Butterfly307

A lot of couples with a beneficiary coming from a third world country get denied at their K1 visa interview. In a lot of cases the US embassy/consulate doesn't even give an explanation, and this usually means that they don't believe that the relationship is bonafide and assume that it was established for immigration benefits. This happens especially when the relationship has other red flags too, for example huge age difference, huge cultural difference, different religions, etc. That is why in certain countries it isn't even worth to start a K1 process, since it will be more than likely getting denied. Ghana is one of the extremely high fraud countries, just like Nigeria, Pakistan, India. I suggest you to spend more time in person together. Not giving up, getting married and filing for a CR-1 visa shows long term commitment, so you will likely be approved this time.
Good luck!

Yeah this dude played the system in so many ways. I honestly wish these kind of people would be deported and banned for a lifetime or two.

You sneaked through the border, stayed illegally, don't have proper documentation, have a crimanal history, filed for VAWA (falsely or not, who knows), AND you want a green card? Haha.

There are ways to transfer her diploma, so she doesn't have to start all over again.
Check out this site, it might be very useful: https://ece.org (Educational Credential Evaluators)

Your story keeps changing. Now you say you have a job? People told you to get one because all you talked about is what your mother earns a year and you kept repeating that you have PTSD like it was something that makes people unable to work.
Why are you being "honest" about your PTSD if you clearly see that it completely holds you back from getting a better paying job? Have common sense. Of course no one wants to hire someone who keeps talking about his severe depression and PTSD. A lot of people are going through extremely stressful periods in life, you are not the only one, trust me.
Face the facts. Your dad has been illegaly in the United States for 15 years and went to jail for 4 years for a serious crime (domestic violence). I'm sure that you don't like all the answers you get on this forum. But you also have to understand that the vast majority of us came here AND stay here legally (investing thousands of dollars, time, effort, tears). Don't expect sympathy from everyone.
1. You KNOW you can't get a good paying job if you mention your mental disorder in your applications, yet you STILL do it. Your answer: "You don't want it to effect you in the future". How would it effect you seriously?
2. You KNOW you have PTSD yet you don't want to get it treated with medications. Your answer: Because you don't believe in medications.
DECIDE what you want. Be a victim and feel sorry for yourself OR get yourself together and face challenges in life like an adult. The choice is yours.
Get your PTSD treated. Get loans. Go to college. Follow your passion (I'm sure you have some talents). Take your life into your hands. Make something out of yourself. All you can do now is to support your mom financially, mentally, physically and emotionally. You can get through this - but you have to want it.
Good luck to you!

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

Your story keeps changing. Now you say you have a job? People told you to get one because all you talked about is what your mother earns a year and you kept repeating that you have PTSD like it was something that makes people unable to work.
Why are you being "honest" about your PTSD if you clearly see that it completely holds you back from getting a better paying job? Have common sense. Of course no one wants to hire someone who keeps talking about his severe depression and PTSD. A lot of people are going through extremely stressful periods in life, you are not the only one, trust me.
Face the facts. Your dad has been illegaly in the United States for 15 years and went to jail for 4 years for a serious crime (domestic violence). I'm sure that you don't like all the answers you get on this forum. But you also have to understand that the vast majority of us came here AND stay here legally (investing thousands of dollars, time, effort, tears). Don't expect sympathy from everyone.
1. You KNOW you can't get a good paying job if you mention your mental disorder in your applications, yet you STILL do it. Your answer: "You don't want it to effect you in the future". How would it effect you seriously?
2. You KNOW you have PTSD yet you don't want to get it treated with medications. Your answer: Because you don't believe in medications.
DECIDE what you want. Be a victim and feel sorry for yourself OR get yourself together and face challenges in life like an adult. The choice is yours.
Get your PTSD treated. Get loans. Go to college. Follow your passion (I'm sure you have some talents). Take your life into your hands. Make something out of yourself. All you can do now is to support your mom financially, mentally, physically and emotionally. You can get through this - but you have to want it.
Good luck to you!

Thank you! That is a good question Even the CO said she likes my folders

I used my HP laptop. This is the site where I downloaded it: http://www.nirsoft.net/utils/skype_log_view.html
This is what my folders looked like

I'm really sorry to hear this. I I pray for you guys and wish you all the best.

