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Hello there, it happened to me as well. I lived in India, they request me to produce Indian police clearance but unfortunately Indian police clearance doesn't show any title that it's a police clearance. So sometimes NVC doesn't recognize it.  My file was with NVC in 2014 and for each checklist could cause you 60 days of delay. I am not sure now how long does it take. Basically when you call in NVC ask the operator that you would like to speak to supervisor and explain those things to supervisor. Good  luck.

45 minutes ago, Bostorican said:

Ok i agree but a negotiation between does not start with "if you take the job I will Divorce you"  isnt that like an unwarranted escalation of negotiations

That's what my point was. Thanks for clearing it. It doesn't matter it is America or Russia, negotiation is the worst if it is between couples. He did tried to explain her and put his thoughts. I am not giving damn about who makes what, neither I am sexiest. But it seems that he is being responsible enough and he wish his growth along with family. He wouldn't be here for our advice if he would be selfish. He could have just moved forward with the job. That's the irrelevant stress. 

Take up the job. I known somebody call me rude or heartless person. If you are the one who provides majority of income in your house, then you do not need to listen to her decisions. Take your own decisions. You worked so hard to reach to this position where your bosses care about you. She is trying to manupulate you. She will agrees to it. In other way you are doing something good for your family as well. If you have more fund then you can support your family in a better way. She has to understand and need to be supportive. She should be happy about your such progress and not be selfish and one directional and controling. 

 

Sorry to say, I am not generalizing but women who knows how to manipulate their husband they have best weapon and they will freak you out to death by saying "I will divorce you".  Sorry but that's not sign of healthy relationship where you loose your respect. Try to talk to her again and if something happens in future you know whose fault is it. You are trying to do good for everyone. Good luck bro... 

 

 

With my initial joint petition I sent in the following as instructed by my lawyer:

1) 3 Joint apartment leases since receiving conditional GC in 9/14

2) Some pictures collected over the last two year span

3) 2014 + 2015 joint tax return

4) 1 Joint bank statements for the duration of the past two years

5) 2 affidavits from my boss and a friend

6) Joint home insurance 2014 + 2015

7) Joint utility bill for the past two years

8) The rest were basic documents such as copies of our SS card, ID, passport

I could have sent in couple more supporting documents but I never guessed we would be getting a divorce so that is all I provided. The more the merrier.

Sorry for your situation, your list of evidence you have provided seems to be okay. I hope things work for you. To come out of your anxiety, make some new friends, start doing new things, see what fits your better, it helps a lot. Sometimes a life takes sudden change which no one has control on, just take it easy, it will be fine with the time; time heals everything. Good Luck

I'm sorry that this happened to you. If I were in your shoes, I'd do research about how men treat women in his home country and about their rights. Sure, there will be some things that say women are treated well but you should also find things that validate the things he said to you. If you know others (not related to him) from there, talk to them as well. If you get a better understanding of the cultural norms you'll be less likely to believe that he will change. It will also help you realize that there's nothing you could have done to change the way he treated you. And go see a counselor. You deserve better and you need someone who will affirm your value. Also get a divorce and put some legal space between the two of you.

I am sorry for your marriage. You are not alone with whome this happened. It's seems to me he might have some psychological issues, that's why he is like this. Never be with abuser that's what I learned from my previous marriage. We love them but they will treat you like a trash. Believe me this type of relationship will not be of worth. It takes time but you will get over it. Make yourself strong to leave him and fight with your emotions. He will cry and beg but he will never change. If he would have been nice he wouldn't have done this to you. Best is divorce and move on. Find the way to make yourself happy. Love yourself enough that you don't have to depands on other for love.

No need of any lawyer.

Hi guys,

My wife and stepson had their interview July 5th and the officer issued a 221G asking us to correct my stepson's DS-260 to match the birth cert or obtain a new birth cert to match the DS-260. We had listed his biological father on the DS-260 even though he is not listed on the birth cert. We corrected the DS-260 to match the birth cert and resubmitted. I got an email August 2nd stating that we have to list the biological father on the DS-260 even if he's not on the birth cert(which is what I did originally) and then resubmit the DS-260. They received the new DS-260 August 5th and I haven't heard anything from them since. The only time the date on CEAC changes is when I email them or when my lawyer emails them. We get the same answer of "your case is currently under review." My lawyer asked the Senator's office to email the embassy and they got the same response.

