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Ok, so I talked to her more and I believe the fraud part was a misunderstanding, so if I could I would change the title of this topic if I could. The one person was certainly right when he said Filipinas can sometimes say the complete opposite of what they mean. I certainly felt scared and unsure what to do when I made this thread. I'm sure that fear and past pains have also driven so many to reply. I don't wish to put any of our other private details on here. I kind of regret making the thread, but my initial fear was valid. I've gotten some good advice from the replies, so I hope it helps someone else in a similar situation. I do not wish anything bad to happen to her. I still love her. I will take my comments offline now.

Be sure that you correctly understand what she is saying. Filipino English can be so quirky, that I have heard some Filipinos literally say the opposite of what they meant to say. Seriously. (Not my wife, but other people I have encountered over the years.)

If you are sure this is really the case, though - cut and run, as quickly as possible.

What doesn't add up: if she was clever enough to deceive you this far, why in the world would she cop to it at this point?

I can relate to what you are saying. To her credit she did later say that she did not say that, but that it would "be nice" to do that. However, that doesn't explain away her telling me that she has been recording me and doing research on what she needs to do. Nor the 911 call she made earlier when she threatened me. We were not in a heated argument nor anything when she did it. She was laughing at me and said "Let's see." Her options to me was to file the AOS or she will call the police.

I told her that I love her and that the only thing I've wanted was to make our relationship work, but now that I don't trust her because of what she has said and done. Instead of talking about things she packed her bags and left the apartment. I told her while she was packing that I'm not asking her to leave and that I will sleep in the other room and not antagonize her. She left her phone and I asked her to take it and that I'm not asking her to leave her phone. She left it.

Well, I'm not trying to air dirty laundry here. It's no secret we have had communication issues. I've stressed the importance of her telling me her feelings and not bottling them up. She says no to every attempt at counseling. I honestly don't know what to do or how to handle this. I recently came from a real bad relationship and I can tell you that these misunderstandings are so small and not warranting the reactions I am getting. I'm willing to work anything out. I just want to be happy and have a good marriage is all.

I never thought I would be typing this message, but here I am. I married my wife on 11/7 on a K1 visa. Today she revealed to me that the only reason she wants to be with me was to get a visa to bring her family here. We haven't filed AOS yet. What should I do?

Yep, unfortunately those getting approved without interview are waiting longer than those that get interviewed. Some have waited 12+ month and have needed to renew their EAD and AP. It is still free to get a renewal, just send in a copy of your receipt notice from filing the I-485 along with your I-765 and I-131 forms.

This is really good information. I'm filing AOS soon and have learned through these forums that the EAD, which is supposed to be temporary, is now almost serving in place of the 2 year green card because they are being so slow in issuing it.

You mean to tell me that you chose a woman based on a moral standard which is Catholic, and then married her and forced your religion on her? And now you continue to pray to a God you don't believe in for things that the bible says he won't grant anyway and use that as your proof he doesn't exist? Did you ever consider that maybe it's not God doing the bad things in the world, but us?

Much of what people said on this forum was completely untrue for us.

For example, the claim that the "real work" begins when you are finally together after all the horrendous paperwork. Totally untrue for us. It was not only an enormous relief to be together, but mostly for us it was just nonstop love-making.

All the claims about life being so hard to adjust to with completely different cultures, fifty below zero here and no snow in the history of the Philippines... Totally untrue. It was an exciting adventure for both of us. Thrilling. To us, these were things to look forward to. Not things to cause strife.

The necessity of getting together with people from her own country - not true. It was years in fact before we spent any time at all with another Filipina/Americano couple. Dave & Roxy from this forum. Then they moved. We have had a total of ONE visit in the seven years we've been together besides that couple.

Same thing for me in the Philippines. I have no interest in meeting other Americanos. I have no interest in finding American food. I am mystified that people can't relish the culture they are marrying into. In fact, I specifically CHOSE a woman from a culture that prized the same things I wanted in a relationship and family. It is quite true that when I met her she was from the most densely populated city on earth and I was from nearly the least populated place on earth. People seemed to find all kinds of reasons why were weren't compatible like that. Age difference. Education. Environment, language, etc. They didn't seem to grasp we were both perfectly capable of determining compatibility of temperament, interests, goals, etc. and that they were just looking to manufacture reasons to frame us as incompatible.

The times we have had any strife can be counted on one hand. She lost her mind when she got pregnant the first time. lol. That's how we knew she was pregnant. So we did the test and sure enough - raging hormones from pregnancy. That's the only time in seven years that I told her she was out of line and the behavior unacceptable - she was off her rocker. The moment I said that it dawned on me she must be pregnant.

We don't believe in God, and in the beginning she was nominally Catholic while I was an atheist to the core. Had she been a fervent believer I would not have been interested in her. She had innate intelligence and an appreciation for science. So over time we've grown to have a lot of fun praying to God asking for super powers, a billion dollars, or whatever and the kids know that God does absolutely nothing for us. Plus he is a jerk for all the suffering he allows if he actually did exist. So sure, religion can be a uniting bond for some people and the lack of superstitions of any kind a bond for others.

So count us as an example where no - there isn't any strife to speak of and it is the best time of our lives for both of us. Hard to believe how good it is.

News is saying that Manila is shutting down due to the rain. I just called the Bayview Hotel across the street from the embassy and they are there working and all is ok. The rain is supposed to end tomorrow, so hopefully no interviews are impacted.