I agree, the colorful folders definitely made the preparation less stressful Even when I was at the Embassy waiting for my interview my stress was gone looked at those pretty folders
Good luck on your journey
Thank you! My POE will be on December 6th, just one day after my 24th birthday

Hey guys!
Today is one of the best days of my life! I'm SOOO happy and excited!! I had my K-1 visa interview today (11/25/2014) at the US Embassy in Budapest, Hungary. I arrived 10 minutes early and spent no more than an hour inside altogether. First, a Hungarian lady took my fingerprints and my documents, and I was told to wait a little. After waiting like 10 minutes I was invited to talk with the CO who was a professional looking, nice lady. She asked me some questions about me, my fiancé and our relationship. She didn't ask for any proof of ongoing relationship (not even photos). Then: "Congratulations Miss *my name*, your visa is approved, welcome to the United States." Then the Hungarian lady told me that I'll receive my visa and my passport in 2-4 business days. I was walking on air all the way back home!
The questions I was asked are the following:
1. When and how did you meet your fiancé?
2. When and how did you meet your fiancé in person?
3. How many times did you meet him in person?
4. Did you meet any of his family members in person?
5. What are you planning to do in the U.S.?
6. What are your marriage plans?
I honestly can't believe that this was the interview that I was so nervous about!! It was so easy and short. After reading a lot of horror stories here on Visajourney; I started to stress about it non-stop. At least it made me to pay attention to every little detail when it came to documents. Reading Visajourney interview stories can be deceiving though. Obviously having a visa interview at the US Embassy of a European VWP country (like Hungary) is a whole different story than having an interview in a third world/high fraud country. I think that if your case doesn't have red flags and you're from a low fraud country (Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and European VWP countries) then you will likely have it this easy. My advice is to be prepared for everything, have a lot of proof and evidence, keep having faith and hope for the best! It's better to be safe than sorry!
Let's get back to my interview experience.
Here is what I bought to the interview. I organized the documents & stuff in 4 different colored folders, I'm big time fan of bright colors!
Pink folder (personal documents)
1. passport
2. DS-160 confirmation page
3. interview appointment letter
4. visa photos
5. birth certificate
6. police certificate
7. medical papers
8. photocopy of NOA2
Green folder (form I-134 & proofs) - my fiancé is my sponsor
9. form I-134 (Affidavit of Support)
10. IRS Tax Return Transcript (2013)
11. IRS Wage & Income Transcript (2013)
12. last 12 paychecks
13. employment letter
Yellow folder (proof of ongoing relationship)
14. Facebook wall screenshots
15. Facebook message screenshots
16. Skype call history (I used SkypeLogView)
17. a postcard I sent to my fiancé
18. updated letter of intents
Blue folder (proof of having met - we already submitted these in I-129F)
19. electronic plane ticket
20. boarding passes
21. ESTA confirmation
22. passport stamp (ESTA)
23. receipts
So that was it. Now it's time for me to celebrate and to start my new life in the United States with the man of my dreams!
Without this site I wouldn't be where I am now. I'm very grateful for all the great, detailed infos and all the helpful Visajourney members.
Thank you, Visajourney!
Good luck to you all!

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

I don't know your culture and I can't relate? Just because my wife is Filipino and I am American doesn't mean I don't know your culture. I have lived, worked, and resided around Pakistanis,Indians(both North and South Indians), and Nepalis for many years now. I know about the culture and the taboos that are associated with it.
We have tried to help and figure out your father's case for you, but you don't want to take our advice. You just want to belittle us for asking questions and trying to give you some tough love. You want to act like you are the only person that has ever suffered from PTSD and Depression at the same time. I know it is tough trust me I know. I work a full time 40 hour a week job all the while going to school full time to get a Bachelor of Science degree, being a father to my 3 kids and a husband to my wonderful wife.

Your story keeps changing. Now you say you have a job? People told you to get one because all you talked about is what your mother earns a year and you kept repeating that you have PTSD like it was something that makes people unable to work.
Why are you being "honest" about your PTSD if you clearly see that it completely holds you back from getting a better paying job? Have common sense. Of course no one wants to hire someone who keeps talking about his severe depression and PTSD. A lot of people are going through extremely stressful periods in life, you are not the only one, trust me.
Face the facts. Your dad has been illegaly in the United States for 15 years and went to jail for 4 years for a serious crime (domestic violence). I'm sure that you don't like all the answers you get on this forum. But you also have to understand that the vast majority of us came here AND stay here legally (investing thousands of dollars, time, effort, tears). Don't expect sympathy from everyone.
1. You KNOW you can't get a good paying job if you mention your mental disorder in your applications, yet you STILL do it. Your answer: "You don't want it to effect you in the future". How would it effect you seriously?
2. You KNOW you have PTSD yet you don't want to get it treated with medications. Your answer: Because you don't believe in medications.
DECIDE what you want. Be a victim and feel sorry for yourself OR get yourself together and face challenges in life like an adult. The choice is yours.
Get your PTSD treated. Get loans. Go to college. Follow your passion (I'm sure you have some talents). Take your life into your hands. Make something out of yourself. All you can do now is to support your mom financially, mentally, physically and emotionally. You can get through this - but you have to want it.
Good luck to you!