From what I've read it doesn't seem like there's anything anybody can do but just wait. It doesn't seem like a DS-260 correction should take this long. Please share any experiences/advice or any ideas that you have of what may be happening behind the scene, maybe they're actually doing a security check or something. Thanks.

In this case, I would suggest to call NVC and request to speak to supervisor or tier 2. Give the case number and try to explain what exactly you did previously and when you resend it. In similar way. They goof up lots of things most of time. I had submitted Police clearance certificate and they didn't recognize it and gave me ref but then I spoke to supervisor and explain the things they change the status within 2 hours.

RFe said correct page 4 of i864 and return ?

do i have to redo all the i864 form ???

Yes you have to redo it. During my process my attorney made mistake 2 times and that wasted 6 months. So read it what your ref says. More than 90% delay during NVC stage is caused due to error in I-864. It is not that complicated. Please read carefully before correcting it. If you still have confusion call NVC and they will let you know where specific error is. They won't tell you how to correct it though.

My wife of 3 short years has left me along with her daughter. Divorce is filed. She is after me to provide health insurance for her daughter. Let me say this again...she left me. I never wanted this.

Short question: What, if any, are my obligations to provide health care to either one of them?

Thank you

According to my guess, If that is mentioned in your final decrees then you have to. If it is not and as a good will you would like to otherwise no.

My wife of 3 short years has left me along with her daughter. Divorce is filed. She is after me to provide health insurance for her daughter. Let me say this again...she left me. I never wanted this.

Short question: What, if any, are my obligations to provide health care to either one of them?

Thank you

According to my guess, If that is mentioned in your final decrees, then you have to. If it is not and as a good will you would like to; otherwise no.

That would be a no.

Thanks Bolier appreciated. Since, I am divorced now lots of questions comes to my mind. I am frequent traveller. I always have business trips lined up. Last month I got back from Singapore and Tiwan and now in couples of week I am flying to Canada and following that Costa Rica. Most of the time boarder officer asks me is when did you leave country and where we're you in this period? Where do you work and as what? No body asks me for anything else yet. Like my spouse or anything but now that I am divorced is there any possibility of me being bombarded withe questions or I am being paranoid, considering my ugly situation and awful married life??

Appreciate any answer and would like to stay prepared for the worst in life.

I would like to ask an important question which is my instinct as well. My ex is going to marry this guy who is an immigrant as well, so if he has immigration interview and he is been asked about my ex's previous marriage( which was with me), they will make some ridiculous story. Does anyone here think I could take some action to save my image at USCIS. I do have emails and messages from my wife which clearly shows her behaviour towards me.

I'm currently married since 10/2014 to a U.S citizen(female) and I'm a conditional GC holder effective 11/2015. My wife and I been having marriage issues that are increasing intensely lately from her putting her hands on me and her having episodes of anger, cussing me in front of my step daughter and neighbors. I initiated marriage therapy for us because of her trust issues and hostile behavior, and the counselor suggested to offer us individual sessions with domestic violence specialist. So far we only been to two counseling sessions. However, yesterday she took the anger to a higher level as I walked out the house to stay away from her until she calms down. She began screaming so loud that the neighbors came out to see what is wrong. She always becomes angry if I wanted to visit a friend or go to the gym and accuses me of cheating, so I began staying home where she monitors me. I'm concerned she or the neighbors would call the cops and I'd get in trouble just for the fact I'm a male. I am also concerned about my status in the U.S. I've established a life here, Family, job, and etc. I'm from the republic of Yemen and currently there is civil war and also ISIS is growing there.

If he abuse you make a police report. Sadly,some of the US spouse thinks they are bringingredients slaves not spouse.