 

One way from Philippines? Did you buy it directly from them?

Yea I called delta's international customer support and they sold it. They hooked me up with some good seats, too.

Thanks for this thread. I bought a ticket from Delta and they didn't collect the tax. I called them and they didn't seem to know about it. It seems from comments in this thread that I can pay it at the airport if needed.

Congrats!

I know other "non-radicalized" Islamists here in the states and this has never been part of their practice. I agree with the previous comment about getting married and going for a spousal visa. There are long waits for K1 visas and you could potentially wait a long time to get a denial. It's not worth the risk.

For all who are judging me thank you for taking time to read and leaving comment. You can say whatever u want but pls dont judge me coz u dont know my story. My husband knows everything.. Its gonna hurt everybody thats why i have to think million times before making decisions.. Thank you again.gotta go back to work..God bless everyone

I'm sure your million times thinking is more along the lines of "how can I frame this in my mind so I don't have to feel bad about myself?" Instead of "am I really doing the right thing?" All of my original suspicions have been confirmed.

I'm sorry, but I'm going to call this for what it is. This is fraud and deceit. I'm happy that immigration will look at people like this with high suspicion. The fact that she is having to cover all of her actions up with things like "I married him for the right reasons" and "I want to divorce him after I get citizenship for the kids" shows me a pattern of black & white thinking that is a red flag for a cluster B type personality. If the OP really operated under the model of right reason she would fly her kids home to see their dad or try to get him here on a tourist visa instead of committing fraud.

Thanks for posting the email reply from SLEC, Hank. However, in the Philippines it does not matter what is right and wrong if you want less resistance. What matters is what the guards and people on the floor ask for. Yes, if the personnel on the floor ask for both instead of only one, you could try to argue, but what is the cost? Remember, the one doing the arguing is the passive filipina. What it will end up costing you to argue is another wasted day and trip. In my case 3500php transport cost and 6 hours of traffic commute. But you are right, it SHOULD be either OR! But it doesn't matter what it should be when they turn her away on the floor! It's cheaper and easier to be prepared for both.

The Philippines is also the country where the guards won't let you in the airport until 3 hours before your flight, but they deny this policy when asked officially. Another example of policy vs enforcement.

All you need is the appointment letter.

Why argue with me about this? I'm simply stating the fact of what they told her at the hospital.

My fiancee had her appointment letter, but they were still going to deny her entry because of no NVC letter. This is the Philippines (it's more fun). It's best to be prepared for anything.

Just wanted to let others know. My fiancee recently finished her medical at St Lukes. They were going to turn her away because she didn't have the letter with the MNL case # on it even though she said she got it over the phone. I sent her there with 3 printed screenshots of the CEAC tracker and they let her in with that. The CEAC tracker doesn't provide names, but I guess it looked official enough

https://ceac.state.gov/CEACStatTracker/Status.aspx

Wow what a nightmare and finally over. Congratulations. If anyone deserves a beer, you do.

Assuming no criminal background, no tuberculosis complications, they have their passport ready to go and it will not expire soon, and other problems do not exist it can move pretty quick. Nothing is ever certain with immigration timelines. Definitely have your fiancee check their passport expiration date. If it expires in less than 1 year you may want to consider having them get a new one asap. It can take a long time in the Phils to get that. I would say 6-9 months is a good estimation. You can do less if you are lucky and are prepared.

I mailed my letter today and attached a nice respectful personal note to it.

Donald.W.Neufeld@uscis.dhs.gov

David.Garner@uscis.dhs.gov

I will also send a hard copy if I don't receive a response.

TSC vs CSC Disparity.doc

Somebody mailed Donald Neufeld on another topic and his reply was this: I'm quoting from his post:

Dear Sir,

I assure you there is no malfeasance behind the processing time differences at our Service Centers. However, information on how to report USCIS misconduct is available here.

Our goal is to provide consistent processing times across all our facilities. However, in processing over 4 million cases annually at all four centers there are numerous factors that can impact our ability to deliver on that goal. Unfortunately, the Texas Service Center (TSC) has developed a small backlog in handling I-129F fiancé petitions. We are aware of this and are working diligently to address the delay. If the petition filed on your behalf has been pending longer than the posted TSC processing time, the petitioner may submit an e-request. Information on e-requests and other case status information is available here.

Sincerely,

Donald Neufeld

I'll get the letter in the mail tomorrow. I'd prefer to mail it because I feel like email is too easily ignored. This guy's response shows that he's not even looking at the statistics they are posting themselves. If he's going to be the director of the service centers, at least he should "direct" them. I just don't understand why so many who get government positions turn out to be so uncaring or ignorant of reality.

Hi everyone. NOA1 of 6/25 here. I was pretty disappointed to get ours sent to TSC, but I'm hoping for the best. I'll be going to visit my fiance every 3 months so hopefully the wait won't feel too bad.

I downloaded all of Igor's list on 7/11 and did some checking on the numbers. The number of outstanding applications that age from 3.5 months to 7.8 months is 401 which represents 23% of the total population of all filings submitted in the last 8 months.

Also, the same data shows 48% of applications being NOA2 within 5 months and 44% within 3.5 months.

Read those numbers how you will. I don't have any data yet that shows countries. I'll post any further stuff whenever I get around to looking again and making better stats. A backlog of 23% doesn't make me feel as nervous.