Fandango

This is precisely why I think the constitutional right to automatic citizenship should be amended.
Op, I have to say I am pretty disgusted that you did so without the proper insurance to cover your own medical needs. It is not the Us taxpayers' responsibility to pay for the birth of your son. It is not your right to 'take medicaid for your son'. whether you are the man or woman is irrelevant...either you yourself were pregnant, or your spouse was. Obviously from the dates, you did not impregnate someone on American soil....so there was a clear and definite motive showing. Shame on you.
Eta: I am not trying to be awful here, but I think what you've tried to do is clear, and as a Us taxpayer, I am offended that you've taken such liberties that were not owed to you, when the USA is already struggling enough as it is.

This is precisely why I think the constitutional right to automatic citizenship should be amended.
Op, I have to say I am pretty disgusted that you did so without the proper insurance to cover your own medical needs. It is not the Us taxpayers' responsibility to pay for the birth of your son. It is not your right to 'take medicaid for your son'. whether you are the man or woman is irrelevant...either you yourself were pregnant, or your spouse was. Obviously from the dates, you did not impregnate someone on American soil....so there was a clear and definite motive showing. Shame on you.
Eta: I am not trying to be awful here, but I think what you've tried to do is clear, and as a Us taxpayer, I am offended that you've taken such liberties that were not owed to you, when the USA is already struggling enough as it is.

I never asked why you marry 'RUB women'. I presume you married Alla (ONE woman) for a myriad of reasons. Which you actually don't need to explain, but you won't understand that.
But seriously...how dirty is your house, how much laundry do you have, how much could you possibly eat, that your wife is so busy 'tending your needs' that she can't 'waste time online'?
Alla is not the first woman to run a household. We all do it. But for her to be so busy that she literally has *no time* is a bit sad. Perhaps you should make less of a mess or eat less. I dunno.

Out of curiosity, and I'm being entirely sincere here...if your wives are too busy sexin to VJ, how are you not as equally busy?

Why waste time with them when that would detract from time spent with Alla and her shiny, glistening Volvo?

Technically speaking, this is a venue issue, not jurisdiction.
If a person develops residency in another state/territory, that court will most certainly have jurisdiction to rule over such matters. The question is whether the venue is proper.
Many or all states define what venue is proper and what is not. For instance, in FL one may bring legal action against another in either the county where the respondent lives, or (in cases of divorce) the county where the marital home was. That is not to say that if action was filed in another county, that county wouldn't have jurisdiction to hear the case....it would. If respondent makes a motion claiming improper venue, it most certainly would be considered improper. But if respondent doesn't, that other county *would* have jurisdiction.
If respondent participates in said action before claiming improper venue, then it is believe the action of participating waves the right to contest venue.
*anecdotal story, I am not giving legal advice.

This is precisely why I think the constitutional right to automatic citizenship should be amended.
Op, I have to say I am pretty disgusted that you did so without the proper insurance to cover your own medical needs. It is not the Us taxpayers' responsibility to pay for the birth of your son. It is not your right to 'take medicaid for your son'. whether you are the man or woman is irrelevant...either you yourself were pregnant, or your spouse was. Obviously from the dates, you did not impregnate someone on American soil....so there was a clear and definite motive showing. Shame on you.
Eta: I am not trying to be awful here, but I think what you've tried to do is clear, and as a Us taxpayer, I am offended that you've taken such liberties that were not owed to you, when the USA is already struggling enough as it is.

As a general comment, religion should be a very personal and serious choice one makes with his/her God. It should never be about choosing a religion for your SO. It should never be about doing it for someone else...it's not like getting a new haircut to entice your husband.
I am sorry that this happened to you, my heart goes out to you. I would probably have never commented had your topic been as you stated in your OP 'this is not universal but this is my truth'...yet the posts are filled with multiple generalizations and just look at the title you chose. This is not the first time a topic like this has been on here, and I would suggest you think back to the you of yesterday, and imagine how receptive you would have been to reading something like this. It seems like your intentions are innocent...you're just trying to 'warn' people...but at the end of the day, it's NOT a universal truth of MENA. You're not Martin Bashir with some groundbreaking expose that's gonna blow US/MENA marriages 'wide open'.
I think if you want to help women, a universal truth definitely is that if a man physically abuses you, you should not marry him. There is no excuse for that, but that is not exclusive to MENA men. Or even if you want to focus on never losing yourself in a man, no matter what the nationality....by blindly adopting his views, by excusing reprehensible behavior with thoughts like 'oh it's cultural'. Many women have lost themselves to some degree to men, and there are many horror stories out there...and guess what? Not all those men are of MENA origin.
I wish you well.

It's okay, everyone. My husband watched a Star Trek movie on TV. Nobody died.

Factoid: Leonard Nimoy is Ukrainian-American.

Don't forget Sergey. He's going to Rice now, and LSU sucks.

Gary, I think the reason people do that to you more than anybody else is the fact that you are willing and eager to type paragraphs upon paragraphs about totally inane and meaningless details of your life that rarely have anything to do with what you're responding to.
Other than watching a Star Trek movie on TV, the majority of people here know nothing about my husband or our marriage. Because I choose to keep it that way.
On the other hand, I think I have Alla's entire educational background memorized due to how many times it pops up.
That's the difference between you and I.