If you have Police report you can file vawa to remove condition from GC. It will work as a proof. For safety don't stay with her. It is too dangerous. It happens to many, so don't be surprised that you are one . Don't be a victim of her anger.

You ARE strong, and worthy of as much respect as anyone on this site.

Thanks for returning with the (yes) positive update.

Keep us informed -- we care.

Thanks TXBone for all your kind words.

Thanks to all of my Vj friends who helped me in toughest time of my life. I hope I as well no one in the world see days I have been in.

Thanks a lot to Tx bone, Damara, Darnell and all other again.

I am divorced today. I received email from my ex and she broke the news. She tried to convince me to come back but I was extremely afraid of this marriage and going back with her. She is just not stable with her life and decisions. I feel very lost and this is not what I expected from my life, but God knows what will be the next.

Mentally I kept myself to stay very strong to stay strong in this difficult situation.

For friends who wanted to know how I am doing. I am doing good. I am doing progress in my life ( apart from my marriage).

it's not about nurse sir ,

it's all about taking care of every thing .

my wife does every thing in home as my mum in low can't speak english very well and she takes care of all home details

my wife works and i don't ask for financial support from her as i am working and it's all about my family so i pay our bills and rent which all goes to her mum

i tired every thing but when it comes to her mum life stops

she asked for divorce several times just saying or to tell her mum i am in your side .

i am sure one day it will not be just saying and it will be an action however i have more than enough to accept such a decision . our life turned into fights as feelings and love disappeared and problems remained and i could not handle it .

i tried to make things work but her mum keeps insulting me like she is enjoying doing so .

i just don't wanna lose my kids and the same time i can't live such a life . the last time i was at my doctor he told me that i am living in a deep depression and i need to talk . and this is the first time i talk to some one and only to take advise

i am losing my health every single day . i did not eat 3 days ago except morning coffee and bagle to survive .. i meant it when i told you i am dying ....

I am sorry to know your situation. I am not the expert but I do have experience from the past. Yes it is painful when we dreamed a life with someone and see it is falling apart. I do understand that your kid is also your main concern; but lets talk rationally, if you marry someone then that person has to give you importance, respect and put you on priority. To save this marriage your wife must feel the same as you are feeling. Ask her if you can go to conselling with her or your friend or her friend can explain and shade some light on this.

The reason you are depress is because of the situation you are in. For your piece of mind you can't live there and dont even try to live in such atmosphere. She has to choose to live in different roof with you, probably somewhere close to her mom but not under one roof.

I hope things get better for you and your wife understand the things.

I have asked her several times to read about the experiences of other people who have gone through the various processes on this website but according to her this website is bull****.I shouldn't pay attention to this website and everything is going to be alright.She says I worry way too much about things.My point is what will I do after 2 years when USICS will deny the petition because of lack of evidences of a bonafide marriage?

Culturally things are different. Yes you would feel that no you already learnt western calture but that is not true there is a lot into it. Yes one good advice is that just don't expect anything from her. You need to figure out most of the things. Truth, some couple help each other and other spouse has respect for the immigtant spouse's situation and she provided reason for everything she dined to help you for. If you feel it is fustrating to you then you must talk to her. Fustration in relationship are good enough for seperate ways for both of you. She might be loving you as well but she just don't want to help you anymore. That's it. If it is not acceptable then you need to think what you need to do. See things will not change drastically and then you will be going to post same things about her and would always seek for the advice and people will be advicing nemerous thing.

Good luck man...

Do not list yourself as a victim unless you wants to be one. She tries to take advantage of you. It is very clear. Don't let her do that.

If I would be you, I would write down a letter and tell USCIS that after understanding true procedure, spouse tried to manipulate you, so that she can get signature on form, her intention was only to work on visa and not on your marriage.

Here I can also understand that she might get approval but by telling USCIS you might atleast cover yourself and you need to remember you signed I864 to get this person in US.

I am not sure thought if you can do that. It is the best think that I thought in your specific case. I hope senior VJ comment on same, if you can proceed with this or not ( in case you want to do it); because sooner or later she is going to leave you. I am very sorry for your situation.