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

Your story keeps changing. Now you say you have a job? People told you to get one because all you talked about is what your mother earns a year and you kept repeating that you have PTSD like it was something that makes people unable to work.
Why are you being "honest" about your PTSD if you clearly see that it completely holds you back from getting a better paying job? Have common sense. Of course no one wants to hire someone who keeps talking about his severe depression and PTSD. A lot of people are going through extremely stressful periods in life, you are not the only one, trust me.
Face the facts. Your dad has been illegaly in the United States for 15 years and went to jail for 4 years for a serious crime (domestic violence). I'm sure that you don't like all the answers you get on this forum. But you also have to understand that the vast majority of us came here AND stay here legally (investing thousands of dollars, time, effort, tears). Don't expect sympathy from everyone.
1. You KNOW you can't get a good paying job if you mention your mental disorder in your applications, yet you STILL do it. Your answer: "You don't want it to effect you in the future". How would it effect you seriously?
2. You KNOW you have PTSD yet you don't want to get it treated with medications. Your answer: Because you don't believe in medications.
DECIDE what you want. Be a victim and feel sorry for yourself OR get yourself together and face challenges in life like an adult. The choice is yours.
Get your PTSD treated. Get loans. Go to college. Follow your passion (I'm sure you have some talents). Take your life into your hands. Make something out of yourself. All you can do now is to support your mom financially, mentally, physically and emotionally. You can get through this - but you have to want it.
Good luck to you!

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

Your story keeps changing. Now you say you have a job? People told you to get one because all you talked about is what your mother earns a year and you kept repeating that you have PTSD like it was something that makes people unable to work.
Why are you being "honest" about your PTSD if you clearly see that it completely holds you back from getting a better paying job? Have common sense. Of course no one wants to hire someone who keeps talking about his severe depression and PTSD. A lot of people are going through extremely stressful periods in life, you are not the only one, trust me.
Face the facts. Your dad has been illegaly in the United States for 15 years and went to jail for 4 years for a serious crime (domestic violence). I'm sure that you don't like all the answers you get on this forum. But you also have to understand that the vast majority of us came here AND stay here legally (investing thousands of dollars, time, effort, tears). Don't expect sympathy from everyone.
1. You KNOW you can't get a good paying job if you mention your mental disorder in your applications, yet you STILL do it. Your answer: "You don't want it to effect you in the future". How would it effect you seriously?
2. You KNOW you have PTSD yet you don't want to get it treated with medications. Your answer: Because you don't believe in medications.
DECIDE what you want. Be a victim and feel sorry for yourself OR get yourself together and face challenges in life like an adult. The choice is yours.
Get your PTSD treated. Get loans. Go to college. Follow your passion (I'm sure you have some talents). Take your life into your hands. Make something out of yourself. All you can do now is to support your mom financially, mentally, physically and emotionally. You can get through this - but you have to want it.
Good luck to you!

No one said all cops are saints. But it would be strange to have someone sentenced to 1+ years to do something that didn't have any solid basis in court. If she changed her story and showed no signs of abuse, they couldn't just throw him in for false DV charges. That's why everyone thinks there must be more to the story.

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

Your story keeps changing. Now you say you have a job? People told you to get one because all you talked about is what your mother earns a year and you kept repeating that you have PTSD like it was something that makes people unable to work.
Why are you being "honest" about your PTSD if you clearly see that it completely holds you back from getting a better paying job? Have common sense. Of course no one wants to hire someone who keeps talking about his severe depression and PTSD. A lot of people are going through extremely stressful periods in life, you are not the only one, trust me.
Face the facts. Your dad has been illegaly in the United States for 15 years and went to jail for 4 years for a serious crime (domestic violence). I'm sure that you don't like all the answers you get on this forum. But you also have to understand that the vast majority of us came here AND stay here legally (investing thousands of dollars, time, effort, tears). Don't expect sympathy from everyone.
1. You KNOW you can't get a good paying job if you mention your mental disorder in your applications, yet you STILL do it. Your answer: "You don't want it to effect you in the future". How would it effect you seriously?
2. You KNOW you have PTSD yet you don't want to get it treated with medications. Your answer: Because you don't believe in medications.
DECIDE what you want. Be a victim and feel sorry for yourself OR get yourself together and face challenges in life like an adult. The choice is yours.
Get your PTSD treated. Get loans. Go to college. Follow your passion (I'm sure you have some talents). Take your life into your hands. Make something out of yourself. All you can do now is to support your mom financially, mentally, physically and emotionally. You can get through this - but you have to want it.
Good luck to you!

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.

Don't be arrogant. That gets you nowhere on this site and in the world, period.
You, my friend, started this thread, shared your story (which has strange parts to say the least - 4 years jail for hair pulling), you asked for advice.
I do you a favor and make this my last reply. You tell us not to talk about your dad and not you. But you and your mom's situation has a LOT to do with your dad' chances of staying. So talking about your PTSD and depression is not off topic as you think. To get your dad back, you and your mom have to prove that without your dad you two would go through extreme hardship. Not to us, but to people in the legal system, who are more skeptical and brutal than us. But that won't work. You are an adult. PTSD and depression is not an excuse. Your mom's emotional distress and health problems are not an excuse either. You have to get yourself together and support your mom.