Ok pal relax a bit. Remember this is my thread you're crapping on. It takes me a half day at work to make the money I spent on the service, and it was well worth it not having to comb through websites to get the answers I needed. I'm glad you consider an RFE to be a learning experience. I think it's a waste of time.
I have a 136 IQ and I can take care of myself and my wife-to-be just fine.
Don't worry about us. Go on "helping" the others if you think they need it. Just consider my advice: Leave the condescending attitude out of it.
I'm 41 and I've been around the block a few times. I own a small business and a home etc etc. Your lack of respect for me is typical of website junkies that don't know the people whom they constantly disrespect and make assumptions about. Maybe get off my thread and go spend some time with your family??

lol @ the royal #######

Are you new to the Internet?

As a general comment, religion should be a very personal and serious choice one makes with his/her God. It should never be about choosing a religion for your SO. It should never be about doing it for someone else...it's not like getting a new haircut to entice your husband.
I am sorry that this happened to you, my heart goes out to you. I would probably have never commented had your topic been as you stated in your OP 'this is not universal but this is my truth'...yet the posts are filled with multiple generalizations and just look at the title you chose. This is not the first time a topic like this has been on here, and I would suggest you think back to the you of yesterday, and imagine how receptive you would have been to reading something like this. It seems like your intentions are innocent...you're just trying to 'warn' people...but at the end of the day, it's NOT a universal truth of MENA. You're not Martin Bashir with some groundbreaking expose that's gonna blow US/MENA marriages 'wide open'.
I think if you want to help women, a universal truth definitely is that if a man physically abuses you, you should not marry him. There is no excuse for that, but that is not exclusive to MENA men. Or even if you want to focus on never losing yourself in a man, no matter what the nationality....by blindly adopting his views, by excusing reprehensible behavior with thoughts like 'oh it's cultural'. Many women have lost themselves to some degree to men, and there are many horror stories out there...and guess what? Not all those men are of MENA origin.
I wish you well.

You don't know why people are 'attacking' you (they're really not) because THEY DON'T KNOW YOU...yet, you tar most of their husbands (men whom you don't know) with the same brush as your own. Yeah yeah, you're not talking about 'all', but then you'll talk about 'men from the region' 'most MENA men' blah blah blah.
If you can understand how maligned you feel, think of how what you say comes across about their husbands, and by extension, them. 'Most' MENA men (according to your posts) are scamming abusive bastards who prey on insecure women, who mostly are fat and old. You, naturally, are the exception, because you're not fat, ugly or old, therefore you really don't understand why he was a #######, so of course, it has to be his culture.
And really, everyone here has been helpful, and hasn't thrown that kind of hate your way.
Umm, no...you married The Doctor...sheesh get it right.

You don't know why people are 'attacking' you (they're really not) because THEY DON'T KNOW YOU...yet, you tar most of their husbands (men whom you don't know) with the same brush as your own. Yeah yeah, you're not talking about 'all', but then you'll talk about 'men from the region' 'most MENA men' blah blah blah.
If you can understand how maligned you feel, think of how what you say comes across about their husbands, and by extension, them. 'Most' MENA men (according to your posts) are scamming abusive bastards who prey on insecure women, who mostly are fat and old. You, naturally, are the exception, because you're not fat, ugly or old, therefore you really don't understand why he was a #######, so of course, it has to be his culture.
And really, everyone here has been helpful, and hasn't thrown that kind of hate your way.
Umm, no...you married The Doctor...sheesh get it right.

You don't know why people are 'attacking' you (they're really not) because THEY DON'T KNOW YOU...yet, you tar most of their husbands (men whom you don't know) with the same brush as your own. Yeah yeah, you're not talking about 'all', but then you'll talk about 'men from the region' 'most MENA men' blah blah blah.
If you can understand how maligned you feel, think of how what you say comes across about their husbands, and by extension, them. 'Most' MENA men (according to your posts) are scamming abusive bastards who prey on insecure women, who mostly are fat and old. You, naturally, are the exception, because you're not fat, ugly or old, therefore you really don't understand why he was a #######, so of course, it has to be his culture.
And really, everyone here has been helpful, and hasn't thrown that kind of hate your way.
Umm, no...you married The Doctor...sheesh get it right.

You don't know why people are 'attacking' you (they're really not) because THEY DON'T KNOW YOU...yet, you tar most of their husbands (men whom you don't know) with the same brush as your own. Yeah yeah, you're not talking about 'all', but then you'll talk about 'men from the region' 'most MENA men' blah blah blah.
If you can understand how maligned you feel, think of how what you say comes across about their husbands, and by extension, them. 'Most' MENA men (according to your posts) are scamming abusive bastards who prey on insecure women, who mostly are fat and old. You, naturally, are the exception, because you're not fat, ugly or old, therefore you really don't understand why he was a #######, so of course, it has to be his culture.
And really, everyone here has been helpful, and hasn't thrown that kind of hate your way.
Umm, no...you married The Doctor...sheesh get it right.