People already have advised you here and everyone is trying to explain you same thing, that is, it is better explain yourself. See the future with someone who is very confused after saying " I love you". Ask yourself "does he really know the meaning". I have answer no, he knows how it would feel you and there isn't necessary to say "thank you" after every meal. His he doing favor when he takes you for lunch or dinner. When he say " I love you" tell him "thank you". Say Don't be surprise, it is favor right. I am returning.

I am sorry but, at the end it will be your decision. I hope for your best and wish you best of luck.

I need to break it down now..firstly my wife is older than me.I'm 30 she's 54 years old..and she can't conceive again cos she's over menupause..and no one on earth Wil ever believe 54 years old woman abuse me..and even if I Wil report her no strong evidence..and to God who made me I entered the marriage on good faith..don't know what to do now and she doesn't want me to go back home

FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO HELP YOURSELF.

Now other things regarding your visa thing you already got suggestion about VAWA as one of our moderator suggested. When you go for interview they give pamphlet to read which clearly mention do not tolerate any kind of abuse and has helpline in it. We do not know where exactly you are. Goggle local helpline for domestic violence; you will find some which is close to you. If you have mark as proof to show to cops when they shows up; good for you ( in case you want to report).

Stay calm you can't do anything about ages. If she is abusive she will be abusive you can't change it. Good luck.

Not sure what the objective is, you can leave anytime.

He is running two different threads. In first he mentioned that he has been here 78 days. Here I am making an assumption, since he is being in middle of AOS process and do not wan to loose his visa status and despite of being abused he is accepting to stay with her. So basically he need kind of assurance that if he leave he won't loose his visa status;for which in his first post one of our moderator suggested him to look VAWA 7. Hope he look into it.

How are we not a real couple? Life happened all at once for her and she had her priorities. Her father was in and out of the hospital and within months he passed. It was a trying time for her and I did not wish to bother. I tried to comfort her but I felt like i was burdening her more than helping.

Perhaps that's where I went wrong? Not knowing how to comfort her.

You tried. You shouldn't blame yourself. Failure of marriage wasn't your mistake. She never was honest with you. Anyways; do as people suggested you. Vj sandrjan raised important point think about it; here people trying to help you. Everyone is friend here.

Thank you for answering. I think I didn't explain right, if we decide to relocate, we will only relocate after I acquire citizenship, not before. But my concerns are, whether it is ethical to apply for citizenship given that we have a possible intent of relocating in the future and, if asked at the time of citizenship interview why so many (6) trips to my home country, that it's ok to state the truth that my husband is thinking about taking over family business in home country. Thank you

It is good to tell the truth but citizenship or permanent residency is granted who would like to live in the country not to whom who already willing relocate. So many trips to one place if it is home country; it is understandable. Some people like to visit their relative often some don't. I do in amd out quite often at least every 3 to 4 months. Some people just like to travel so you know...

How long after case complete

Wait to get interview...for bangladesh.i m wating since last 3 months.if some one knw plz help me.

When you log on to your computer there is way to find out data country wise (click on immigration time line). But also one of the best way to call NVC and give them detail of your case; they will let you know what is going on. Good luck with your interview.

in the divorce decree, there should be wording as to who files what under what status.

if the divorce is not finalized and there are no instructions about tax filing in the temporary orders or the petition,

then it's going to be 'common courtesy' event, where you choose or the two of you choose which filing status. You don't want to trip each other up - ie - one of you files married filing separately and the other files married filing jointly.

Thanks Darnell, I will talk to her parents. Usually they file taxes for her. Of course; I will choose to file in the option given as "married but filling separately" but in that too; they have a box which as for "SPOUSE SSN" . Should I leave it blank. That's what I want.

Hello Guys,

Question about 1040,

I am going to file the taxes and I was going through 1040.

what should I mention in 1040 in filing status? I guess married but filling separately right ? but then it asks for Spouse's SSN number.

In short what should I do where it ask for spouse's information.