done in canada for $40 for full leg including bikini...here its about $100 for legs alone and $40 for bikini !!!! do ya, i had to learn to do it myself.

I got my SSN no problem, before we were even married....but when I went in today to change the name on it...I was told I couldnt because my visa had expired (last week) The lady asked me if I had applied for an extention on my visa and when I said no, that i had sent in for my AOS, she actually told me I was 'out of status' until my AOS is complete and I have my green card ?!?! apparently then I can come back and change my name.

K-1 here...my son and i dressed casual....i think we think too much like its going to be a 'job interview' or a formal interview setting, when really you are just at a couple of wickets being asked a few questions....not much different than going to the bank lol. The lady that first took care of my son and i, made sure we had all our documents and stuff, i think we signed a few things etc, was super nice, she made us so comfortable...and yes, it will cost you...well it cost us $100 each, which we had to pay after seeing her then wait for the actual interview part which was in a tiny room where we were seperated by glass ....kinda like visiting someone in jail hahahaha. they scanned our fingertips, took a pic and we were on our way. It was a friday so we left and had them mail the visas, i think we could have had them on mondy, they dont have next day service for saturday...anyways it is super simple. just remember to bring $100 for each person and when u check in they do a thorough search of you so its best to leave anything electronic (camera cell phone remote car starter etc) in your car or hotel room, also anything sharp (they took my tweezers out of my purse and my sons chain off his wallet)

good luck

its really really easy...relax I 'believe' the $100 was the visa fee...it wasnt mentioned in any of the literature that i got prior to the interview tha i can recall....but it was legit.

Let me ask you this.... do you tell other people he is your boyfriend or your fiancee...

if you generally refer to your fiancee as such and as a boyfriend only while at the POE because you know that if you say fiancee you chances of being denied entry are increased... then that is a material misrepresentation and if found out could result in a permanent ban on entry to the US...

i call him my husband now hehehe

when we were going thru the visa process we werent 'officially' engaged (no ring on one knee proposal) It wasnt until my visa was approved that he (finally got around to) proposed 'officially' and it was such a short engagement I often referred to him as boyfriend. We have been married a month now and we both slip up with it. He mentioned his 'girlfriend' being from canada to someone the other day...I punched him in the arm

Stating a boyfriend and not fiancee could be seen as a matrial misrepresentation and result in a permanent ban on entering the US... If they ask and you have a fiancee... say you have a fiancee..

I dont think saying boyfriend instead of fiance is misrepresentation, during the engagement period the fiance is still the boyfriend....

Yes, I too crossed successfully twice while the K1 is in process. However, not everyone does. Lots of evidence proving the need to return are required, such as a letter from the employer. And don't take lots of stuff across! A Uhaul truck might make them suspicious!

lol @ Uhaul

Every time I crossed I packed the hell outta my suitcase. By the time I was approved all I had left to move was my furniture

i lived 5 hours from my fiance, and i crossed over every second weekend during the visa process....all i ever did was answer the questions that were asked, never offering more information than was requested...citizenship, where do u live who are u going to visit etc....but i never ever used the word 'fiance' ...just said my 'boyfriend'. i was never questioned beyond the usual 3 or 4 questions...where do u work and when do u have to be back to work etc. doesnt hurt to have proof of ties to canada i guess but i found i never needed it. just chose my words carefully...except once when they asked me about a box of country music tapes in the back seat, and I said they were for my mother-in-law. we werent married yet but i always called her that. this was the day after i had gone to the montreal consulate meeting, i was hauled in the office and questioned etc, and thankfully i still had all the stuff in my car from the interview so i was able to show them what was gong on, because of course the petition came up when they ran my name etc. I actually found out that I had been approved for the visa by the guys at the border lol

Come on, relax! How are these folks supposed to know anything about immigration?

I took a class on immigration processing and hiring non-American specialists at school, and I was the only one who had a clue about what foreigners go through. And of course, 90% of the students thought that if you marry a U.S. citizen, you automatically become a citizen too

ya im getting that one a lot lately....that i only married my husband to stay in the country or that since we got married im an instant citizen....its like sheesh guys..i married him because i love him, its not like the quality of life in canada was so hideous that i had to flee! ahhh gotta love myths it does sort of burn my @$$ tho because we dont want people to think that we got married for any reason other than we love each other and want to be married....i guess as long as we know...ya know

arent the misconceptions ridiculous? one of the guys bascally told me to shut up unless i could prove him wrong!!! i was like 'dude, im in the MIDDLE of the immigration process, i thingk *I* would have more knowledge on the subject than you!

grrr