crazyinEgypt

No words. Just terrible. What a welcome to America

If he's been here only a few months I don't think I'd worry about him spending a lot of time on the computer talking to family. My sisters in law are too timid to walk into a cafe and use skype, though they did it once to talk and see him. Instead he calls them every morning for about five minutes to hear their voices. He did talk for about an hour a day at first to a few friends but I think that was just the first week. After that a friend-dynamic change thing happened and now he basically just talks to one friend in Egypt about once/week on the computer but the rest of the time he's on the phone talking with his best friend that he grew up with who lives now in Canada. Our phone service is such that it's a free call so he can sometimes talk for hours with him but if I want him to watch a movie with me or do something else he gets right off the phone. It gives him comfort to 1) talk to someone in arabic, 2) talk to someone he's known since he was 4 yrs old and 3) talk to someone who has gone through the transition of moving away from everything he knew to live in America, albeit Canada.

Sometimes it's difficult to try to make him understand that Canada is not the United States though in terms of how things are done, but all in all that relationship has been a blessing to us both since it has taught him and prepared him for life over here.

I find it odd that they insist on being on the computer at all hours. Honesly, I'm wondering some things myself. He'll be on the computer for the entire day on his days off and when I'm on it for 15 minutes he wants to know what I'm doing, who I'm talking to (no one) and if I'm checking on him. I asked him if he was nervous about something!

Wow, reading over this makes me realize my husband isn't the only crazy arab. Within the last 6 months my husband contantly comments on how hard it is here in America and that things are much easier in Egypt. I told him to go back if he feels that way.

Great news!

Have a great one!

Good luck!

now the glaciers are sexual?

YUMMY!

No way- have you ever seen the difference in cleanliness between a womans and a mens room?

After working in various retail establishments over the years.... yes, I have. The women's is always the nastiest.

I used to think mens bathrooms were the nastiest until I helped my dad clean the church. Women are the nastiest hands down! I couldn't believe it.

Who cares? Why all the polls of nonsense?

Clothes

My husband has been accused of a crime that I believe he did not commit. I've never encountered anything like this before, but I do know that sometimes innocent people are convicted. There are so many things on my mind right now. My divorce lawyer said I need to make him leave the house until the matter is resolved or I could lose custody of my kids from my first marriage. I'm trying to reach a lawyer for him, and one for me (for custody). I hope this is resolved quickly, and that he is found innocent.

The quick summary is that my daughter accused my husband of touching her inappropriately while she was completely clothed. I don't have proof, but I'm sure that her father put her up to it (he's been trying to take full custody).

On top of everything else, I happened to wonder today if he is convicted could he be turned down next year when he applies to remove conditions (get his 10 year card)? Will it look bad if I have to tell USCIS that we lived apart for a time, and why? My lawyer said he thinks it will be difficult for a case to be made against him if we go to court, but if so, he could get probation and possibly a few months in jail. It would be a misdemeanor, but I'm not sure if he'd have to register as a sex offender. This whole thing is just turning my stomach. I can't eat or sleep, and my husband is devastated.

I'm confused, are you and your husband getting a divorce?

Doesn't matter if a person is clothed or naked. Inappropriated touching is inappropriated touching.

I think regardless if he's not convicted, he has to register as an offender. At least around here they do.

I'm still reeling from all of this. I wonder, if it turns out that he did do something, what can I do? Would he still be able to stay in the country, and would I still be financially responsible for him?

I pray that I'm right about all of this, and that he's innocent. For so many reasons.

My daughter was mad (about not getting her way) at us (and especially him) when she made the accusation. I had asked her several times in the past (even years before I met my husband) if anyone had ever touched her, and she always said no. It's part of my job as a mother - I bring up health and safety topics with all of my children. I never had any suspicions, and saw nothing to suggest that anything inappropriate was going on. She didn't try to avoid him or act afraid or uncomfortable around him.

Things happened to me when I was young, so I know these things happen, and am very sensitive about this. I also know people (one was very close to me) who have been falsely accused (they were cleared). I know how devastating it is in both situations.

I'm trying not to take sides, and I'm trying to wait to see how things turn out. I hope that the truth is discovered.