As a general comment, religion should be a very personal and serious choice one makes with his/her God. It should never be about choosing a religion for your SO. It should never be about doing it for someone else...it's not like getting a new haircut to entice your husband.
I am sorry that this happened to you, my heart goes out to you. I would probably have never commented had your topic been as you stated in your OP 'this is not universal but this is my truth'...yet the posts are filled with multiple generalizations and just look at the title you chose. This is not the first time a topic like this has been on here, and I would suggest you think back to the you of yesterday, and imagine how receptive you would have been to reading something like this. It seems like your intentions are innocent...you're just trying to 'warn' people...but at the end of the day, it's NOT a universal truth of MENA. You're not Martin Bashir with some groundbreaking expose that's gonna blow US/MENA marriages 'wide open'.
I think if you want to help women, a universal truth definitely is that if a man physically abuses you, you should not marry him. There is no excuse for that, but that is not exclusive to MENA men. Or even if you want to focus on never losing yourself in a man, no matter what the nationality....by blindly adopting his views, by excusing reprehensible behavior with thoughts like 'oh it's cultural'. Many women have lost themselves to some degree to men, and there are many horror stories out there...and guess what? Not all those men are of MENA origin.
I wish you well.

As a general comment, religion should be a very personal and serious choice one makes with his/her God. It should never be about choosing a religion for your SO. It should never be about doing it for someone else...it's not like getting a new haircut to entice your husband.
I am sorry that this happened to you, my heart goes out to you. I would probably have never commented had your topic been as you stated in your OP 'this is not universal but this is my truth'...yet the posts are filled with multiple generalizations and just look at the title you chose. This is not the first time a topic like this has been on here, and I would suggest you think back to the you of yesterday, and imagine how receptive you would have been to reading something like this. It seems like your intentions are innocent...you're just trying to 'warn' people...but at the end of the day, it's NOT a universal truth of MENA. You're not Martin Bashir with some groundbreaking expose that's gonna blow US/MENA marriages 'wide open'.
I think if you want to help women, a universal truth definitely is that if a man physically abuses you, you should not marry him. There is no excuse for that, but that is not exclusive to MENA men. Or even if you want to focus on never losing yourself in a man, no matter what the nationality....by blindly adopting his views, by excusing reprehensible behavior with thoughts like 'oh it's cultural'. Many women have lost themselves to some degree to men, and there are many horror stories out there...and guess what? Not all those men are of MENA origin.
I wish you well.

No one is blaming you for being abused. But the bottom line is, you alone bear the responsibility for continuing a petition for a man who physically abused you. That's not BLAME, but it is the truth. Your job, imo, is to figure out WHY you did that.
I must admit I read the abuse as having been prior to marriage. It was a bit vague. But ok, you were married when it started but it was before he came here.
No one is 'at fault' for being a victim/survivor of physical abuse....HOWEVER, you need to figure out how you rationalized it as being acceptable enough to get past it, and not immediately canceling his petition. We all tend to ignore warning signs...some more dire than others. This was a big one for you, and I believe your path should involve getting the root of how you were able to ignore this. For your own peace of mind, I suggest focusing on that so you don't repeat a similar pattern in future.
However, he didn't scam/assault/whatever you because he was from MENA. You're bootstrapping (imo) as way of dealing with this in a way that I don't think is fair to yourself, to truly be able to put this behind you. I see you clutching at straws....'I'm not fat, I'm not ugly, I converted, I did blah blah blah'. It's not formulaic...none of those reasons will help you really put this to bed and deal with it. It's not as if any of these listed reasons could or would justify what happened to you.
Again, I wish you well and I'm very sorry you had to go through this. I hope you can see that I'm not posting here to 'pile up' on you, rather to offer you another perspective, that I feel will *truly* help you on the road to healing.

As a general comment, religion should be a very personal and serious choice one makes with his/her God. It should never be about choosing a religion for your SO. It should never be about doing it for someone else...it's not like getting a new haircut to entice your husband.
I am sorry that this happened to you, my heart goes out to you. I would probably have never commented had your topic been as you stated in your OP 'this is not universal but this is my truth'...yet the posts are filled with multiple generalizations and just look at the title you chose. This is not the first time a topic like this has been on here, and I would suggest you think back to the you of yesterday, and imagine how receptive you would have been to reading something like this. It seems like your intentions are innocent...you're just trying to 'warn' people...but at the end of the day, it's NOT a universal truth of MENA. You're not Martin Bashir with some groundbreaking expose that's gonna blow US/MENA marriages 'wide open'.
I think if you want to help women, a universal truth definitely is that if a man physically abuses you, you should not marry him. There is no excuse for that, but that is not exclusive to MENA men. Or even if you want to focus on never losing yourself in a man, no matter what the nationality....by blindly adopting his views, by excusing reprehensible behavior with thoughts like 'oh it's cultural'. Many women have lost themselves to some degree to men, and there are many horror stories out there...and guess what? Not all those men are of MENA origin.
I wish you well.

VERY well put!