I hope you would know what to do if he did do this. As a perosn that was molested by my uncle as a child I find it difficult to take sides. I do not want to come across as harsh though. First of all, how old is your daughter? Does her story continue to be the same each time she tells it or do the details change? If your ex truly put her up to this, then there should be holes in the "story." Where is your husband now? Still with you and your daughter? Not knowing the truth, I wouldn't have your daughter anywhere near him. Even though you beleive he's innocent, and he very well may be, I wouldn't take chances. If something really did happen to your daughter, this will scar her forever, I know. It took years for anyone in my family would finally beleive me when I told them my uncle was touching me. I begged and cried to so many people! Now I'm not close to anyone in my family, although they all want a relationship now. I cannot bring myself to forgive. I was a child dammit and no one was protecting me when I asked for help! Be there for your daughter and find out the facts.

It's quite normal for cousins to marry in many countries. We are raised to beleive it is forbidden which causes a hurdle for many to overcome when faced with issues as yours. Hope you can find a solution. Best wishes.

I'll never in my life understand why the hell woman stay with men that abuse them! That goes for men who stay with abusive women as well! My ex did hit me once. Got it? Once and I was out of there. People that go back are just asking for it to happen to them again because the abuse will not stop. And to go across the world for this abuse? That just blows my mind. He abused her in his country you can count on him abusing her in her country too.

Religious bashing is not something that will go away. As far as siggies go, I've seen it all on here as well as anti-christian. I seen numerous Islam related threads and very few Christianity threads and the Christian threads I have seen, got bashed so hard they eventually were closed and the members left the board. Why is that? Quite frankly I don't care what religion a person represents, but if you say your a Muslim and carry on poorly, what example are you? It is a peaceful religion, right? That goes for christians and any other religion you may represent. Tossing out verses for the Bible or Quran on threads is meaningless when I see the same persons representing their religion rip other members apart in other threads. It's not a contest on whose religion is the best here on an immigration forum.

Tamara, does your husbands family and friends in Egypt know he converted? Do you plan on visiting Egypt in the future? Won't this cause problems? We've had this discussion before and I was told that anyone that converts in another country may be put in prision, forced to convert back it Islam and even killed when they return back to Egypt. Ahhhhhh yes, Islam, the peaceful religion.

So much for me just reading the forums as I typically do. I have to ask regarding the fornification and Islam Is it not true that Islam forbids premarital sex? Is that why there's so many fiance visas in MENA that have children together? Not that I care, because I don't. I just find it interesting.

thanks all for congratulation

today was so special day two visa in hand me and chyrl and medo . and one visa in its way to nagishkw

and inshaAllah soon t and a and lynnandahmed & chyrl and ahmed & birdget

we pray for u all dear friends

Bittersweet. Sweet because such good news is coming out of Cairo at long last and bitter because such dear sisters have been waiting over a year now...Aj1, CairoBound, Sun_Flower, and a few more. We must keep praying hard for these people daily. In fact, pray hard for all who are in AP hell still!

Thank you Nagishkaw for pointing this out. As much joy as we feel for others, it is disappointing as well to those who are on such a long AP. We all need to pray hard for our friends on such hellish AP. As you can see they do not come around here much because it is so depressing. They really need our prayers.

Congratulations to everyone! We also cannot forgot our friends Cairobound and AJ1 who have been over a year on AP now with no ending in sight. Prayers going out for everyone.

why do I have to see asses on an immigration forum?

Just a comment I'd like to make. For those of you that send PMs and have sent me PM's in the past. I find it very un-cool of those that sent PM's about the "lier" that sent money to her husband. I suppose I received one of those PMs in error (everyone go check your outbox) and the person you are speaking of is my cousin (oh yah) and until you know what the situation was, how dare any of you say anything! I will speak out for her because she's so pissed off she can barely stand it. Never ever did she send money for support, if she did whose business is it? She sent money to her husband so his young cousin could receive medical care and money for his cousins mother that was then going through a divorce. I'll not go into details, but I cannot believe how some women on this board act. It's no wonder I prefer not to hang here. I'll be the better person and not say who the PM was from, however there is a little devil sitting on my shoulder telling me to do so.

Peace

I have been following this story for the past week and as much as I hate to say it, I'm not surprised things are not good. I've seen this happen way too many times for a man to "change" in a week.

All right, let's not turn this thread into an excuse to throw around insults. If it continues I will not hesitate to lock it.

Should probably do it now. I don's see this getting any better.

Jackie requested that her thread be closed end of story. Jackie needs the support of her friends here. Is there any marital dispute that is one sided? I think not. Prayers to you J

Out partying yet?